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Printablenoimageatall said: If you can't talk to me about some "problem" before you sleep with someone, then don't talk to me after. If you can't come to me with complaints before you go out looking, then you just needed an excuse anyway.
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moderatoreVeRsOlEsA said: I think it depends. If it was just once and it was just sex then no. If it was emotional and sexual then maybe. I guess it all depends if both people want to work it out.
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noimageatall said: If you can't talk to me about some "problem" before you sleep with someone, then don't talk to me after. If you can't come to me with complaints before you go out looking, then you just needed an excuse anyway.
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evenstar3 said: NDRU said: I can understand why someone might cheat, and I could even forgive them, but I don't think I could stay with them. That's a sign the relationship is just too broken, and though they might still be a good person, I could never trust them again.
[Edited 10/20/08 17:14pm] yup! as far as i know i've never been cheated on, but if i did that's probably how i'd approach it. I haven't either, so I don't really know how I'd react, but that's how I think I'd react. My Legacy
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Not as long as your partner brings home the person they are cheating with for both of you to share. If they don't want to share the outsider, then yeah, it's a reason to break up. Andy is a four letter word. | |
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DexMSR said: I mean...so many people put so much pressure on their relationships how does a tryst be grounds for splitting. Cheating is more than likely a cry for help so to speak. The relationship needs help...right? Go get the help and keep it moving. I would not be torn to pieces if my lady cheated. I'd examine the reasons why and try not to have that occur again.
Now if your partner were having a serious relationship outside of what you have that is different. But to have sex is not that serious when you have built a life together. Or is it? Never submit to being a cuckhold. Leave it cold. Leave it till the grave. It's all about how respectful the person is about you and the relationship. If it's disrespectful and does hurt, let the girl cut off from you completely forever. It's better to respect yourself enough to be happy without that shit! fuck em. Not. I mean. Now on the other hand, if her cheating had no visible effect at all on your relationship, meaning it didn't change your sex life or time spent with her... then that's different. that requires evaluation. My art book: http://www.lulu.com/spotl...ecomicskid
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Dude, you're an athlete. How are cheaters looked at in sports? | |
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another one who justifies cheating  .. just don't have relationships ...
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roodboi said: if I'm cheating...no
if my significant other is cheating...yes 
I kid... No, some aren't kidding with this type of thinking.. (not you personally) ..double standards... the 'I can do it' but 'she can't or else consequences' thinking .. | |
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myfavorite said: WHAT SITUATION! ! ! ! ! ! !
ya met at the club, got drunk, didn't know how to say no, or didn't want to and then ya cheated, ya had sooooo much in common.... BUt hey, sex don't matter, it was all about the connection, the chemistry, ( FOR ONE NIGHT! ! ! ) ..and Maury Povich is making a fukkin mint for thatbull shat. FUCK THAT! ! ! ! ! ! ...   | |
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my issue with cheating is this: if we're together and you are about to fuck someone else...i would imagine you have to think of me at least once before allowing penetration...
so my issue with the women who cheated on me had always been a lack of respect, i mean its not like you signed a fidelity contract, so i cant act like you were entitled to me, not really, so thats whatever...but truth be told i'd rather you just stop,call me and say you wanna see other people, and hang up...cuz honestly, even if you dont fuck him that day, it doesnt mean the oppurtunity will never arrive again...people who wanna fuck each other will yaknow? like "calm ya hot ass down and be an adult for two seconds"... truthfully before this current relationship, i really didn't have enough of a sense of self worth, to "demand" a woman be faithful to me anyway, my whole thing was lets just be straight up wit it...fuck all the bullshit....in fact STILL TO THIS DAY i only ask that if my carmen wants to sleep with someone else, to introduce me her, so at least it's not like a stranger is fucking my woman...(plus, by that point, the other one should know- im not just some sucka n*gga in the corner "being had" unbeknownced)...and then i can deal with it accordingly, but at least rest assured that she respects me enough to say what it is... shit...i may even be open to the idea of open relationships (im not even sure yet)... but with me its all about respect...i know (for a fact) that i couldn't fuck another woman without thinking about the one im with for at least a fraction of a second, and thats long enough to "pay respects" right? besides...if you shoot straight with the woman your wit, and discover that she's actually strong/intelligent enough to handle "the rules of attraction" you prob wont want any of them other bitches...they just end up looking dumb as fuck in comparison..i mean if i talk to carmen about another woman long enough, i end up realizing that i probably couldnt do all that with the other chick, regardless of what caught my eye at first... come to think of it, i coulda been fucked mad other girls by now... | |
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SirPsycho said: i mean if i talk to carmen about another woman long enough, i end up realizing that i probably couldnt do all that with the other chick,
okay correction, i can talk to any woman about any other woman i want (all i have to do is open my mouth and budge for no one) but not everyone will handle that shit like a G, and THATS what keeps me coming back | |
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i just tell my dude like this..
if u decide to put ur penis elsewhere...wrap that shit up. That dont mean we'll break up if i find out he did. But if he eats the last of the macaroni and cheese..its a done deal. Get the fuck out! | |
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DanceWme said: i just tell my dude like this..
if u decide to put ur penis elsewhere...wrap that shit up. That dont mean we'll break up if i find out he did. But if he eats the last of the macaroni and cheese..its a done deal. Get the fuck out! you better not be talkin bout that kraft bullshit | |
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SirPsycho said: DanceWme said: i just tell my dude like this..
if u decide to put ur penis elsewhere...wrap that shit up. That dont mean we'll break up if i find out he did. But if he eats the last of the macaroni and cheese..its a done deal. Get the fuck out! you better not be talkin bout that kraft bullshit | |
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DanceWme said: SirPsycho said: you better not be talkin bout that kraft bullshit so did you tell ya man we gon take a 2 hour trip to the moon and back... | |
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SirPsycho said: DanceWme said: so did you tell ya man we gon take a 2 hour trip to the moon and back... nah i told him we was gonna fuck | |
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DanceWme said: SirPsycho said: so did you tell ya man we gon take a 2 hour trip to the moon and back... nah i told him we was gonna fuck my girl | |
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SirPsycho said: ...but truth be told i'd rather you just stop,call me and say you wanna see other people, and hang up...cuz honestly, even if you dont fuck him that day, it doesnt mean the oppurtunity will never arrive again...people who wanna fuck each other will yaknow? like "calm ya hot ass down and be an adult for two seconds"...
thank you  .. a reasonable male that talks sense .. why is it so hard for folks to be honest? | |
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Flowers2 said: why is it so hard for folks to be honest?
[/b][/color]it requires courage | |
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SirPsycho said: Flowers2 said: why is it so hard for folks to be honest?
[/b][/color]it requires courage | |
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Stymie said: SirPsycho said: it requires courage I do.. the rest who want to live in fantasy denial land.. they can have the lies and the heartache that goes with it.. give me the truth.... if they want 3 wives... then they should say so.. | |
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Flowers2 said: Stymie said: motherfuckers don't want honesty, dude. for real.
I do.. the rest who want to live in fantasy denial land.. they can have the lies and the heartache that goes with it.. give me the truth.... if they want 3 wives... then they should say so.. | |
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Stymie said: Flowers2 said: I do.. the rest who want to live in fantasy denial land.. they can have the lies and the heartache that goes with it.. give me the truth.... if they want 3 wives... then they should say so.. after coming to grips with the fact that your not the baddest piece of ass on the earth?....you'd be surprised | |
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Stymie said: Flowers2 said: I do.. the rest who want to live in fantasy denial land.. they can have the lies and the heartache that goes with it.. give me the truth.... if they want 3 wives... then they should say so.. i had someone tell me he never found another woman seriously attractive when we were together, and i straight up called him a liar. pissed him off.  everyone can notice other people's attractiveness; to say that being in love is some kind of magic filter is bullshit. imo it's more that the urge to act on it is gone.  | |
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evenstar3 said: Stymie said: if the man you loved had other women turn his head, told you he found other women attractive, could you handle it?
i had someone tell me he never found another woman seriously attractive when we were together, and i straight up called him a liar. pissed him off. everyone can notice other people's attractiveness; to say that being in love is some kind of magic filter is bullshit. imo it's more that the urge to act on it is gone. | |
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Stymie said: evenstar3 said: i had someone tell me he never found another woman seriously attractive when we were together, and i straight up called him a liar. pissed him off. everyone can notice other people's attractiveness; to say that being in love is some kind of magic filter is bullshit. imo it's more that the urge to act on it is gone. so you're saying you can't handle it? | |
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SirPsycho said: Stymie said: i guess i was trying to lead to a point: if a guy finds other women attractive, there is a very real chance he could act on it. how many women can handle hearing: babe, i love you but i can't guarantee i won't cheat? that's real to me. that's honest.
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