Neither. If you lead a happy, fulfilling life, you're a winner in this world. You don't have to do what everybody else does if it doesn't make you happy.
I like being married, and the feeling that there is someone in this world who has my back no matter what happens. It's more valuable to me than my desire for total freedom. At the same time, I know people who enjoy their single lives and make the most of it. They don't want to be responsible for someone else's needs and desires. Maybe they have some lonely nights and maybe I have some times where it would be nice to act completely selfishly or have some more wild adventures. But if we're all happy at the end of the day we all win.
I have never especially wanted kids and feel that the only people that should have them are the ones who do really want them are prepared to commit to them. I'm happy not havng them, other friends of mine say it's the best thing they ever did in their lives. Hopefully we are all happy with our own choices.
So no you're definitely not "a loser" for being in your situation. If something is making you unhappy, do what you can to change it. Otherwise, live life to the fullest. | |
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Thanks for the encouragement. How long were you single before getting married and how long have you been married now? I often wonder if people who marry relatively later in life have better marriages because of the life experience that they bring to the table. Trolls be gone! | |
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I sommersaulted today [Edited 10/8/14 15:43pm] 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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Unmarried & No Sex
quite the party... | |
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Some marry just for the sex.Welcome 2 da club.
2014-Year of the Parties | |
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others embrace prostitution. Welcome 2 da club. | |
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Could be cheaper in the long run. Don't you play both sides of the fence?It should be easier I haven't been to Backpage in awhile.I should check to see what's up. 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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do you mean what I think you mean? | |
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yeah
2014-Year of the Parties | |
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what did you mean? | |
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Im too polite,anywho,any hot ladies on Backpage? 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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don't know what backpage is... | |
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It's a better Craigslist,much better. 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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I ignore those sites, if I need sex, I go elsewhere...you know what I mean... | |
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Joe and Iamin, I think you guys need to start a new thread Trolls be gone! | |
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Would you join us? 2014-Year of the Parties | |
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I started dating my wife when we were both about 30. And that was 16 years ago. My first marriage, her second.
I think it was helpful for me, that I had a pretty wild 20s and started going out with her right at the point I was kind of ready to settle down. I'd spent 10 years as a struggling musician, constantly on tour, then coming home broke and scraping for money. It's hard to keep a relationship going through all that, especially all my travelling. But I was on a mission, and I really was dedicated to it, and if my relationships suffered then so be it. I didn't bring a lot to the table, girlfriend-wise, during that time.
But having done all that for 10 years, it was not that hard to step away from it and get into a more normal life routine once I fell in love. I still play music, make records and play shows, just not so much of an obsession but a part of my life I keep in balance with my marriage and job. I wouldn't have been ready to do that in my 20s. | |
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what do you mean? | |
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that you're a hooker? I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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I think he meant that, yes | |
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I think he means you're bi - double the opportunities I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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is not that easy, but ok [Edited 10/9/14 18:39pm] | |
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I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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I'm 51, never married, no kids and no regrets. I see people who are tied down with kids who go to bed at 8:30pm every night. Sad. | |
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That's cool! What time do you go to bed? Trolls be gone! | |
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7thday said: I'm 51, never married, no kids and no regrets. I see people who are tied down with kids who go to bed at 8:30pm every night. Sad. ... And hen get up at midnight, and again at 3am :dead: I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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I recently bought a loose stone, and emerald of decent quality (over 6 carats) for a ring. I have always wanted an emerald ring, but decided long ago to have one made because I want to design a perfect ring for me.
So I showed my mom the stone and she says... "Oh, is that for your engagement ring?"
No bitch, why would I purchase a stone for my engagement??? WTF? This bitch.
I said: "No, its for a ring I always wanted."
I absolutely will NOT miss her when she's dead. I mean that. | |
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paintedlady said: I recently bought a loose stone, and emerald of decent quality (over 6 carats) for a ring. I have always wanted an emerald ring, but decided long ago to have one made because I want to design a perfect ring for me.
So I showed my mom the stone and she says... "Oh, is that for your engagement ring?"
No bitch, why would I purchase a stone for my engagement??? WTF? This bitch.
I said: "No, its for a ring I always wanted."
I absolutely will NOT miss her when she's dead. I mean that. :punch: from me! I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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paintedlady said: To Seventeendayze....
I had 3 kids out of wedlock. People like to judge me too... you need to tell those fuckers what I tell them.
"Stay outta my pussy and don't worry how I fuck... just worry about your own pussy."
I hate it when people try to tell others what they should or shouldn't do, and TRUST me, people have much to say about my life and they assume much. Fuck them. They don't pay my bills. I take care of mine and don't ask for shit. Funny thing is, those same bitches are always asking me for favors.
...A perfect example of why your post's are the fucking shit! Lots of love and best wishes to you & yours Paintedlady!
"We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15 | |
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