Such a strong position.....how many children have you raised? Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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Wow...Its my daughter's 15th birthday (eyes are welling up) and my husband just walked in and told me that I've done a great job as a mom raising our kids because they are awesome.
Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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Dave is too young to really understand what he's saying. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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I must admit....the question was a sarcastic set up....he sounds like he's incredibly naive and idealistic about parenting Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian, any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. | |
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I mean, of course everyone is entitled to their opinion...but for me, I'll respect the opinion of someone like Mach, for example, who HAS raised a wonderful, well-adjusted family without spanking and still doesn't go around making such strong & high-brow declarations to the contrary.
But then again I was very vocal and opinionated at his age myself...so...
[Edited 11/5/11 8:22am] By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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Thank you for the incredible compliment on my Family ~ I am honored
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Wow | |
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What can I say? You're awesome. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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My mom gave me a busted lip once so she made me stay home from school. I wasn't a bad kid, but yeah...got belts, hangers, shoes and hard pounding fists...and I'm a lot smaller than her. She does have temper problems. unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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I haven't raised any children yet, but what does this (and my age) have to do with how well-reasoned my opinion is? It's rather you two who sound a bit naive, because being older or having made mistakes is not an excuse for bad behaviour.
If I ever decide to have children (thinking that I'm fit enough to do it) and they turn out to be such a big pain in the arse that it would make me want to slap them, I sincerely hope that I'll be surrounded by people like the person I am now to stop me from doing it. | |
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How do you think it would feel to your children if they'd hear you saying you don't respect someone's opinion just because they're younger than you are (or because they don't share your opinion)?
I've said it a thousand times already: I met old, experienced people who behaved like total idiots (especially here on the org) and I met young, inexperienced people who didn't have to go through certain experiences to know what their outcome would be, which is quite wise. You'd be lying if you told me you haven't, too.
But I guess it makes you feel stronger, so carry on. [Edited 11/5/11 11:03am] | |
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One more thing I'd like to share with you: The journey is the reward.
I am striving for the ideal of not hitting anyone (including children), no matter if I think it's possible to still raise a child without doing it or to get through life without showing people that they made me really angry. If I don't manage to, it's still wrong. I'll do my best not to hit anyone. If that's what you call "naive", just because it actually makes sense in a forward-thinking world, then I, for instance, can't take your opinion seriously, no matter how old and wrinkly you are, no matter how many nations you have raised with your bare hands. | |
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i reckon it's both | |
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The link i posted says otherwise and explains why I think it's both | |
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Co-sign
That's just uncalled for
Aren't you like 7 ft tall ?
I rest my case [Edited 11/5/11 13:18pm] | |
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Sad, sad, sad thread.
It's 'normal' tho' that people who have been abused as a child, do it themselves too when they become parents. Of course they defend their incompetence. One of the major reasons why the world is so messed up. Children are raised to use force and violence to get what they want.
It's also 'normal' to justify abusing your children under the guise of 'parenting', because when you have a weak personality it's much easier to make that seem as normal and even "necessary", than admit that you are just a fucked up individual in need of help. Nah, you rather ignore that slapping ANYBODY never is right and keep on living in your little lalala land that it IS right when you do it to your child, under the guise of 'being such a great parent'.
Sorry, but you are NOT a "great parent" and it doesn't matter one iota whether you "think" punishing children pysicially as if they are your property is part of parenting. Your abusing a little defenseless child, period. And this thread proves that MANY of you people do that.
Take note therefore also, all you folks on here who think it's okay to give your child "the belt" or physically absuse them in any other way, under the guise of 'parenting':
There is a way to legally get away with your failure to deal with your kids:
Just make sure your kid won't go to the police before the statute of limitations applies and you will be just fine! However, when your kid doesn't, you may just be prosecuted.
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I reckon you shouldn't base your opinion about people black or white parents by what you read online... I know people who would squash any theory in that article. Many parents do not use spanking... white and black...
Religion MAYBE... but race? No. [Edited 11/5/11 13:08pm] | |
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THAT wasn't the question. | |
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She apparently posted it after Daddy threatened to cut her off financially and take her Mercedes if she dropped out of school. I guess being beaten led to attempted blackmail. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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whatever | |
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For all we know Dave, you might not be fit to be a real parent if you allow children to go unpunished for being a bunch of unruly, disrespectful, and dishonorable brats that think they are "above the law" within the family household AND society in general.
No disrespect, this is real talk. | |
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There has to be fear... fear based actions rule the world... Why dont you speed in your car? Because you fear a speeding ticket... Why dont you steal? Cuz you fear jail...
There MUST be consequences to every action, I have seen those "time out, lets discuss this" parenting... Its a joke, the child is usually out of contol! But if a child knows its bad behaviour will warrant a punishment of some kind, that is what teaches them how to behave... You dont have to "scare" your child, but it must be aware of the consequences...
And this is in noway saying beat your child... ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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Exactly. | |
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Fair enough. | |
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Seriously.
The funny thing is, every time-out based parenting approach that fails is supposedly because "oh well that parent just wasn't doing it right, it really works."
When one spanked child does wrong it's "that because (all) parents that spank their kids can't parent worth a shit".
The failure(s) of one approach is generally looked at as an isolated incident. The failure(s) of the other is applied to ALL who use it.
I feel bad for the kid who grows up and hits someone thinking that person will turn around and issue him a time-out. He's in for a surprise.
But it doesn't matter. Because those parents can sit nice and lofty on their imaginary thrones of self-proclaimed parenting superiority while the world deals with their kid's bullshit. | |
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Agree with EVERY word!! ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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