isobelfq said:

rainbowchild said:

isobelfq said:

I can't believe Prince is dead and my bitch of a mother, who never helped or loved anyone, including herself, and never took care of anyone, inlcuding herself, is still alive. Does anyone else have those moments where they can't believe certain people in their lives, especially the ones who have brought nothing but pain, fear, abuse, neglect, etc...are still on earth, wasting resources, and yet this beautiful man who gave so much love (and yes, pain, I know he gave pain also) is gone? It's just so unfair! Really?! You couldn't have taken her and left Prince?! And if anyone wonders how I could say such a thing; you're lucky. You have no idea how lucky you are. Children don't feel this way about their parents for no reason.

I could say more but I'm just going to end it here. Again, I apoligize if I've offended anyone and I understand if this gets removed but I just had to share. But before I go I feel like I should post this also.

https://www.youtube.com/w...mK7s8qM5cY

I appreciate your sharing your feelings. I know that for many of us, it will be awhile before we accept-- if ever-- that Prince is gone. I still wake up thinking it was all a dream before I realize that he is gone (I can't even say "dead" because it hurts to say that; I'll just think he went away).

The character in the play I'm doing at the moment uses the expression "passed over." I like that - sounds like he just graduated to the next stage of existence.

I agree. The title of Royalty has to be EARNED. Prince set a bar that will be almost impossible to meet and completely impossible to surpass.

Azifwekare319 said:

Trust me, I completely understand how you feel. With people like that it is best to just cut them out of your life, but that situation is much harder when it involves a family member (I too have been in a situation like this) - but some people are so poisonous that it needs to be done if all else fails.

About the 'Why Prince but not them?' feeling - my immediate thought when I heard the news was "How did the Queen turn 90 today but Prince died at 57?" In that grief-stricken moment it didn't seem right. Although, I'm pretty sure Prince died on the Queen's birthday just to upstage the her and show everyone who the TRUE royalty was

[Edited 5/2/16 11:52am]

1contessa said:

Genesia said:

Maybe you should listen to the words of your hero. (This is from an interview in Rolling Stone that came out this morning.)

And he was right, because if Jesus could ask His Father God to forgive those who were crucifying him, who are we that we can't forgive someone that has hurt us someway?

I'm an athiest.

I just want to send my love to everyone here. I know we are all sad because of our loss of Prince. Someone who touched our souls deeply in so many positive ways. Each of us has our own special relationship with Prince inside our hearts and I think that is so beautiful that he has affected so many in such a beautiful way. It's also very apparent after reading a lot of posts here, that a lot of us have other hard parts of our lives that perhaps Prince helped us get through. And I guess it just amplifies those hard times/pieces now that he's gone. I just want to wish everyone happier moments in their futures. I know we're all sad, but I hope we can find some light on those dark days. Whether it's listening to a particular song or looking at his videos - or expressing your feelings of losing him on paper. Just something to remind us why we loved him so much. And I hope the people with true pain in their lives for other matters besides losing Prince can find a way to cope and move past those bad moments. Life is a struggle for everyone. Nobody has a perfect life. We all just deal with it the best way we can. I feel like I'm rambling and I don't mean to. I just want to send everyone a big hug. Especially to Isobelfq - I'm truly sorry for whatever happened in your childhood that caused you so much pain. My mom was not perfect by any means and we had our share of disagreements, but I loved her dearly and miss her every day of my life since I lost her 2 years ago, so I can't begin to imagine what could have caused you to feel the anger you do towards your mom. I'm just so sorry that you are feeling this way right now. I know we all are down and sad right now, but your post really stuck out to me which is why I just want to send positive hope for better days for you. I hope you can find a way to cope with your sadness right now. I honestly wish you happier days in your future. Much Purple Love to all.

isobelfq said:

Sometimes if parents are toxic, even a psychologist would tell you to take distance.

However, freedom only comes when you let go and you got a lot of work to do honey. I hope Prince's music can help you with that.

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I have though admittedly, thought about people like criminals or actually Sepp Blatt FIFA and wondered why nature didn't take him.

Okay well what you're feeling is definitely a result of pent up feelings over the years and the experiences, and you're feeling it's unfair and unjust you're "stuck" with her. Anger/feeling this way is a just a thought and it's better to talk about it, with a professional maybe, than act on it, cause keeping it in is like poison and now resulting in these intrusive thoughts. You're doing yourself a disservice keeping it in and you'll feel a lot better addressing the anger, cause in a way this is your response to prince's death. Anyone would feel frustrated with toxic relationships and internalizing them, so finding someone to talk to is like doing yourself a favour, cause you and I both know you don't want these thoughts.

[Edited 5/2/16 19:29pm]

I'll just say that parents typically do not like or listen to music their children do and vice versa, so thats one thing you ought to drop from your list of bitterness.

XrayTed said:

I'll just say that parents typically do not like or listen to music their children do and vice versa, so thats one thing you ought to drop from your list of bitterness.

Wow, you missed the entire point of that comment.

isobelfq said:

XrayTed said:

I'll just say that parents typically do not like or listen to music their children do and vice versa, so thats one thing you ought to drop from your list of bitterness.

Wow, you missed the entire point of that comment.

What part of:

"My mother didn't like him. She thought he was "weird" "strange" "why he gotta act like a woman" and everything else. I remember once she forced me to tell her about going to one of his concerts and then sniffed and said "well, i don't really like Prince no way"

Am I misinterpreting here ?

Alot of people thought he was weird and strange and acted very feminine, I know I sure did. Wasn't that pretty much the persona he most often tried to project ? "Weird" is an entirely subjective term anyhow.

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I'm not judging the guy, or you - You are the one judging someone else for apparently not thinking like you, and that just ain't the way it works.

I hate to hear people talk trash about their folks but once again, no judgements here - Obviously you must have went through some bad shit that you couldn't explain here, and I am sorry that happened to you but you can't let it eat you up inside. Negatives can become positives if you turn them around and learn lessons from them, and especially pass your experiences down in a coherent manner to youngsters.

[Edited 5/2/16 20:09pm]

1contessa said:

Genesia said:

Maybe you should listen to the words of your hero. (This is from an interview in Rolling Stone that came out this morning.)

And he was right, because if Jesus could ask His Father God to forgive those who were crucifying him, who are we that we can't forgive someone that has hurt us someway?

amen

isobelfq said:

I can't believe Prince is dead and my bitch of a mother, who never helped or loved anyone, including herself, and never took care of anyone, inlcuding herself, is still alive. Does anyone else have those moments where they can't believe certain people in their lives, especially the ones who have brought nothing but pain, fear, abuse, neglect, etc...are still on earth, wasting resources, and yet this beautiful man who gave so much love (and yes, pain, I know he gave pain also) is gone? It's just so unfair! Really?! You couldn't have taken her and left Prince?! And if anyone wonders how I could say such a thing; you're lucky. You have no idea how lucky you are. Children don't feel this way about their parents for no reason.

I could say more but I'm just going to end it here. Again, I apoligize if I've offended anyone and I understand if this gets removed but I just had to share. But before I go I feel like I should post this also.

https://www.youtube.com/w...mK7s8qM5cY

Wow. Please get counselling on how to deal with your anger towards your mother.

Im actually surprised I got past you calling your mother out her name The good always die young, dont know why...it is just that way. We're all working through Prince's death in our own way, but I know he wouldnt want you on her disrespecting your mother like that no matter what kinda person she happens to be.

You know, it's very easy for those who haven't suffered at the hands of a very abusive and neglectful parents and familty to pass judgement on those of us who have. So what, I called that bitch out of her name. If you don't like it then stop reading. I have every right to call her a bitch after everything that I went though. If fact, calling her a bitch is a nice way of putting it. I went through it; you didn't. Don't tell me how to feel when you don't know the why and the how. No, in fact, tell me what to feel. Tell me exactly how I should feel when I realized, looking back on my childhood and everything, that my mother doesn't love me, didn't love me and would never love me. Tell me how I should feel about being suicidal at the age 9 because of everything that I've been through. THAT, my friends, is the truth. Prince gave me more than that bitch ever did. THAT is another truth. So yeah, I do wish that bitch was dead instead of him. I was expressing and an emotion, something i feel very deeply. And honestly, since we're all "going there" I think a lot people are upset because they haven't dealt with their own feelings about the abuse in their own past. So before you start passing judgement on me and trying to "guide" me into the "right" direction and telling me that you "know" what I do and do not want out of life, and being "shocked" that I "called your mother out of her name", look back and see if you're not just covering up your own pain by trying to minimize and regulate mine.

nursev said:

1contessa said:

And he was right, because if Jesus could ask His Father God to forgive those who were crucifying him, who are we that we can't forgive someone that has hurt us someway?

amen

And once again, I'm an athiest so you can sell that somewhere else.

isobelfq said:

nursev said:

amen

And once again, I'm an athiest so you can sell that somewhere else.

that explains alot

nursev said:

isobelfq said:

And once again, I'm an athiest so you can sell that somewhere else.

that explains alot

So says you.

isobelfq said:

You know, it's very easy for those who haven't suffered at the hands of a very abusive and neglectful parents and familty to pass judgement on those of us who have. So what, I called that bitch out of her name. If you don't like it then stop reading. I have every right to call her a bitch after everything that I went though. If fact, calling her a bitch is a nice way of putting it. I went through it; you didn't. Don't tell me how to feel when you don't know the why and the how. No, in fact, tell me what to feel. Tell me exactly how I should feel when I realized, looking back on my childhood and everything, that my mother doesn't love me, didn't love me and would never love me. Tell me how I should feel about being suicidal at the age 9 because of everything that I've been through. THAT, my friends, is the truth. Prince gave me more than that bitch ever did. THAT is another truth. So yeah, I do wish that bitch was dead instead of him. I was expressing and an emotion, something i feel very deeply. And honestly, since we're all "going there" I think a lot people are upset because they haven't dealt with their own feelings about the abuse in their own past. So before you start passing judgement on me and trying to "guide" me into the "right" direction and telling me that you "know" what I do and do not want out of life, and being "shocked" that I "called your mother out of her name", look back and see if you're not just covering up your own pain by trying to minimize and regulate mine.

You are lapsing into some strange area here, I personally was never abused so you couldn't be talking to me. I have 5 kids including 1 adopted from an abusive parent, I never abused a child and never will.

You are ranting and not many people are used to hearing mothers called bitch and wishes that they die, so you are going for reactions here whether you know it or not and if you don't like them, you can also stop reading.

I think its plain you need some therapy or something if you can't work this out on your own, nothing personal and no insult intended. You don't seem rational, and saying "my bitch mother made me this way" is not an excuse, you do have options.

isobelfq said:

nursev said:

that explains alot

So says you.

Im going to let u grieve in your own way...maybe this is just your way. No ill will here on my part towards you.

XrayTed said:

isobelfq said:

You know, it's very easy for those who haven't suffered at the hands of a very abusive and neglectful parents and familty to pass judgement on those of us who have. So what, I called that bitch out of her name. If you don't like it then stop reading. I have every right to call her a bitch after everything that I went though. If fact, calling her a bitch is a nice way of putting it. I went through it; you didn't. Don't tell me how to feel when you don't know the why and the how. No, in fact, tell me what to feel. Tell me exactly how I should feel when I realized, looking back on my childhood and everything, that my mother doesn't love me, didn't love me and would never love me. Tell me how I should feel about being suicidal at the age 9 because of everything that I've been through. THAT, my friends, is the truth. Prince gave me more than that bitch ever did. THAT is another truth. So yeah, I do wish that bitch was dead instead of him. I was expressing and an emotion, something i feel very deeply. And honestly, since we're all "going there" I think a lot people are upset because they haven't dealt with their own feelings about the abuse in their own past. So before you start passing judgement on me and trying to "guide" me into the "right" direction and telling me that you "know" what I do and do not want out of life, and being "shocked" that I "called your mother out of her name", look back and see if you're not just covering up your own pain by trying to minimize and regulate mine.

You are lapsing into some strange area here, I personally was never abused so you couldn't be talking to me. I have 5 kids including 1 adopted from an abusive parent, I never abused a child and never will.

You are ranting and not many people are used to hearing mothers called bitch and wishes that they die, so you are going for reactions here whether you know it or not and if you don't like them, you can also stop reading.

I think its plain you need some therapy or something if you can't work this out on your own, nothing personal and no insult intended. You don't seem rational, and saying "my bitch mother made me this way" is not an excuse, you do have options.

so true

I think if the Purple one was omniscient he would send OP a note in that beautiful handwriting which would encourage forgiveness or dissociation and just be affirming in our potentials for love and renewal. xoxo


EDIT - I missed one of your subsequent posts so I want to add emphasis to the dissociation. sorry to hear you went through horrors with that woman. peace

[Edited 5/2/16 20:51pm]

XrayTed said:

isobelfq said:

You know, it's very easy for those who haven't suffered at the hands of a very abusive and neglectful parents and familty to pass judgement on those of us who have. So what, I called that bitch out of her name. If you don't like it then stop reading. I have every right to call her a bitch after everything that I went though. If fact, calling her a bitch is a nice way of putting it. I went through it; you didn't. Don't tell me how to feel when you don't know the why and the how. No, in fact, tell me what to feel. Tell me exactly how I should feel when I realized, looking back on my childhood and everything, that my mother doesn't love me, didn't love me and would never love me. Tell me how I should feel about being suicidal at the age 9 because of everything that I've been through. THAT, my friends, is the truth. Prince gave me more than that bitch ever did. THAT is another truth. So yeah, I do wish that bitch was dead instead of him. I was expressing and an emotion, something i feel very deeply. And honestly, since we're all "going there" I think a lot people are upset because they haven't dealt with their own feelings about the abuse in their own past. So before you start passing judgement on me and trying to "guide" me into the "right" direction and telling me that you "know" what I do and do not want out of life, and being "shocked" that I "called your mother out of her name", look back and see if you're not just covering up your own pain by trying to minimize and regulate mine.

You are lapsing into some strange area here, I personally was never abused so you couldn't be talking to me. I have 5 kids including 1 adopted from an abusive parent, I never abused a child and never will.

You are ranting and not many people are used to hearing mothers called bitch and wishes that they die, so you are going for reactions here whether you know it or not and if you don't like them, you can also stop reading.

I think its plain you need some therapy or something if you can't work this out on your own, nothing personal and no insult intended. You don't seem rational, and saying "my bitch mother made me this way" is not an excuse, you do have options.

Thank you for proving my point. And just so people will stop saying this, I have had a lot of therapy, years of it. Which is why I'm at a place now where I can express these feelings instead of letting them eat me up inside. Look, I started this thread because I needed to share, not because I wanted to be attacked, even though i knew that was a distinct possibility. And I was hoping there would be some people on here who would understand how I felt and not just throw religion in my face or something like that as an easy answer to a difficult solution. Thankfully some of those people have come forward. So I will say this again, before you decide to try to "point me in the right direction" THINK about what a person has to go through to feel this way about their own mother. to quote a film that used to be a favorite of mine "mother is the name of God on the hearts and lips of all children."

p.s.

I don't seem rational but religion is?

I can repsect your struggles, but you HAVE NO CLUE about the things that some of us have lived through and survived so before you throw stones think about that. We can respect your struggles, but is this now the time and place to put this out there? Nobody is throwing religion at you...you posted your thoughts so dont be mad if the responses arent what you want.

Angelsoncrack said:

BillieBalloon said:

Angelsoncrack said: This is the weirdest comment I've seen about Prince's death. Just odd. Lol. [Edited 5/1/16 15:49pm]

Well I did say my mind had been everywhere lol

I understood it perfectly. Everybody's mind works in different lanes, and secondly because my mother has her microwave that she bought in 1985 or 1986. I was marvelling a few years ago how it has been such a soldier and just lasted compared to ipods and other stuff that have the live spans of goldfish.

isobelfq said:

isobelfq said:

I can't believe Prince is dead and my bitch of a mother, who never helped or loved anyone, including herself, and never took care of anyone, inlcuding herself, is still alive. Does anyone else have those moments where they can't believe certain people in their lives, especially the ones who have brought nothing but pain, fear, abuse, neglect, etc...are still on earth, wasting resources, and yet this beautiful man who gave so much love (and yes, pain, I know he gave pain also) is gone? It's just so unfair! Really?! You couldn't have taken her and left Prince?! And if anyone wonders how I could say such a thing; you're lucky. You have no idea how lucky you are. Children don't feel this way about their parents for no reason.

I could say more but I'm just going to end it here. Again, I apoligize if I've offended anyone and I understand if this gets removed but I just had to share. But before I go I feel like I should post this also.

https://www.youtube.com/w...mK7s8qM5cY

My mom was a monster but thanks God she passed 15 years ago. I totally understand you.

nursev said:

Mala hierba nunca muere

Azifwekare319 said: