PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

My last few escapades? I never dated that guy. It was HIS reaction that freaked me out, not my own. There's no need for him to act all indignant because I was hanging out with another guy, period.....

Also, I haven't had a steady relationship in about 10 years, so isn't that long enough? Why does everyone think you have to be "perfect" before being with another person?

I could be wrong, but are you the person who was involved in the email list stuff, and that guy who was sending all those mixed signals and involving you in tons of drama?

Again, as I mentioned before this is NOT the same guy and those two don't know each other (it's a huge organization). Thanks!

angel345 said:

SeventeenDayze said:

My last few escapades? I never dated that guy. It was HIS reaction that freaked me out, not my own. There's no need for him to act all indignant because I was hanging out with another guy, period.....

Also, I haven't had a steady relationship in about 10 years, so isn't that long enough? Why does everyone think you have to be "perfect" before being with another person?

I don't believe for one second that everyone is asking for perfection because that's redundant. I believe that you should find out within yourself why do you fall for guys that are out to take advantage of you, not having your best interest at heart. That way, you would know what you should tolerate and not tolerate from men. The path to self-love.

Exactly.

And I never said she was dating the guy but he was all drama. And some people love the shit and that's why they continue to get involved in it.

Like Erin said, dude sounds racist to me. He also seems like a person who looks at being with a black woman as something exotic and not real.

But more power to her.

Vendetta1 said:

angel345 said:

I don't believe for one second that everyone is asking for perfection because that's redundant. I believe that you should find out within yourself why do you fall for guys that are out to take advantage of you, not having your best interest at heart. That way, you would know what you should tolerate and not tolerate from men. The path to self-love.

Exactly.

And I never said she was dating the guy but he was all drama. And some people love the shit and that's why they continue to get involved in it.

Like Erin said, dude sounds racist to me. He also seems like a person who looks at being with a black woman as something exotic and not real.

But more power to her.

I agree, wholeheartedly with this

Vendetta1 said:

angel345 said:

I don't believe for one second that everyone is asking for perfection because that's redundant. I believe that you should find out within yourself why do you fall for guys that are out to take advantage of you, not having your best interest at heart. That way, you would know what you should tolerate and not tolerate from men. The path to self-love.

Exactly.

And I never said she was dating the guy but he was all drama. And some people love the shit and that's why they continue to get involved in it.

Like Erin said, dude sounds racist to me. He also seems like a person who looks at being with a black woman as something exotic and not real.

But more power to her.

Vendetta:

Yeah funny you mention that because the first time I met him, I just had this feeling like he was looking at me like he wanted me on a silver platter, LOL. But, most people want to feel desired so there's nothing wrong with that part of it. I also know that there's a lot of white dudes out there who have anger towards black men and what better way to piss off the black men than to be with a black girl who's way younger?

I feel like I can't win. A lot of guys (black, white, etc.) my age are losers and stay home and play Xbox or whatever. A lot of black guys are either in the system, gay, have several baby mamas, married or players....A lot of white guys (in America at least) don't go out with black women or just see us as sex objects. Latino guys....well, that guy I had the email drama with is Puerto Rican (an NYC Puerto Rican at that, LOL! from BROOKLYN at that! LOL!)

So, what the heck am I supposed to do?

[Edited 12/29/11 9:16am]

Vendetta1 said:

angel345 said:

I don't believe for one second that everyone is asking for perfection because that's redundant. I believe that you should find out within yourself why do you fall for guys that are out to take advantage of you, not having your best interest at heart. That way, you would know what you should tolerate and not tolerate from men. The path to self-love.

Exactly.

And I never said she was dating the guy but he was all drama. And some people love the shit and that's why they continue to get involved in it.

Like Erin said, dude sounds racist to me. He also seems like a person who looks at being with a black woman as something exotic and not real.

But more power to her.

Yeah, I think the point is not "is this the same guy?" but "is she the same woman?"

Meaning, as Angel said, has she looked within at certain patterns and beliefs that may lead to interactions with a string of people who are wrong for her. Self-love, as I think all four of us women (Seventeen, Angel, Vendetta and myself) will agree, is not a state of perfection but a forever-evolving journey of improvement.

PunkMistress said:

Vendetta1 said:

Exactly.

And I never said she was dating the guy but he was all drama. And some people love the shit and that's why they continue to get involved in it.

Like Erin said, dude sounds racist to me. He also seems like a person who looks at being with a black woman as something exotic and not real.

But more power to her.

Yeah, I think the point is not "is this the same guy?" but "is she the same woman?"

Meaning, as Angel said, has she looked within at certain patterns and beliefs that may lead to interactions with a string of people who are wrong for her. Self-love, as I think all four of us women (Seventeen, Angel, Vendetta and myself) will agree, is not a state of perfection but a forever-evolving journey of improvement.

SeventeenDayze said:

Vendetta1 said:

Exactly.

And I never said she was dating the guy but he was all drama. And some people love the shit and that's why they continue to get involved in it.

Like Erin said, dude sounds racist to me. He also seems like a person who looks at being with a black woman as something exotic and not real.

But more power to her.

Vendetta:

Yeah funny you mention that because the first time I met him, I just had this feeling like he was looking at me like he wanted me on a silver platter, LOL. But, most people want to feel desired so there's nothing wrong with that part of it. I also know that there's a lot of white dudes out there who have anger towards black men and what better way to piss off the black men than to be with a black girl who's way younger?

I feel like I can't win. A lot of guys (black, white, etc.) my age are losers and stay home and play Xbox or whatever. A lot of black guys are either in the system, gay, have several baby mamas, married or players....A lot of white guys (in America at least) don't go out with black women or just see us as sex objects. Latino guys....well, that guy I had the email drama with is Puerto Rican (an NYC Puerto Rican at that, LOL! from BROOKLYN at that! LOL!)

So, what the heck am I supposed to do?

[Edited 12/29/11 9:16am]

Yup, it's totally frustrating out here in this world of broken people. No doubt about that.

Just try not to write off a whole group of people based on the majority. That Puerto Rican asshole doesn't mean there isn't a Puerto Rican Prince Charming. The special one (or ones) can come from the most unlikely of places!

My example: Six years ago, I was dating women exclusively (I'm bi but prefer females and self-identified as lesbian), had never even kissed or seen a white man naked, and had vowed to never partner with someone who had a negative attitude toward life.

Then I fell in mad love with someone who loved me back and truly wanted to take care of me forever. And it was a straight white man who is one of the most pessimistic people I have ever met!

We're now married (another thing in my former NEVER pile!) and co-parenting the four children we brought into the relationship, and neither of us would want to be anywhere else. You just never know.

paintedlady said:

Questions a younger lady should ask herself before dating an older (significantly older) guy....

Why is he single? Does his dick still work?

Does he wear dentures? Can you kiss a man with fake teeth?

You must be aware that there is a "mayonaise mouth" factor with false teeth. Folks with a full set tend to collect cheese in the corners of their mouth. He's always gonna look like he just finished eating egg salad.... just sayin'.

Does he have a unique smell? If he does... will you be able to deal with odors that may arise during old man sex. Particulary fellatio.... asparagus dick, and cabbage of the nutsack can be a challenge.

Is he a robust man? Can he still dance, walk and do all the things you can?

Is he gassy? If so, this can put a damper on the whole sexy older guy vibe.

Does he have nice feet? Neglected feet look pretty bad and smell horrible after 60.

Can you find this man sexy while naked?

Can you see yourself sucking on his moobs?

If you can answer yes to all these questions, you can be the arm candy he needs.

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Vendetta:

Yeah funny you mention that because the first time I met him, I just had this feeling like he was looking at me like he wanted me on a silver platter, LOL. But, most people want to feel desired so there's nothing wrong with that part of it. I also know that there's a lot of white dudes out there who have anger towards black men and what better way to piss off the black men than to be with a black girl who's way younger?

I feel like I can't win. A lot of guys (black, white, etc.) my age are losers and stay home and play Xbox or whatever. A lot of black guys are either in the system, gay, have several baby mamas, married or players....A lot of white guys (in America at least) don't go out with black women or just see us as sex objects. Latino guys....well, that guy I had the email drama with is Puerto Rican (an NYC Puerto Rican at that, LOL! from BROOKLYN at that! LOL!)

So, what the heck am I supposed to do?

[Edited 12/29/11 9:16am]

Yup, it's totally frustrating out here in this world of broken people. No doubt about that.

Just try not to write off a whole group of people based on the majority. That Puerto Rican asshole doesn't mean there isn't a Puerto Rican Prince Charming. The special one (or ones) can come from the most unlikely of places!

My example: Six years ago, I was dating women exclusively (I'm bi but prefer females and self-identified as lesbian), had never even kissed or seen a white man naked, and had vowed to never partner with someone who had a negative attitude toward life.

Then I fell in mad love with someone who loved me back and truly wanted to take care of me forever. And it was a straight white man who is one of the most pessimistic people I have ever met!

We're now married (another thing in my former NEVER pile!) and co-parenting the four children we brought into the relationship, and neither of us would want to be anywhere else. You just never know.

But in your world, this is a "perfect" relationship. It works for you. This is what I am talking about as far as what the OP is saying.

When some of us women keep making the wrong choices in partners, it really is not "them", it's "us" and when we can grow up and admit that and ask honest questions to ourselves, then we will stop making bad choices.

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Vendetta:

Yeah funny you mention that because the first time I met him, I just had this feeling like he was looking at me like he wanted me on a silver platter, LOL. But, most people want to feel desired so there's nothing wrong with that part of it. I also know that there's a lot of white dudes out there who have anger towards black men and what better way to piss off the black men than to be with a black girl who's way younger?

I feel like I can't win. A lot of guys (black, white, etc.) my age are losers and stay home and play Xbox or whatever. A lot of black guys are either in the system, gay, have several baby mamas, married or players....A lot of white guys (in America at least) don't go out with black women or just see us as sex objects. Latino guys....well, that guy I had the email drama with is Puerto Rican (an NYC Puerto Rican at that, LOL! from BROOKLYN at that! LOL!)

So, what the heck am I supposed to do?

[Edited 12/29/11 9:16am]

Yup, it's totally frustrating out here in this world of broken people. No doubt about that.

Just try not to write off a whole group of people based on the majority. That Puerto Rican asshole doesn't mean there isn't a Puerto Rican Prince Charming. The special one (or ones) can come from the most unlikely of places!

My example: Six years ago, I was dating women exclusively (I'm bi but prefer females and self-identified as lesbian), had never even kissed or seen a white man naked, and had vowed to never partner with someone who had a negative attitude toward life.

Then I fell in mad love with someone who loved me back and truly wanted to take care of me forever. And it was a straight white man who is one of the most pessimistic people I have ever met!

We're now married (another thing in my former NEVER pile!) and co-parenting the four children we brought into the relationship, and neither of us would want to be anywhere else. You just never know.

Not to sound corny but your story really gives me hope, wow, opposites really DO attract...Yeah I hope I didn't sound like I was stereotyping but when you see the same patterns over and over again it starts to really be something that you can almost anticipate.

I always used to tell myself that I'd never marry a jealous, controlling Latin dude and look at me, still a bit annoyed with the Puerto Rican guy (who is still holding a grudge against me) and I'm already thinking about the "end" with the older white guy before it even starts. Ugh, I'm just a lost cause!

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Yup, it's totally frustrating out here in this world of broken people. No doubt about that.

Just try not to write off a whole group of people based on the majority. That Puerto Rican asshole doesn't mean there isn't a Puerto Rican Prince Charming. The special one (or ones) can come from the most unlikely of places!

My example: Six years ago, I was dating women exclusively (I'm bi but prefer females and self-identified as lesbian), had never even kissed or seen a white man naked, and had vowed to never partner with someone who had a negative attitude toward life.

Then I fell in mad love with someone who loved me back and truly wanted to take care of me forever. And it was a straight white man who is one of the most pessimistic people I have ever met!

We're now married (another thing in my former NEVER pile!) and co-parenting the four children we brought into the relationship, and neither of us would want to be anywhere else. You just never know.

Not to sound corny but your story really gives me hope, wow, opposites really DO attract...Yeah I hope I didn't sound like I was stereotyping but when you see the same patterns over and over again it starts to really be something that you can almost anticipate.

I always used to tell myself that I'd never marry a jealous, controlling Latin dude and look at me, still a bit annoyed with the Puerto Rican guy (who is still holding a grudge against me) and I'm already thinking about the "end" with the older white guy before it even starts. Ugh, I'm just a lost cause!

As long as you continue to examine these patterns, are willing to be aware and ask questions of yourself, you will never be a lost cause.

I'm glad, the point of sharing my story was to give you hope!

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Vendetta:

Yeah funny you mention that because the first time I met him, I just had this feeling like he was looking at me like he wanted me on a silver platter, LOL. But, most people want to feel desired so there's nothing wrong with that part of it. I also know that there's a lot of white dudes out there who have anger towards black men and what better way to piss off the black men than to be with a black girl who's way younger?

I feel like I can't win. A lot of guys (black, white, etc.) my age are losers and stay home and play Xbox or whatever. A lot of black guys are either in the system, gay, have several baby mamas, married or players....A lot of white guys (in America at least) don't go out with black women or just see us as sex objects. Latino guys....well, that guy I had the email drama with is Puerto Rican (an NYC Puerto Rican at that, LOL! from BROOKLYN at that! LOL!)

So, what the heck am I supposed to do?

[Edited 12/29/11 9:16am]

Yup, it's totally frustrating out here in this world of broken people. No doubt about that.

Just try not to write off a whole group of people based on the majority. That Puerto Rican asshole doesn't mean there isn't a Puerto Rican Prince Charming. The special one (or ones) can come from the most unlikely of places!

My example: Six years ago, I was dating women exclusively (I'm bi but prefer females and self-identified as lesbian), had never even kissed or seen a white man naked, and had vowed to never partner with someone who had a negative attitude toward life.

Then I fell in mad love with someone who loved me back and truly wanted to take care of me forever. And it was a straight white man who is one of the most pessimistic people I have ever met!

We're now married (another thing in my former NEVER pile!) and co-parenting the four children we brought into the relationship, and neither of us would want to be anywhere else. You just never know.

Aye, you mean Papi Chulo

Vendetta1 said:

PunkMistress said:

Yup, it's totally frustrating out here in this world of broken people. No doubt about that.

Just try not to write off a whole group of people based on the majority. That Puerto Rican asshole doesn't mean there isn't a Puerto Rican Prince Charming. The special one (or ones) can come from the most unlikely of places!

My example: Six years ago, I was dating women exclusively (I'm bi but prefer females and self-identified as lesbian), had never even kissed or seen a white man naked, and had vowed to never partner with someone who had a negative attitude toward life.

Then I fell in mad love with someone who loved me back and truly wanted to take care of me forever. And it was a straight white man who is one of the most pessimistic people I have ever met!

We're now married (another thing in my former NEVER pile!) and co-parenting the four children we brought into the relationship, and neither of us would want to be anywhere else. You just never know.

But in your world, this is a "perfect" relationship. It works for you. This is what I am talking about as far as what the OP is saying.

When some of us women keep making the wrong choices in partners, it really is not "them", it's "us" and when we can grow up and admit that and ask honest questions to ourselves, then we will stop making bad choices.

Yup.

But why does the process of realizing these things SUCK so damn hard?

angel345 said:

PunkMistress said:

Yup, it's totally frustrating out here in this world of broken people. No doubt about that.

Just try not to write off a whole group of people based on the majority. That Puerto Rican asshole doesn't mean there isn't a Puerto Rican Prince Charming. The special one (or ones) can come from the most unlikely of places!

My example: Six years ago, I was dating women exclusively (I'm bi but prefer females and self-identified as lesbian), had never even kissed or seen a white man naked, and had vowed to never partner with someone who had a negative attitude toward life.

Then I fell in mad love with someone who loved me back and truly wanted to take care of me forever. And it was a straight white man who is one of the most pessimistic people I have ever met!

We're now married (another thing in my former NEVER pile!) and co-parenting the four children we brought into the relationship, and neither of us would want to be anywhere else. You just never know.

Aye, you mean Papi Chulo

Sorry, I meant to say Nuyorican Papi Chulo.

PunkMistress said:

angel345 said:

Aye, you mean Papi Chulo

Sorry, I meant to say Nuyorican Papi Chulo.

We should come up with a new name instead of Nuyorican since he's from Brooklyn, we could call him a Brooklirican Papi Chulo?

Yeah, I don't know what's wrong with me because when the older white dude asked me out, I was already thinking, oh cool, now I can go out of my way to find the crazy Brooklirican dude and make him jealous to get back at him for all the drama...WTF, if Papi and I "hate" each other so damn much why do we keep trying to get at each other like this? He has a gf but puts more energy into making my life miserable instead of being with her!

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Sorry, I meant to say Nuyorican Papi Chulo.

We should come up with a new name instead of Nuyorican since he's from Brooklyn, we could call him a Brooklirican Papi Chulo?

Yeah, I don't know what's wrong with me because when the older white dude asked me out, I was already thinking, oh cool, now I can go out of my way to find the crazy Brooklirican dude and make him jealous to get back at him for all the drama...WTF, if Papi and I "hate" each other so damn much why do we keep trying to get at each other like this? He has a gf but puts more energy into making my life miserable instead of being with her!

Do you see what you're doing here?

You.are.not.ready.

This is drama. Admit you like it.

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Sorry, I meant to say Nuyorican Papi Chulo.

We should come up with a new name instead of Nuyorican since he's from Brooklyn, we could call him a Brooklirican Papi Chulo?

Yeah, I don't know what's wrong with me because when the older white dude asked me out, I was already thinking, oh cool, now I can go out of my way to find the crazy Brooklirican dude and make him jealous to get back at him for all the drama...WTF, if Papi and I "hate" each other so damn much why do we keep trying to get at each other like this? He has a gf but puts more energy into making my life miserable instead of being with her!

We're talking about the possible Príncipe Encantador out there; Brooklyrican Jackass needs to be surgically removed from your consciousness!

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

We should come up with a new name instead of Nuyorican since he's from Brooklyn, we could call him a Brooklirican Papi Chulo?

Yeah, I don't know what's wrong with me because when the older white dude asked me out, I was already thinking, oh cool, now I can go out of my way to find the crazy Brooklirican dude and make him jealous to get back at him for all the drama...WTF, if Papi and I "hate" each other so damn much why do we keep trying to get at each other like this? He has a gf but puts more energy into making my life miserable instead of being with her!

We're talking about the possible Príncipe Encantador out there; Brooklyrican Jackass needs to be surgically removed from your consciousness!

Ok, for the person who said, "admit that you like the drama"...here's the thing, I usually don't like drama BUT with this PR guy it's tough NOT to get caught up in the nonsense. Why can't we just leave each alone?

LOL @ Brooklyrican Jackass

Yeah I need a real Principe Encantador

But for now, all I have is el cantante "Principe"

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

We're talking about the possible Príncipe Encantador out there; Brooklyrican Jackass needs to be surgically removed from your consciousness!

Ok, for the person who said, "admit that you like the drama"...here's the thing, I usually don't like drama BUT with this PR guy it's tough NOT to get caught up in the nonsense. Why can't we just leave each alone?

LOL @ Brooklyrican Jackass

Yeah I need a real Principe Encantador

But for now, all I have is el cantante "Principe"

AAAAOOOOWAH!

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Sorry, I meant to say Nuyorican Papi Chulo.

We should come up with a new name instead of Nuyorican since he's from Brooklyn, we could call him a Brooklirican Papi Chulo?

Yeah, I don't know what's wrong with me because when the older white dude asked me out, I was already thinking, oh cool, now I can go out of my way to find the crazy Brooklirican dude and make him jealous to get back at him for all the drama...WTF, if Papi and I "hate" each other so damn much why do we keep trying to get at each other like this? He has a gf but puts more energy into making my life miserable instead of being with her!

doiuble post

[Edited 12/29/11 9:56am]

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

Sorry, I meant to say Nuyorican Papi Chulo.

We should come up with a new name instead of Nuyorican since he's from Brooklyn, we could call him a Brooklirican Papi Chulo?

Yeah, I don't know what's wrong with me because when the older white dude asked me out, I was already thinking, oh cool, now I can go out of my way to find the crazy Brooklirican dude and make him jealous to get back at him for all the drama...WTF, if Papi and I "hate" each other so damn much why do we keep trying to get at each other like this? He has a gf but puts more energy into making my life miserable instead of being with her!

SeventeenDayze said:

PunkMistress said:

We're talking about the possible Príncipe Encantador out there; Brooklyrican Jackass needs to be surgically removed from your consciousness!

Ok, for the person who said, "admit that you like the drama"...here's the thing, I usually don't like drama BUT with this PR guy it's tough NOT to get caught up in the nonsense. Why can't we just leave each alone?

LOL @ Brooklyrican Jackass

Yeah I need a real Principe Encantador

But for now, all I have is el cantante "Principe"

You don't want to leave him alone?

This has the potential to go all kinds of wrong. You have the power to end it. Remember your actions have consequences and come back and report to us when you get your feelings hurt.

Ottensen said:

SeventeenDayze said:

We should come up with a new name instead of Nuyorican since he's from Brooklyn, we could call him a Brooklirican Papi Chulo?

Yeah, I don't know what's wrong with me because when the older white dude asked me out, I was already thinking, oh cool, now I can go out of my way to find the crazy Brooklirican dude and make him jealous to get back at him for all the drama...WTF, if Papi and I "hate" each other so damn much why do we keep trying to get at each other like this? He has a gf but puts more energy into making my life miserable instead of being with her!

"When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things." 1 Corinthians 13:11 Mamacita it's time for you to grow up, move on, and stop making foolish decisons that block your own blessings. If you want a mature, functional relationship with another human being then you have to be that on your own first, and put the rest of this nonsense on the back burner.

Agreed Otten, this is a great scripture and totally true!

Again, seems like it's a no-win situation for a black girl out there sometimes....but Punk mistress gave me hope

Vendetta1 said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Ok, for the person who said, "admit that you like the drama"...here's the thing, I usually don't like drama BUT with this PR guy it's tough NOT to get caught up in the nonsense. Why can't we just leave each alone?

LOL @ Brooklyrican Jackass

Yeah I need a real Principe Encantador

But for now, all I have is el cantante "Principe"

You don't want to leave him alone?

This has the potential to go all kinds of wrong. You have the power to end it. Remember your actions have consequences and come back and report to us when you get your feelings hurt.

Cold but true.

SeventeenDayze said:

Ottensen said:

"When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things." 1 Corinthians 13:11 Mamacita it's time for you to grow up, move on, and stop making foolish decisons that block your own blessings. If you want a mature, functional relationship with another human being then you have to be that on your own first, and put the rest of this nonsense on the back burner.

Agreed Otten, this is a great scripture and totally true!

Again, seems like it's a no-win situation for a black girl out there sometimes....but Punk mistress gave me hope

As a black woman, I can agree with you to a point. We are the bottom of the totem pole when it comes to desirability. There are assumptions made about us basec on stereotypes all the time.

However, as WOMAN, you are not making it better falling for the okey doke. If you don't get yourself together, men will prey on your weakness. The one meant for will want you because of your strength and stability.

Think hard before you make the wrong decision. An "older white guy" might look good on paper because of the stereotype surrounding that type: "he got credit". But don't easily fall into a trap.

I don't know I'm kinda waiting to hear what makes him so special. Outside of saying what other guys may not have, what makes him interesting, besides seasonal work that has the potential of being frequently laid off.

morningsong said:

I don't know I'm kinda waiting to hear what makes him so special. Outside of saying what other guys may not have, what makes him interesting, besides seasonal work that has the potential of being frequently laid off.

Agreed morning that's another reason why I'm a bit suspect BUT perhaps that's an exit strategy. Well, now that you're broke and I'm broke perhaps we can wait until we save enough money to see each other again?

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

I was recently asked out by a guy who I think is about 20 years older than me. He also happens to be white (I'm black) and I've gone out with white guys before but never with that much of an age difference. I kinda got the impression from when we first met he was into me but wasn't sure, well, I guess my assumption was right. The thing is that one time he was telling me about some random article he read about how, "studies show that black men under 40 will, statistically, never find gainful employment"....

Then, when he called me to ask me out, he told me about how he just started some new contract job and was hoping to make a lot of money and wanted to take me out....

Ok, so dude is probably in his early 50s, should I go for it or not? Also, how in the world do I know a guy that age would even take me seriously or see me anything more than his sex object?

Thoughts?

Older white man, bragging about his money, trying to take out a young person of color.

Tells young person of color that men of her race and age "will never find gainful employment."

1. That so-called statistic is full of more bullshit than a cow farm.

2. From the small snapshot you've given, he sounds like a racist, fucked-up, insecure motherfucker who will see you as a sex object but NEVER a person. This has nothing to do with his age and everything to do with his fucked up views on race (and probably gender, and probably age).

Tell him to go stuff a roll of $100s up his ass, or take advantage of him for some nice dinners if you really want to. But for the love of all that is holy, DO NOT TRUST HIM. This I beg of you.

[Edited 12/29/11 8:51am]

Say That!

SeventeenDayze said:

morningsong said:

I don't know I'm kinda waiting to hear what makes him so special. Outside of saying what other guys may not have, what makes him interesting, besides seasonal work that has the potential of being frequently laid off.

Agreed morning that's another reason why I'm a bit suspect BUT perhaps that's an exit strategy. Well, now that you're broke and I'm broke perhaps we can wait until we save enough money to see each other again?

Sounds like both of you are curious about what it would be like.