independent and unofficial
Prince fan community
Welcome! Sign up or enter username and password to remember me
Forum jump
Forums > General Discussion > I still find it hard to control my temper.
« Previous topic  Next topic »
Page 2 of 4 <1234>
  New topic   Printable     (Log in to 'subscribe' to this topic)
Reply #30 posted 12/11/09 6:56am

Lammastide

avatar

I can get "mean angry," I guess, but hardly ever in an explosive way. My wrath is more like a slow carbon monoxide leak. lol I don't go off on folk, then, so much as plan for something really unpleasant to happen.

The good part is I usually have time to talk myself out of holding a grudge. The bad is when I can't, I have zero room to deny to myself that I was a lucid, calculated prick.
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #31 posted 12/11/09 6:59am

johnart

avatar

Lammastide said:

I can get "mean angry," I guess, but hardly ever in an explosive way. My wrath is more like a slow carbon monoxide leak. lol I don't go off on folk, then, so much as plan for something really unpleasant to happen.

The good part is I usually have time to talk myself out of holding a grudge. The bad is when I can't, I have zero room to deny to myself that I was a lucid, calculated prick.


But you're so sweeeet. pout hug
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #32 posted 12/11/09 7:01am

Cuddles

avatar

I love saying all the shit that nobody wants to say, but needs to be said.
But I do that when I not pissed. I don't typically get pissed. Maybe thats why. neutral
To make a thief, make an owner; to create crime, create laws.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #33 posted 12/11/09 7:04am

JustErin

avatar

Cuddles said:

I love saying all the shit that nobody wants to say, but needs to be said.
But I do that when I not pissed. I don't typically get pissed. Maybe thats why. neutral


Me too. highfive
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #34 posted 12/11/09 7:06am

JustErin

avatar

For the first time in like 5 years I saw a dude that I actually want to get to know last night. We had a little moment, I'm totally going back to where he works this weekend to see what comes of it.

Finally someone new and intriguing. biggrin
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #35 posted 12/11/09 7:09am

johnart

avatar

JustErin said:

For the first time in like 5 years I saw a dude that I actually want to get to know last night. We had a little moment, I'm totally going back to where he works this weekend to see what comes of it.

Finally someone new and intriguing. biggrin


was this for this thread? confuse
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #36 posted 12/11/09 7:10am

Genesia

avatar

johnart said:

Genesia said:



Yup. Hypoglycemia can make you act totally out of character.

My hypoglycemic "mean-angry" is usually directed at myself.


I once went cookoo for cocoa puffs when my sugar dropped dangerously low due to a medical treatment and when my mom tried to "snap" me out of it with a slap I slapped her back boxed. I'd never in my life been restrained to a stretcher/bed. It was all kinds of fucked up. Part of me could tell some nonsensical shit was coming out my mouth but oops there it went and I could not stop it. Then I called Ron from my hospital bed when my sugar dropped again a few days later with an elaborate plan on how to break me out to go to a drag show. neutral Ok, that part sounds like something I'd actually do redface but I was once again talkin crazy shit. A nurse had to come in and straddle me (yes straddle) and shove some urrrrnj juice in me.

But medical reasons are different. Some people just wanna be mean fucks and then be all "oh, I couldn't help myself". Bulllllshit. No.


nod

When I was in college, I discovered that there was one combination guaranteed to produce a screaming, crying, "I might as well just jump out that window" hypoglycemic episode - alcohol, caffeine and sugar on an empty stomach. Scared the crap out of my roommate a couple times before I realized what triggered it.

I started keeping some snacky-type food in our room for emergencies and told my friends, "I'm really going to try to avoid this in the future. But if you ever see that coming on - just feed me."
We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #37 posted 12/11/09 7:14am

JustErin

avatar

johnart said:

JustErin said:

For the first time in like 5 years I saw a dude that I actually want to get to know last night. We had a little moment, I'm totally going back to where he works this weekend to see what comes of it.

Finally someone new and intriguing. biggrin


was this for this thread? confuse


No. sad

That's what you get for working and orging.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #38 posted 12/11/09 7:14am

Dave1992

I hate being angry. However, if I get angry it's kind of like you described it. I'm always in full control of my body and thoughts and my calmness is nearly provoking, but I can use some very degrading things to say, which I am not happy about. I never swear - I'm the last one to simply call someone "Asshole!", because I just don't think it's any use, but I get really personal and start talking about the things that really hurt that person - complexes, reasons for childish, stupid behaviour, ... I kind of let them see why I am "superior" not getting down to their level, yelling and swearing. But this can be even more asshole-ish and hurtful, I guess.


I blame my mother. When we would "argue" and I had the perfect words to explain (and excuse) my behaviour and the perfect words to suggest what she could have done better (not blame!) she just wouldn't listen. She would start playing that "I am superior, I am older, I am stronger, I am louder"-game and I think that is what made me lose so much confidence in honest communication. As I got older I just realised that my honesty were no use, so I joined in and also started not talking to her for weeks, raising my voice or even getting physical.


Looking back, I feel very sorry. But some people just don't seem to leave you any choice but to get angry.

Nowadays I only get upset about people's stupidity. I absolutely hate stupid people who can't listen and who act without thinking about the whole situation first. And when a little smart-ass like me comes along, teaching them about how to correctly solve a problem... well, war has begun. lol
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #39 posted 12/11/09 7:14am

johnart

avatar

Genesia said:

johnart said:



I once went cookoo for cocoa puffs when my sugar dropped dangerously low due to a medical treatment and when my mom tried to "snap" me out of it with a slap I slapped her back boxed. I'd never in my life been restrained to a stretcher/bed. It was all kinds of fucked up. Part of me could tell some nonsensical shit was coming out my mouth but oops there it went and I could not stop it. Then I called Ron from my hospital bed when my sugar dropped again a few days later with an elaborate plan on how to break me out to go to a drag show. neutral Ok, that part sounds like something I'd actually do redface but I was once again talkin crazy shit. A nurse had to come in and straddle me (yes straddle) and shove some urrrrnj juice in me.

But medical reasons are different. Some people just wanna be mean fucks and then be all "oh, I couldn't help myself". Bulllllshit. No.


nod

When I was in college, I discovered that there was one combination guaranteed to produce a screaming, crying, "I might as well just jump out that window" hypoglycemic episode - alcohol, caffeine and sugar on an empty stomach. Scared the crap out of my roommate a couple times before I realized what triggered it.

I started keeping some snacky-type food in our room for emergencies and told my friends, "I'm really going to try to avoid this in the future. But if you ever see that coming on - just feed me."


BTW that was the first and last time I ever raised a hand to my mother and you KNOW I never lived that shit down.
hrmph
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #40 posted 12/11/09 7:15am

Lammastide

avatar

hmmm Wow. I'd never heard about the blood sugar thing. Makes perfect sense, I guess.
Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #41 posted 12/11/09 7:16am

Genesia

avatar

johnart said:

Genesia said:



nod

When I was in college, I discovered that there was one combination guaranteed to produce a screaming, crying, "I might as well just jump out that window" hypoglycemic episode - alcohol, caffeine and sugar on an empty stomach. Scared the crap out of my roommate a couple times before I realized what triggered it.

I started keeping some snacky-type food in our room for emergencies and told my friends, "I'm really going to try to avoid this in the future. But if you ever see that coming on - just feed me."


BTW that was the first and last time I ever raised a hand to my mother and you KNOW I never lived that shit down.
hrmph


hug
We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #42 posted 12/11/09 7:17am

johnart

avatar

Genesia said:

johnart said:



BTW that was the first and last time I ever raised a hand to my mother and you KNOW I never lived that shit down.
hrmph


hug

Bitch had me in restraints with the quickness! lol
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #43 posted 12/11/09 7:18am

Genesia

avatar

johnart said:

Genesia said:



hug

Bitch had me in restraints with the quickness! lol


So ultimately...you had a good time. shrug
We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #44 posted 12/11/09 7:20am

MIGUELGOMEZ

It takes a lot for me to get truly angry. When I do, I become very quiet, digest what I've heard and then talk about it. When I talk about it though I'm pretty shaky and I get angry all over again.
MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits"
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #45 posted 12/11/09 7:21am

johnart

avatar

Genesia said:

johnart said:


Bitch had me in restraints with the quickness! lol


So ultimately...you had a good time. shrug


brick
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #46 posted 12/11/09 7:22am

Genesia

avatar

johnart said:

Genesia said:



So ultimately...you had a good time. shrug


brick


Ow! Bitch. mad

lol
We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #47 posted 12/11/09 7:46am

Imago

JustErin said:

For the first time in like 5 years I saw a dude that I actually want to get to know last night. We had a little moment, I'm totally going back to where he works this weekend to see what comes of it.

Finally someone new and intriguing. biggrin


I am almost absolutely certain this was meant to be an orgnote or posted on some other thread.

Otherwise, I'm just not following this thread as thoroughly as I need to. lol
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #48 posted 12/11/09 7:46am

RenHoek

avatar

moderator

nah, I have to bottle it up within... in Oakland if you such much as fart angry you could catch a lead shower... confused
A working class Hero is something to be ~ Lennon
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #49 posted 12/11/09 7:47am

Imago

IstenSzek said:

i can't get truly angry. ever. my anger always internalises
into selfdestructive behaviour.

which is just as much a problem i guess.

i did a role play about this with a psychologist a few times
and at the end of the session i sensed that he was angry and
i was still in my "oh, yes, you're being mean to me, well,
that's life"

lol

You. are. my. bitch.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #50 posted 12/11/09 8:11am

JustErin

avatar

Imago said:

JustErin said:

For the first time in like 5 years I saw a dude that I actually want to get to know last night. We had a little moment, I'm totally going back to where he works this weekend to see what comes of it.

Finally someone new and intriguing. biggrin


I am almost absolutely certain this was meant to be an orgnote or posted on some other thread.

Otherwise, I'm just not following this thread as thoroughly as I need to. lol


I already admitted it was posted here in error. It was for the random thread.

JESUS MOTHER FUCKING CHRIST! CAN'T A BITCH MAKE A SIMPLE MISTAKE????


Phew, ok...I feel better now.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #51 posted 12/11/09 8:14am

Imago

Dave1992 said:

I hate being angry. However, if I get angry it's kind of like you described it. I'm always in full control of my body and thoughts and my calmness is nearly provoking, but I can use some very degrading things to say, which I am not happy about. I never swear - I'm the last one to simply call someone "Asshole!", because I just don't think it's any use, but I get really personal and start talking about the things that really hurt that person - complexes, reasons for childish, stupid behaviour, ... I kind of let them see why I am "superior" not getting down to their level, yelling and swearing. But this can be even more asshole-ish and hurtful, I guess.


I blame my mother. When we would "argue" and I had the perfect words to explain (and excuse) my behaviour and the perfect words to suggest what she could have done better (not blame!) she just wouldn't listen. She would start playing that "I am superior, I am older, I am stronger, I am louder"-game and I think that is what made me lose so much confidence in honest communication. As I got older I just realised that my honesty were no use, so I joined in and also started not talking to her for weeks, raising my voice or even getting physical.


Looking back, I feel very sorry. But some people just don't seem to leave you any choice but to get angry.

Nowadays I only get upset about people's stupidity. I absolutely hate stupid people who can't listen and who act without thinking about the whole situation first. And when a little smart-ass like me comes along, teaching them about how to correctly solve a problem... well, war has begun. lol

Dave, you're 17.
Nowadays means you had a past to compare it to. hug


GROUP. HUG. hug
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #52 posted 12/11/09 8:15am

Imago

JustErin said:

Imago said:



I am almost absolutely certain this was meant to be an orgnote or posted on some other thread.

Otherwise, I'm just not following this thread as thoroughly as I need to. lol


I already admitted it was posted here in error. It was for the random thread.

JESUS MOTHER FUCKING CHRIST! CAN'T A BITCH MAKE A SIMPLE MISTAKE????


Phew, ok...I feel better now.

I'll defer my response to fauxie eek

He always seems to know what to say at moments like this. lol
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #53 posted 12/11/09 8:15am

Imago

mcmeekle said:

Imago said:

....I'll be back in 30-40 minutes.

Please don't post anything stupid in the meantime.

Oh, ok, I'll wait til you get back....

whistling

lol !!!
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #54 posted 12/11/09 8:20am

Imago

Lammastide said:

I can get "mean angry," I guess, but hardly ever in an explosive way. My wrath is more like a slow carbon monoxide leak. lol I don't go off on folk, then, so much as plan for something really unpleasant to happen.

The good part is I usually have time to talk myself out of holding a grudge. The bad is when I can't, I have zero room to deny to myself that I was a lucid, calculated prick.

Well, this totally explains the shit you do to my threads.



GROUP. HUG. grouphug
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #55 posted 12/11/09 8:31am

connorhawke

avatar

Nah I don't get mean angry at all. I'm one of those people that when I get angry I go all ICE cold and spew nothing but logic. Some people find it terrifying because they know yelling and screaming will get them nowhere.

Ice bitch don't budge lol
"...and If all of this Love Talk ends with Prince getting married to someone other than me, all I would like to do is give Prince a life size Purple Fabric Cloud Guitar that I made from a vintage bedspread that I used as a Christmas Tree Skirt." Tame, Feb
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #56 posted 12/11/09 9:17am

JerseyKRS

avatar

I'm a mean SOB when pushed.


I just wanna be a lover, though. sigh


  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #57 posted 12/11/09 9:21am

Cinnie

Dave1992 said:

I hate being angry. However, if I get angry it's kind of like you described it. I'm always in full control of my body and thoughts and my calmness is nearly provoking, but I can use some very degrading things to say, which I am not happy about. I never swear - I'm the last one to simply call someone "Asshole!", because I just don't think it's any use, but I get really personal and start talking about the things that really hurt that person - complexes, reasons for childish, stupid behaviour, ... I kind of let them see why I am "superior" not getting down to their level, yelling and swearing. But this can be even more asshole-ish and hurtful, I guess.


I blame my mother. When we would "argue" and I had the perfect words to explain (and excuse) my behaviour and the perfect words to suggest what she could have done better (not blame!) she just wouldn't listen. She would start playing that "I am superior, I am older, I am stronger, I am louder"-game and I think that is what made me lose so much confidence in honest communication. As I got older I just realised that my honesty were no use, so I joined in and also started not talking to her for weeks, raising my voice or even getting physical.


Looking back, I feel very sorry. But some people just don't seem to leave you any choice but to get angry.

Nowadays I only get upset about people's stupidity. I absolutely hate stupid people who can't listen and who act without thinking about the whole situation first. And when a little smart-ass like me comes along, teaching them about how to correctly solve a problem... well, war has begun. lol


Maybe your just
like your mother?

She's never satisfied (whistle she's never satisfied)
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #58 posted 12/11/09 9:27am

violator

Imago said:

I don't get angry often. As a matter of fact, it's been a while since I've
been REALLY angry.

But when I do get angry, I end up saying and doing very hurtful things.

The funny thing is that I don't "blank" out and end up not realizing what
I say or do. I very much realize what I'm saying or doing as I'm lashing
out at somebody. I very much know at that very moment that I'm hurting them.

but it's like an itch I can't get rid of unless I scratch at it mercilessly.
What I truly hate about this is that I consider it a sign of immaturity.
I would never do it to my family, and certainly never to my nephews. So,
obviously, I have some self-control over destructive forms of expression.

Yet, I allow myself to be a complete ass when I shouldn't. Today, I had
an opportunity to pretty much tear someone to shreds, but opted not to
due to time and the fact that I had a lot of other things to think about.

But thinking back on the moment earlier today, I came to realize that it
was never anything worth escalating to that level anyways. It was all ego
stroking and my sticking to rigid principles instead of being flexible.

The conversation earlier with this person could have gone very very badly
if I had chosen to.

I think I'll meditate on this a while and figure out what's going on in my
brain. Obviously, I have some growing up to do.


Do any of you guys get 'mean-angry' ?


'Mean-angry' is the only way I know how to be angry. People constantly say that they can't picture me getting angry about anything. And for the most part it's true. I manage to see the little things for what they are... little things. Like, I see people get pissed about shit all the time that I couldn't ever see myself reacting to like that. But when I do get angry? I'm gonna be awful to deal with. Like, I won't be content until I get my pound of flesh. And I suppose that because it takes a lot for me to get there, I feel justified for whatever damage I do.
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Reply #59 posted 12/11/09 9:46am

MagnificentPen
tatonic

XxAxX said:

RodeoSchro said:

And yes, I get "mean-angry". But I found out that's a by-product of diabetes.



eek hmmm


are you on Facebook?
  - E-mail - orgNote - Report post to moderator
Page 2 of 4 <1234>
  New topic   Printable     (Log in to 'subscribe' to this topic)
« Previous topic  Next topic »
Forums > General Discussion > I still find it hard to control my temper.