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Thread started 08/01/16 6:42pm

EnDoRpHn

It's been over 3 months...

can we get rid of the "we all mourn his loss" banner on the landing page?

It's past time for life, and music. There's no greater tribute or way of keeping not just his memory, but him alive.

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Reply #1 posted 08/01/16 6:56pm

benni

No. I think the banner should stay. While I agree, it is about celebrating his life, his music, and in this way we keep his memory and him alive. However, that does not mean we are necessarily through mourning him. I mean, we've not even had a proper memorial for him yet. I think it should stay.

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Reply #2 posted 08/01/16 7:02pm

EddieC

EnDoRpHn said:

can we get rid of the "we all mourn his loss" banner on the landing page?

It's past time for life, and music. There's no greater tribute or way of keeping not just his memory, but him alive.

I get what you're saying (kind of)--but not really. People are still mourning, and that has no time limit. And there is no keeping him alive. He's dead. He's not in the studio, he's not playing a show, he's not sleeping, or tweeting, or anything else. He is gone. No one's ever going to another Prince show, or ever hearing a newly recorded track. Whether we want to think about it or not, almost any other music we get from him we're going to be getting because he died (unless the Atlanta show gets official release, or there really is a Phase 3 finished and waiting). Otherwise we wouldn't be hearing it (at least not in the form we do). The world we live in is one that no longer has Prince. And that has changed most of our lives in a very real way, even though we were (as Princevault put it on their death statement) "anonymous fans."

Yes, our lives go on. And his music remains, to varying degrees, an important part of those lives. But listening to it, sharing it with others, talking about it (and him) does not keep him alive. And that fact is worth recognizing--being a Prince fan is a different thing now than it was on April 20, and it always will be. Maybe the banner is a bit long--but I suspect there are people still finding the org for the first time, some with feelings of sadness they maybe haven't expressed or really let themselves feel. Why not let them know that those feelings are welcome here? Even if it's been 3 months--which is, really, no time at all. Eventually, I'm sure they'll change the banner. But I see no reason to rush.

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Reply #3 posted 08/01/16 8:02pm

benni

EddieC said:

EnDoRpHn said:

can we get rid of the "we all mourn his loss" banner on the landing page?

It's past time for life, and music. There's no greater tribute or way of keeping not just his memory, but him alive.

I get what you're saying (kind of)--but not really. People are still mourning, and that has no time limit. And there is no keeping him alive. He's dead. He's not in the studio, he's not playing a show, he's not sleeping, or tweeting, or anything else. He is gone. No one's ever going to another Prince show, or ever hearing a newly recorded track. Whether we want to think about it or not, almost any other music we get from him we're going to be getting because he died (unless the Atlanta show gets official release, or there really is a Phase 3 finished and waiting). Otherwise we wouldn't be hearing it (at least not in the form we do). The world we live in is one that no longer has Prince. And that has changed most of our lives in a very real way, even though we were (as Princevault put it on their death statement) "anonymous fans."

Yes, our lives go on. And his music remains, to varying degrees, an important part of those lives. But listening to it, sharing it with others, talking about it (and him) does not keep him alive. And that fact is worth recognizing--being a Prince fan is a different thing now than it was on April 20, and it always will be. Maybe the banner is a bit long--but I suspect there are people still finding the org for the first time, some with feelings of sadness they maybe haven't expressed or really let themselves feel. Why not let them know that those feelings are welcome here? Even if it's been 3 months--which is, really, no time at all. Eventually, I'm sure they'll change the banner. But I see no reason to rush.


Very nicely said, but I still can't say those words. I don't know how I ever will. I go days, without a problem and then suddenly something will happen and I will remember and it hurts all over again.

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Reply #4 posted 08/02/16 2:09am

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No; I'll b in mourning 4 at least a year. Once his 1st death anniversary comes up, then I can finally move on....then I will just mourn him once a year, every year on the day of his death... sad
"Just like the sun, the Rainbow Children rise."



"We had fun, didn't we?"
-Prince (1958-2016) 4ever in my life
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Reply #5 posted 08/02/16 2:35am

farnorth

No, please keep the existing banner. Many of us are still in mourning.

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Reply #6 posted 08/02/16 3:19am

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There are too many unresolved issues going on. Everytime a new one pops up, we relive his untimely death all over again. This mourning could take a long time. Since his death was so sudden, and such a shock to his fans. We have music in the Vault and lots of things we would like to know about. Many unanswered questions. Everyone is still hurting, and there are many, many stages to grieving. It will take some time. Meanwhile let's keep his legacy alive. We must!

I WISH YOU LOVE, I WISH YOU HEAVEN SWEET PRINCE...
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Reply #7 posted 08/02/16 4:34am

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Still mourning too.

[Edited 8/2/16 6:30am]

I'm not a woman, I'm not a man,
I am something that you'll never understand
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Reply #8 posted 08/02/16 7:00am

Wlcm2thdwn3

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EnDoRpHn said:

can we get rid of the "we all mourn his loss" banner on the landing page?

It's past time for life, and music. There's no greater tribute or way of keeping not just his memory, but him alive.

No. Why does it bother you ?

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Reply #9 posted 08/02/16 7:30am

justAmeda

This is an honest question and I am not asking this to be a smart butt but how does a person know if they are in mourning? My mother passed away over a year and a half ago unexpectedy. Since her passing I don't have any huge levels of sadness or feelings that I cannot go on with life. Granted there are times that a song or something makes me think of her but I would not go as far as to say that I was ever depressed when she passed. Same with Prince, he passed on and I know it's just like when my mom died. Yeah there's that wishful thinking that they were still here to speak their minds and such but that's like me wishing to win the lottery or something. I know it won't happen, I accept it and continue to live life like I always did before they passed on. I have had the hardest time fully understanding what is mourning and if it is such a natural thing then it worries me that I am not normal or something because I have never felt any "mourning" when someone I love or admire passes on.

[Edited 8/2/16 8:01am]

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Reply #10 posted 08/02/16 8:00am

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Still mourning here. Was good for about two weeks. Watched Montreaux 2009 entirely for the first time yesterday and bawled my eyes out. I'm projecting a lot of my stuff onto his death and music. I realise that when I sit myself down and think about it. Ploughing on thru tho.
Will be listening to the Purple One till the day I die. Will dance till I no longer can..
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Reply #11 posted 08/02/16 8:14am

anangellooksdo
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This is a tough one for me too.

On one hand I feel that Prince would want me to move on. That's what people who knew him say.
Also, I feel it's selfish in a way because I want to let his spirit travel on freely so he doesn't feel the need to comfort us. Maybe that worry is needless since God's in charge of all that anyway.
So I try to give instead of take, and love him, pray for him etc.

On the other hand I am human and have feelings and to not mourn fully isn't healthy.

So I am trying to gauge still, honestly, when I am being in self-pity or depression or WANTING to be in those emotions needlessly. We are addicted to those negative feelings so I try to be watchful of that.

Maybe it's somewhere in the middle. I can feel and grieve still, but I try not to do it on purpose.
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Reply #12 posted 08/02/16 8:16am

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I think what I am saying is: I am still in the process.
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Reply #13 posted 08/02/16 8:24am

Mumio

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EnDoRpHn said:

can we get rid of the "we all mourn his loss" banner on the landing page?

It's past time for life, and music. There's no greater tribute or way of keeping not just his memory, but him alive.



I understand what you are saying, but I think the banner should stay as is. In reality, the banner doesn't prohibit anyone from moving on and enjoying whatever, but given this is Prince.org, it's completely appropriate for the banner to stay indefinitely, perhaps permanently.

Welcome to "the org", Mumio…they can have you, but I'll have your love in the end nod
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Reply #14 posted 08/02/16 8:40am

PurpleDiamonds
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I also think the banner should stay indefinitely/permanently.
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Reply #15 posted 08/02/16 3:31pm

purplethunder3
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anangellooksdown said:

I think what I am saying is: I am still in the process.

Thank you. Some people aren't "over" it yet. Like it's that easy to get over loss and there is a time limit. :eyeroll: Some days are worse than others... This is one of those days.

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato

https://youtu.be/CVwv9LZMah0
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Reply #16 posted 08/03/16 11:19am

StrangeButTrue

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I was just something U flaunted
Hired and fired

Never had a plan 2 stay

I tried to be what you wanted,
But I'm tired, I'm tired.
I don't really need you, anyway

The house we use to share it's now
Haunted, expired
A couple 100 days we'd have to pray. Amen

--

do u think this was a premonition/prediction/warning?

the couple hundred days line really fucked me up y'all

[Edited 8/3/16 11:21am]

if it was just a dream, call me a dreamer 2
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Reply #17 posted 08/03/16 11:34am

FlyOnTheWall

Mumio said:

EnDoRpHn said:

can we get rid of the "we all mourn his loss" banner on the landing page?

It's past time for life, and music. There's no greater tribute or way of keeping not just his memory, but him alive.



I understand what you are saying, but I think the banner should stay as is. In reality, the banner doesn't prohibit anyone from moving on and enjoying whatever, but given this is Prince.org, it's completely appropriate for the banner to stay indefinitely, perhaps permanently.

yeahthat

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Reply #18 posted 08/03/16 5:05pm

EnDoRpHn

Wlcm2thdwn3 said:

EnDoRpHn said:

can we get rid of the "we all mourn his loss" banner on the landing page?

It's past time for life, and music. There's no greater tribute or way of keeping not just his memory, but him alive.

No. Why does it bother you ?

To be blunt, it's cheesy and inelegant.

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Reply #19 posted 08/03/16 5:31pm

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EnDoRpHn said:

Wlcm2thdwn3 said:

No. Why does it bother you ?

To be blunt, it's cheesy and inelegant.

Then I guess grief is cheesy and inelegant. So, is death, for that matter. neutral

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato

https://youtu.be/CVwv9LZMah0
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Reply #20 posted 08/03/16 5:39pm

Mumio

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EnDoRpHn said:

To be blunt, it's cheesy and inelegant.



Would you happen to have something written up or even good suggestions to replace it? I'd love to know what you think would be more suitable.

[Edited 8/3/16 17:40pm]

Welcome to "the org", Mumio…they can have you, but I'll have your love in the end nod
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Reply #21 posted 08/03/16 6:21pm

luvgirl

justAmeda said:

This is an honest question and I am not asking this to be a smart butt but how does a person know if they are in mourning? My mother passed away over a year and a half ago unexpectedy. Since her passing I don't have any huge levels of sadness or feelings that I cannot go on with life. Granted there are times that a song or something makes me think of her but I would not go as far as to say that I was ever depressed when she passed. Same with Prince, he passed on and I know it's just like when my mom died. Yeah there's that wishful thinking that they were still here to speak their minds and such but that's like me wishing to win the lottery or something. I know it won't happen, I accept it and continue to live life like I always did before they passed on. I have had the hardest time fully understanding what is mourning and if it is such a natural thing then it worries me that I am not normal or something because I have never felt any "mourning" when someone I love or admire passes on.

[Edited 8/2/16 8:01am]



You're doing just find in however you are coping with your mother and Prince's death. Don't ever think that something is wrong because your mourning is not the same as everybody else. It is how you cope. Everyone has their own way of coping with death and I think your way is the right way just for you, even if there are no tears biggrin
[Edited 8/3/16 18:23pm]
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Reply #22 posted 08/04/16 5:24am

justAmeda

luvgirl said:

justAmeda said:

This is an honest question and I am not asking this to be a smart butt but how does a person know if they are in mourning? My mother passed away over a year and a half ago unexpectedy. Since her passing I don't have any huge levels of sadness or feelings that I cannot go on with life. Granted there are times that a song or something makes me think of her but I would not go as far as to say that I was ever depressed when she passed. Same with Prince, he passed on and I know it's just like when my mom died. Yeah there's that wishful thinking that they were still here to speak their minds and such but that's like me wishing to win the lottery or something. I know it won't happen, I accept it and continue to live life like I always did before they passed on. I have had the hardest time fully understanding what is mourning and if it is such a natural thing then it worries me that I am not normal or something because I have never felt any "mourning" when someone I love or admire passes on.

[Edited 8/2/16 8:01am]

You're doing just find in however you are coping with your mother and Prince's death. Don't ever think that something is wrong because your mourning is not the same as everybody else. It is how you cope. Everyone has their own way of coping with death and I think your way is the right way just for you, even if there are no tears biggrin [Edited 8/3/16 18:23pm]

Thank You.

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Reply #23 posted 08/05/16 1:50pm

EnDoRpHn

Mumio said:

EnDoRpHn said:

To be blunt, it's cheesy and inelegant.



Would you happen to have something written up or even good suggestions to replace it? I'd love to know what you think would be more suitable.

[Edited 8/3/16 17:40pm]


Morris said it well in this interview:

“There will always be a void. But life goes on. If it were me, I would want people to get on with it. I’m pretty sure he would want the same.”

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