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Thread started 05/19/16 2:32am

twinkieG

Do You Wish Prince Had a Partner/Wife at the End?

Wouldn't it be comforting to know that Prince had a real partner or wife at the end. I feel like

if he had a companion, we'd have less grief. It would mitigate some of the pain for me if I knew he

was taken care of emotionally leading up to his death. Sort of like Iman and Bowie: it's her place to grieve, as his widow, not mine. I'm free to sit back and feel my sentiments of love and appreciation. But with Prince having been so alone in life, there is a void that evokes and extra level of sadness and grief for me around his passing. What do you all think?

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Reply #1 posted 05/19/16 2:50am

SheLovesMeNot

He chose to be partnerless in his older years. It's easy to have multiple woman when your a rock star, not simple to hold on to just one. Prince was a perfectionist he expected from his woman what he expected from himself. Sad thing, everybody talks about this true love, that true love of his but when you truly love someone you love them as they are with no expectations of change, unless they want it themselves then you support them. His first wife, he annulled their marriage after the death of their son...his second marriage, she was expected to change everything about herself. She was his new image material. I hope both his ex spouses found someone who loves them for the unique individual they are not expecting them to change diet, religion etc. Prince wanted wife material, he was very attracted to Selma Hayek, Penelope Cruz and a few more, but the woman he truly wanted who'd have demanded his respect were already taken.
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Reply #2 posted 05/19/16 2:51am

airth

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(You might want to edit the title for spelling.)

I understand what you're saying, but I can't agree. Unless you knew Prince personally, you're making an assumption when you say he was alone. He was in a position to choose how to live his life even with the trappings of fame. I have no reason to think his life was emotionally lacking.

Your grief is your grief, not something that can substitute for someone you think was missing.

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Reply #3 posted 05/19/16 3:04am

SheLovesMeNot

airth said:

(You might want to edit the title for spelling.)

I understand what you're saying, but I can't agree. Unless you knew Prince personally, you're making an assumption when you say he was alone. He was in a position to choose how to live his life even with the trappings of fame. I have no reason to think his life was emotionally lacking.

Your grief is your grief, not something that can substitute for someone you think was missing.


I agree! He was in love with music, and himself. Also, some people prefer to be "alone". Like myself, I'm a workaholic, and I love to socialize but when I go home I'm totally comfortable in my skin having to please nobody but myself. No expectations from anyone else...I know where to go when I want company. Some people are just like that.
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Reply #4 posted 05/19/16 3:07am

NorthC

What difference does it make... All these "what if" threads are so pointless now.
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Reply #5 posted 05/19/16 3:31am

airth

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NorthC said:

What difference does it make... All these "what if" threads are so pointless now.


Pointless in that they're not going to bring him back, but it can be helpful for people to talk these things out if it helps them better accept his passing. I'm afraid that the majority of threads are going to be looking back forever more.

SheLovesMeNot said:

I agree! He was in love with music, and himself. Also, some people prefer to be "alone". Like myself, I'm a workaholic, and I love to socialize but when I go home I'm totally comfortable in my skin having to please nobody but myself. No expectations from anyone else...I know where to go when I want company. Some people are just like that.


I'm with you. I often enjoy being by myself. It drives me nuts when people assume I must be lonely or depressed.

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Reply #6 posted 05/19/16 4:46am

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Who is Price? confuse

I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #7 posted 05/19/16 4:49am

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I am someone who has been on their own now for 10 years and I am OK with it. There is nothing more lonely than being with the wrong person - that is the worst loneliness of all to be part of something but feeling alone. I think Prince loved his music so much, that was what brought him the most joy anyway, and he was married to that. But I do wish he had his little son - that would have been wonderful. That I think is a loss he would never get over and you would not expect him too.

Thank you Prince for every note you left behind 💜
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Reply #8 posted 05/19/16 6:44am

PurpleMusic07

I wish that Prince was HAPPY at the end. Whether that meant being alone, in a monogomous marriage/relationship, in a polyamorous/open relationship, or whether that meant having a friggin harem. Relationships and "life parnters" don't automatically = happiness and content. A GF/Wife or whatever could have had the potential to make him miserable and that's a rather sucky thought.

I hope that he was happy and knew that he had people in his corner that truly loved him and had his best interest at heart, outside of his fanbase/industry.

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"Where you are now is in a place that does not require time." - Rest In Power, PRINCE
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Reply #9 posted 05/19/16 6:45am

PurpleMusic07

gollygirl said:

I am someone who has been on their own now for 10 years and I am OK with it. There is nothing more lonely than being with the wrong person - that is the worst loneliness of all to be part of something but feeling alone. I think Prince loved his music so much, that was what brought him the most joy anyway, and he was married to that. But I do wish he had his little son - that would have been wonderful. That I think is a loss he would never get over and you would not expect him too.

^^ THIS, or the "right" person for the wrong reasons.

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"Where you are now is in a place that does not require time." - Rest In Power, PRINCE
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Reply #10 posted 05/19/16 7:04am

RiotPaisley

In my opinion and the way I see it-

Prince was married to the music. That was his love. That was his partner.

He was surrounded by beautiful women all the time. He could have had anything he wanted but in the end if they stood in the way of what he was trying to accomplish, he couldn't keep them around.

I'm sure some of us WISH we were his life partner. Even as a queer woman, I'd totally would have married the dude. Wouldn't have slept with him, would have let him carry on with whoever ... But yeah I wish I was his best friend to the end. I dont think he lacked that though. I think he had plenty of people he was close to.

We don't know the inner workings of his inner circle. To me I always just figured Paisley Park was a modern day hippie commune. People living, working, and loving together. Just because his life doesn't fit with the "normal nuclear family" ideals we seem to still be trying desperately to hold on to... Doesn't mean Prince didn't got out feeling loved. Sure the image we get from the media about his final days seems bleak. However he was making a song a day still and by the sounds of it, he was most likely making music right up til he died. So he was in the comfort of what he loved.
Surprise, surprise.
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Reply #11 posted 05/19/16 7:06am

RiotPaisley

PurpleMusic07 said:



gollygirl said:


I am someone who has been on their own now for 10 years and I am OK with it. There is nothing more lonely than being with the wrong person - that is the worst loneliness of all to be part of something but feeling alone. I think Prince loved his music so much, that was what brought him the most joy anyway, and he was married to that. But I do wish he had his little son - that would have been wonderful. That I think is a loss he would never get over and you would not expect him too.





^^ THIS, or the "right" person for the wrong reasons.

[Edited 5/19/16 6:45am]




AMEN!!! The loneliest days of my life were with a partner I lost connection to.
Surprise, surprise.
Another treat. Another trick.
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Reply #12 posted 05/19/16 7:16am

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i hope he had peace, contentment, and people to confide in. all those things can be had with or without a life partner.

i do feel bad that he never got to have the kids he wanted. one of the things that got me through after mj died was that he had those kids, and by all accounts he loved them and lived for them and his music.

prince didn't get that even though at one point he wanted it badly. he also said in the 2014 rs interview that he was open to getting married again, but it would have to be the right person and that it was up to god. hopefully, he was at peace with whichever way it worked out.

some of his later songs though did express feelings of longing and loneliness, and he always said he spoke through his music. i hope he was not lonely, and i get ill when i think of what may have happened in the elevator

rip, dear man....
"If u love somebody, your life won't be in vain
And there's always a rainbow, at the end of every rain."--peace and love, dear prince.....
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Reply #13 posted 05/19/16 7:18am

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Reply #14 posted 05/19/16 7:27am

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cardinal said:

i hope he had peace, contentment, and people to confide in. all those things can be had with or without a life partner. i do feel bad that he never got to have the kids he wanted. one of the things that got me through after mj died was that he had those kids, and by all accounts he loved them and lived for them and his music. prince didn't get that even though at one point he wanted it badly. he also said in the 2014 rs interview that he was open to getting married again, but it would have to be the right person and that it was up to god. hopefully, he was at peace with whichever way it worked out. some of his later songs though did express feelings of longing and loneliness, and he always said he spoke through his music. i hope he was not lonely, and i get ill when i think of what may have happened in the elevator rip, dear man....

I feel sorry for him that he didn't get to experience fatherhood with his own children. I don't know what I'd be without mine...

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Reply #15 posted 05/19/16 7:41am

patcalt

twinkieG said:

Wouldn't it be comforting to know that Prince had a real partner or wife at the end. I feel like


if he had a companion, we'd have less grief. It would mitigate some of the pain for me if I knew he


was taken care of emotionally leading up to his death. Sort of like Iman and Bowie: it's her place to grieve, as his widow, not mine. I'm free to sit back and feel my sentiments of love and appreciation. But with Prince having been so alone in life, there is a void that evokes and extra level of sadness and grief for me around his passing. What do you all think?


I am in awe of your comments I feel the same. It wasn't easy I would imagine to have a relationship so close to him. But it seems all still loved him
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Reply #16 posted 05/19/16 8:03am

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Yeah I sure wish he could have started his own family with several children, that might even have saved his life assuming they would always be around!

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Also, a family situation (wife and children) would also have helped with this no will mess that's going on right now.

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And lastly, he could have passed on (some of) his musical talents to one of his sons or daughters.


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Reply #17 posted 05/19/16 8:47am

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Can't answer that question...sometimes relationships can bring you down.
Just hope he knew how much he was loved and admired throughout the world.
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Reply #18 posted 05/19/16 8:57am

SexFiendNikki

twinkieG said:

Wouldn't it be comforting to know that Prince had a real partner or wife at the end. I feel like

if he had a companion, we'd have less grief. It would mitigate some of the pain for me if I knew he

was taken care of emotionally leading up to his death. Sort of like Iman and Bowie: it's her place to grieve, as his widow, not mine. I'm free to sit back and feel my sentiments of love and appreciation. But with Prince having been so alone in life, there is a void that evokes and extra level of sadness and grief for me around his passing. What do you all think?

When you love someone you want “the best” for them. We all (or most of us) loved Prince and we would have loved to have seen him in a happy healthy relationship. I would have loved to see him have children and pass those good looks and amazing talent on to his offspring. But it wasn’t in God’s plans. sad

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Reply #19 posted 05/19/16 9:17am

terrig

You know looking at it now....Prince didnt give much 'space' for a family to develop - his requirements of his wives were like a gilded cage and while it may seem as if the wife was exalted....once he was bored of you as his 'creation' he moved on married or not. Girlfriend, protege, album, gig, song - it was the same really ....it was about the 'making' then moving on.

I dont know if there was ever the space for a healthy successful relationship to be able to flourish amid Princes conditions....his love was music, his wife was music, his songs were his children - absolutely everything in his life was in service to that.

Its what he wanted and it was the way he wanted it. I think we have to be content with the fact that Princes idea of happiness and fullfillment was different and his need for a certain kind of love was different. Maybe he made the trade-off on purpose, and I think he transferred that feelin gof love and that fervor to his religion -rather than a person/family.

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Reply #20 posted 05/19/16 9:23am

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SexFiendNikki said:



twinkieG said:


Wouldn't it be comforting to know that Prince had a real partner or wife at the end. I feel like


if he had a companion, we'd have less grief. It would mitigate some of the pain for me if I knew he


was taken care of emotionally leading up to his death. Sort of like Iman and Bowie: it's her place to grieve, as his widow, not mine. I'm free to sit back and feel my sentiments of love and appreciation. But with Prince having been so alone in life, there is a void that evokes and extra level of sadness and grief for me around his passing. What do you all think?




When you love someone you want “the best” for them. We all (or most of us) loved Prince and we would have loved to have seen him in a happy healthy relationship. I would have loved to see him have children and pass those good looks and amazing talent on to his offspring. But it wasn’t in God’s plans. sad




i don't doubt the sincerity of your beliefs and don't want to dump on them, but for me, the "God's plan" thing does not work for me. this was a talented, passionate, loving, and yes, complicated (but who isn't) man. he seemed to desperately at one point want children and seemed to be open to meeting his soulmate even though he spent the bulk of his last ten years partnerless. i am sure being in a relationship with him would not have been a cakewalk, but he had a lot to offer i am sure as a human being beyond his stage persona and he never got one of the things he desired the most, not to mention what a gift to the world a prince child might have been.

so if your beliefs give you comfort in this, i am glad for you about that, but frankly, for me, it just sucks for prince and i don't see any "plan" where this could have been a good thing.

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And there's always a rainbow, at the end of every rain."--peace and love, dear prince.....
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Reply #21 posted 05/19/16 9:24am

PurpleMusic07

BombFunk said:

Yeah I sure wish he could have started his own family with several children, that might even have saved his life assuming they would always be around!

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Also, a family situation (wife and children) would also have helped with this no will mess that's going on right now.

.

And lastly, he could have passed on (some of) his musical talents to one of his sons or daughters.

Nothing is ever easy. A wife and children could've made the estate thing easier, or it could've made it messier. What if they didn't get along towards the end? I get the sentiment, but the idea that a traditional family structure would have somehow been more beneficial to him (or anyone really) is reaching. What would have helped his estate would have been having a clear, itemized will.

In some ways, it might be for the best that Prince DIDN't have children. Could you imagine the stress and presure? I'd feel kind of bad for him/her/them. Everyone would be expecting the second coming out of them. They would either rise to the occassion in some way or crash and burn and it'd have been terribly sad to watch.

"Where you are now is in a place that does not require time." - Rest In Power, PRINCE
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Reply #22 posted 05/19/16 9:24am

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terrig said:

You know looking at it now....Prince didnt give much 'space' for a family to develop - his requirements of his wives were like a gilded cage and while it may seem as if the wife was exalted....once he was bored of you as his 'creation' he moved on married or not. Girlfriend, protege, album, gig, song - it was the same really ....it was about the 'making' then moving on.

I dont know if there was ever the space for a healthy successful relationship to be able to flourish amid Princes conditions....his love was music, his wife was music, his songs were his children - absolutely everything in his life was in service to that.

Its what he wanted and it was the way he wanted it. I think we have to be content with the fact that Princes idea of happiness and fullfillment was different and his need for a certain kind of love was different. Maybe he made the trade-off on purpose, and I think he transferred that feelin gof love and that fervor to his religion -rather than a person/family.


Couldn't have said it better myself. He lived the way he wanted, we could all be so lucky to do the same. To live the way we want to live, even if it's not the typical spouse, children, and a 9 to 5 job.
Love is God,
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Reply #23 posted 05/19/16 9:39am

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twinkieG said:

Wouldn't it be comforting to know that Prince had a real partner or wife at the end. I feel like

if he had a companion, we'd have less grief. It would mitigate some of the pain for me if I knew he

was taken care of emotionally leading up to his death. Sort of like Iman and Bowie: it's her place to grieve, as his widow, not mine. I'm free to sit back and feel my sentiments of love and appreciation. But with Prince having been so alone in life, there is a void that evokes and extra level of sadness and grief for me around his passing. What do you all think?

I wish he had children.

I think he would have made a great father, and from what I read, he really wanted kids.

It's always nice to have one supporting soul in your corner. I do believe Mayte really loved him.

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Reply #24 posted 05/19/16 10:00am

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missfee said:

Who is Price? confuse



My name is Price
And I'm expensive
When it comes to fights
I am defensive


Sorry. It was the best I could come up with off the top of my head.
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Reply #25 posted 05/19/16 10:03am

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To answer the original question, I don't think anyone can wish he was married or not. It might have been his choice to be single. Maybe he didn't feel as though he was alone. Or maybe he preferred it that way.
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Reply #26 posted 05/19/16 11:07am

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Price? eek
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Reply #27 posted 05/19/16 12:39pm

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I've thought about this too and initially felt beyond sad over his lonely passing. But aside for the fact I wish he wouldn't have been alone at that particular time, I have come to believe a life partner is something he didn't necessarily want or need. It doesn't sound like he was capable of being faithful in any of his relationships so I appreciate him sparing more women that pain. It also appears he's always had plenty of female companionship/friendship when he's wanted it these last year's that's he's claimed to be celibate. I think that was enough for him at this point in his life. Really it wouldn't be such a bad way to live. If he wanted to be married he would have been. Maybe he recognized his shortcomings as a husband and enjoyed the stress free platonic relationships with a variety of young beauties more than willing to accompany him out and about. He had a thing for women much younger than him which usually doesn't make for marriage material so it's obviously not something he was after at this point and there's nothing wrong with that.
It's a hurtful place, the world, in and of itself. We don't need to add to it. We all need one another. ~ PRN
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Reply #28 posted 05/19/16 12:59pm

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sonshine said:

I've thought about this too and initially felt beyond sad over his lonely passing. But aside for the fact I wish he wouldn't have been alone at that particular time, I have come to believe a life partner is something he didn't necessarily want or need. It doesn't sound like he was capable of being faithful in any of his relationships so I appreciate him sparing more women that pain. It also appears he's always had plenty of female companionship/friendship when he's wanted it these last year's that's he's claimed to be celibate. I think that was enough for him at this point in his life. Really it wouldn't be such a bad way to live. If he wanted to be married he would have been. Maybe he recognized his shortcomings as a husband and enjoyed the stress free platonic relationships with a variety of young beauties more than willing to accompany him out and about. He had a thing for women much younger than him which usually doesn't make for marriage material so it's obviously not something he was after at this point and there's nothing wrong with that.


all good points. he certainly would have had a number of available women wanting to be with him. but he did seem to want someone very much in line with his religious beliefs, perhaps that was a tall order to fill. but platonic relationships can be very nice....fun, solid, even flirty, with none of the baggage or angst of a ltr. and he was already "married" in a sense to his music....
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And there's always a rainbow, at the end of every rain."--peace and love, dear prince.....
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Reply #29 posted 05/19/16 1:06pm

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I wish he had children sad Obviously he wanted them, but it just wasnt in the plan. It would be nice to look at some young person's face and see Prince wink

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