What do u do?

Tons.

As for what to do, nothing. Just enjoy the party and let them wreck their lives. They'll do it even if you object

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Tons.

As for what to do, nothing. Just enjoy the party and let them wreck their lives. They'll do it even if you object

For sure.

I've been to a couple of weddings where I'm pretty sure they'll last. Not because of love and good compatibility but because I know neither of the spouses would be proactive enough to break up. That's pretty sad too. Maybe even more so because at least in the case of a breakup, they can move on.

One of my best friends from college got married a year after graduation. When she called to tell me she was engaged, I actually laughed because she'd been after this guy for ages and he'd always seemed like of lukewarm toward her - so I thought she was joking. She said, "When you get hold of yourself, I'd like you to be a bridesmaid."

So the day of the wedding rolls around and some of us are standing outside the church. We see the groom talking to one of his friends - and he's crying. Well, of course, we girls thought, "Awww...isn't that touching? He's all choked up about getting married." Little did we know.

Fast forward four years. My friend tells me they're getting divorced - that her husband had an affair and she threw him out.

And those tears we saw outside the church? Turns out, they were "Jesus Christ, what am I doing? I don't want to marry her!" tears.

But to answer the question, there's nothing you can (or should) do. People have to live their own lives and make their own mistakes. Getting in the middle of something like that is a sure way to lose a friend - and they're probably going to need you later.

Oh - and then, there's the case of my youngest sister, who married a guy she'd known about six months - and who turned out to be a crack addict.

The less said about that one, the better. She got herself disentangled, but not before a lot of heartache - for her and everyone else in our family.

Yes, my first one!

Graycap23 said:

Give a low value gift.

purpledoveuk said:

Graycap23 said:

What do u do?

Eat the food, say nice things, be happy that THEY are enjoying the day thinking it will last forever

Exactly. Enjoy the party - especially if it's open bar.

Graycap23 said:

What do u do?

Yes. All of them. One very recently, though, and I just went and had a good time. They're both pretty good friends, which I have to assume is the case for most people attending weddings. The participants are either a family member or friend(s). You're just there to support them - the future is their problem.

Graycap23 said:

What do u do?

Countless ...

Yes.

A close friend from college married a guy all the friends KNEW slept with one of the crew. We tried our best to get her away from him BEFORE they were engaged, but no one told her about Stephanie. She married him anyway....

Fast-forward about 10 years: They got divorced.

My friend called me and said, "Did you know he slept with Stephanie in college?"

Thank Goodness she accepted my apology and admitted that she would have called us liars anyway back then.

Sometimes there is nothing you CAN do.

chocolate1 said:

Yes.

A close friend from college married a guy all the friends KNEW slept with one of the crew. We tried our best to get her away from him BEFORE they were engaged, but no one told her about Stephanie. She married him anyway....

Fast-forward about 10 years: They got divorced.

My friend called me and said, "Did you know he slept with Stephanie in college?"

Thank Goodness she accepted my apology and admitted that she would have called us liars anyway back then.

Sometimes there is nothing you CAN do.

Wow! How womanly for her to own up to the fact she would have been a triflin Ho about it way back when!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

chocolate1 said:

Yes.

A close friend from college married a guy all the friends KNEW slept with one of the crew. We tried our best to get her away from him BEFORE they were engaged, but no one told her about Stephanie. She married him anyway....

Fast-forward about 10 years: They got divorced.

My friend called me and said, "Did you know he slept with Stephanie in college?"

Thank Goodness she accepted my apology and admitted that she would have called us liars anyway back then.

Sometimes there is nothing you CAN do.

Wow! How womanly for her to own up to the fact she would have been a triflin Ho about it way back when!

They got married the summer after we graduated. She was FLIPPED over him.

I think once she grew up (3 kids later), she finally saw all the crap we saw in college.

Graycap23 said:

What do u do?

There's not much you can do. They have stars in their eyes.

yep......and I just stood there and watched like a good attendee should

No, the one I thought wasn't going to last...is lasting.

Yes!!! it was soooooo messed up

these 2 were so wrong for each other, we all just stood there mouths agape when we heard they were going to marry. 2 years they lasted. Even that was unbelievable.

What should I have done? it's not like anyone ever listens to anyone else when they think they are in love!

my grandmother (hateful, hateful woman) informed me

a few days before my wedding

that it wasn't going to last

and that she wouldn't be attending

well, I'm still married

and she's dead

I win

orger said:

my grandmother (hateful, hateful woman) informed me

a few days before my wedding

that it wasn't going to last

and that she wouldn't be attending

well, I'm still married

and she's dead

I win

that's awful!

ZombieKitten said:

orger said:

my grandmother (hateful, hateful woman) informed me

a few days before my wedding

that it wasn't going to last

and that she wouldn't be attending

well, I'm still married

and she's dead

I win

that's awful!

she was an awful person

when I told her I was getting married

she showed no happiness for me whatsoever

she only asked, "Why?" (in the most snide way you could imagine)

thanks for the support, grandma

out of curiosity, was this your mom 's mom or your dad's?

Genesia said:

Oh - and then, there's the case of my youngest sister, who married a guy she'd known about six months - and who turned out to be a crack addict.

The less said about that one, the better. She got herself disentangled, but not before a lot of heartache - for her and everyone else in our family.

Who is Betsey Johnson? btw, great stories! My sister got between me and my ex-fiance. We probably would have got a divorce eventually but now I'll never know. yes my ex was a bitch, but I loved her. And now I harbor bitterness toward my sister that has yet to manifest into action. I hope it never does. Half of me is glad she saved me half of me wishes I went through it and figured out shit for myself.

dads

chocolate1 said:

Yes.

A close friend from college married a guy all the friends KNEW slept with one of the crew. We tried our best to get her away from him BEFORE they were engaged, but no one told her about Stephanie. She married him anyway....

Fast-forward about 10 years: They got divorced.

My friend called me and said, "Did you know he slept with Stephanie in college?"

Thank Goodness she accepted my apology and admitted that she would have called us liars anyway back then.

Sometimes there is nothing you CAN do.

why didn't you tell her when they started dating? It didn't cross your mind til the fucking wedding day? Too late then. But after their first dinner and a movie maybe you mention it. Just sayin.

orger said:

my grandmother (hateful, hateful woman) informed me

a few days before my wedding

that it wasn't going to last

and that she wouldn't be attending

well, I'm still married

and she's dead

I win

Good for you. What a bitch your grandmother was!

not surprised this was your dad's mom. Was she mean to your mom?

scriptgirl said:

not surprised this was your dad's mom. Was she mean to your mom?

she was mean to everyone

that's the one thing she gave equally

and unconditionally