JustErin said:

Man, I'd love to meet a dude around my age that has never been married or does not have kids.

That's no red flag, that's a green flag to me.

To me it means he didn't rush into anything, or was smart about living his life for him while he was young - which we should all do.

Plus, he doesn't bring baby-mamma, ex wife drama into the picture.

This, exactly, only from a male perspective.

XxAxX said:

uPtoWnNY said:

I'm too much of a loner, too stubborn/set in my ways, too selfish, too moody, don't want kids and I don't want the financial/emotional responsibility that comes along with marriage.

If the day ever comes that I meet 'that special someone' who knocks me off my feet, the only way marriage would work is if we have seperate homes. I doubt many women would go for that.

i feel the same way. i've worked hard for what i have, love my home, love being able to do what i want to, when i want to. i'm not godless, not gay, nor cray cray, i just like my independence. so far, no one has persuaded me otherwise. I was briefly married, and didn't like the gender roles that accompany that situation. i did once travel to be with someone, and he to be with me, which was fun. so, i don't rule out non-traditional 'thangs'.

i feel really lucky to live in an age where women actually have a choice other than marriage.

i think many men feel that way too...

[Edited 10/24/12 13:17pm]

The bold part is basically what I was saying earlier in this thread.

At this point, he'd have to be pretty fabulous to make me want to marry.

I like coming home to my own space, and not have to deal with "couple" stuff.

I would like to have the companionship and intimacy of a mate, but I don't know that I need to have him around all the time...

chocolate1 said:

XxAxX said:

i feel the same way. i've worked hard for what i have, love my home, love being able to do what i want to, when i want to. i'm not godless, not gay, nor cray cray, i just like my independence. so far, no one has persuaded me otherwise. I was briefly married, and didn't like the gender roles that accompany that situation. i did once travel to be with someone, and he to be with me, which was fun. so, i don't rule out non-traditional 'thangs'.

i feel really lucky to live in an age where women actually have a choice other than marriage.

i think many men feel that way too...

[Edited 10/24/12 13:17pm]

The bold part is basically what I was saying earlier in this thread.

At this point, he'd have to be pretty fabulous to make me want to marry.

I like coming home to my own space, and not have to deal with "couple" stuff.

I would like to have the companionship and intimacy of a mate, but I don't know that I need to have him around all the time...

Oh who're you kidding?

You just don't want no dude getting hold of your Camaro!

I'm 30 with no children & I've never been married. I have plans for both someday, but I need to get myself together more financially before I even think about going there.

CarrieMpls said:

JustErin said:

Man, I'd love to meet a dude around my age that has never been married or does not have kids.

That's no red flag, that's a green flag to me.

To me it means he didn't rush into anything, or was smart about living his life for him while he was young - which we should all do.

Plus, he doesn't bring baby-mamma, ex wife drama into the picture.

And this is exactly how I look at it. Except, I already met that man.

Of course, I'm 37 and never married so I look at it from my own perspective. I wasn't ready and didn't want marriage when I ws younger. Once I knew I wanted it, it took some time to find anyone worth it. And if I didn't have my man now I'd probably still be single.

I'm sure there are plenty of folks who thinks it's "weird" to have never been married at my age, but I really don't care what they think.

And there it is

XxAxX said:

i view him as perfectly okay. maybe, smarter than most

Me too. Especially with the amount of people marrying the wrong people, for the wrong reasons, and getting divorced after a couple years.

People who really want to get married should do it and those who don't, should not..Neither should option sounds extremely better or worse

It wouldn't matter to me. I hope that doesn't matter to the women I might be with either, because I don't see myself getting married at least within the next five years or so.

I don't think something like that is so unusual to the artsy, travelling, free-spirited, etc. types.

PurpleJedi said:

chocolate1 said:

The bold part is basically what I was saying earlier in this thread.

At this point, he'd have to be pretty fabulous to make me want to marry.

I like coming home to my own space, and not have to deal with "couple" stuff.

I would like to have the companionship and intimacy of a mate, but I don't know that I need to have him around all the time...

Oh who're you kidding?

You just don't want no dude getting hold of your Camaro!

'How do you view a potential date who is middle-aged and never had sex?

A genius.....

I'd actually prefer men like that, I've never been married myself. All the guys I've been in relationships with were never married before. They didnt have to worry about ex-wives and I didnt have to worry about getting along with their kids (though I probably would). I've had opportunities to marry, but I've always been very cautious, esp with the divorce rate being what it is. If I'd ever marry I'd want it to be for life.

The one thing that would bother me is if the guy says he NEVER wants to get married or have a long-term relationship.

JoeTyler said:

'How do you view a potential date who is middle-aged and never had sex?

A guy who's particular?

Religious?

Takes all kinds.

JoeTyler said:

'How do you view a potential date who is middle-aged and never had sex?

Not for me.

Well, unless he was SMOKING hot and amazing in every other way. Then maybe...

JoeTyler said:

'How do you view a potential date who is middle-aged and never had sex?

Former priest/nun/monk???

chocolate1 said:

XxAxX said:

i feel the same way. i've worked hard for what i have, love my home, love being able to do what i want to, when i want to. i'm not godless, not gay, nor cray cray, i just like my independence. so far, no one has persuaded me otherwise. I was briefly married, and didn't like the gender roles that accompany that situation. i did once travel to be with someone, and he to be with me, which was fun. so, i don't rule out non-traditional 'thangs'.

i feel really lucky to live in an age where women actually have a choice other than marriage.

i think many men feel that way too...

[Edited 10/24/12 13:17pm]

The bold part is basically what I was saying earlier in this thread.

At this point, he'd have to be pretty fabulous to make me want to marry.

I like coming home to my own space, and not have to deal with "couple" stuff.

I would like to have the companionship and intimacy of a mate, but I don't know that I need to have him around all the time...

me too. i love men, but that doesn't mean i want to live with one.

PurpleJedi said:

chocolate1 said:

The bold part is basically what I was saying earlier in this thread.

At this point, he'd have to be pretty fabulous to make me want to marry.

I like coming home to my own space, and not have to deal with "couple" stuff.

I would like to have the companionship and intimacy of a mate, but I don't know that I need to have him around all the time...

Oh who're you kidding?

You just don't want no dude getting hold of your Camaro!

i was told by a guy in my life a few years back that i could enjoy the privilege of living in his home with him (it was quite nice, his home), if i'd "get rid of those dang birds".

XxAxX said:

PurpleJedi said:

Oh who're you kidding?

You just don't want no dude getting hold of your Camaro!

i was told by a guy in my life a few years back that i could enjoy the privilege of living in his home with him (it was quite nice, his home), if i'd "get rid of those dang birds".

the guy was not only arrogant, but also obviously evil

JoeTyler said:

XxAxX said:

i was told by a guy in my life a few years back that i could enjoy the privilege of living in his home with him (it was quite nice, his home), if i'd "get rid of those dang birds".

the guy was not only arrogant, but also obviously evil

well, no he's pretty cool. we're still friends. and, i still have all my birds.

I've never been married and don't have kids and I think most people I meet don't judge me as being "weird" for that but I think it would be nice to meet a nice guy sooner or later. I have had enough crappy dating experiences for a few lifetimes and from my experience, it's the guys in their 40s that were the worst. They either had baggage or had some other issues that kept them on the dating market much longer than the average guy would have been. I think at this stage in the game, I am probably going to end up with a guy who has kids already because otherwise my dating pool would be even smaller if I didn't open myself to that possibility.

SeventeenDayze said:

I've never been married and don't have kids and I think most people I meet don't judge me as being "weird" for that but I think it would be nice to meet a nice guy sooner or later. I have had enough crappy dating experiences for a few lifetimes and from my experience, it's the guys in their 40s that were the worst. They either had baggage or had some other issues that kept them on the dating market much longer than the average guy would have been. I think at this stage in the game, I am probably going to end up with a guy who has kids already because otherwise my dating pool would be even smaller if I didn't open myself to that possibility.

It's all about priorities, but with that attitude you are narrowing it for yourself, and casue someone is 40 does not mean they have/had baggage, it's nonsense in my opinion.

OzlemUcucu said:

SeventeenDayze said:

I've never been married and don't have kids and I think most people I meet don't judge me as being "weird" for that but I think it would be nice to meet a nice guy sooner or later. I have had enough crappy dating experiences for a few lifetimes and from my experience, it's the guys in their 40s that were the worst. They either had baggage or had some other issues that kept them on the dating market much longer than the average guy would have been. I think at this stage in the game, I am probably going to end up with a guy who has kids already because otherwise my dating pool would be even smaller if I didn't open myself to that possibility.

It's all about priorities, but with that attitude you are narrowing it for yourself, and casue someone is 40 does not mean they have/had baggage, it's nonsense in my opinion.

Sorry but I was only speaking from the experiences that I had to this point, didn't mean to offend but I find this age group of guys to be what I like the most but unfortunately they are either involved in divorce drama or they are playing the field and on the brink of being "older bachelors" who eat cereal and beer for breakfast, LOL

I would view them as someone who is middle aged and never married.

Anything else is a story made up by your own personal experiences, judgments, opinions and prejudices and is not to be taken seriously.