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FUNKNROLL

Grief counseling resources

If you are struggling and feeling like you can't go on, people do care. Take care of your responsibilities and do whatever it takes to laugh more and sleep better. You may need to quit the Org for some time. Don't hesitate to contact counseling professionals or groups in your community.

If you are in crisis and considering harming yourself please call
911

Otherwise, please consider calling the National Crisis Hotline:
1 (800) 784-2433

Some of our own are still struggling to cope and they should not feel ashamed to speak up or reach out for local professional counseling services. These forums are usually a source of comfort but we have some challenges within our community. The shame and stigma others may attach to mental health may cause some to not seek the care that may make a difference. The org shouldn't be a place where people feel ashamed to speak up and ask for help.



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Reply #1 posted 10/02/16 5:12pm

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Gonna make this a sticky cool

Remember there are folks all over the world who can seek grief counsellors in their area.

Talk to a friend, family member, church.


Ignore negativity, they ain't had their + sign.

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Reply #2 posted 10/02/16 5:17pm

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Absolute best two posts on Prince.org!
"Remember when you told me that love was touching souls?" ☔️ A Case of You ☔️
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Reply #3 posted 10/02/16 5:25pm

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Awesome, so glad to see this.
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Reply #4 posted 10/02/16 5:53pm

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Great advice.

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Reply #5 posted 10/02/16 7:16pm

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Thanks for posting this! Please take care of yourselves everyone! If you ever need to talk, please feel free to send me a orgnote. You are not alone heart

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Reply #6 posted 10/02/16 7:27pm

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I'm so happy to see this.

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People need to understand that when dealing with loss and/or grief there is no "normal". "normal" is a setting on a dryer. That's it.

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The haters on here that have spoken such cruel comments to those expressing their feelings should be ashamed of themselves. No worries; I believe in karma!

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Grief is a different experience for each of us. For some, it may be the first time they've ever lost a loved one. That's what Prince was. A loved one. Many of us didn't know him personally but many of us loved him and feel a loss like a member of our family. I get it.

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If anyone needs a kind person to talk to offline message the members here that are empathatic or feel free to message me. Hugs to all.

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Reply #7 posted 10/02/16 7:38pm

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bigtimefan said:

I'm so happy to see this.

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People need to understand that when dealing with loss and/or grief there is no "normal". "normal" is a setting on a dryer. That's it.

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The haters on here that have spoken such cruel comments to those expressing their feelings should be ashamed of themselves. No worries; I believe in karma!

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Grief is a different experience for each of us. For some, it may be the first time they've ever lost a loved one. That's what Prince was. A loved one. Many of us didn't know him personally but many of us loved him and feel a loss like a member of our family. I get it.

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If anyone needs a kind person to talk to offline message the members here that are empathatic or feel free to message me. Hugs to all.

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why settle for a star when you can have the sun?
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Reply #8 posted 10/02/16 9:43pm

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FUNKNROLL said:

If you are struggling and feeling like you can't go on, people do care. Take care of your responsibilities and do whatever it takes to laugh more and sleep better. You may need to quit the Org for some time. Don't hesitate to contact counseling professionals or groups in your community.

If you are in crisis and considering harming yourself please call
911

Otherwise, please consider calling the National Crisis Hotline:
1 (800) 784-2433

Some of our own are still struggling to cope and they should not feel ashamed to speak up or reach out for local professional counseling services. These forums are usually a source of comfort but we have some challenges within our community. The shame and stigma others may attach to mental health may cause some to not seek the care that may make a difference. The org shouldn't be a place where people feel ashamed to speak up and ask for help.



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I was in a very very bad place up until around Aug. 20 th. Though I was on the org, I didn't conversate. I got on the chatroom here and some one asked me almost immediately if I had been contemplating suicide. Some how they knew how depressed I was. Though, I would never kill myself, I had wondered if I died if I would be able to see PRINCE. I was very close to committing myself to a psych ward because I could not cope with the grief. Talking in the chat room helped and then I started venting my feeling on the threads on the org . Sharing my feelings on the org had been helpful !!!! By the way, another turning point for me was on Aug 20 th , the news was released that they found fentanyl in pills marked as something else. I felt so so much better finding that out . I know some of you may have felt worse but for me, I knew something was not right with his death. I cried because I was mad but relieved at the same time that some truth has come out
🍻Happy New Year🍻
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Reply #9 posted 10/03/16 10:01am

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Thank you FUNKNROLL for this thread and everyone posting encouraging messages! biggrin Thank you luv4u for the sticky and the advice hug


DarlingKris and bigtimefan, I see and appreciate your generosity in offering your help and your time to the community touched hug


I believe safe places like this thread can only help the fams. A sense of safety promotes healing. Add to that the encouragement and company offered and that could make a huge difference to those struggling (including me).


Grief itself is not pathological. It is a very human and natural response to loss. It is a very personal journey. If you are like the many people here who are facing judgement or the lack of understanding/support from your circle, surround yourself with people who can understand and give you support.



Again, there is nothing inherently wrong with grieving. But if your grief is debilitating, if it's preventing you from functioning or otherwise causing harm to you and to others in your daily life, please consider the available resources including counselling. Reach for a piece of stable ground, and do it as an act of self-love.


Many people say that time heals. IMO it's not the passage of time that does it. Rather it is the process of grieving unfolding to its resolution, and the work that you do to facilitate your healing.



Peace to all grouphug





"Dive inside your soul if U wanna know, the light inside the darkness forever glows" (Prince, 1958 - Eternity)
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Reply #10 posted 10/03/16 11:34am

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Gadotou said:


Thank you FUNKNROLL for this thread and everyone posting encouraging messages! biggrin Thank you luv4u for the sticky and the advice hug


DarlingKris and bigtimefan, I see and appreciate your generosity in offering your help and your time to the community touched hug


I believe safe places like this thread can only help the fams. A sense of safety promotes healing. Add to that the encouragement and company offered and that could make a huge difference to those struggling (including me).


Grief itself is not pathological. It is a very human and natural response to loss. It is a very personal journey. If you are like the many people here who are facing judgement or the lack of understanding/support from your circle, surround yourself with people who can understand and give you support.



Again, there is nothing inherently wrong with grieving. But if your grief is debilitating, if it's preventing you from functioning or otherwise causing harm to you and to others in your daily life, please consider the available resources including counselling. Reach for a piece of stable ground, and do it as an act of self-love.


Many people say that time heals. IMO it's not the passage of time that does it. Rather it is the process of grieving unfolding to its resolution, and the work that you do to facilitate your healing.



Peace to all grouphug





Words of wisdom.

why settle for a star when you can have the sun?
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Reply #11 posted 10/03/16 12:01pm

DarlingKris

Before I forget again, If you don't feel comfortable talking on the phone, you can use this chatroom that I use when my depression/anxiety arises. Super helpful and there are always people to help you:

http://www.7cups.com/depression-help-online/

Forever In My Life, forever in my heart. I love you Prince Rogers Nelson heart
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Reply #12 posted 10/03/16 2:46pm

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Thank you so much for sharing this. It's so comforting to know I'm not the only one hurting so much and feeling this way. The negative people need to leave us alone and let us grieve. I have been a fan of this man for 35 years. His music has been the soundtrack to my life as I'm sure it has to many of you. It helped me through so many hard times. Then,of course there was the happy times;dancing to his music,going to his concerts and dressing up in our "Prince" clothes with our "hair on one side swept back,"seeing Purple Rain in the movie theater and dancing in the aisles then crying at the end while we swayed our hands in the air singing along to Purple Rain,etc...When I think about him or listen to his music,I hurt inside and I have cried so many times I can't count. When I listen to the song "Free" from his 1999 album,I just die.SO many people is his life have been effected deeply. To name a few; Chaka Kahn went into rehab because his death inspired her to get help. Tamaron Hall had to take off from work on her news channel because she said she was too emotional to work. Cat Glover disappeared from Facebook for a while right after his death and her assistant said she was ill, however, based on her interviews after his death,I wouldn't doubt if it was because of his death. Apollonia's letter on Facebook was heart wrenching...and obviously Sheila E and many others from his past were deeply effected. This man touched SO many lives. Both celebrities and us,the fans. I don't think this is something I will recover from overnight. We need time.

Anyways, Thank you EVERYONE for sharing your thoughts,your stories of hurt and how you are coping. BUT,most of all,thank you for the the Love,support and understanding without judgment to those of us who are grieving.xoxo

P.S.I'm new here as far as posting goes so I haven't figured out how to post a response to someone's post with the box around it. Lol, sorry.I'll get the hang of it eventually.
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Reply #13 posted 10/03/16 4:06pm

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purplethunder3121 said:

Gadotou said:


Thank you FUNKNROLL for this thread and everyone posting encouraging messages! biggrin Thank you luv4u for the sticky and the advice hug


DarlingKris and bigtimefan, I see and appreciate your generosity in offering your help and your time to the community touched hug


I believe safe places like this thread can only help the fams. A sense of safety promotes healing. Add to that the encouragement and company offered and that could make a huge difference to those struggling (including me).


Grief itself is not pathological. It is a very human and natural response to loss. It is a very personal journey. If you are like the many people here who are facing judgement or the lack of understanding/support from your circle, surround yourself with people who can understand and give you support.



Again, there is nothing inherently wrong with grieving. But if your grief is debilitating, if it's preventing you from functioning or otherwise causing harm to you and to others in your daily life, please consider the available resources including counselling. Reach for a piece of stable ground, and do it as an act of self-love.


Many people say that time heals. IMO it's not the passage of time that does it. Rather it is the process of grieving unfolding to its resolution, and the work that you do to facilitate your healing.



Peace to all grouphug





Words of wisdom.



Thank you purplethunder3121 smile I hope I'm not coming off as preachy. I learned this the hard way and put it out there in case it might help someone. I'm still coming to grips with Prince's passing myself.

"Dive inside your soul if U wanna know, the light inside the darkness forever glows" (Prince, 1958 - Eternity)
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Reply #14 posted 10/03/16 4:24pm

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1BillyJackBitch said:

Thank you so much for sharing this. It's so comforting to know I'm not the only one hurting so much and feeling this way. The negative people need to leave us alone and let us grieve. I have been a fan of this man for 35 years. His music has been the soundtrack to my life as I'm sure it has to many of you. It helped me through so many hard times. Then,of course there was the happy times;dancing to his music,going to his concerts and dressing up in our "Prince" clothes with our "hair on one side swept back,"seeing Purple Rain in the movie theater and dancing in the aisles then crying at the end while we swayed our hands in the air singing along to Purple Rain,etc...When I think about him or listen to his music,I hurt inside and I have cried so many times I can't count. When I listen to the song "Free" from his 1999 album,I just die.SO many people is his life have been effected deeply. To name a few; Chaka Kahn went into rehab because his death inspired her to get help. Tamaron Hall had to take off from work on her news channel because she said she was too emotional to work. Cat Glover disappeared from Facebook for a while right after his death and her assistant said she was ill, however, based on her interviews after his death,I wouldn't doubt if it was because of his death. Apollonia's letter on Facebook was heart wrenching...and obviously Sheila E and many others from his past were deeply effected. This man touched SO many lives. Both celebrities and us,the fans. I don't think this is something I will recover from overnight. We need time. Anyways, Thank you EVERYONE for sharing your thoughts,your stories of hurt and how you are coping. BUT,most of all,thank you for the the Love,support and understanding without judgment to those of us who are grieving.xoxo P.S.I'm new here as far as posting goes so I haven't figured out how to post a response to someone's post with the box around it. Lol, sorry.I'll get the hang of it eventually. [Edited 10/3/16 14:52pm] [Edited 10/3/16 15:01pm]


Yay you for standing up for yourself! woot! hug


If I may, and you can take this or leave this or do with it what you want - it's a big step to refuse to be judged for how you feel, or to refuse to judge yourself for how you feel. Feelings are neither wrong nor right, they just are. The only opinion on your grieving process that vitally matters is yours. Make friends with your grief. Other people can think what they think, you have no control of that anyway. But you have control of how you choose to deal with your grief.



No worries about the boxed replies! But if you really want to use that format, click on "Reply with quote" on the left hand side below the post. Otherwise, "Reply" at the left hand bottom of the page is perfectly fine wink

"Dive inside your soul if U wanna know, the light inside the darkness forever glows" (Prince, 1958 - Eternity)
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Reply #15 posted 10/03/16 4:24pm

FUNKNROLL

Gadotou said:



Many people say that time heals. IMO it's not the passage of time that does it. Rather it is the process of grieving unfolding to its resolution, and the work that you do to facilitate your healing.




Peace to all grouphug









I would add, in my own experience, time alone will not heal. Time plus new experiences is what is required. Whether it's a divorce, breaking up with a friend, death, changing jobs - putting experiences between myself and the event was necessary for healing. Going to the gym, taking up a new hobby, traveling someplace new.... basically choosing to live. The challenge has always been finding motivation and committing to maintaining a "life experience assault" on despair. Exercise helps, even if you don't enjoy it. Keep your goals simple - laugh more/sleep better. If what your doing doesn't support those goals then perhaps rethink whatever it is that is making you stressed.


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Reply #16 posted 10/03/16 6:21pm

luvsexy4all

[Snip - luv4u]

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Reply #17 posted 10/03/16 10:44pm

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luvsexy4all said:

[Snip - luv4u]

NO IT IS NOT.

For MANY of us, we have been Prince fans for most of our lives, however long or short that may have been thus far. For some of us, this is the equivilant of a close family member, spouse or life-long friend passing away. There are no words to convey the pain we feel, even though it is six months later.

We may have never spoken to him face-to-face, or seen him in person but he was a daily part of our lives and part of our who we are. I can not speak for every member here, but most of us woke up listening to Prince, or he was the last voice we heard before we slept. Even though we try to go on with our lives, there is a feeling that a piece is missing, even though the music is still there.

We all have or own ways of dealing with grief, but it is NEVER weird.


'A pillow covered in all our tears'
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Reply #18 posted 10/04/16 7:19am

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FUNKNROLL said:

If you are struggling and feeling like you can't go on, people do care. Take care of your responsibilities and do whatever it takes to laugh more and sleep better. You may need to quit the Org for some time. Don't hesitate to contact counseling professionals or groups in your community.

If you are in crisis and considering harming yourself please call
911

Otherwise, please consider calling the National Crisis Hotline:
1 (800) 784-2433

Some of our own are still struggling to cope and they should not feel ashamed to speak up or reach out for local professional counseling services. These forums are usually a source of comfort but we have some challenges within our community. The shame and stigma others may attach to mental health may cause some to not seek the care that may make a difference. The org shouldn't be a place where people feel ashamed to speak up and ask for help.



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[Edited 10/2/16 17:17pm]


Great thread!!!!
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Reply #19 posted 10/04/16 6:20pm

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Love this. Thank you. grouphug
Sometimes I wish that life was never ending, but all good things they say never last. Love it isn't love until it's past. ~RIP my Prince~
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Reply #20 posted 10/04/16 6:32pm

luvsexy4all

actionthisday said:

luvsexy4all said:

[Snip - luv4u]

NO IT IS NOT.

For MANY of us, we have been Prince fans for most of our lives, however long or short that may have been thus far. For some of us, this is the equivilant of a close family member, spouse or life-long friend passing away. There are no words to convey the pain we feel, even though it is six months later.

We may have never spoken to him face-to-face, or seen him in person but he was a daily part of our lives and part of our who we are. I can not speak for every member here, but most of us woke up listening to Prince, or he was the last voice we heard before we slept. Even though we try to go on with our lives, there is a feeling that a piece is missing, even though the music is still there.

We all have or own ways of dealing with grief, but it is NEVER weird.


HEY IVE BEEN AN AVID FOLLOER SINCE 1983...i was just saying its odd..not wrong

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Reply #21 posted 10/04/16 7:02pm

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luvsexy4all said:

actionthisday said:

NO IT IS NOT.

For MANY of us, we have been Prince fans for most of our lives, however long or short that may have been thus far. For some of us, this is the equivilant of a close family member, spouse or life-long friend passing away. There are no words to convey the pain we feel, even though it is six months later.

We may have never spoken to him face-to-face, or seen him in person but he was a daily part of our lives and part of our who we are. I can not speak for every member here, but most of us woke up listening to Prince, or he was the last voice we heard before we slept. Even though we try to go on with our lives, there is a feeling that a piece is missing, even though the music is still there.

We all have or own ways of dealing with grief, but it is NEVER weird.


HEY IVE BEEN AN AVID FOLLOER SINCE 1983...i was just saying its odd..not wrong

What can you do?

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i wish i'd never kissed your lips, bearded lady
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Reply #22 posted 10/04/16 9:05pm

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Thanks for addressing the grief issue in a real and direct way. heart

"The last 30+ years were a fantastic dream. Finally, I am awake and it's time to live in the blessed now."
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Reply #23 posted 10/05/16 9:22am

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Seem like Prince just died Yesterday... sad neutral

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Reply #24 posted 10/05/16 9:24am

luvsexy4all

AlgeriaTouchshreek said:

luvsexy4all said:

HEY IVE BEEN AN AVID FOLLOER SINCE 1983...i was just saying its odd..not wrong

What can you do?

[Edited 10/4/16 19:03pm]

keep listening ..and spreading his music..

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[Edited 10/5/16 12:13pm]

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Reply #26 posted 10/07/16 3:22am

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Guard your emotions people. Even if that means(as some people have already alluded to) stepping away from the Org, the news, Prince's music, etc. This(getting over Prince's death) is going to be a long hard road and you gotta pace yourself(what u allow yourself to be exposed to).


Me personally, all the talk(and especially the visuals) about Paisley Park(in the news), is too much for me. So, for my peace of mind, i don't watch any newscasts that show the inside of PP. Looking at all that history just brings up too many memories and that just puts me in a really bad space.



Everybody take care.

[Edited 10/7/16 3:25am]

Rest in Peace Bettie Boo. See u soon.
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Reply #27 posted 10/07/16 8:27am

pipoca

FUNKNROLL said:

If you are struggling and feeling like you can't go on, people do care. Take care of your responsibilities and do whatever it takes to laugh more and sleep better. You may need to quit the Org for some time. Don't hesitate to contact counseling professionals or groups in your community. If you are in crisis and considering harming yourself please call 911 Otherwise, please consider calling the National Crisis Hotline: 1 (800) 784-2433 Some of our own are still struggling to cope and they should not feel ashamed to speak up or reach out for local professional counseling services. These forums are usually a source of comfort but we have some challenges within our community. The shame and stigma others may attach to mental health may cause some to not seek the care that may make a difference. The org shouldn't be a place where people feel ashamed to speak up and ask for help. . [Edited 10/2/16 17:17pm]

Hello

This site was made for help Prince's fans:

http://www.thepurplemedium.com/

yes

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Reply #28 posted 10/07/16 9:24am

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pipoca said:

FUNKNROLL said:

If you are struggling and feeling like you can't go on, people do care. Take care of your responsibilities and do whatever it takes to laugh more and sleep better. You may need to quit the Org for some time. Don't hesitate to contact counseling professionals or groups in your community. If you are in crisis and considering harming yourself please call 911 Otherwise, please consider calling the National Crisis Hotline: 1 (800) 784-2433 Some of our own are still struggling to cope and they should not feel ashamed to speak up or reach out for local professional counseling services. These forums are usually a source of comfort but we have some challenges within our community. The shame and stigma others may attach to mental health may cause some to not seek the care that may make a difference. The org shouldn't be a place where people feel ashamed to speak up and ask for help. . [Edited 10/2/16 17:17pm]

Hello

This site was made for help Prince's fans:

http://www.thepurplemedium.com/

yes

You need to take your self-promoting spam elsewhere. This thread is about real grief counseling resources not chalatans preying on the grief-stricken. confused

why settle for a star when you can have the sun?
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Reply #29 posted 10/07/16 10:34am

pipoca

purplethunder3121 said:

pipoca said:

Hello

This site was made for help Prince's fans:

http://www.thepurplemedium.com/

yes

You need to take your self-promoting spam elsewhere. This thread is about real grief counseling resources not chalatans preying on the grief-stricken. confused

I'm not self-promotion! i'm from Portugal (Europe) and this site is from Minesota, i don't know the women,but when i found this site it help me a lot, without spending money!

I am not trying to "sell" some kind of religion or believes and i always try to respect all opinions that are differente from mines.

I see a lot of people in here very sad and my only intention was HELP, because there´s no another like Prince and never will be, never!

sorry for my bad english

yes

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