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PrintableMagnificentPentatonic said: XxAxX said:   are you on Facebook? nope  too scurred. but, i wear a hat just like my avatar, so you should be able to spot me   good to see you again, long time | |
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Imago said: Dave1992 said: I hate being angry. However, if I get angry it's kind of like you described it. I'm always in full control of my body and thoughts and my calmness is nearly provoking, but I can use some very degrading things to say, which I am not happy about. I never swear - I'm the last one to simply call someone "Asshole!", because I just don't think it's any use, but I get really personal and start talking about the things that really hurt that person - complexes, reasons for childish, stupid behaviour, ... I kind of let them see why I am "superior" not getting down to their level, yelling and swearing. But this can be even more asshole-ish and hurtful, I guess.
I blame my mother. When we would "argue" and I had the perfect words to explain (and excuse) my behaviour and the perfect words to suggest what she could have done better (not blame!) she just wouldn't listen. She would start playing that "I am superior, I am older, I am stronger, I am louder"-game and I think that is what made me lose so much confidence in honest communication. As I got older I just realised that my honesty were no use, so I joined in and also started not talking to her for weeks, raising my voice or even getting physical. Looking back, I feel very sorry. But some people just don't seem to leave you any choice but to get angry. Nowadays I only get upset about people's stupidity. I absolutely hate stupid people who can't listen and who act without thinking about the whole situation first. And when a little smart-ass like me comes along, teaching them about how to correctly solve a problem... well, war has begun.  Dave, you're 17. Nowadays means you had a past to compare it to.
GROUP. HUG. At my age I already do have a past. Actually, even if you have been born 10 seconds ago you already have a past. But to differenciate between the past and now you need change, and the change I am talking about is possible, believe it or not, at my age. I used to raise my voice and get physical, now I don't anymore. What's so wrong with that? I bet you peed your pants until a certain age, let's say 3? Back then you would have said: "I used to pee my pants, nowadays I don't anymore." I don't think one needs 30 years of experience to realise that it's absolutely senseless to raise one's voice in anger. At least I didn't. | |
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Dave1992 said: Imago said: Dave, you're 17. Nowadays means you had a past to compare it to.
GROUP. HUG. At my age I already do have a past. Actually, even if you have been born 10 seconds ago you already have a past. But to differenciate between the past and now you need change, and the change I am talking about is possible, believe it or not, at my age. I used to raise my voice and get physical, now I don't anymore. What's so wrong with that? I bet you peed your pants until a certain age, let's say 3? Back then you would have said: "I used to pee my pants, nowadays I don't anymore." I don't think one needs 30 years of experience to realise that it's absolutely senseless to raise one's voice in anger. At least I didn't. | |
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XxAxX said: MagnificentPentatonic said: are you on Facebook? nope too scurred. but, i wear a hat just like my avatar, so you should be able to spot me good to see you again, long timei'm not here for long, i'm just trying to collect souls to bring over to the other side.  | |
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Lammastide said: RodeoSchro said: And yes, I get "mean-angry". But I found out that's a by-product of diabetes.
What!?! Are you being serious??Yep. I found out that whacked-out blood sugar levels can cause dramatic mood swings. | |
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Yeah I do. My boyfriend says I have an anger management problem. I can admit that I have a little temper but he swears up and down that I should seek out anger management classes. I guess when I rolled down the window of my car and cursed a lady out for taking up all the room in the driveway while turning into to a fried chicken joint made him come to this conclusion. But that wasn't my fault, and besides she put her middle finger up at me, my next choice was to get out of the car and punch her in the face...but then I thought about how I need to keep a job. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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XxAxX said: MagnificentPentatonic said: are you on Facebook? nope too scurred. but, i wear a hat just like my avatar, so you should be able to spot me good to see you again, long timeOh and  | |
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MagnificentPentatonic said: XxAxX said: nope too scurred. but, i wear a hat just like my avatar, so you should be able to spot me good to see you again, long timei'm not here for long, i'm just trying to collect souls to bring over to the other side. sorry, didn't you know? The NPGMC forum website closed a while back  | |
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violator said: 'Mean-angry' is the only way I know how to be angry. People constantly say that they can't picture me getting angry about anything. And for the most part it's true. I manage to see the little things for what they are... little things. Like, I see people get pissed about shit all the time that I couldn't ever see myself reacting to like that. But when I do get angry? I'm gonna be awful to deal with. Like, I won't be content until I get my pound of flesh. And I suppose that because it takes a lot for me to get there, I feel justified for whatever damage I do. that's exactly how it is with me too. | |
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Dave1992 said: Imago said: Dave, you're 17. Nowadays means you had a past to compare it to.
GROUP. HUG. At my age I already do have a past. Actually, even if you have been born 10 seconds ago you already have a past. But to differenciate between the past and now you need change, and the change I am talking about is possible, believe it or not, at my age. I used to raise my voice and get physical, now I don't anymore. What's so wrong with that? I bet you peed your pants until a certain age, let's say 3? Back then you would have said: "I used to pee my pants, nowadays I don't anymore." I don't think one needs 30 years of experience to realise that it's absolutely senseless to raise one's voice in anger. At least I didn't. I was an angry child too! For absolutely no really good reason sometimes. It really doesn't take much for me. And it takes some whopping control if I have a reason.... | |
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Imago said: The funny thing is that I don't "blank" out and end up not realizing what I say or do. I very much realize what I'm saying or doing as I'm lashing out at somebody. I very much know at that very moment that I'm hurting them. but it's like an itch I can't get rid of unless I scratch at it mercilessly. What I truly hate about this is that I consider it a sign of immaturity. I would never do it to my family, and certainly never to my nephews. So, obviously, I have some self-control over destructive forms of expression. Yet, I allow myself to be a complete ass when I shouldn't. Oh God can I relate to this. Especially the bold part.  Sometimes I hold my tongue, all the while knowing that it's futile because it's gonna come out sooner or later. Especially if it's, like, a really witty or spot-on mean thing. I just cannot keep the cuckoo in the clock for long once my temper's been heated to the boiling point.
Hopefully you and I will never get really mad at each other![Edited 12/11/09 14:38pm] | |
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PunkMistress said: I just cannot keep the cuckoo in the clock for long
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I have to agree, yes, this is another ugly side to you, Imago. | |
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RodeoSchro said: And yes, I get "mean-angry". But I found out that's a by-product of diabetes.
When my blood sugar is very low or very high, I will have mood swings. Any other time I really don't get black out angry. I do get very annoyed at stupid people though. | |
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JustErin said: For the first time in like 5 years I saw a dude that I actually want to get to know last night. We had a little moment, I'm totally going back to where he works this weekend to see what comes of it.
Finally someone new and intriguing. When u least expect it Erin!  ~~~~~ Oh that voice...incredible....there should be a musical instrument called George Michael... ~~~~~ | |
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i'm small like a Keebler elf. when i get mad, it just amuses people, which makes me even more angry.
'look at the little man getting angry, hahaha' i wish i could be intimidating... everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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I usually internalize my anger for long periods of time. When I let loose it's usually at a member of my family and I can say some pretty fucked up things. Don't physically strike out at them, but words can be just as painful you know.
Usually after a short period of time apologies happen and all is forgiven; I am loved. I believe I behave this way because of childhood events, however it doesn't make it right. Believe this ties in to another thread regarding therapy...  | |
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Maybe take anger management classes? 
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moderator^^^Good thought. Ever wonder why the therapists never recommend these things? | |
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..like dogs in a damn kennel... ...
if i knew my temper patterns, i'd probably be less bitchy. THE B EST BE YOURSELF AS LONG AS YOUR SELF ISNT A DYCK[/r]
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Imago said: Do any of you guys get 'mean-angry' ?
Not anymore,,,,I alienated enough good people with this dumb 'mean-angry' bullshit that could've been handled differently. I didn't take anger management though, I used the good ol' "mind block" button  time and energy consuming.
BUT don't believe the "anger doesn't solve anything, it escalate it" cliche,,,,,sometimes, anger is the ONLY way to solve an issue. I hate it when people view it negatively and resort instead into passive-aggressiveness which is worse, ALOT WORSE. | |
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Cinnie said: I have to agree, yes, this is another ugly side to you, Imago.
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johnart said: I don't really believe in the "blanking" out. I think that's an excuse. People know they're saying when they're trying to be hurtful. There's intent and purpose.
[Edited 12/11/09 5:56am] Not for me, no 
If I'm trying to burn bridges with some people, then I tend to think very carefully with what I say ,,,,but sometimes unfortunately, I sincerely blank out and say stuff that I don't mean to say. Its a case of excessive honesty, if you will. | |
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whistle said: i'm small like a Keebler elf. when i get mad, it just amuses people, which makes me even more angry.
'look at the little man getting angry, hahaha' i wish i could be intimidating... This is cute | |
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PricelessHo said: violator said: 'Mean-angry' is the only way I know how to be angry. People constantly say that they can't picture me getting angry about anything. And for the most part it's true. I manage to see the little things for what they are... little things. Like, I see people get pissed about shit all the time that I couldn't ever see myself reacting to like that. But when I do get angry? I'm gonna be awful to deal with. Like, I won't be content until I get my pound of flesh. And I suppose that because it takes a lot for me to get there, I feel justified for whatever damage I do. that's exactly how it is with me too. It figures, you're a scorpio 
Not to stereotype, but everytime I see a scorpio guy, I sense a "small waters, run deep" vibe from them  its aaaaalways the mellow mofos who get destructive without repair.
I know what I'm talking about - because I'm one of those "mellow ones"(libra though, not scorpio). | |
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I'm a Scorpio too.... | |
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ufoclub said: Lately my temper has been SATANIC.
That's hot. |
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welcome to the human race Dan. I think we've all done this one time or another.
It could be a defense mechanism, because you don't feel comfortable saying "what you just did/said really hurt me!"....so instead you lash back with a cutting comment. | |
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