Anxiety said:

But you could, at any given moment, and without warning. That, frankly, is a thought that sends waves of sadness through my entire body, given our new found friendship and all, and given said friendship's 'special' nature.

Fauxie said:

What do you consider zazen?

starkitty said:

Anything done with economy but complete, undiluted, undistracted application.

a big.....

Fauxie said:

Specifically, the practice of meditation. Self help bullshit?

starkitty said:

Well of course, but you don't just consider sitting down cross-legged to be the only form of meditation do you?

Self-help bullshit? I mean books that supposedly help you with relationships and make you over-analyse everything to the point of losing all spontaneity and instinct.

sorry, i have to add this one... family morals and values #2

Honesty/integrity #1

Sexual performance #6

Ambition/financial capability #7

Kindness (includes ability to care, thoughtfulness, physical warmth etc.) #3

Intelligence #5

Humour #4

Physical appearance #8

nakedpianoplayer said:

But the format!!!

They're all important to me, except for ambition/financial capability.

TypoMarx said:

what did i do wrong ???

JoeyMFinCoco said:

Be specific!

I've bought all the boxes already and I need to put you in one!

nakedpianoplayer said:

You meddled with my ability to tally.

It's ok. My enthusiasm won't last long enough to get to that part anyway.

TypoMarx said:

lol...

nakedpianoplayer said:

God, I'm so overexposed on the org right now. I need a break before I get booted out.

1A) Kindness (includes ability to care, thoughtfulness, physical warmth etc.)... It all starts with her heart and soul

1B) Honesty/integrity...strength of character is hugely attractive

1C) Humour...life becomes easier when she's making me smile

Intelligence...inspire and challenge me

Ambition/financial capability...it's wonderful to watch my lover attain her goals

Sexual performance...I'm far, far more into pleasing her, and the intimacy we share will cause her to become uninhibited anyway

Physical appearance...all of the above will make her beautiful in my eyes

Byron said:

Excellent answers and very similar to my own, had I posted them.

TypoMarx said:

It's the only form I do, well, that and kinhin and I'm pretty new to it so I make no assumptions on other forms. Also, self help books are called that for a reason, and I think they do a lot of people a lot of good. Just a thought.


That said, I don't look for shit. I let it find me.

starkitty said:

What's kinhin? I've never heard of it.

I find tasks like ironing to be a form of meditation. Just thought I'd add that.

Perhaps self-help books do help people and I'm just an old cynic. I just file them with Sex and The City.

My #1 would be trust but you didn't list that. After trust I would put it in this order:



Honesty/integrity

Kindness (includes ability to care, thoughtfulness, physical warmth etc.)

Intelligence

Ambition/financial capability

Humour

Physical appearance

Sexual performance
[Edited 8/17/05 6:23am]

CarrieLee said:

I knew I'd miss something! I guess I'd put that with honesty/integrity if anything.

Honesty/integrity 2

Sexual performance 6

Ambition/financial capability Those are two seperate things! But since ambition is in there: 5

Kindness (includes ability to care, thoughtfulness, physical warmth etc.) 1

Intelligence 3

Humour 4

Physical appearance 7

That she is strong in the first four and a half categories is crucial. The last two and a half aren't always important.

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TypoMarx said:

Alright, mine would be:


2. Honesty/integrity

7. Sexual performance

6. Ambition/financial capability

1. Kindness (includes ability to care, thoughtfulness, physical warmth etc.)

5. Intelligence

3. Humour

4. Physical appearance

TypoMarx said:

Yeah that's what I kinda figured, hence it was my #1!!!

belief in God
humor
intelligence
sexual performance
physical appearance
honesty/morals
courage and strength
and humble

nice body
lots of cash

Intelligence
Honesty/integrity
Sexual performance.

**It was hard arranging those three, but I may have gotten it right. They're all in the top spot, really.

Ambition/financial capability
humour
Kindness

Physical appearance - I can always pretend they look different if I close my eyes and think really hard.

Nero said:

that means u date ugly people...obviously

I wouldn't settle for any less than all of it (with the exception of ambition/financial capability). But, if I must rank them (keeping the long haul in mind here):


1. Honesty/integrity
2. Kindness
3. Intelligence
4. Humour
5. Physical appearance
6. Sexual performance
7. Ambition/financial capability

She has to be good looking and good in the sack, and nice and honest. How much money she makes and stuff like that is not important. The financial aspect and job aspect is more important to women.