So sorry for your loss.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

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The loss of a Mother is huge, and while Prince's death may have been the most significant for you previously, it probably isn't now.

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Families often disagree over funeral arrangements, songs chosen, etc. It's usually just a coping mechanism. I love that song, and think it's a wonderful selection.

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Take care and hang in there.

Sorry for your loss , Both my parents have passed so i know how tough it is some hugs for you , i know not much help.

I am so sorry. Prince's death changed my relationship with my own parents, I have made an extra effort to spend time with them. I am so sorry this is happening to you.

A quick anecdote, then some advice that I've learned on my own in the same journey.

I've stated before on here that my mother hated Prince, with a passion. As much as I loved him, she hated him.

My mother passed in 2012, after a short illness. She died on April 21.

Imagine the irony this year when I woke up to the news out of Chanhassen. I sent my brother an iMessage and said, "Imagine the look on mom's face when Prince showed up this morning". He laughed and said he had the same thought.

There are three big losses in my life, and I'm 48. My mother, Prince, and one other.

I can only offer you this advice on the passing of your mom - let yourself feel. Whatever emotion comes at you, let it happen. Don't suppress it, or shove it down. It's there for a reason. Losing a parent is traumatic, and the brain is trying to right itself. Your thoughts can't process normally when there's psychological trauma. It's why we get fuzzy or sidetracked easily, or just drift off into a daydream state, in times like this.

But if you let them play out, your inner self can correct itself quicker (we're not talking overnight here or anything; "quicker" could be 5 years instead of 10, or 50 weeks instead of 52). If you're sad, be sad. If you need to cry, go cry it out. If you're feeling goofy or silly, then be silly or goofy. Play a prank on someone, or send someone a joke via email or text. If you're just mellow, be mellow. But never, ever feel guilty about what you're feeling. This is your path to walk, and no one else can, or has a right to, tell you how to walk it.

None of it is permanent, it's just the cycle of grief. Time doesn't heal anything - but we can heal ourselves if we just stay honest with our emotions.

You will eventually go plumb and find your balance again. I promise.

All the best.

jcurley said:

My mother died two weeks ago. God did she prove me wrong when I said Prince was the most significant death in my life. Anyway for her funeral I chose comeback off the Truth album to be played. It caused a huge argument but is still happening. Do you not agree it's beautiful. I'm not coping with this stuff very well. I might be using you to distract.

Bless you dear, my mother has been gone ten years and she was my best friend...my heart goes out to you.

I can't imaging losing both the same year. Please keep us posted how you are doing and we're always around when you need more distracting or comforting.

jcurley said:

My mother died two weeks ago. God did she prove me wrong when I said Prince was the most significant death in my life. Anyway for her funeral I chose comeback off the Truth album to be played. It caused a huge argument but is still happening. Do you not agree it's beautiful. I'm not coping with this stuff very well. I might be using you to distract.

One more piece of advice. Do NOT let anybody tell you what you can and cannot do for YOUR mother's service. People tried that with me and I had to politely put a few of them in their place so don't worry about that.

My thoughts are with you.

Sorry for your loss..believe me time does heal

I am so very sorry for your loss, losing a parent is painful. But just get as much rest as you can, and like babynoz said, you can do whatever you feel is right for your mother's funeral. Many blessings to you and your family at this very difficult time; I will definitely be praying for you.

TrivialPursuit said:

So sorry for your loss

Sorry to hear about your mother.

So sorry for your loss of someone so special

jcurley said:

My mother died two weeks ago. God did she prove me wrong when I said Prince was the most significant death in my life. Anyway for her funeral I chose comeback off the Truth album to be played. It caused a huge argument but is still happening. Do you not agree it's beautiful. I'm not coping with this stuff very well. I might be using you to distract.

so sorry for your loss.

Mercurybebe said:

This is Gold. Lost my mom 2.5 yrs ago and it is awful.

It's like an exclusive club that only certain people can get in, but once you're in, you can never cancel your membership.

TrivialPursuit said:

A quick anecdote, then some advice that I've learned on my own in the same journey.

I've stated before on here that my mother hated Prince, with a passion. As much as I loved him, she hated him.

My mother passed in 2012, after a short illness. She died on April 21.

Imagine the irony this year when I woke up to the news out of Chanhassen. I sent my brother an iMessage and said, "Imagine the look on mom's face when Prince showed up this morning". He laughed and said he had the same thought.

There are three big losses in my life, and I'm 48. My mother, Prince, and one other.

I can only offer you this advice on the passing of your mom - let yourself feel. Whatever emotion comes at you, let it happen. Don't suppress it, or shove it down. It's there for a reason. Losing a parent is traumatic, and the brain is trying to right itself. Your thoughts can't process normally when there's psychological trauma. It's why we get fuzzy or sidetracked easily, or just drift off into a daydream state, in times like this.

But if you let them play out, your inner self can correct itself quicker (we're not talking overnight here or anything; "quicker" could be 5 years instead of 10, or 50 weeks instead of 52). If you're sad, be sad. If you need to cry, go cry it out. If you're feeling goofy or silly, then be silly or goofy. Play a prank on someone, or send someone a joke via email or text. If you're just mellow, be mellow. But never, ever feel guilty about what you're feeling. This is your path to walk, and no one else can, or has a right to, tell you how to walk it.

None of it is permanent, it's just the cycle of grief. Time doesn't heal anything - but we can heal ourselves if we just stay honest with our emotions.

You will eventually go plumb and find your balance again. I promise.

All the best.

Just awesome.. my new hero.. very well said

jcurley said:

My mother died two weeks ago. God did she prove me wrong when I said Prince was the most significant death in my life. Anyway for her funeral I chose comeback off the Truth album to be played. It caused a huge argument but is still happening. Do you not agree it's beautiful. I'm not coping with this stuff very well. I might be using you to distract.

Praying for you at this difficult time.

I lost my mum in '97. It's tough, but like others have said, you'll get over it.

My mum didn't like Prince, she always commented that he looked like he needed a good meal.

Sorry for your loss

I am so sorry for your loss and pain - I send you big Purple Hugs xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. And yes, I do agree it's beautiful. Sending you hugs and prayers.