Krystalkisses said:

anangellooksdown said:

Hi KK Your question really made me think. The way you put it was deeper than the ways I've always seen it. Half of me wants always the truth, and the other half of me (right now) wants to be in my little fantasy land that has been soooo awesome 😊 Maybe the truth is just that. That Prince was very special: to me, cool, sexy, confident, handsome, talented, generous and more...but I'm thinking he probably also had his character flaws. For now, I prefer to be in my own little world at times with him. I have actually apologized to God because I have worshipped another human being before spending time with God sometimes. I have also said, "God, I am not ready to give this up yet. I'm sorry." So I am just trying to be aware that I am in an obsession right now and I see the downfalls of that but also the help I'm getting from it. I have gotten a lot of help from Prince's example on many fronts. I have regret that I didn't do one big thing in my life that could've led me to meeting someone like Prince.

I've had to do the exact same thing. You're not alone on feeling this way.

After all this time, heck yeah I'd want to meet him. Spend the day with him, probably not, but meet, definitely.

roxy831 said:

morningsong said:

After all this time, heck yeah I'd want to meet him. Spend the day with him, probably not, but meet, definitely.

me too. now that he's dead it's too late, i wish i'd just thanked him

Sure I'd like to meet him, shake his hand and thank him. That’s about it. I have met some famous people and it is awkward..I go stupid..I just stand there star struck..I would have no idea what to talk to him about..compared to him I am boring, he is so smart musically, can't talk about that, he's was very religious..can't talk about that..he's freakin sexy, can't proposition him..probably has all kinds of beautiful people around him, and I shop at Marshalls. It might have been better to know him in his early days before he became an international star. I wouldn’t say no to a small intimate concert or if he propositioned me. In the meantime I'll just continue to have my own personal fantasy

i met him a few times ...what can u expect ..u couldnt really have a conversation with him..no time

ldmendes said:

anangellooksdown said:

Said hi once and great show. Had another opportuity to talk to him but was never too interested in that personally. Was happy enough to watch him perform and was lucky enough to experience that on nearly 30 occasions.

doves4ever said:

HeavenMustBNear said:

doves4ever said:

Interesting - because I have also had the exact same words with God. I too am trying very hard to make this a beneficial experience by realizing some of the beautiful things I've learned from Prince.

I know what you mean. Being close to God is a journey. Something we will continuously be learning until we die. God understands. You loved one of his children. God gave us something so wonderful. Who knows? Maybe this experience will bring you closer to him...Anyway, it's great you are using this experience to learn and grow. It sucks ass and it's really tough but hopefully it takes us to somewhere beautiful.

DFE and HMBN,

Thank you. I thought others might feel the same.

Love you guys.

Krystalkisses said:

If you actually had the opportunity to meet Prince when he was alive would you have taken it? Imagine if you didn't know he was going to leave us so soon. I know that sounds like an obvious question given how much we all love him but when you really think about it, what would be the benefit of meeting someone you admire? I remember in high school I did have a music teacher who was a musician and he reiterated to us that famous line about "Never meet your idols" and told us about how he declined to meet the lead singer of the Talking Heads because he loved their music so much and didn't want any potential bad interaction to cloud his love of their music.

And for all the crazy fan girls out there like me... ...do you think meeting him would live up to the fantasy or no? Is it better to just keep him as your dream man safe in your imagination or would you actually would have wanted to meet him and have that memory even if it potentialy would not go as you always fantasized about?

I know I dreamed of meeting him many times (and ok I had other kinda dreams about him ... ) but there was something kinda comforting about just watching him from afar, enjoying his music, being entertained by him and only knowing the fantasy.....

Though I too am familiar with the adage that it’s unwise to meet your hero, in theory at least yes, of course I would have liked to meet Prince.

I would expect that many of us here would have loved to have spent some precious time with Prince, or at least have a brief opportunity to say hello and thank him. Until the last 2 or 3 years, I’d always thought/hoped at some point I would get the chance and it would have been an honor of course, though I have slowly come to accept now that just wasn’t meant to be sadly.

However, in reality I am shy by nature and socially awkward, so I am realistic enough to admit I may not have summoned up the courage, should the chance have presented itself. I’m also aware that I have long since been conflicted by my putting Prince on a pedestal for almost 3 and a half decades now, and how that idolatry flagrantly contradicts my basic faith. I also think this may have made it very hard for me to relax in his presence after all these years being such a keen fan.

Moreover, I can relate to the earlier poster, who seemed unsure they were sufficiently ‘interesting’ to take up his time. I’m a bit of a dullard at the best of times, and conversationally I can be the most colossal bore (nodding off yet reader? ). I also tend to be quite a linear thinker, which I suspect may not have appealed to Prince’s far more creative imagination, should the conversation have become prolonged.

I have a hard time envisaging Prince enjoying meeting, discussing or indeed spending any time with me. I highly doubt a meeting would have been an enjoyable, beneficial or fruitful experience for Prince. I’m sure it would have been very memorable for me of course though. It may well have been worth the risk just to hear his opening gambit. It would’ve been great to have shared a laugh with him, even if just the once. That would have been a privilege, and a memory for any fan to cherish.

I suppose it would have all depended on how the opportunity presented itself. He’s the superstar and I’m the ordinary Joe, so it would had to have been entirely on his terms. Perhaps something like an album signing, where you know that he is happy (or at least resigned) to meet fans at that specific time. If he had finished his book and done a meet and greet session, I think it may have been fun to say pop up and say hi.

I certainly couldn’t picture myself approaching him uninvited, like say if I had bumped into him in the street or in a record store. I’ve always thought that it must make for a pretty miserable existence living in the spotlight of fame, especially for such a private man. I greatly appreciate privacy too, and I couldn’t see myself lasting 5 minutes in that bubble, so I admire Prince hugely for coping with it so well for so many years.

We did once drive up to the Park umpteen months ago and stop across the way. The gates were open and to our surprise there were apparently no staff on hand to prevent our entry. We briefly discussed whether to take a punt on driving in. After all Prince did seem to offer an open invitation to Paisley Park at one of the gigs we attended in 2014.

However, we had spent ages driving about the area trying to find the blessed place (closed roads due to works/bridge repairs & unreliable GPS), and this had given me a lot more time to ponder upon whether it really is wise to meet your heroes.

I was also troubled by a strong visual image I had of Prince coming on stage in a manner somewhat akin to a furious wasp the last time I saw him live. He seemed to have quite the temper and on reflection I did not want to chance my arm by risking his clearly very considerable wrath.

Needless to say we didn’t try to enter the gates, which was maybe a good decision for all concerned, as we would effectively have been trespassing on private property. I'm sure we would have been picked up immediately and ejected by his low profile security, no doubt.

Looking back, the combination of that bridge being worked on/roads closed, the GPS playing up and getting confused, and this delay making my fellow travelers very keen to eat, almost seemed to conspire to make the decision for us.

I believe in fate/God’s will, and I also believe that it is pretty much inescapable. I feel that I now have to work hard to acknowledge that what has transpired is for the best for Prince (who is at home with his heavenly Father now, God-willing) and myself too. Unsurprisingly that’s not proving to be all that easy for me to accept though.

Sometimes I even like to think I did meet him once many years ago, though deep down I realize that is almost certainly a bit of delusional fanboy escapism on my part.

Still, it’s nice to fantasize about turning up at the Park & meeting Prince, chewing the fat with him, giving him a great big hug, and getting my butt kicked at ping pong, though I doubt by that time we would have been particularly welcome. Still, he apparently had a well-earned reputation for being an uncommonly gracious host, so you never know...it’s nice to dream.

I always wanted to meet him just to shake his hand and say thank you for the music

What GrayDorian said, I agree - "I have a hard time envisaging Prince enjoying meeting, discussing or indeed spending any time with me. I highly doubt a meeting would have been an enjoyable, beneficial or fruitful experience for Prince. I’m sure it would have been very memorable for me of course though. It may well have been worth the risk just to hear his opening gambit. It would’ve been great to have shared a laugh with him, even if just the once. That would have been a privilege, and a memory for any fan to cherish."

Prince is a walking musical encyclopedia from theory to performances. What could I possibly say that would be of ANY interest to him. So it would be simple - to hold his hand and say thank you and/or to have a tour of Paisley Park by Prince himself with the tour ending in the kitchen having vegan pancakes.

I always had a thought/fantasy about Prince ringing my doorbell and saying " I heard you were a friend. I have this gig down at (enter venue) tonight, wanna go?" And then I grab my coat and we take off in a black car to the gig and I get to watch his rehersal, have dinner with him and the gang and hang out. And then I get to have the best seat in the house for the concert. That thought has been in my head for over 30 years. Isn't that silly?

When I heard the news in April, that was the first thing I thought of. I always thought somehow, someway I would meet him in my lifetime. Now that thought was an impossibility. Sad even now.

Peace, love and healing.

Krystalkisses said:

If you actually had the opportunity to meet Prince when he was alive would you have taken it? Imagine if you didn't know he was going to leave us so soon. I know that sounds like an obvious question given how much we all love him but when you really think about it, what would be the benefit of meeting someone you admire? I remember in high school I did have a music teacher who was a musician and he reiterated to us that famous line about "Never meet your idols" and told us about how he declined to meet the lead singer of the Talking Heads because he loved their music so much and didn't want any potential bad interaction to cloud his love of their music.

And for all the crazy fan girls out there like me... ...do you think meeting him would live up to the fantasy or no? Is it better to just keep him as your dream man safe in your imagination or would you actually would have wanted to meet him and have that memory even if it potentialy would not go as you always fantasized about?

I know I dreamed of meeting him many times (and ok I had other kinda dreams about him ... ) but there was something kinda comforting about just watching him from afar, enjoying his music, being entertained by him and only knowing the fantasy.....

Yeah, I do wished I had met Prince. As a journalist though, not as a "fan" per se. My fantasy is after my questions to him, he would flip the script and ask me questions about him/his music: "What is your favorite album/song of mine and why?" "What is your least favorite?" "Do you remember where you were when you first heard Purple Rain?".... I know, crazy right, but that's my fantasy of meeting him.

rob1965 said:

I don't know if I would've wanted to meet him. I've met several popstars backstage in a few occasions and to be honest: it's always somewhat of a letdown. They either feel obligated to show even if they don't want to or they're bored. That's not much of a surprise after meeting vip mosquitos day in day out. Maybe P was different, but I wouldn't have known what to say to him in the first place: "...ddd...ddddd...duuuuuuuuh. Hi, nice show tonight". Oh boy.

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I wish I could have done more than just meet Prince.

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I met the man and i spent a few days at PP...

all i can say is.. i went as a MEGA fan and i left really disliking the person i grew up idolising..

it took about 2 years to get into him again.

MD431Madcat said:

I met the man and i spent a few days at PP...

all i can say is.. i went as a MEGA fan and i left really disliking the person i grew up idolising..

it took about 2 years to get into him again.

Never meet your idols--you might discover they have feet of clay.

purplethunder3121 said:

LBrent said:

LBrent said:

purplethunder3121 said:

Never meet your idols--you might discover they have feet of clay.

Wow. Was he really that awful?

I was referring to the poster's experience; I've never met Prince. But, as a general rule, it's best not to get too close to our heroes if we're not prepared to see AND experience their all-too-human side. Especially the negative one.

purplethunder3121 said:

All i'll say is..

People with a need to control everything in their environment (including other human beings)

can be disappointing.

MD431Madcat said: