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Horsefeathers said:

Chemistry is a bitch even if it's only a perception. I can relate to that.

Totally.

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Reply #61 posted 07/30/16 6:51pm

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NinaB said:

Horsefeathers said:

(Not to imply that "taken" is any of the appeal for Erin. It sure is for a lot of other people, though.)

I don't mean 2 imply that either. And yeah it sure is.

It's ok tho.

I understand why this was said.

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Reply #62 posted 07/30/16 6:51pm

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Horsefeathers said:
(Not to imply that "taken" is any of the appeal for Erin. It sure is for a lot of other people, though.)

Sure, it's human nature to want what you think you probably can't have.

But she doesn't want it, she only wants to know if there's a mutual interest.

"Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself."

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Reply #63 posted 07/30/16 6:53pm

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JustErin said:

NinaB said:

I don't mean 2 imply that either. And yeah it sure is.

It's ok tho.

I understand why this was said.

Cool, with the written format things can get lost in translation.

"We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15

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Reply #64 posted 07/30/16 6:55pm

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Pokeno4Money said:

Horsefeathers said:

(Not to imply that "taken" is any of the appeal for Erin. It sure is for a lot of other people, though.)

Sure, it's human nature to want what you think you probably can't have.

But she doesn't want it, she only wants to know if there's a mutual interest.

Well maybe I want it just once.

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Reply #65 posted 07/30/16 7:02pm

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JustErin said:
Pokeno4Money said:

May I ask why? I really don't understand why you want to know if he's interested, even though you have no desire of pursuing him if he is. You don't strike me as someone who has a hard time getting guys, so I don't think this is a confidence-building thing.

Ok maybe I'm not being totally honest with myself. But I don't want to ruin or break anything up.

Not sure if that means just in case he ever gets divorced or becomes a widower, or if it means being the reason he has to call his wife periodically to tell her he's "working late".

The former is perfectly fine, I've been there. The latter, that usually doesn't end well.

"Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself."

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Reply #66 posted 07/30/16 7:05pm

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JustErin said:
Pokeno4Money said:

Sure, it's human nature to want what you think you probably can't have.

But she doesn't want it, she only wants to know if there's a mutual interest.

Well maybe I want it just once.

lol

I do appreciate your candor, it's refreshing. Wish more women were the same.

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Reply #67 posted 07/30/16 7:10pm

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I can't resist. I find him sexy as fuck.

But really it would be the dumbest move to make. I also don't think he would be that stupid.

For sure the fantasy of a hot hook up is much more exciting and appealing than the actual reality and consequence of it.

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Reply #68 posted 07/30/16 7:11pm

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Can I just be a tease then? Lol

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Reply #69 posted 07/30/16 7:22pm

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JustErin said:
Can I just be a tease then? Lol

I'm sure IMAGO would just love to come over and braid your hair. Because we all know that is who you are truly talking about!

razz

99.9% of everything I say is strictly for my own entertainment

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Reply #70 posted 07/30/16 7:22pm

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JustErin said:
Can I just be a tease then? Lol

Absolutely! Even though he may not order, let him see what's on the menu. wink

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Reply #71 posted 07/30/16 7:43pm

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kewlschool said:

JustErin said:

Can I just be a tease then? Lol

I'm sure IMAGO would just love to come over and braid your hair. Because we all know that is who you are truly talking about!

razz

Um....

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Reply #72 posted 07/30/16 7:43pm

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Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

Can I just be a tease then? Lol

Absolutely! Even though he may not order, let him see what's on the menu. wink

[Edited 7/30/16 19:23pm]

But if he is actually receptive I'll be in trouble.

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Reply #73 posted 07/30/16 8:27pm

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JustErin said:
But if he is actually receptive I'll be in trouble.

Cross that bridge when/if you get to it, until then don't worry about it.

If I were in your shoes I'd want answers, for peace of mind if anything.

"Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself."

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Reply #74 posted 07/30/16 8:35pm

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Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

But if he is actually receptive I'll be in trouble.

Cross that bridge when/if you get to it, until then don't worry about it.

If I were in your shoes I'd want answers, for peace of mind if anything.

It's so cheesy. I'm like a 12 year old girl. I read up on body language and signs that someone is into you.

He got all the signs!

I think I should just hit up tinder and get this build up of lust out of me.

Wish I could but I just can't do randos.

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Reply #75 posted 07/30/16 8:51pm

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JustErin said:
It's so cheesy. I'm like a 12 year old girl. I read up on body language and signs that someone is into you. He got all the signs! I think I should just hit up tinder and get this build up of lust out of me. Wish I could but I just can't do randos.

You had said earlier he's flirty by nature, does he have the same body language and signs when he's talking to other ladies in the office?

You wouldn't want my opinion on how to release that built up lust. lol

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Reply #76 posted 07/30/16 9:29pm

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Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

It's so cheesy. I'm like a 12 year old girl. I read up on body language and signs that someone is into you. He got all the signs! I think I should just hit up tinder and get this build up of lust out of me. Wish I could but I just can't do randos.

I tell you one thing. I'm gonna be am watching him like a hawk from now on.

No, please tell.

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Reply #77 posted 07/31/16 6:42am

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JustErin said:
Pokeno4Money said:

You had said earlier he's flirty by nature, does he have the same body language and signs when he's talking to other ladies in the office?

You wouldn't want my opinion on how to release that built up lust.

I tell you one thing. I'm gonna be am watching him like a hawk from now on. No, please tell.

Good idea, see if his interaction with other single ladies in the office is any different than his interaction with you.

"Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself."

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Reply #78 posted 07/31/16 6:43pm

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I think it's gonna be an interesting week.

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Reply #79 posted 07/31/16 8:04pm

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Keep us updated please ... and good luck!

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Reply #80 posted 07/31/16 8:16pm

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I will.

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Reply #81 posted 08/02/16 10:05am

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Oh oh....well, today has been interesting...and awkward. lol

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Reply #82 posted 08/02/16 10:38am

maplenpg	JustErin said: Oh oh....well, today has been interesting...and awkward. Please do tell
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Reply #83 posted 08/02/16 12:57pm

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I've been working here for 4 and a half years and not once have I ever seen the wife - until today when I went to see him to tell him something and there she was, stopping by for a visit!

I swear, it was a sign telling me to fuck right off.

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Reply #84 posted 08/02/16 5:18pm

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JustErin said:

I've been working here for 4 and a half years and not once have I ever seen the wife - until today when I went to see him to tell him something and there she was, stopping by for a visit!

I swear, it was a sign telling me to fuck right off.

How often does she visit? If it's rarely or never, she could have sensed something ... maybe he unwittingly tipped her off?

Can't believe you never saw her, what with all the company functions, holiday parties etc.

"Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself."

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Reply #85 posted 08/02/16 5:45pm

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Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:

I've been working here for 4 and a half years and not once have I ever seen the wife - until today when I went to see him to tell him something and there she was, stopping by for a visit!

I swear, it was a sign telling me to fuck right off.

Maybe she has visited in the past but I've never, ever seen her. If I had not gone to see him I probably would never have known she was there. Also, I don't think he has been to any company functions since I've started. Never put much thought into it until now.

He introduced me to her like she obviously already knew who I was. Like, THIS is the one I told you about.

I dunno, he probably told her that people have talked about us.

I stayed away for the rest of the day.

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Reply #86 posted 08/02/16 10:22pm

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JustErin said:
Pokeno4Money said:

How often does she visit? If it's rarely or never, she could have sensed something ... maybe he unwittingly tipped her off?

Can't believe you never saw her, what with all the company functions, holiday parties etc.

Maybe she has visited in the past but I've never, ever seen her. If I had not gone to see him I probably would never have known she was there. Also, I don't think he has been to any company functions since I've started. Never put much thought into it until now. He introduced me to her like she obviously already knew who I was. Like, THIS is the one I told you about. I dunno, he probably told her that people have talked about us. I stayed away for the rest of the day.

I've known wives to be very protective of their husbands, especially if the hubby is a magnet. They want to know who's spending 40 hours a week with their man, and they also want to know if any of the coworkers are single ladies. Then the wives will make office visits as a way of marking their territory. They might even go so far as to become friendly with one of their hubby's "safe" female coworkers and use them for info.

If you notice a difference in his behavior over the next few days, something's up.

"Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself."

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Reply #87 posted 08/03/16 6:51am

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JustErin said:

I've been working here for 4 and a half years and not once have I ever seen the wife - until today when I went to see him to tell him something and there she was, stopping by for a visit!

I swear, it was a sign telling me to fuck right off.

I'd take the sign and run for the hills. You wouldn't go into a store and take a bite from your favourite chocolate bar (without paying for it), put it back, walk out and think everything was okay would you? So appreciate the great relationship you have with your work colleague and leave it there. One kiss (taking a bite from the chocolate bar that isn't yours) will change everything, either you will become a marriage wrecker, or mistress, or you will have to face the guy every day knowing that you had some sleazy fuck somewhere just to get it out of your system. You're better than that - walk away. There's plenty of single men out there. Enjoy the flirting but take it no further. That's my two-pennies worth anyway smile

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Reply #88 posted 08/03/16 6:56am

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JustErin said:
Pokeno4Money said:

How often does she visit? If it's rarely or never, she could have sensed something ... maybe he unwittingly tipped her off?

Can't believe you never saw her, what with all the company functions, holiday parties etc.

Maybe she has visited in the past but I've never, ever seen her. If I had not gone to see him I probably would never have known she was there. Also, I don't think he has been to any company functions since I've started. Never put much thought into it until now. He introduced me to her like she obviously already knew who I was. Like, THIS is the one I told you about. I dunno, he probably told her that people have talked about us. I stayed away for the rest of the day.

I think seeing her has made you see sense. You knew it wasn't sensible before, now you know it would be a bad idea smile

Good luck with everything. It sounds like work might be awkward for some time.

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Reply #89 posted 08/03/16 6:57am

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Pokeno4Money said:

JustErin said:
Pokeno4Money said: Maybe she has visited in the past but I've never, ever seen her. If I had not gone to see him I probably would never have known she was there. Also, I don't think he has been to any company functions since I've started. Never put much thought into it until now. He introduced me to her like she obviously already knew who I was. Like, THIS is the one I told you about. I dunno, he probably told her that people have talked about us. I stayed away for the rest of the day.

I've known wives to be very protective of their husbands, especially if the hubby is a magnet. They want to know who's spending 40 hours a week with their man, and they also want to know if any of the coworkers are single ladies. Then the wives will make office visits as a way of marking their territory. They might even go so far as to become friendly with one of their hubby's "safe" female coworkers and use them for info.

If you notice a difference in his behavior over the next few days, something's up.

yeahthat

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