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Reply #30 posted 04/24/16 10:27am

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We are all in the same boat here. We've lost our leader. I just keep trying to tell myself that Prince would hate to see his fans all cut up like this. He would want us to be partying and celebrating the 57 glorious years he had on this earth. But its tough

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Reply #31 posted 04/24/16 10:34am

datdude

This sucks SO BAD. I'm trying to 'move on' but I can't think of/refer to him in the past tense. Watching stuff has NOT been particularly therapeutic for me. It suspends me or something. I've hated the Org often because of the 80s nostalgia bent so pervasive but the larger culture, our families don't GET us. So w/o wanting to be here right now, here I am
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Reply #32 posted 04/24/16 10:49am

Iluvmusic78

I work at a Spiritual Center, with a huge music program. We've had The Twins sing here before ( I remember being convinced Prince would show up to support them and I'd finally get to meet him, but no).

And right now, they are playing Purple Rain to honor him. I can't handle this. I have been avoiding that song in particular. I had to plug up my ears, as I cried. I am on the verge of hysterics.

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Reply #33 posted 04/24/16 10:55am

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Church made me feel better. I am seeing the bigger picture. We are all special. We need to find the purple in our souls. Amen.

All you others say Hell Yea!! woot!
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Reply #34 posted 04/24/16 11:08am

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This is a kind of grief that only we know and understand. I have to say when friends that were fans of say Amy Winehouse for example were upset or anyone else I never mocked them. Just said hang in there. I had thought about this day a few times then banished it from my mind.

I always thought he would be like James Brown and be bopping away until he was 90. A lot of peopel have said to me yeah talented but no hits in the last 10 years. I have scoffed and said a man like him doens't need hits. You carry on listening to Bieber.

I am suffering in the worst way. Trying to lift myself by saying... and wil say the same to you all.. what would Prince do? He would record something and put it in the studio. Sadly I think none of us are that creative but we can do the same as in piut our energy/emotion into something that expresses it and we are good at. Find that and channel it. This process will take time to go through but we all go this together. We can do it. sad Love you all my purple family.

Whatever you heard about me is true
I change the rules and do what I wanna do
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Reply #35 posted 04/24/16 11:10am

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I hope you all understand me above - sorry but the tears have stopped my coherent speech and spelling and grammar.

Whatever you heard about me is true
I change the rules and do what I wanna do
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Reply #36 posted 04/24/16 9:35pm

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Nate319 said:I don't know how you guys are doing it but I'm still having a terribly hard time with it. I'm still feeling disbelief over it. Sadness but also anger. This is really not fair. Life ain't fair. I really wasn't prepared for this. I haven't listened to his music since. And I don't think I'll be able to for a while. It hurts too much. I haven't been able to watch all the tv stuff or read about it since it happened. It's like getting that incredibly bad news for the first time all over again every time. And it's a terrible feeling. I don't know. Maybe I'm just rambling. I just don't know how to cope with it. It's just nice to be able to share it with you people here. I feel your pain and I lived in in June 2009 and am living it again.Half of you and your soul has died because prince took your heart with him thursday morning!U R not alone in this. I know what you are feeling. You feel like angry that other people get to hear his music while you are miserable. I understand. You loved him. Time will help. And knowing we will be with him again someday.All my love and care.Michelle
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Reply #37 posted 04/24/16 9:37pm

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I can't stop crying. So hard to believe. I was driving to a friend's house today and got so overwhelmed that I had to pull over. This is so hard to process. I can't believe that Prince has passed away.

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Reply #38 posted 04/25/16 5:32pm

alphastreet

strawberrybubblegum said:

This is a kind of grief that only we know and understand. I have to say when friends that were fans of say Amy Winehouse for example were upset or anyone else I never mocked them. Just said hang in there. I had thought about this day a few times then banished it from my mind.



I always thought he would be like James Brown and be bopping away until he was 90. A lot of peopel have said to me yeah talented but no hits in the last 10 years. I have scoffed and said a man like him doens't need hits. You carry on listening to Bieber.



I am suffering in the worst way. Trying to lift myself by saying... and wil say the same to you all.. what would Prince do? He would record something and put it in the studio. Sadly I think none of us are that creative but we can do the same as in piut our energy/emotion into something that expresses it and we are good at. Find that and channel it. This process will take time to go through but we all go this together. We can do it. sad Love you all my purple family.




I agree. The mj grief killed me and both he and Prince are my fave male artists and I really admired him so this is reopening that wound and I'm hurt for him too :*(. I have a major deadline to finish up and this is really affecting my concentration and grammar as well, and I can't process what anyone is telling me. Exactly how I was being years ago sad I'm just so grateful I saw him a few years ago and he's being respected.
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Reply #39 posted 04/25/16 6:19pm

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Today was better for me. I'm finally able to listen to his music without crying. However, I do keep replaying the moment I saw the news alert on my phone and my initial reaction. The first alert of "someone" dead at Paisley Park gave me chills and feelings of fear...then what seemed like 10 min later, my worst fears were realized and I just wanted to scream but I couldn't b/c I was at work. I think I'm still in some sort of disbelief that he's really gone. The shock still remains. sad
I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #40 posted 04/25/16 6:28pm

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Today was better for me too. It feels on the one hand so weird to be so completely devastated by the death of this person we've obsessed over for decades (for many, probably most of us).. but when I came back here after not visiting for a while I stopped feeling weird, because most of us all feeling the same. Next week I hope to be less in the mood to lament his death and more in the mood to celebrate his life and accomplishments.

Change it one more time..
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Reply #41 posted 04/25/16 7:38pm

Iluvmusic78

Today has been better. I woke up feeling lighter in my heart.
I honestly can feel his spirit. And as always he is still inspiring me!
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Reply #42 posted 04/25/16 7:58pm

ambercat123

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I'm still sad and hurt, but getting through it. I guess because I believe that once someone has transitioned, I actually have greater access to them, as the physical is no longer a barrier to communication. Love is eternal and incorruptible, and nothing can block it.

Prince isn't physically here with us, but he exists elsewhere in another form, and that form has returned to it's Source. We love Prince, and he loved all of us, Therefore, I've been spending a lot of time talking to him, and thanking God for Him, because I honestly believe messages in the spirit realm travel faster than emails or texts.

I never had access to Prince in the natural, however, I believe he can still feel love from us here, so I'm choosing to send love to him vertically. Call me an airy fairy kook (wouldn't be the first time), but that's my coping mechanism, and I'm sticking to it.

Love4oneanother.

This is beautiful, I'll try to remember this when it's really bad.

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I spent the weekend on the couch listening to his music and watching videos. Food doesn't taste right and to sleep (what little I'm getting), I put his music on and and leave it, so it's always with me. His voice is now almost like a security blanket, strange I know!

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I thought I was doing better today and I guess I am, I've only cried 3 times today. The Ladder gets me but the one that just had me balling is Revelation. When he sings "if ever, there was ever such a thing as time, it's useless so useless to me now" that hit me in the gut and it started all over again.

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Is anyone else feeling like they can't waste the time that's left in their own life to listen to anything BUT Prince? That's how I've been feeling. Like I have to cram as much into my ears/brain as possible. The hardest parts of the day for me is where I can't hear his voice, that gets to me.

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Reply #43 posted 04/25/16 8:03pm

mjscarousal

Very difficult too, sorry hun sad

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Reply #44 posted 04/25/16 8:15pm

PurrfectKitty

Nate319 said:

I don't know how you guys are doing it but I'm still having a terribly hard time with it.

I'm still feeling disbelief over it. Sadness but also anger. This is really not fair. Life ain't fair.

I really wasn't prepared for this.

I haven't listened to his music since. And I don't think I'll be able to for a while. It hurts too much.

I haven't been able to watch all the tv stuff or read about it since it happened. It's like getting that incredibly bad news for the first time all over again every time. And it's a terrible feeling.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just rambling. I just don't know how to cope with it. It's just nice to be able to share it with you people here.

I completely understand and feel similar ... It's been very hard on me, and strangers even had to console me when I went to watch Purple Rain in the AMC theaters this past weekend. I'm still in disbelief, deeply saddened, angry, depressed ... be strong, and know that you are not alone in these feelings, and that we are so fortunate to have support like what's here on Prince.org!

Whatever u heard about me is true, I change the rules and do what I wanna do; I'm in love with God, He's the only way; cause u and I know we gotta die someday; you think I'm crazy, ur probally right; but I'm gonna have fun every motherf***in' night!"
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Reply #45 posted 04/25/16 8:21pm

tomasz

everything you all are saying I can relate to.

Its surreal.

I've become a zombie, not sleeping, on autopilot.

not talking to anyone.

have a tension headache since.

have not been able to listen to his music.

still in denial.

In tears.

staring into the void.

why? why? why?

how are we ever going to resume our lives?

not sure if I can ever smile again, or be happy...

this is the end of my world...

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Reply #46 posted 04/26/16 2:50am

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lezama said:

Today was better for me too. It feels on the one hand so weird to be so completely devastated by the death of this person we've obsessed over for decades (for many, probably most of us).. but when I came back here after not visiting for a while I stopped feeling weird, because most of us all feeling the same. Next week I hope to be less in the mood to lament his death and more in the mood to celebrate his life and accomplishments.


hug
I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #47 posted 04/26/16 3:05am

sqhootie

I had to leave work when the news came Thursday. I struggled through Friday and spent the weekend crying and watching CNN. I listened to the second half of the Minneapolis stations broadcast of all tracks. Yesterday I cried as soon as I woke up. But not today. I keep thinking he wouldn't want us to wallow in it too long. I hold on to that. It's awful I know how we all feel but I just keep thinking what he would want us to do. So I am going with that. Anger has crept in now. And....I feel a huge sense of loss knowing I won't ever see him live again. But one thing....thinking how I can personally honor him is to consider life from the perspective that it can be cut short with no notice and not to waste it.
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Reply #48 posted 04/26/16 11:46am

Nate319

sqhootie said:

I had to leave work when the news came Thursday. I struggled through Friday and spent the weekend crying and watching CNN. I listened to the second half of the Minneapolis stations broadcast of all tracks. Yesterday I cried as soon as I woke up. But not today. I keep thinking he wouldn't want us to wallow in it too long. I hold on to that. It's awful I know how we all feel but I just keep thinking what he would want us to do. So I am going with that. Anger has crept in now. And....I feel a huge sense of loss knowing I won't ever see him live again. But one thing....thinking how I can personally honor him is to consider life from the perspective that it can be cut short with no notice and not to waste it.

So true...

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Reply #49 posted 04/26/16 1:16pm

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I listened to the Rainbow Children album today at work and I forgot that "Last December" was on there, so when the track came on, part of me wanted to stop it, part of me wanted to continue to listen, so I did the latter and teared up again. sad

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I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #50 posted 04/26/16 1:19pm

SteelPulse1

We're in shock and mourning we're not supposed to be able to cope with this well right now,it's going to take a long time. Keep talking dont hold it in, your not alone.
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Reply #51 posted 04/26/16 1:39pm

prplpassion

Its been 6 days I keep coming here and reading the post, never saying anything quietly getting support. I'm still numb and seem to be tearing up over everything. Im a quiet gentle person and yet I feel anger That I don't understand. I can't stand the constant "news" updates. The music it makes me happy, it makes me sad, It fills me up. I am having trouble imagining a life with out Prince.

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Reply #52 posted 04/26/16 1:44pm

EnDoRpHn

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Its been 6 days I keep coming here and reading the post, never saying anything quietly getting support. I'm still numb and seem to be tearing up over everything. Im a quiet genital person and yet I feel anger That I don't understand. I can't stand the constant "news" updates. The music it makes me happy, it makes me sad, It fills me up. I am having trouble imagining a life with out Prince.



Sadness and anger are both very normal parts of grieving.

Laughter is ok, too. Not to make light, but I smiled when I saw you refer to yourself as a "quiet genital" person. There are few things better in life than being able to giggle through tears.
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Reply #53 posted 04/26/16 1:58pm

prplpassion

EnDoRpHn said:

prplpassion said:

Its been 6 days I keep coming here and reading the post, never saying anything quietly getting support. I'm still numb and seem to be tearing up over everything. Im a quiet genital person and yet I feel anger That I don't understand. I can't stand the constant "news" updates. The music it makes me happy, it makes me sad, It fills me up. I am having trouble imagining a life with out Prince.

Sadness and anger are both very normal parts of grieving. Laughter is ok, too. Not to make light, but I smiled when I saw you refer to yourself as a "quiet genital" person. There are few things better in life than being able to giggle through tears. [Edited 4/26/16 13:45pm]

Genital LOL you got me proof reader needed

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Reply #54 posted 04/26/16 2:12pm

funkDAWG

Today is the first day I haven't spontaneuously wept.

I too have been avoiding my collection and music. It's been difficult.

Know that we are ALL going through it and don't be afraid to support each other, hug and grieve.

We must also take the time to celebrate a game plan. Maybe more charity work USING our legion....representing the Man and his work. That would be amazing.

I'm thinking of you all; it's been years since I've been on this forum, but I thought to reach out as my heart is breaking like so many of my brothers and sisters.

Peace and prayer out to all of you.

"Sometimes it snows in April, sometimes it feels so bad, sometimes I wish that life was everlasting, all good things, they say, never last.....

Love...it isn't love...until it's had...."

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Reply #55 posted 04/26/16 2:16pm

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prplpass ion s, ai quote]< p>Its been 6 days I keep coming here and reading the post, never saying anything quietly getting support. I'm still numb and seem to be tearing up over everything. Im a quiet gentle person and yet I feel anger That I don't understand. I can't stand the constant "news" updates. The music it makes me happy, it makes me sad, It fills me up. I am having trouble imagining a life with out Prince.

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That last part is what keeps me in the grip of sorrow...imagining a life without Prince in it. He and his music have been a part of my life longer than almost everything else...longer than my husband, longer than my kids, longer than my job...thru two marriages, a divorce, three babies (now young men), various jobs, loved ones lost...it was always his music I turned to when I struggled and when I celebrated but there is no solace right now for me hearing his voice. It's just a cruel reminder.
It's a hurtful place, the world, in and of itself. We don't need to add to it. We all need one another. ~ PRN
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Reply #56 posted 04/26/16 2:21pm

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I guess with me personally I am simply thankful to have known of the man and his work at all, to have lived in the same era of one of the greatest geniuses in the history of music (just like Mozart, Beethoven, etc) , to still have his music with us and be able to listen to it whenever I want. Im also happy that whatever misery he may have had in this world is now no more, and that in addition to how inspirational he truly was, his life and words contained many lessons and examples to enrich those who see/hear them. Just like Bruce Lee said, "if I die tomorrow I will have no regrets because I did what I wanted to do, and you cant ask for more than that." Prince lived and did his thing, the way he wanted to.

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Reply #57 posted 04/26/16 2:43pm

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prplpass ion s, ai quote]< p>Its been 6 days I keep coming here and reading the post, never saying anything quietly getting support. I'm still numb and seem to be tearing up over everything. Im a quiet gentle person and yet I feel anger That I don't understand. I can't stand the constant "news" updates. The music it makes me happy, it makes me sad, It fills me up. I am having trouble imagining a life with out Prince.

[Edited 4/26/16 13:59pm]

That last part is what keeps me in the grip of sorrow...imagining a life without Prince in it. He and his music have been a part of my life longer than almost everything else...longer than my husband, longer than my kids, longer than my job...thru two marriages, a divorce, three babies (now young men), various jobs, loved ones lost...it was always his music I turned to when I struggled and when I celebrated but there is no solace right now for me hearing his voice. It's just a cruel reminder.

I woke up with tears Friday morning, my 1st thought as I opened my eyes was this is my 1st day with out Prince in my life. He was my constant too. Became a fan in 1980 always waiting for the next album the next tour. And now nothing. I knew the day would come but I thought it would be a long ways down the road. It might have been easier if we had known it was coming. This grief is more then I ever imagined it would be.

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Reply #58 posted 04/26/16 5:35pm

smiler69

I'm a 35 year old man who feels like he's lost one of his best friends. Never met him or been able to get to a live concert but been listening to his music since 1993, when I was introduced to it by a friend. The music has got me through some tough times and great times, and now all the associations with his music hit all at once. My head hurts as I can't understand how to deal with this sort of grief.
Then I feel stupid for getting so emotional....
This is what it's like in the dream factory...
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Reply #59 posted 04/26/16 7:51pm

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Honestly I havent posted on here in years (I'm suprised I even still remember the password to this account) I was really an obsessive fan a few years ago but I cooled down in recent time. But when I heard he died I was honestly so distraught I couldn't even believe it and I had all my family messaging me asking if I was okay...still pretty hard to accept it tbh

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