retina said:

here i thought i was answering the question for myself. she asked "would you ever swing?" i answered, "no, not a snowballs chance in hell would i swing." did i ever say once that i judged other people for it? maybe you're reflecting your own feelings back on yourself . . .


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MarieLouise said:

I wasn't referring to you MarieLouise. You made one of the few sensible comments on this thread...although I think what is "natural" is relative and individual.

Swinging is basically having an open relationship where both are allowed to have sex with others. Some do it in an organized way, such as at a swingers club, others do it in the privacy of their own home.
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fantasyislander said:

No you didn't, but like I said in the last sentence of my previous post, the subtext speaks volumes. But yeah - I admit that your post wasn't too bad in and of itself. It was mostly the overall lynching atmosphere on this thread that made me react. Plus lilmissmissy's over-the-top comments.

fuck this computer edit. I've tried to retype my answer three times and couldn't post it. I guess I just need to stay out of the discussion...
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retina said:

thank you!


oh and to you too!

Reply to 'If You Get Married Or Are In A Relationship Would Ya Swing'

Sure why not. No. She would in a hurry.
That love in Marriage and all. It's the best thing that happens to you.
And the most emotional you will ever endeavor.
Only for the true of heart. It's worth it. To mess it up on a fling is not.

No no no no no never


I believe that I am the very last monogamous homo left in existance

retina said:

The changing of my original answer from "no" to a "Hell no!" is indicative of how strongly I feel against such a thing, myself. After thinking about my original answer, I reflected on what it would mean to my marriage and then edited to make my position on the matter even stronger. That answer in itself could hardly be construed as passing judgement on others.

As far as the "making Jesus cry" picture, that was meant as a little humor but with also a grain of truth to it as well. Are you condoning such behavior? I mean, that type of behavior is not natural, and as such it is forbidden by many religions. Pardon me for having some religious morals.

Zelaira said:

Fetish parties are not about swinging. Some people may be picking-up partners there for that purpose, but - if so - they are definitely in the minority. Public fetish nights are basically the same as any club night, except there is a dress code and a "play" area with equipment; there is no actual sex happening at these events.

And, no, I don't believe open relationships work.

Ace said:

We used to have them here in Tampa. Interesting, but the music always sucked ass.

For good swingers clubs, one has to drive from here to Ft. Luaderdale. ALthough Tampa has them, FT. Lauderdale is swinger utopia.

I'm not personally comfortable with the whole notion of swinging (I'm a jealous man), but whatever floats their boat.

Hell No.

LleeLlee said:

we know you don't mean that.

LleeLlee said:

Does this mean our threeway with Kate Moss is off?

AsianBomb777 said:

I think nothing fucks up a relationship quicker. imo.

and i just find it a bit

Ace said:

Zel seems to be up for it.

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I was watching the Tyra Banks show (yes I know ) anyhow, she had this couple on where one of the partners wanted to give her boyfriend a free pass to date other people for the day. So she went out on a date with a guy and he went out on a date with this girl and they filmed it all. Then they sit on Tyra's sofa discussing the whole experience. The guy and his date got along so well, that the girlfriend who instigated the free pass regreted she had ever come up with the idea. Anyhow, then he dumps his regualr girlfriend on national television and says that he didnt think he could go back to his girlfriend and resume the relationship. She was gutted. But it was her idea in the first place.


Remember, it was a "date" and not just two friends going out, so in that context nothing is off limits, including sex.

I think the guy felt resentful that she had instigated this and ultimately he was unable to get over it.

Maybe it works for some, i dont know,

LleeLlee said:

This is my opinion: Eventually, given time, a man will always stray.

She literally gave him a free pass to stray though and it backfired on her.

LleeLlee said:

Even if she didn't all he would have needed was an oppurnitty to do it.
Perhaps at work, with a female coworker that he hits it off with. Perhaps at the gym. Perhaps in passing--but it was eventual.

AsianBomb777 said:

Much better.

VoicesCarry said:

Yes, but I postulate that givent the right cirumstances, all men except David Hasselhoff will stray.

AsianBomb777 said:

Not true.

AsianBomb777 said:

You dont think he felt at all resentful about the whole thing? I do. Tyra kept asking him and he said no, but you could see it on his whole face

Men are less likely to forgive a straying partner than a woman is, yes i know, sweeping generalisation, but still...

LleeLlee said:

Personally I don't. I think alot of men jump at the chance of "playing" around. We're not so much polygomists, as serial monogamist. That's why he dumped his girlfriend for the new one--instead, of just hoping to have a little something on the side.

AsianBomb777 said:

But why dump her on T.V in front of millions? (okay maybe only thousands, considering how many people probably watch this show )

His ego/pride had been dented and he was resentful, and thats why he dumped her, and not just because he fancied the other woman, imo.

retina said:

Judgemental- and you're not being judgemental?

Didn't you just say we are all entitled to decide on how we as each person decide to live their sex livez?

So i say it'z fucked up.

I say it'z fucked up because a marriage is about two people and that'z the way- in my opinion- it should be. LOL a swinger'z lifestyle is not a family lifestyle. There are far more hotter wayz 2 liven up sex between two people without needing to add extras to it! That'z all! That'z all there is!

I wouldn't do it. It just opens the door to so many things and if the partner isn't secure in themselves or the relationship then it'll be hell on earth and who wants that?

Boy,this crowd on here is so CONSERVATIVE... MANY COUPLES YOUNG and OLD SWING to TRY something Fun and New...What Squares... I Certainly WOULD! WHY NOT?

AsianBomb777 said:

Wrong.

retina said:

Freaky people don't like being out-freaked.