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What is better ? Giving into the temptation and risking making it weird or not giving in and enjoying the tension that makes you tempted? | |
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Giving in to the temptation, definitely. Although, it does depend on what it is you're tempted by... | |
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Yeah, I think most people's initial response would be give in but there is something kind of painfully wonderful about feeling that temptation, don't you think? Does that make sense? | |
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The second choice...I think?  "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Haha I know. I'm not totally sure which I would pick. | |
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JustErin said: Yeah, I think most people's initial response would be give in but there is something kind of painfully wonderful about feeling that temptation, don't you think? Does that make sense? Yeah, it makes perfect sense. The temptation and tension makes it all the better when you eventually give in to it. | |
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And you will really only have that feeling once. After you give in it's gone. | |
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JustErin said: And you will really only have that feeling once. After you give in it's gone. So make sure you milk it for all its worth. | |
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Ugh! Yes, I'm frustrated!  | |
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JustErin said: Haha I know. I'm not totally sure which I would pick. The "risking making it weird" bit confuses me the most. Take that bit out & I'd say fantasy can be better than reality. But then again, I give in 2 most of my temptations so maybe the first choice "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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JustErin said: Ugh! Yes, I'm frustrated! How so? | |
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I said making it weird just because of a personal situation but I guess I meant losing that exciting feeling of wanting to just do it. | |
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EmmaMcG said: JustErin said: Ugh! Yes, I'm frustrated! How so? I'm not comfortable giving details on a public board (never thought I would type that) but there is situation with someone that is driving me crazy and at the same time I really like it this way because it's weirdly satisfying. But then again I want more. | |
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Don't give in 2 the temptation 4 as long as poss, then finally give in 2 it. Best of both worlds? "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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NinaB said: Don't give in 2 the temptation 4 as long as poss, then finally give in 2 it. Best of both worlds? This would be ideal but if I'm being honest giving in with my sitch would be disastrous and stupid. Very stupid. But it really got me thinking about the tension and how awesome and brutal it can feel at the same time. | |
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Based on how you worded it, the latter. Based on my personality type the former, I wouldn't be enjoying the tension it'll piss me off. | |
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JustErin said: NinaB said: Don't give in 2 the temptation 4 as long as poss, then finally give in 2 it. Best of both worlds?
This would be ideal but if I'm being honest giving in with my sitch would be disastrous and stupid. Very stupid. But it really got me thinking about the tension and how awesome and brutal it can feel at the same time. I see. Well, you know the full story, sounds like you'll be better off sticking with the fantasy. I know what you mean, there was a man I felt like that about (& never acted on) over 20 yrs ago, every once in a blue moon he still turns up in my dreams 🙂 Edit; ...& he was Foine with a capital F! Damn! More fool me was tryna be a good little girlfriend. If I'd of known then what I know now I woulda took him up on his offer.  [Edited 7/29/16 17:05pm] "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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...awesome & brutal, yeah. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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NinaB said: JustErin said: This would be ideal but if I'm being honest giving in with my sitch would be disastrous and stupid. Very stupid. But it really got me thinking about the tension and how awesome and brutal it can feel at the same time. I see. Well, you know the full story, sounds like you'll be better off sticking with the fantasy. I know what you mean, there was a man I felt like that about (& never acted on) over 20 yrs ago, every once in a blue moon he still turns up in my dreams 🙂 Edit; ...& he was Foine with a capital F! Damn! More fool me was tryna be a good little girlfriend. If I'd of known then what I know now I woulda took him up on his offer. [Edited 7/29/16 17:05pm] I'm actually extremely surprised that I even feel the way I do and I wouldn't act on anything (I think!) but the tension I for sure feel and think maybe he might as well is both fun and frustrating. Maybe I would just be more satisfied to know that he feels the same way. Sometimes I think yes but other times I'm like...naw, he is just being nice, you're being stupid. | |
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JustErin said: NinaB said: I see. Well, you know the full story, sounds like you'll be better off sticking with the fantasy. I know what you mean, there was a man I felt like that about (& never acted on) over 20 yrs ago, every once in a blue moon he still turns up in my dreams 🙂 Edit; ...& he was Foine with a capital F! Damn! More fool me was tryna be a good little girlfriend. If I'd of known then what I know now I woulda took him up on his offer. [Edited 7/29/16 17:05pm] I'm actually extremely surprised that I even feel the way I do and I wouldn't act on anything (I think!) but the tension I for sure feel and think maybe he might as well is both fun and frustrating. Maybe I would just be more satisfied to know that he feels the same way. Sometimes I think yes but other times I'm like...naw, he is just being nice, you're being stupid. Seen. Maybe u would, or maybe there'd be more chance of disaster. I don't know. Sounds like you've got 2 much 2 lose, Maybe be better 2 knock it on the head or put it in a box marked 'Fantasy'. But then again I don't really know. "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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NinaB said: JustErin said: I'm actually extremely surprised that I even feel the way I do and I wouldn't act on anything (I think!) but the tension I for sure feel and think maybe he might as well is both fun and frustrating. Maybe I would just be more satisfied to know that he feels the same way. Sometimes I think yes but other times I'm like...naw, he is just being nice, you're being stupid. Seen. Maybe u would, or maybe there'd be more chance of disaster. I don't know. Sounds like you've got 2 much 2 lose, Maybe be better 2 knock it on the head or put it in a box marked 'Fantasy'. But then again I don't really know. You're right. I should just enjoy the way it is and leave it at that. Maybe if I was screwing someone on the reg I wouldnt even feel this way at all. :lol: Still this feeling is awesome/shitty. | |
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JustErin said: Maybe if I was screwing someone on the reg I wouldnt even feel this way at all. :lol: Still this feeling is awesome/shitty. That might be the cause right there Yeah it is  "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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...my evil side keeps whispering there's another option...take a piece on the sly & make damn sure it's kept quiet  "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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Haha.... My mind* tries to convince me to do that daily. *Or should I say my loins. I want to make it somehow obvious in a non-obvious way that I wanna be stupid so I can't be rejected. I don't even know if that makes sense. | |
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JustErin said: Haha.... My mind* tries to convince me to do that daily. *Or should I say my loins. I want to make it somehow obvious in a non-obvious way that I wanna be stupid so I can't be rejected. I don't even know if that makes sense. U want him 2 make the first move? "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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NinaB said: JustErin said: Haha.... My mind* tries to convince me to do that daily. *Or should I say my loins. I want to make it somehow obvious in a non-obvious way that I wanna be stupid so I can't be rejected. I don't even know if that makes sense. U want him 2 make the first move? Doesn't everyone? Rejection sucks, man! | |
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JustErin said: NinaB said: U want him 2 make the first move? Doesn't everyone? Rejection sucks, man! Fuckin right it does! U kno what 2 do, u can let him kno u like him without putting your neck on the line. I kno u can flirt girl! "We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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NinaB said: JustErin said: Doesn't everyone? Rejection sucks, man! Fuckin right it does! U kno what 2 do, u can let him kno u like him without putting your neck on the line. I kno u can flirt girl! Oh I do every day! It's not appropriate at all but I'm kinda just a flirty person by nature. And he is as well. But is it actually flirting on his part or just being friendly? Btw, he once told me that he has no clue when a woman is interested in him..but I was like, yeah right. Lol. | |
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JustErin said: NinaB said: Fuckin right it does! U kno what 2 do, u can let him kno u like him without putting your neck on the line. I kno u can flirt girl! Oh I do every day! It's not appropriate at all but I'm kinda just a flirty person by nature. And he is as well. But is it actually flirting on his part or just being friendly? Btw, he once told me that he has no clue when a woman is interested in him..but I was like, yeah right. Lol. Oh, I see, that can be tricky. Sometimes my friendliness/down 2 earthness gets read as flirting  & a man has 2 make it plain 2 me he likes me too."We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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NinaB said: JustErin said: Oh I do every day! It's not appropriate at all but I'm kinda just a flirty person by nature. And he is as well. But is it actually flirting on his part or just being friendly? Btw, he once told me that he has no clue when a woman is interested in him..but I was like, yeah right. Lol. Oh, I see, that can be tricky. Sometimes my friendliness/down 2 earthness gets read as flirting & a man has 2 make it plain 2 me he likes me too.Yeah, it is tricky. I just reread everything I wrote. I'm all over the place. Its dumb. I need to just let it go even though my curiousity is driving me nuts. Plus, I accidentally/purposely forgot to mention he is not available. But still tension is bitter/sweet for sure. | |
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