I have a friend named Leesa that I have known for many many years. We have hung out together, gone clubbing together etc...
Anyway the week MJ died I ran into her in the shopping mall and she was telling me out her "online" boyfriend Anyway as she is telling me about this guy and says she hasnt seen him yet, the next words out of her mouth were " I just hope he's White" WTF?????
U should have seen my face and I demanded to know what the Hell difference that made
So she says " Oh I dont mean anything bad, Its just the English In me" wtf???
I proceeded to get even more annoyed as I was saying that my Great Grandmother was English and I sure as Hell would NEVER think like that!!! Then she tried to backtrack with "Oh Chilli u know I've dated men of all kinds" Since when because come to think of it Ive never seen it " I just prefer white men"
All I could say was " Leesa I can't have this conversation with u anymore. I have to go." It was that or smack her upside the head.
As I walked off I couldn't help wondering what the Hell she thinks of me and her friend Shamita. I havent had any contact with her since, I dont think I will ever look at her the same again

Have u guys ever had someone u thought u knew say or do something that made u

Wow that's pretty fucked-up .

Serious said:

I know I was going to go to an MJ tribute night with her that weekend but I never bothered after that

grief

Yeah and I know the feeling .....people are always doing the unexpected or opposite of what they have lead me to believe or think

It has nothing to do with her being English, she is just ignorant.
If that is something that is that important to her then she should already know that about him.

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ocean said:

It really sucks dosent it U put ure faith in someone, think u know them and then they blow u out of the water

MrsMdiver said:

Well yes that too. She goes on this second life site and acts like its the real thing as it is

chillichocaholic said:

That sounds just as crazy as meeting someone on the org.

MrsMdiver said:

No, U knew what Phil looked like because lets face it, we are all such photwhores

chillichocaholic said:

oh boy

chillichocaholic said:

The funny thing is....tbh, when I started to flirt with him, I did not know what he looked like. I had only seen him in his leathers and helmet. I was only teasing when I flirted, I was not serious. I was not hip to GD (I hung out in P&R) and did not know much about him. I thought he was some young punk kid.
It was not until after we started chatting through orgnote that I found out what he looked like.
Once I got to know him, I did not care what he looked like. When I found out, that was just a bonus.
Blonde hair and blue eyes was never my thing.

ZombieKitten said:

Wait til he get a look at her because she is NO-THING...and I mean NOTHING like her character

MrsMdiver said:

Awww thats so....Mills and Boon and Romantic

chillichocaholic said:

It just goes to show that if you limit yourself to just looking at ppl that you think are your type, you might miss out.
I guess for some looks are all that matter, for some it is more than that.


If you have strong preferences then you better find them out before calling someone your boyfriend.
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chillichocaholic said:

that's why I'm laughing!!!

ZombieKitten said:

chillichocaholic said:

is this her?


maybe this is him!

MrsMdiver said:

When I see a person I know immediately if that is a person I could fall in love with or not. I am very sure I will never fall in love with somebody who is not my type at all. No matter how nice that person might be, if the physical attraction is not there, then it doesn't make any sense. So I guess I am one of the people who go by looks . But not in the sense that I want a beautiful person by society's standards, but one I feel attracted to because of the way he looks, smiles, moves, laughs, dresses, talks.

ZombieKitten said:

She's very short, very stocky, a troll doll face, huuuge booobs and really long blond hair Her avi is tall and slim and is a hostess in one of the nightclubs on that site
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Serious said:

I learned to never say never.

MrsMdiver said:

I am very different from you.

I was in a relationship with someone who I didn't fall in love at first sight, so that was a huge thing already . Although I remember that at one of our very first meetings I thought that the girl who'd end up with him would be really lucky. Anyway I wish I would not have gone for it now looking back.
For my future I hope I will never be with someone who is not the hottest man in the world to me just because one day I'd be so lonely that I would take a nice caring man who loves me and supports me emotionally.

Serious said:

We are all different, I think we can see that by reading the threads that are here on the org.

I did spend 10 years with someone that looked and acted like someone I thought was just my type.

MrsMdiver said:

As you know I would turn down everybody even if he is 100% my type lookwise and personalitywise as I cannot imagine to be with anybody but "him". So I am a hopeless case anyway .

Serious said:

Do not make me fly back over there and smack you one.



Sorry for jacking your thread Chili.
[Edited 7/21/09 2:09am]

Okay...first...don't you think you just might be over reacting a weee bit here...like almost all of you....

My concern isn't that she "hoped" he was white so much as to why she would call him her boyfriend and has not yet seen him...heard of a camera?

I ask you this Chili...what difference does it make to you as to whom she prefers to date? Maybe I am missing something here...

Well. I guess I have to speak in defense of your friend here...and I´m not really a white, European person (well, that again depends on how you look at it).
I mean, if she´s dated non-white folks before and she simply prefers white, English men now, then that has something to do with type preference, not necessarily racism or ignorance. Maybe it´s just a type that she´s physically and especially culturally attracted to after all those phases with non-English, non-white people ?
Then again, if she´s been in contact via the internet, then she should have some idea of whether she likes him or not, I mean culturally, just from chatting alone.
Of course, this doesn´t mean that he´s physically her type.

Somehow I can relate to that because even though I would never rule out dating people from a certain background, I know very well that there are very special situations that can arise from dating people from certain backgrounds, so in that respect, your friend is just being blunt and honest about her ideas of a relationship.Nothing wrong with that.
I could elaborate on this but I´m in the middle of fixing a meal right now.

Wait a sec...I'm a little confused here.

She says that she prefers to date white men and somehow this makes her a terrible person?

I really don't see anything wrong with what she said.

JustErin said:

Exactly what I said....

pardonme4livin said:

I gotta say I'm on this side of things.
There's nothing wrong with folk having a preference. It may just have to do with physical attraction and nothing else. People are allowed those.
I know a few white women who prefer to date black men. No one thinks that's terrible in any way.
If she was talking more in terms of a cultural thing. Or in "those" people terms, I'd say it's cause for such reaction.
I'm like the United Nations when it comes to race and physical attraction , but I don't think it's fair or realistic to expect everyone to have the same tastes.

johnart said:

I agree too .... Personal preference/attraction is fine ...but its bloody odd to say u have a boyfriend and not know even these basic details .....to have seen a pic or at least asked ....
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