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Thread started 04/23/16 5:08pm

Nate319

I can't cope with this.

I don't know how you guys are doing it but I'm still having a terribly hard time with it.

I'm still feeling disbelief over it. Sadness but also anger. This is really not fair. Life ain't fair.

I really wasn't prepared for this.

I haven't listened to his music since. And I don't think I'll be able to for a while. It hurts too much.

I haven't been able to watch all the tv stuff or read about it since it happened. It's like getting that incredibly bad news for the first time all over again every time. And it's a terrible feeling.

I don't know. Maybe I'm just rambling. I just don't know how to cope with it. It's just nice to be able to share it with you people here.

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Reply #1 posted 04/23/16 5:16pm

mano

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We are all right here with you, feeling the same way.

It was like a death in the family. So many people in my life that knew how much I love Prince were litterally contacting me to see if I was ok.

I can say that listening to his music, celebrating his art has been very helpful for me.

I am in New York, and when i left work the day he died I was in a daze, i found my way up to 125th street and joined the celbration that happened spontaneously in front of the Apollo theater. It did wonders for my spirit.

I am still in mourning and disbelief. But I am now thankful for the amount of time that we had such a brilliant person in this world. I will never forget him.

"I know I hold you too tight, but I just can't seem to get close enough." prince
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Reply #2 posted 04/23/16 5:19pm

GottaLetitgo

I have been depressed as all hell for three days but I am going to watch several hours of videos on VH1 Classic tonight and suddenly I feel better. I will feel like crap tomorrow but tonight it's about the music and not the loss.

There are time for tears but the man left us with so many hours of music and so many memories that we will have them until we are old.

All good things they say never last...
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Reply #3 posted 04/23/16 5:19pm

ZiggmanZoo

We are in this together because we love Prince and his music. It's so normal to feel this way. The tears keep rolling...

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Reply #4 posted 04/23/16 5:48pm

BombFunk

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You're not rambling bro, I'm feeling the same terrible dark feeling, I don't know how to make sense of many things anymore, am crying on and off for days now and it does not seem to get better, he has always been a major influence in my life and everything and now my anchor, my beacon, my hero is gone and I'm feeling lost and don't know what to do ... broken


dove Forever changed dove wilted

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Reply #5 posted 04/23/16 5:48pm

Nate319

Thank U my Purple brothers and sisters. I appreciate the support.

The Man's music has been a huge part of my life for 35 years, so I guess it'll be a little while before I can get my life back to some semblance of 'normalcy'.

I guess I'll have no choice at some point...

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Reply #6 posted 04/23/16 5:52pm

missfee

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I feel the same way. Yesterday I was an absolute mess at work. I kept crying on and off, I only got a little work done. I also found myself checking different news websites for updates every hour. I could barely listen to his music at all, but today is a little better. I do wake up every morning since his passing and feel a chunk of me missing. It just doesn't seem like it should be so to be living in this world without Prince. sad
I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #7 posted 04/23/16 5:57pm

Nate319

Ya, trying to concentrate at work was almost impossible.

And every day when I wake up or when I think I'm feeling a little better I cant help but think: "it's still another day in a world without Prince..." sad

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Reply #8 posted 04/23/16 5:58pm

klov

Ramble. Cry. Rage. But keep listening to his music and let it be that one, unmoving, solid thing that you keep coming back to.

A post-Prince world is troubling me deeply too. I'm taken back by my feelings and my response to those feelings. My wife and I were watching some mindless comedy show last night and I, in a numb and foggy mind, started crying about how it "wasn't fair".

My wife put her hand on my shoulder and started talking about the time we went to our first Prince show together. I'd been sn observant, loyal, almost unquestioning Prince fan since I was a teenager dp I had been to shows before.

But this was our first.

My wife is not an extrovert. She doesn't laugh out loud in public kind of introvert.

But by the end of the night she was jumping, clapping, sweating, and just letting go for one of the few times in her life. And I really believe she had not relaxed like that in her life.

And she looked hot.

And last night I realized what this man had meant to me.

And I've been sadder but oddly stronger since.

[Edited 4/23/16 18:00pm]

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Reply #9 posted 04/23/16 8:09pm

swissbeats2k

Nate319 said:

I don't know how you guys are doing it but I'm still having a terribly hard time with it.


I'm still feeling disbelief over it. Sadness but also anger. This is really not fair. Life ain't fair.


I really wasn't prepared for this.


I haven't listened to his music since. And I don't think I'll be able to for a while. It hurts too much.


I haven't been able to watch all the tv stuff or read about it since it happened. It's like getting that incredibly bad news for the first time all over again every time. And it's a terrible feeling.



I was feeling anger at first and still am but reading some of the funny stories in the "Prince made me do it" section made me laugh and smile. You should go read some too especially the one about the 44 year old manager hiding under one of the concession tables lol.


I don't know. Maybe I'm just rambling. I just don't know how to cope with it. It's just nice to be able to share it with you people here.

MJB2
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Reply #10 posted 04/23/16 8:27pm

Iluvmusic78

I have not let my house (barely my room) since yesterday. I just keep crying. I'm sad and mad.

More than anything, I just don't understand how the world keeps spinning... when clearly... it has stopped.

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Reply #11 posted 04/23/16 8:50pm

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I am able to deal with day-to-day things all right, but I am not doing well with sharing and listening to his music and trying to move on. Have discussed some on Facebook and such, but have only listened to the music if others have played it. Have not yet sat by myself and cranked it up as I have so many times for the last 30+ years. I'm a little scared to play "Purple Rain", and for the first time in my life, maybe, I'm scared to play air guitar. That's kind of weird, isn't it?

I was annoyed about the ticket prices for the Oakland shows and didn't even go to the last one. I wasn't feeling well, so it's understandable -- but I was so certain there would be more chances.

I'm angry about the circumstances of his death. I know it's not my business but feel this need to know what happened, whether it was random or if he was at fault to some extent.

Peter Gabriel gave a nice tribute for Prince on Facebook, and in the comments, a fan begged him to take care of himself. I've had the same fear for him -- if anyone means more to me than Prince, it could be Peter -- but then I thought that the fan was strangely cruel. Maybe we are all being kind of cruel.

People are allowed die. They must have that freedom; otherwise we're demanding something impossible of them.

I'm worried that P himself wasn't good at coming to terms with his mortality, and that this may have made him act in a way that didn't take his health into account. I'm worried that this was so unnecessary, but ultimately my feelings are not productive or even rational. It's done; it's not my business why it happened.

There is a difference between enjoying the work of a living artist and one who's past. I'm just not ready to start on the latter.

Every now and then
There comes a time you must defend
Your right to die and live again --
And again, and again...
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Reply #12 posted 04/23/16 9:04pm

monkeyrose

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i don't think that any of us can go long without crying right now i just hope that it gets better as the days go by sometimes it's minute by minute it's just wrong God got it wrong this time he wasn't suppose 2 go this soon he was suppose 2 grow old with us

i don't see the point in anything right now

i keep going in and out of that dark place 2

wake up crying go 2 sleep crying, forcing myself 2 eat a little here and there

i just hope we can all get through this mess without any casualties

As long as we keep our luv strong we'll never shed no tears
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Reply #13 posted 04/23/16 9:07pm

alphastreet

I haven't slept in 3 days and have been working with only 1-2 hour power naps . I was in a state of shock and had a headache. The cremation news made me cry at lar and I'm still teary eyed.
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Reply #14 posted 04/23/16 9:14pm

babynoz

missfee said:

I feel the same way. Yesterday I was an absolute mess at work. I kept crying on and off, I only got a little work done. I also found myself checking different news websites for updates every hour. I could barely listen to his music at all, but today is a little better. I do wake up every morning since his passing and feel a chunk of me missing. It just doesn't seem like it should be so to be living in this world without Prince. sad


For the life of me I don't know what we're gonna do without him.

Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise.
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Reply #15 posted 04/23/16 9:33pm

missfee

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babynoz said:



missfee said:


I feel the same way. Yesterday I was an absolute mess at work. I kept crying on and off, I only got a little work done. I also found myself checking different news websites for updates every hour. I could barely listen to his music at all, but today is a little better. I do wake up every morning since his passing and feel a chunk of me missing. It just doesn't seem like it should be so to be living in this world without Prince. sad


For the life of me I don't know what we're gonna do without him.


It's going to take some time...we'll eventually learn to live without him, but will continue to keep a part of him through his music and movies. Things are never going to be same.
[Edited 4/23/16 21:35pm]
I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #16 posted 04/23/16 9:43pm

babynoz

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babynoz said:


For the life of me I don't know what we're gonna do without him.

It's going to take some time...we'll eventually learn to live without him, but will continue to keep a part of him through his music and movies. Things are never going to be same. [Edited 4/23/16 21:35pm]



Yep. Right now the world makes no sense anymore.

Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise.
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Reply #17 posted 04/23/16 9:46pm

destinyc1

I agree.I think its stages that you go through.shock,mad,sad,hurt,

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Reply #18 posted 04/23/16 9:53pm

perfume

I'm still sad and hurt, but getting through it. I guess because I believe that once someone has transitioned, I actually have greater access to them, as the physical is no longer a barrier to communication. Love is eternal and incorruptible, and nothing can block it.

Prince isn't physically here with us, but he exists elsewhere in another form, and that form has returned to it's Source. We love Prince, and he loved all of us, Therefore, I've been spending a lot of time talking to him, and thanking God for Him, because I honestly believe messages in the spirit realm travel faster than emails or texts.

I never had access to Prince in the natural, however, I believe he can still feel love from us here, so I'm choosing to send love to him vertically. Call me an airy fairy kook (wouldn't be the first time), but that's my coping mechanism, and I'm sticking to it.

Love4oneanother.

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Reply #19 posted 04/23/16 10:14pm

joshmos

I am numb. i havent cried once. I am in shock and i feel like im walking thru life ina daze. Cuz I am. I am sad. Empty feeling int eh pit of my stomach...like ive been punched there...

Purplehead
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Reply #20 posted 04/23/16 10:22pm

Iluvmusic78

perfume said:

I'm still sad and hurt, but getting through it. I guess because I believe that once someone has transitioned, I actually have greater access to them, as the physical is no longer a barrier to communication. Love is eternal and incorruptible, and nothing can block it.

Prince isn't physically here with us, but he exists elsewhere in another form, and that form has returned to it's Source. We love Prince, and he loved all of us, Therefore, I've been spending a lot of time talking to him, and thanking God for Him, because I honestly believe messages in the spirit realm travel faster than emails or texts.

I never had access to Prince in the natural, however, I believe he can still feel love from us here, so I'm choosing to send love to him vertically. Call me an airy fairy kook (wouldn't be the first time), but that's my coping mechanism, and I'm sticking to it.

Love4oneanother.

Beautiful. That is where I am trying to get to. Because I know this to be true. He is still with us, in a greater way than he could be before. But my heart just hurts so much. I just want him to still be here. I was born the year his first album came out, so he has been with me my entire life. And I just can't imagine my life without him here, present.

I hope this gets easier. And soon. sad

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Reply #21 posted 04/23/16 10:49pm

funkystuff

This is the 3rd morning and still I wake up and hope it is all a bad dream.

But it isn't.

Still crying.

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Reply #22 posted 04/24/16 8:59am

Nate319

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i don't think that any of us can go long without crying right now i just hope that it gets better as the days go by sometimes it's minute by minute it's just wrong God got it wrong this time he wasn't suppose 2 go this soon he was suppose 2 grow old with us

i don't see the point in anything right now

i keep going in and out of that dark place 2

wake up crying go 2 sleep crying, forcing myself 2 eat a little here and there

i just hope we can all get through this mess without any casualties

That's exactly what I keep thinking as well...

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Reply #23 posted 04/24/16 9:02am

sulls

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It's incredibly difficult for me, too.

"I like to watch."
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Reply #24 posted 04/24/16 9:20am

GIOShokadelica

You guys are not alone, I send lots of hugs to you in this hard time.

As for me, I'm not in my best state either. Being away from social media for a month, I had no idea he was sick or not feeling well, I was completely disconected from the internet, So hearing about the sad news left me completely hopeless and just in utter disbelief. This is so bitter and sad to me...

But what makes me feel the worst is knowing that he was cremated, I know it may be weird but I'm having a really hard time trying to cope with that in particular, it makes me really upset just knowing that the man, the genius is gone, gone to ashes-

But that's what he wanted and that's how life is. We can only thank him for all he offered us and hope he's better now regardless of what our beliefs are.

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Reply #25 posted 04/24/16 9:25am

johno2

Listening to his music helps, the first track of course i balled my eyes out but i listened to a track that i hadnt heardin a while and it made me realise how lucky we are to have so many song and memories of Prince, Im still devestated it feels like a peice of me has fied but listening to his music has really helped to day L4L
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Reply #26 posted 04/24/16 9:30am

peppeken

I put on " power fantastic" and had to turn it off...😥
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Reply #27 posted 04/24/16 9:40am

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You are not rambling at all. I can perfectly relate to every single line you wrote.

I´m a complete mess right now and hope I can get through the week without messing up at work. Got tons of work related things to do and haven´t been to the gym since Friday and look and feel bad. I hope going to work can give me a bit of distraction.

I guess Prince wouldn´t have wanted us to feel this way. He always kept going even under the most difficult circumstances, including grief, so if that´s any help, take inspiration from him.

But...it´s easier said than done and we are not Prince.

The org helps a bit to cope and deal with it.

" I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?"




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Reply #28 posted 04/24/16 9:48am

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Facebook is not exactly the right place for me to discuss Prince or org related stuff. I know many of my org friends are there and openly share their thoughts and pictures about this tragedy but many of my FB connections are not org related and they simply wouldn´t understand. That´s why I miss many of those oldschool orgers around here who have moved over to Facebook to discuss Prince related topics. Not just lately but a long time ago.

The same goes for some other websites ....many of their members barely frequent the original forums and rather spend time on Facebook to discuss the same stuff that they discussed on the original forums.

I think the org is a whole different thing and being here helps me much better to deal with this. Though I must admit, I am not really coping with it at all right now .

" I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?"




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Reply #29 posted 04/24/16 10:12am

4everyours

Seeing posts like this are really helpful for me. This is unchartered waters, I know at least for me. I can't say that I ever really spent much tme thinking about how I would react when this day came. However, this hit me a million times harder than I had ever thought it would. I have to say that the vast majority of the people in my life that knew about my 30+ year love and following of this man have been really understanding and supportive. I have done my best to say to them, "I know this may seem crazy to you, but I feel like I just lost a very close friend." Each day I feel like I am coping a little better, but then it can take something very small to get me choked up and tearful all over again. Yeaterday it was the Corvette ad that my daughter showed me that just sent me into a full tailspin and tears just streaming. I have tried to really analyze it, and I think the obvious feeling of loss and finality that we all feel. I am just so sad as one thing I wanted to do was to share a concert in person with my daughter, who is so into music, but wasn't able. That was so painful. Then to read in my local newspaper that his next piano show had basically been set up in St Louis, which is where we live, was just a double gut punch. So even on days when I may not be physically teraing up, I just have such a sense that a part of my being is empty right now. Plus, I just hate all of the many questions surrounding his death and the circumstances are just so unsettling. If he truly had a recent illness that continued to spiral downward and he died, my sadness would still be immense, but at least I can process that and feel like these things happen. But with these circumstances, it just seems all too "shady" to help me have any secure closure. But thank you to all of my fellow orgers for being there to understand and just listen and share in the grief that we are all experiencing right now. I am thankful that so much of the world has shown him so much love and respect during this time, however, it is us who really know the deep hurt to the "core" that this has caused for us.
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