Well, I think it’s more on the HATE side, but he does have some moments of clarity.

It can be a little stressful at times when the man I love scoffs at my devotion to Prince. I think it’s mostly my fault, because when we were having relationship troubles a few months ago, the first thing I did was bury myself in Prince music, videos, movies, and memorabilia. For a while, a new package arrived almost daily with more Prince collectibles, even though I complained about never having enough money. On top of that, Prince was all I ever talked about. My honey told me repeatedly that “Prince is ruining our relationship!” He refused to let me play Prince songs in his bedroom, and said, “No, he’s not coming in HERE too!” And once, when we were fighting, he threatened to set fire to my Prince collection. (Now that would have been very, VERY ugly)

Now, things are better in my relationship, and I think my man has opened himself up to enjoy Prince a little. He has become more than “That guy my girlfriend loves more than me.” I was hoping he would really like P, because he is a guitarist himself, and is a huge fan of Jimi, Carlos, Stevie Ray, and Steve Vai. I thought for sure he’d like Prince too. It’s just hard for him to get past my obsession, as well as Prince’s flamboyance. He came with me to the Musicology tour, and while he didn’t know any of the songs, he did appreciate Prince’s musicianship and guitar solos. Every once in a while, I’ll hear him say that Prince is good looking! The best was when we were watching Graffiti Bridge, and my man just had to look away from the screen, because Prince was just too pretty! Prince’s feminine wiles were too much to handle.

I’m not sure what the future holds for my man’s rocky journey into Princeville. Maybe he’ll never get there. Maybe Prince will continue to be the thorn in his side. Maybe he’ll get over the jealousy and finally say, “Hey, I really like that guy!” I realized recently that my behavior would help the situation quite a bit. First of all, I should not put Prince before my man. It sounds simple enough, but it was a big problem a couple months ago. (And if I do have P related business to take care of, I do it discreetly, and without forsaking my guy’s needs or plans) When I show a new Prince song to my man, I should leave out my fam-girl comments and whatnot, because it takes away from the listening experience. I should also be sure to show my man Prince’s guitar heaviest work, since he doesn’t give a crap about songs that showcase Prince’s abilities to scream, moan, and seduce women. Whatever it takes, I will do it, because it looks like both of these will be in my life for a very, very long time.

How do you make your Prince fanship work with your significant other? Any and all advice is appreciated.

It's the same way with my guy. He went to Vegas...but only because I wanted to go. (We went to Musicology in Minneapolis and he said he doesn't really feel like he needs to see Prince again. ) But he definitely respects Prince as a musician and likes his music. (He was dancin' just as hard at that Vegas aftershow as I was.)

The hate part comes when...like the other night...he told that he missed me so bad when he was on the road last week that he was listening to Prince on his iPod at three in the morning. "Fucking Prince!"

Genesia said:

Oh yes, those two words have been muttered MANY a time in my home. And not from my lips...

I can't discuss Prince with my husband.
One day he came home mad from work...I asked him what's wrong? he said he wanted to quote "beat the guy up that my wife wants to meet."
I just laughed and told him to pick on someone his own size.

I cannot mention Prince around him, so I come on here.
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That post sounds just like me, except my man does not play the guitar...

Ooooh that's scary that your situation is so identical to mine....

You are probably lucky he is not joining you next month, you can be free to enjoy the show as you please

This may sound bad, but sometimes I wish my hubby would decide not to go, for reasons I know you'd understand. But he will enjoy the show, I know that bcuz he went with me twice to Musicology and I could tell he enjoyed it.

He grew up sort of liking P songs and likes him much more than your man, but he is jealous.....

He threatens all the time to destroy or delete my Prince stuff, but I know he would NEVER Or he'd be cut off for good

anyone else?????

Genesia said:

Hey Chrissy! I'm sorry you have to deal with it too! Really, it's one of the reasons I'm so thankful for the org. Although, he rolls his eyes when I start talking about orgers, because in his mind, they're like imaginary friends, you know what I mean?

I am glad that I'll be travelling to SF alone, because as much as I like taking trips with my man, I don't think he'd have as good of a time as I would, and that would bum me out. I don't want to have to worry about him having a good time while I should be having the time of my life, watching my muscial hero perform. At least you'll be sitting by me Chrissy, so we'll have fun together.

girl66 said:

We've got your back, girl!

UCantHavaDaMango said:

I can't friggin wait!!!!!

I've already talked to him about this night! And he knows not to interfere with my good time!

He thinks I have boyfriends on the org ,he says he's joking about that, but still

UCantHavaDaMango said:

Thanks...I am so glad you guys are here!

UCantHavaDaMango said:

Ya.....

I was into Prince before I met my husband, so he's had to deal with it for 18+ years now.

My husband likes Prince, but doesn't like that I'm on prince.org alot. He thinks that all I do here is talk about Prince

I am guarded about what I share with him regarding Prince stuff and prince.org stuff. I had to LOL babooshleeky, my husband thinks I cyber-sex here.



But, that's why I'm guarded about what I do here. Not because I have this freaky lil internet sex life going on, but because I DON'T and he gets rather ignorant about it and I don't want the hassle.

My hubby, at times, does feel that I put Prince above him and our family, but this is coming from a man that will watch 3 basketball games in a row, AND plays golf at least 3 times a week, so he can be pissy about my "Prince hobby" all he wants. It's not going anywhere!

Nothinbutjoy said:

Oh My!!!!!


WTF...another post identical to my situation

I know my hubby thinks I am on here talking about Prince ALL THE TIME TOO!!!! That is too funny..I try and explain to him that we talk about other stuff...men are so ignorant sometimes and big babies too

LOVE THIS THREAD RANI

And my hubby goes to several baseball games a year and watches sports and sportcenter crap all the time and he has the nerve to bitch about spending money on the Prince concert next month ...I am glad when his teams are playing that means I have more time on the org cuz he does not want to be bothered anyway

great rant thread

If youre both supportive of each others interests I dont see the problem. However, if Prince has become the "other woman," in the relationship so to speak, then maybe its time to get some perspective.

LleeLlee said:

We are....I support his sports' obsessions and vice-versa

LleeLlee said:

I wholeheartedly agree! I found myself guilty of doing just that, and have apologized to my boyfriend, as well as changed my habits. I was putting Prince first, and that wasn't right.

Even after easing up on my Prince habit, our interests still were not viewed equally in my boyfriend's eyes. He would spend hours on the internet, or playing videos games. If I went on the org for just a few minutes, he would say, "Ok, that's enough. You're done." Of course, I would protest, and remind him that he spent an hour researching cell phones, so it is now my turn. I didn't want to have to get so snippy with him, but he took my small amounts of Prince time far more personally than I took his video game/internet time. We're not living together right now, so hopefully he'll cool down a little, and it will be better when we find a new home together.

UCantHavaDaMango said:

I am so glad my hubby works on computers all day and does not want to really spend time on it at home! I'd go crazy if I had to share my computer. You two need two computers when you get a place together

babooshleeky said:

We will! That was one thing we talked about when we lived together before, but we didn't have the money for another computer. He just bought a lap top, so he'll be able to go on the internet whenever and wherever he wants.

UCantHavaDaMango said:

Greg has a laptop too..he plays his NFL Madden Football computer game on it all the time, so I go in the computer room to org it for awhile...

He coaches little legue and has practice tonight, so yay...more me time for me..actually the org is pretty boring right now

Let's talk about the concert!!!!! j/k

all u ladies have to do is be HONEST !!!!!
tell your dudes...Prince isn't real...let them know that You or damn near NO WOMAN...would be lusting over a 5 foot man in full make up and high heels in real life..let your men know that he's one of kind and not really a MAN...at least not one that could compete with the one's u have already....Let them know that Prince is a fantasy figure..and that it aint nothing but respect for a unique person/artist...

^ Thank you for your input! I have told my man that HE is the man in my life, and Prince is a hero figure, and can never take his place. Still, I have to show him that I mean it by treating him with more love and care than a Prince poster. It's been a challenge at times.

My man is not jealous of him, after the Vegas show I turned my bedroom into a Prince room! We both were lucky to meet him in Minnesapolis at a bar and sat with him for an hour or so! too bad hubby was there Just Kiddin! not really he likes his music and even has a symbol tattoo like mine. I know by far I love him more , but it's cool that he is not threatened by him and can enjoy his music

When I was engaged back in 2004, I made the mistake of taking my EX-fiance to the "Musicology" concert. He acted like a total ASS at the show, standing there in the 2nd row with his arms folded thru the entire show, and he kept giving me dirty looks out of the corner of his eye! (Oh, it was my birthday and I had to fight to go in the first place AND pay for both tix myself!)

One day, he randomly became all sulky and accused me of "showing more passion for him than U do for me". He said he "saw a different side of me" at that show...He went so far as to say I didn't get as excited the night he proposed!!! (I was more stunned and overwhelmed that night, not trying to get my groove on! )

It was actually a symptom of a bigger issue, and I thought it was pretty unfair to pin his/our problems on Prince.
Needless to say, I am NOT married to that [bleep]!

hotwithyou said:

I'm jealous of people like you who's partner likes Prince too. I met a really nice couple on the Vegas aftershow line who were similar- actually the guy was the bigger fan!

My BF, (we live together and have a son), basically tolerates my Prince "hobby". I've been on a P binge since Vegas and once in awhile he'll just say, "enough Prince already". Me being on the Org so much bugs him as he thinks its useless. When I was younger, I had boyfriends who really couldn't stand it. But I didn't have to live with them, thankfully! One was very, very jealous- I remember having huge fights that were Prince "instigated" .
My guy just doesn't like Prince's voice, but he doesn't put down the music normally- thank God! However, the only time I got him to pay Prince a compliment was after showing him the RRHOF, G.H. tribute.
I do often wish I lived with someone who liked him, so I could put out all my stuff again and maybe frame a poster or hang a picture.

Now, back in 1984, I was "seeing" a guy who at the time was doing a Prince "tribute" show. (He's an excellant singer and we are still close friends to this day. He actually really looked Prince back then, over the years he started to look more like Jesse Johnson). Now that was fun! Except he was always stealing my earrings, lace gloves, etc. and of course was always seeing other girls on the side!

The one thing I really have to give to my guy is that he has now met friends and acquaintances I have from the org, HQ and Underground and he is not only okay with my online meanderings, he actually wanted to read reviews from the weekend we were in Vegas and has been fine with my going to other gatherings without him. He's always been very friendly toward everyone we've met and indulgent of our ramblings about Prince, his music, etc.

It's the best proof I've ever had of how much he loves me.

If you really love this guy, why don't you show some interest in his music taste to see if we will do the same for you and Prince, if not then dump him, you're too sexy for him.
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hotwithyou said:

Oooh you sat with him for an hour Good for you and your man! I think once my guy sees P in the Flesh, he'll get the idea that I am not out to BE with him....sometimes he thinks that...guys are that way EVERYTHING is about sex! If women have GUY friends, it must be about sex....I tell him P is not a sex thing, he is a musical icon thing, he probably thinks SEX Bcuz P is SO SEXY and he knows it too.
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chocolate1 said:

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I also wish I had a BF that was into Prince like me. It would be really nice to share something like that.
Anyway, mine says, "God you have such a teenage obsession with him." I don't play his music around him that much, because he'll usually say something smart. He also thought I was crazy for considering going to see him in Vegas coming from Philadelphia. His ass would have went for the free trip, though, because I would have footed the entire bill.

When we went to two Musicology concerts, he enjoyed himself on the first night and a royal bitch on the second because he was in one of his pissy little moods. I can't have as much as a good time as I want to a Prince concerts. As much as he complains about him, he'll go see him with me though, whenever I go. He does, however, give Prince proper respect as a musician and owns several CDs.

I don't tell him I come on the org because he'll think that's totally over the top and when I buy Prince merchandise/memoribilia, I hide it and try not to let him see it because he'll either roll his eyes or say something stupid.
His ex-girlfriend was also a Prince fan (funny) and when they broke up, he snapped all of her Prince CDs! I told him he was going to hell in a handbasket for that alone.

The other night we were in Target and Rapberry Beret came on and he said, "We just can't escape him." I had to laugh.
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