So... here is the story

the other day after work i went on a date with this rather awesome dude! i saw him nearly everyday at the gym and also in my kickboxing classes.

So we started talking and going to workout together and eventually i found out he likes dudes like me so i asked him out on a date! and he said yes

He is a beautiful Chinese guy who just came in from Beijing in January so he is still fairly new to some of LA so i took him to the valley for some hot pot and we had great conversation and probably one of the best dates i ever had.

Soon after that we headed back to my place and we hung out for quite a bit... then i gave him a massage and after that well thing's got a little ''heated'' but in a good way.

to skip further to the point after getting hot, heavy and passionate he started crying i asked him what was wrong and he said it was his first time...

Now we didn't go all the way so there was no penetration but he never had done any kind of oral, rimming or just any foreplay...

He is a very handsome guy and he told me he sort of had a bf before so i assumed he had sexual contact before but he hadn't and he was a little shaken up about it.

I held him for awhile and he kept saying sorry and i told him it was ok and that i understood why he was a little shaken.

I let him stay over and we talked all night until he felt a little better and then i took home before i went to work.

He still talks to me but he acts weird... and thing's seemed ok but i feel a weirdness between us and i wish i could talk with more or help out but idk what to say

What should i do in this situation? should i talk to him less and give him time? should i try to talk again about the situation?

Wait wait wait... You skipped to far... How are we supposed to give advise when all the JUICY details have been left out!

tinaz said:

Wait wait wait... You skipped to far... How are we supposed to give advise when all the JUICY details have been left out!

Well we did everything.. but i did not penetrate him... so there was no anal.

So just about everything else minus anything gross like scat or piss was done.

There

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Gunsnhalen said:

tinaz said:

Wait wait wait... You skipped to far... How are we supposed to give advise when all the JUICY details have been left out!

Well we did everything.. but i did not penetrate him... so there was no anal.

So just about everything else minus anything gross liek scat or piss was done.

There

Well, im not a gay man obviously, but to me it sounds like he uncomfortable with what he did... he may not be sure of his sexuality yet... Its one thing to have a Boyfriend but another to have a lover.. He sounds very young!

P.s... you give details like a guy.. GIRL details next time!

Why was he crying? Is he still in the closest? just figuring it out?

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1. He's Chinese, one of my favorite males in the whole damned world..

2. He's young.


3. You're both gay.


Go ahead and have sex with him. There's no hope for a lasting

relatinship at your ages and sexual orientation anyways. So,

have some fun. I mean, he's beautiful.....and Chinese.

Tap that ass.

Once again.

Beautiful....and Chinese.

Lawd....yes

aardvark15 said:

Make the situation as comfortable as possible next time things get heated. Talk him through it. But once you start getting it on, make things as uncomfortable as possible (R. Kelly music maybe?). He'll bust his load after about 3 minutes. His nerves will be gone and he'll want a longer event Have you two discussed your roles in bed? Maybe he only tops while you only bottom or vice versa.

... can i just say 13 Play has given me many a good sexual night but moving on...

And i am a top so... and only really thought of being versatile for my ex who i was in love with otherwise strict top

ANOTHER situation happened to me today.

First off don't be judging now cause i am 22, pretty successful and damn it i am young and trying to explore plus i am in the best shape of my life on top of that so... cherry on the cake.

Another Chinese friend of mine who i was with at Sony Pictures.. we went to dinner tonight for fun i kinda thought he was gay but wasn't sure.

Once again 6 hours later to shorten this i show him some music i am working on, i offer to massage i see pre-cum in his underwear and i basically seduce him.

It was pretty hot! he is very small but toned.. and i am an aggressive 6'5 guy who can be soft but love when they like it rough! so i am picking him and we are rolling around having a good time.... then he debates about whether i should ''fuck him''

To the point i ended up hurting him he was for some reason afraid to take my dick... i got about half way in and he starts screaming... and i pull it out asking if he was ok

He was about to CRY so that is 2 fucking guys i have nearly made cry this week


So i felt fucking awful cause he was in a lot of pain... to be fair he has been fucked before but he is VERY tight so it probably hurts regardless.

So i cuddled with him for about half an hour before we made each other cum and i took him out for ice cream.

That guy is cool though we are gonna get hot pot tomorrow after work the other guy isn't talking to me much

2 thing's real quick
A. I DO NOT want to hurt these guys at all i may be a bit aggresive in bed... but i care about them and want we to be sweet outside there and inside if wanted so i don't want to see them hurt at all
B. After working hard in the gym for so long it is nice guys actually are attracted to me... seriously i won't lie it feels nice and being decently successfull helps to i guess.

This is turning out to be an interesting summer...

lazycrockett said:

Why was he crying? Is he still in the closest? just figuring it out?

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I think it was more of like loosing innocence or something of that nature... even though there wasn't penetration or anything.

I get the feeling your behaviour and actions are pretty immoral. Did you actually listen to my advice about reporting your friend freely sleeping with others knowing he had HIV?

About this guy - you're obviously not that bothered or else you wouldn't be sleeping with other people at the same time. Don't u guys have any dating ethics? Honestly, this kind of behaviour just fuels the fire of the Right.

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TheFreakerFantastic said:

I get the feeling your behaviour and actions are pretty immoral. Did you actually listen to my advice about reporting your friend freely sleeping with others knowing he had HIV?

About this guy - you're obviously not that bothered or else you wouldn't be sleeping with other people at the same time. Don't u guys have any dating ethics? Honestly, this kind of behaviour just fuels the fire of the Right.

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Please explain what this means.. Thank you..

tap him

TheFreakerFantastic said:

I get the feeling your behaviour and actions are pretty immoral. Did you actually listen to my advice about reporting your friend freely sleeping with others knowing he had HIV?

About this guy - you're obviously not that bothered or else you wouldn't be sleeping with other people at the same time. Don't u guys have any dating ethics? Honestly, this kind of behaviour just fuels the fire of the Right.

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Non sequitur. Why bring up politics he asking for advice not the fucking moral police as if people from the right are not amoral.

tinaz said:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

I get the feeling your behaviour and actions are pretty immoral. Did you actually listen to my advice about reporting your friend freely sleeping with others knowing he had HIV?

About this guy - you're obviously not that bothered or else you wouldn't be sleeping with other people at the same time. Don't u guys have any dating ethics? Honestly, this kind of behaviour just fuels the fire of the Right.

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Please explain what this means.. Thank you..

It's both a political and religious statement.

Beautifulstarr123 said:

tinaz said:

Please explain what this means.. Thank you..

It's both a political and religious statement.

I mean the part I bolded... Who is the "right"?

tinaz said:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

I get the feeling your behaviour and actions are pretty immoral. Did you actually listen to my advice about reporting your friend freely sleeping with others knowing he had HIV?

About this guy - you're obviously not that bothered or else you wouldn't be sleeping with other people at the same time. Don't u guys have any dating ethics? Honestly, this kind of behaviour just fuels the fire of the Right.

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Please explain what this means.. Thank you..

What I mean is that this kind of behaviour is what makes anti-gays and Right wingers' feel justified in their views. Basically the gay community do not help themselves by behaving this way, with this kind of amoral promiscuous behaviour.

What worries me is why more of you aren't shocked by his casual attitude to this guy in that he goes off with another man while dating this virgin. If a straight man did this to a woman you'd all be screaming blue murder but for some strange reason it's ok it it's a person of the same sex.

Why?

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TheFreakerFantastic said:

tinaz said:

Please explain what this means.. Thank you..

What I mean is that this kind of behaviour is what makes anti-gays and Right wingers' feel justified in their views. Basically the gay community do not help themselves by behaving this way, with this kind of amoral promiscuous behaviour.

What worries me is why more of you aren't shocked by his casual attitude to this guy in that he goes off with another man while dating him. If a straight man did this to a woman you'd all be screaming blue murder but for some strange reason it's ok it it's a person of the same sex.

Why?

Oh, Right wing.. Ok..

And to answer your question... Noone was dating anyone... Its just casual hook up for sex between two grown people not attached to anyone else.. Just because you go on a date with someone doesnt mean they are your BF/GF...

^ Yes but why is he acting concerned about this guy crying then going off with someone else? Isn't that a bit heartless? Shouldn't he be sticking to the virgin now he's done the damage?!

Tinaz would you react the same way if a male friend treated a girlfriend of yours that way? Thought not.

TheFreakerFantastic said:

tinaz said:

Please explain what this means.. Thank you..

What I mean is that this kind of behaviour is what makes anti-gays and Right wingers' feel justified in their views. Basically the gay community do not help themselves by behaving this way, with this kind of amoral promiscuous behaviour.

What worries me is why more of you aren't shocked by his casual attitude to this guy in that he goes off with another man while dating this virgin. If a straight man did this to a woman you'd all be screaming blue murder but for some strange reason it's ok it it's a person of the same sex.

Why?

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Because he had a one night stand he is now amoral?? Do you say this to EVERY person you kow who has had casual sex??? EVERY STRAIGHT PERSON, or is it only gay men that are Amoral?

TheFreakerFantastic said:

^ Yes but why is he acting concerned about this guy crying then going off with someone else? Isn't that a bit heartless? Shouldn't he be sticking to the virgin now he's done the damage?!

Tinaz would you react the same way if a male friend treated a girlfriend of yours that way? Thought not.

If they werent a couple your damn straight I would.. If she is willing to giveit away to someone she just met, then by all means should be aware of EVERY aspect of the game..

Yeah cause straights never have meaningless one nighters.

^ Yes they do of course but two timing is seen as wrong and you will get shit for it. Why is it not that way with many (not all) gay people? Is it because they don't procreate? But really this kind of behaviour is why STDs are running wild...

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TheFreakerFantastic said:

^ Yes they do of course but two timing is seen as wrong and you will get shit for it. Why is it not that way with many (not all) gay people? Is it because they don't procreate? But really this kind of behaviour is why STDs are running wild...

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You sir are an idiot

first off i am not dating either of these people 2nd i am young and exploring myself and guess what? young people have sex try to deny all you want but it is true.

Another thing i am actually friends with these guys so it is not someone i met up with 2 days ago then fucked. So you can act all ''high and mighty'' and pretend like you never have sex and that straight people never do this kind of thing.

The other guy is barely talking to me and i didn't even penetrate him so it is not like i really took his virginity... so i need you to quit acting like i did the whole bada bing.

I haven't had sexual intercourse in awhile but recently i worked very hard on my body, work, and mind so i started getting more confidence and meeting more people.

I had sex with 2 people not 200 so judge me all you want but the fact is i work a high end job, i got tested negative for STD and HIV just 2 week's ago and i actually am nice to the guy and don't fuck them and leave them.

So tell me again why having sex with only 2 people is immoral? i have barely met anyone this year so the fact you act like i have been bumpin n grindin with 2 guys a week every week is hilarious.

And as for the ''virgin'' once again we were not dating... there was no penetration and he seems to be over it by now... and might i add he never told me this till AFTER so if i knew he was a virgin beforehand i most likely would have not have done anything.

Rococo said:

TheFreakerFantastic said:

I get the feeling your behaviour and actions are pretty immoral. Did you actually listen to my advice about reporting your friend freely sleeping with others knowing he had HIV?

About this guy - you're obviously not that bothered or else you wouldn't be sleeping with other people at the same time. Don't u guys have any dating ethics? Honestly, this kind of behaviour just fuels the fire of the Right.

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Non sequitur. Why bring up politics he asking for advice not the fucking moral police as if people from the right are not amoral.

THIS

Whyc an many orgers bring up threads about having tons of casual sex but i am the one getting shit?

One orger talked about fucking a girl who got shit on her dick and then he wiped it on her couch and left

I mean thing's like this get said on the org all the time and no one gets flac

homophobia.

TheFreakerFantastic said:

I get the feeling your behaviour and actions are pretty immoral. Did you actually listen to my advice about reporting your friend freely sleeping with others knowing he had HIV?

About this guy - you're obviously not that bothered or else you wouldn't be sleeping with other people at the same time. Don't u guys have any dating ethics? Honestly, this kind of behaviour just fuels the fire of the Right.

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Quoted for its fucking stupidity.