I've never had a problem saying it, to anyone I love, whether it be familial, platonic, or romantic love. Love is too awesome of an emotion not to share, and anyone who burns you for saying it probably isn't worth loving anyway.

Moonbeam said:

I you, Ian.

Moonbeam said:

OMG, say it to me on my snapvine then!


I don't care if you mean it or not, just say it!

CarrieMpls said:

I used to think that when I was much younger..late teens/early twenties...my first tour in the Army in the late 80's was my coming out party....so I was extrememly reluctant to even say the word...

now, my feeling on the subject is quite different...

I thought you were going to refer to "L" as in "Loser".

Lothan said:

i hear u on that ..but u might risk losing out on something that's great over a pride issue

L4OATheOriginal said:

I hear that all the time from people...you might miss the one or lose out on something great by not expressing or saying it (those words) if you feel it but I can't bring myself to say the words. I don’t have a pride issue I simply can't step off that cliff again just to have my heart and love handed back to me in shards and pieces.

I'm never shy to share my love of bahts.

I LOVE BAHTS!

Lothan said:

For some women its the same way. Its not about "hidden feelings" as you put it, its about EVERYTHING about the relationship with the person your with and the length of it as well(ex. 8 years/months).

IMHO, I never tell someone "I love you" if I havent known them that long,Ive dated a few guys in the past few years, that say it(within the first few days of seeing each other). This creeps me out! It isnt about pride as some put it either. Its about whole lot of things.

But after the person that DOES actually say it, some expect it in return(like your SO you just started dating). I simply said to some guys," I cannot say that now". Its not about being unapprieciated when not said in return(especially to someone new your seeing). IMHO, love in that perspective has to build and grow.

To tell your kids or family "I love you" is COMPLETELY different!

i don't mind using the "L" word, but i do use it somewhat sparingly, because i want it to mean something when i say it. sometimes i prefer letting my actions say the "L" word for me, because i think that can sometimes mean more than just spitting out a word. when people run around saying they love everything all the time, i dunno, it cheapens the word for me a little.

I used to detest hearing the L word either in the throes of hawt wild sex....or immediately after....tends to be a mood killer if you both know that it isn't really that serious....

...or if it is for one and not the other..... can you say "awkward"?

Anxiety said:

I think it can, but it depends on the intent. I say it to my mother and my niece every time I talk to them. Cause I do, and I don't ever want them to forget that and should anything ever happen to them or me, I'd like to think that the last thing I said to them was "I love you".
I don't think that makes it cheap.

CarrieMpls said:

no, that's fine. but like people i work with, if i do something they like and they're like "oh wow I LOVE YOU for doing that!"

shut up. no you don't.

Anxiety said:

OK. now I got ya.

statuesqque said:

i understand that so my suggestion would b, only say it if u truly mean it

L4OATheOriginal said:

I do or I did

I thought this was about how guys have no interest in the tv show.