Wouldn't that apply to men too? Why would a man have a baby with a woman he is not married to and then bitch about paying child support for the next 18 years? “The right to be heard does not automatically include the right to be taken seriously.” | |
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I think that's exactly it. | |
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I feel it applies to both. surviving on the thought of loving you, it's just like the water
I ain't felt this way in years... | |
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I know, right?! Honey, stop talking and just create the music. | |
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You really don't like your mother at all, do you? The salvation of man is through love and in love. - Dr. V. Frankl
"When you close your heart, you close your mind." - Michael Jackson (Man In The Mirror) "I don't need anger management, I need people to stop pissing me off" | |
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I have no idea why people are slow to marry. There's different trains of thought on it. Marriage has been on a slow decline since the 60's, with the flower children rebelling against their parent's conventions. Also, the rise of feminism, continuing on with marriage bashing by saying a woman is not reaching her full potential in a marriage because she's subservient (that's up for debate).
But I think there are two things stopping people from getting married. One, people are honestly afriad of commitment. And you can shake your head all you want, but it's true. Marriage is not just a ceremony and an exhange of vows. Marriage is also a legally binding contract, where the two adjoining parties are not just recognized by their friends and family, but also by the government. Meaning a lot of things are at stake. It makes it "official"...and that's a scary thought to many people.
The second reason is..marriage is more commercial nowadays...a business instead of a union of two people who love each other. You won't believe how often the line "We don't need a peice of paper to show we love each other" or "Marriage is too commercial, we're keepin' it organic." gets tossed around.
And lastly....why are people so slow to marry but quick to have kids. Because men can't keep they dick in they pants and women can't keep their legs shut until the "I do's". There...I've said it.
My two cents. The salvation of man is through love and in love. - Dr. V. Frankl
"When you close your heart, you close your mind." - Michael Jackson (Man In The Mirror) "I don't need anger management, I need people to stop pissing me off" | |
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Marriage is not treated in the same way as it was before the late '60s. There's lots of unmarried folks who have children who are perfectly comfortable with NOT having a ring on their finger. They probably look at marriage as a contract and think they don't need a "contract" to be a commitment. Some people just don't flat out believe in marriage as some see it as an old tired institution or as something that their parents often try to force their hand on so they chose not to do that. Some are scared to marry because they get told the person "changes" once they get married. Sure not all marriages changes folks but I guess either their relatives have bad marriages or whatever so they're like "I'm not gonna be like that." | |
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I can see my opinion won't be popular when it comes to this thread! | |
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Fuck it. [Edited 11/21/11 19:05pm] | |
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I typed a LONG ass response and said the SAME thing.
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I figured what is the point? My perspective on the matter is not going to change anyone's mind if theirs is not open enough to consider another side. | |
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Shake it til ya make it | |
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Might as well. I hate threads like this being one-sided. I already presented my argument that marriage may NOT be the key to "happiness" lol | |
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I'm 34 years old and still haven't found the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. And I may never find him. Does that mean I forgo my rights to have children because I don't meet other people's standards?
And what about the people who don't have rights to marry at all?
Why are people quick to make assumptions about unwed parents? Shake it til ya make it | |
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I feel you on that sentiment.
Many women now expect a man to joyfully propose marriage and not feel like she is forcing his hand.... a pregnancy will not change that expectation. A man just wanting pussy and not marriage will not stop a pregnancy from happening.
Sex will cause pregancy... not marriage.
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Dead wrong.
Not all single moms have self-esteem issues. They are just women who had sex.
Does wanting sex before marrige mean that a person has self-esteem issues? I don't think so....
people have sex because they get horny. Its just that simple. | |
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I'm still wondering that especially if the parents actually DO take care of their business. Like for instance, I bet there's tons of same-sex couples who can't marry but STILL are able to raise families or at least stay happily together after 20 years. I'm sure some people marry for love but there's also a good portion of people who only marry for status, for money, for this or for that. To be honest, marriage was said to be invented to stop someone's "sexual freedom". I forgot what century...lol | |
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Chris Rock opened my mind to what marriage can bring and it's not love and happiness.
"If you get married, no blowjobs." "If you get married, you won't fuck again."
I forgot what else he said besides telling women men won't "lick your pussy again" after marriage.
But apparently, for men, marriage means you have fellatio and have sexual intercourse in some nice bed.
Some successful marriages hardly act like they ARE married. | |
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people love to f@ck... all the time.
f@@king is good... if you like to f@ck all the time chances are....
Especially since its free... well... most times.
Guy or gal... people need to stop f@@@ing so much.
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wanted to get married ever since I was in high school....if after a year he doesn't propose I might leave... unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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Start dating other guys now.
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I mean when I end up in a relationship unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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Oh! Then just KEEP dating and have fun!
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I dated my ex for two years before marrying him, we even lived together during that time. I got pregnant with my son and got married when I should've stayed a single parent and just raised my son. Sometimes marriage makes a situation worse. I stayed married for seven yrs which was pure hell! So I wasted nine years of my life with that fool and still raised my son alone. My son is 18 now and a terrific young man! Single parents rock! Fuck marriage! Been there, done that, not doing it again. Fuck love, I'm tired of trying | |
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Also, people are all about the flesh and lust. They want that few minutes of pleasure and really don't think about the lasting results. Women are not stupid we are emotional being and ultimately just want to be loved. Men on the other hand just want the shaft and both balls licked and really don't give a fuck | |
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I personally think if you're gonna be single and enjoy your life, don't always have sex. That may save the trouble from having something that you don't want at that second lol but both genders don't think with their minds, they think with their sexual organs. | |
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Timmy84 said: I personally think if you're gonna be single and enjoy your life, don't always have sex. That may save the trouble from having something that you don't want at that second lol but both genders don't think with their minds, they think with their sexual organs. True...it's all about that hammer | |
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And once that happens your life changes forever. You can't reverse a baby coming out not knowing what the fuck's up. That's why if I plan on being single, my goal would be to get my life in order before bringing another person (or two, #2 being a child lol) into the picture. | |
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Timmy84 said:
And once that happens your life changes forever. You can't reverse a baby coming out not knowing what the fuck's up. That's why if I plan on being single, my goal would be to get my life in order before bringing another person (or two, #2 being a child lol) into the picture. Always the best plan of action. It really is unfair to have a baby when your life is not stable. Wish I would have done that. My son is the love of my life if I could do it all over agin I'd still be his mom. Marriage on the other hand gets a thumbs down from me | |
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Making babies = Sex Marriage = No Sex
Am I right?? PRINCE: Always and Forever
MICHAEL JACKSON: Always and Forever ----- Live Your Life How U Wanna Live It | |
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