I was recently asked out by a guy who I think is about 20 years older than me. He also happens to be white (I'm black) and I've gone out with white guys before but never with that much of an age difference. I kinda got the impression from when we first met he was into me but wasn't sure, well, I guess my assumption was right. The thing is that one time he was telling me about some random article he read about how, "studies show that black men under 40 will, statistically, never find gainful employment"....

Then, when he called me to ask me out, he told me about how he just started some new contract job and was hoping to make a lot of money and wanted to take me out....

Ok, so dude is probably in his early 50s, should I go for it or not? Also, how in the world do I know a guy that age would even take me seriously or see me anything more than his sex object?

Thoughts?

Why on earth would he tell you that statistic about gainful employment?

I think you should go out with him if you like him, and while he will definitely see you has a sex object, if he also treats you with respect and you guys have decent conversations, then it's a pretty good sign, right?

NDRU said:

Why on earth would he tell you that statistic about gainful employment?

Well, it was actually a convo about the economy, so no, it wasn't just out of the blue

You couldn't have picked a better title for this thread?

SeventeenDayze....

has found herself a sugardaddy.

NDRU said:

Deadcake said:

NDRU said:

Why on earth would he tell you that statistic about gainful employment?

He seems to believe not being a black man under 40 himself is somehow his unique selling point, he's perhaps making he assumption she is dating unemployed bums and that he sees himself as her knight in shining armour. OR he is threatened by the thought of all the hot young dudes she may have dated before him and needs to justify to himself why someone like him could be attractive? His insecurity makes say shit like that. Or he is just an idiot Or I could be reading waaaaaay to much into it and taking this completely out of context although the fact the OP brought it up at all is a little warning bell to me If he is kind, good and respectful I don't see a problem.

I came to similar conclusions... and if he is gonna sell her on the fact that he is gainfully employed and can provide her with things, then she should take that as an invitation to expect him to do just that.

Sugardaddy.

paintedlady said:

of course he is selling!

Now the question is does she want to be bought. The ball is in her court.

Questions a younger lady should ask herself before dating an older (significantly older) guy....

Why is he single? Does his dick still work?

Does he wear dentures? Can you kiss a man with fake teeth?

You must be aware that there is a "mayonaise mouth" factor with false teeth. Folks with a full set tend to collect cheese in the corners of their mouth. He's always gonna look like he just finished eating egg salad.... just sayin'.

Does he have a unique smell? If he does... will you be able to deal with odors that may arise during old man sex. Particulary fellatio.... asparagus dick, and cabbage of the nutsack can be a challenge.

Is he a robust man? Can he still dance, walk and do all the things you can?

Is he gassy? If so, this can put a damper on the whole sexy older guy vibe.

Does he have nice feet? Neglected feet look pretty bad and smell horrible after 60.

Can you find this man sexy while naked?

Can you see yourself sucking on his moobs?

If you can answer yes to all these questions, you can be the arm candy he needs.

SeventeenDayze said:

should I go for it or not?

Also, how in the world do I know a guy that age would even take me seriously or see me anything more than his sex object?

Thoughts?

1. go for it!! worse thing is, it doesn't work out.

2. if he only wants you for sex, then you'll see that. then it's up to you if that's all YOU want as well.

good luck!

paintedlady said:

Questions a younger lady should ask herself before dating an older (significantly older) guy....

Why is he single? Does his dick still work?

Does he wear dentures? Can you kiss a man with fake teeth?

You must be aware that there is a "mayonaise mouth" factor with false teeth. Folks with a full set tend to collect cheese in the corners of their mouth. He's always gonna look like he just finished eating egg salad.... just sayin'.

Does he have a unique smell? If he does... will you be able to deal with odors that may arise during old man sex. Particulary fellatio.... asparagus dick, and cabbage of the nutsack can be a challenge.

Is he a robust man? Can he still dance, walk and do all the things you can?

Is he gassy? If so, this can put a damper on the whole sexy older guy vibe.

Does he have nice feet? Neglected feet look pretty bad and smell horrible after 60.

Can you find this man sexy while naked?

Can you see yourself sucking on his moobs?

If you can answer yes to all these questions, you can be the arm candy he needs.

You just scared the fuckin' outta the poor thing right there

Harlepolis said:

paintedlady said:

Questions a younger lady should ask herself before dating an older (significantly older) guy....

Why is he single? Does his dick still work?

Does he wear dentures? Can you kiss a man with fake teeth?

You must be aware that there is a "mayonaise mouth" factor with false teeth. Folks with a full set tend to collect cheese in the corners of their mouth. He's always gonna look like he just finished eating egg salad.... just sayin'.

Does he have a unique smell? If he does... will you be able to deal with odors that may arise during old man sex. Particulary fellatio.... asparagus dick, and cabbage of the nutsack can be a challenge.

Is he a robust man? Can he still dance, walk and do all the things you can?

Is he gassy? If so, this can put a damper on the whole sexy older guy vibe.

Does he have nice feet? Neglected feet look pretty bad and smell horrible after 60.

Can you find this man sexy while naked?

Can you see yourself sucking on his moobs?

If you can answer yes to all these questions, you can be the arm candy he needs.

You just scared the fuckin' outta the poor thing right there

Hey, maybe he's a young 60... she still gotta check out the teefuses, and the foot hygiene. The same way they do when buying a horse. She'll thank me for not running into some phimosis dick once she goes through her checklist.

paintedlady said:

Deadcake said:

paintedlady said:

Hey, maybe he's a young 60... she still gotta check out the teefuses, and the foot hygiene. The same way they do when buying a horse. She'll thank me for not running into some phimosis dick once she goes through her checklist.

I bet he's not even out of his 40s yet!

If he's 50's and under... then she's fine!

Most men are VERY sexy when they hit their 40's.

paintedlady said:

Deadcake said:

paintedlady said:

If he's 50's and under... then she's fine!

Most men are VERY sexy when they hit their 40's.

That's true, their maturity finally catches up with their age

paintedlady said:

SeventeenDayze....

has found herself a sugardaddy.

It's about damn time, I'm broke as hell I wouldn't mind kickin' it with an older dude for a bit just to have the experience. But, to the person who asked me am I for sale, I just thought about a weird complex about slavery (not joking). I don't know, plus the horrible stares I'd get from black dudes as well would be overwhelming...

But, I dunno, seems like it would be an experience either way!

paintedlady said:

Questions a younger lady should ask herself before dating an older (significantly older) guy....

Why is he single? Does his dick still work?

Does he wear dentures? Can you kiss a man with fake teeth?

You must be aware that there is a "mayonaise mouth" factor with false teeth. Folks with a full set tend to collect cheese in the corners of their mouth. He's always gonna look like he just finished eating egg salad.... just sayin'.

Does he have a unique smell? If he does... will you be able to deal with odors that may arise during old man sex. Particulary fellatio.... asparagus dick, and cabbage of the nutsack can be a challenge.

Is he a robust man? Can he still dance, walk and do all the things you can?

Is he gassy? If so, this can put a damper on the whole sexy older guy vibe.

Does he have nice feet? Neglected feet look pretty bad and smell horrible after 60.

Can you find this man sexy while naked?

Can you see yourself sucking on his moobs?

If you can answer yes to all these questions, you can be the arm candy he needs.

This is by far the most disturbing and entertaining thing I've ever seen on the Org and man, that's saying a lot The stuff you wrote makes me wanna like totally give up on life right now

PAINTEDLADIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

STOP PULLIN CARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRDS!!!!!

these three replies made me laugh ~ esp how they were all in a row!!!

Tittypants said:

You couldn't have picked a better title for this thread?

paintedlady said:

SeventeenDayze....

has found herself a sugardaddy.

Terrib3Towel said:

He just want some young pussy.

[Edited 12/28/11 23:47pm]

Oh yeah, someone else saying dude was like 60, and I really don't think he's anywhere close to 60. I think he's like 52 maybe. I would feel like a bit of a whore if I went out with him knowing that he's already talking about money BUT perhaps it's all a smokescreen and maybe he's broke as hell, too, who knows

Oh, he still has all his hair, Painted Lady, lol

SeventeenDayze said:

Oh yeah, someone else saying dude was like 60, and I really don't think he's anywhere close to 60. I think he's like 52 maybe. I would feel like a bit of a whore if I went out with him knowing that he's already talking about money BUT perhaps it's all a smokescreen and maybe he's broke as hell, too, who knows

Oh, he still has all his hair, Painted Lady, lol

u do what u think is right ~ age is but a cage!!!!!

NDRU said:

Deadcake said:

NDRU said:

of course he is selling!

Do you think that means he's not a catch?

it means he has issues with picking up chics!!!!!

50s are the new 40. If you're feeling it, do it!

Unless the man looks like Robert Downey Jr....forget him. LOL

Nah, I joke.

How long have you known this guy? Is he known to date women younger than him? More specifically, younger black women? How many times is he married, if any?

Feel this guy out. He could be just looking for young pussy. I would know...I like me the older men...but you gotta watch that.