I can't believe Prince is dead and Ted Nugent is still alive.

alphastreet said:

isobelfq said:

Thank you for proving my point. And just so people will stop saying this, I have had a lot of therapy, years of it. Which is why I'm at a place now where I can express these feelings instead of letting them eat me up inside. Look, I started this thread because I needed to share, not because I wanted to be attacked, even though i knew that was a distinct possibility. And I was hoping there would be some people on here who would understand how I felt and not just throw religion in my face or something like that as an easy answer to a difficult solution. Thankfully some of those people have come forward. So I will say this again, before you decide to try to "point me in the right direction" THINK about what a person has to go through to feel this way about their own mother. to quote a film that used to be a favorite of mine "mother is the name of God on the hearts and lips of all children."

p.s.

I don't seem rational but religion is?

You said you've gone to therapy but have you gotten to opening up this much as you have? Just keep saying thoughts and actions are different and you can work through the anger, resentment and thoughts. Can you try writing down abusive incidents that happened in your own time and try to track what you did following them after the confrontations as much as u can remember? Your stress is clearly chronic cause it's been ongoing and you'll find there's support out there if you bring that with you and get to the root of the problem, and of course, talk about Prince too though I think you'll find as much as he's a big part of you, he was also escapism and now that's been cut short it's intense and it really sucks but you deserve to live stress free. I don't know you or your mom but what you feel won't phase her, it's more stressful on you and probably a really shitty feeling to live with, does that sound about right? [Edited 5/3/16 9:59am]

Wow. I'm not one to get involved with personal issues online but felt compelled to respond to this one. I can understand feelings of resentment towards parents. Mine were disjointed to say the least. For example, I remember how difficult I found my parents separated; it was an emotional mess. I spent alot of time back in high school thinking "I haven't done anything to deserve this" and "why me". I'm sure those who are children of divorce can relate. My mum did some things I didn't agree with (won't go into detail) and I would get frustrated with her alot. But now I'm at a place where after much heartache, conselling and reaching out for help I've learnt to forgive and move on. With each death I'm reminded that life is so precious. I choose to enjoy life rather then live in misery. My relationship with my mother was strained for a while, but I made the decision to mend it and it has given me so much relief. Now I feel alot more comfortable opening up to my mum and even though we have our disagreements, at the end of the day we're family and we look out for each other. I hope one day isobelfq you will be able to mend your broken heart and find peace.

UnpronounceableSymbol said:

alphastreet said:

isobelfq said: You said you've gone to therapy but have you gotten to opening up this much as you have? Just keep saying thoughts and actions are different and you can work through the anger, resentment and thoughts. Can you try writing down abusive incidents that happened in your own time and try to track what you did following them after the confrontations as much as u can remember? Your stress is clearly chronic cause it's been ongoing and you'll find there's support out there if you bring that with you and get to the root of the problem, and of course, talk about Prince too though I think you'll find as much as he's a big part of you, he was also escapism and now that's been cut short it's intense and it really sucks but you deserve to live stress free. I don't know you or your mom but what you feel won't phase her, it's more stressful on you and probably a really shitty feeling to live with, does that sound about right? [Edited 5/3/16 9:59am]

Wow. I'm not one to get involved with personal issues online but felt compelled to respond to this one. I can understand feelings of resentment towards parents. Mine were disjointed to say the least. For example, I remember how difficult I found my parents separated; it was an emotional mess. I spent alot of time back in high school thinking "I haven't done anything to deserve this" and "why me". I'm sure those who are children of divorce can relate. My mum did some things I didn't agree with (won't go into detail) and I would get frustrated with her alot. But now I'm at a place where after much heartache, conselling and reaching out for help I've learnt to forgive and move on. With each death I'm reminded that life is so precious. I choose to enjoy life rather then live in misery. My relationship with my mother was strained for a while, but I made the decision to mend it and it has given me so much relief. Now I feel alot more comfortable opening up to my mum and even though we have our disagreements, at the end of the day we're family and we look out for each other. I hope one day isobelfq you will be able to mend your broken heart and find peace.

I hope they can get through their issues too. By that, I don't necessarily mean be best friends, but at least work towards establishing some sense of peace and finding healthy ways to deal with the toxicity of the relationship

I'm sorry that you had to go through all that and I totally understand that everyone is lashing out because of Prince's passing, but forgiveness is very important. You can forgive, but you can't forget. With that being said, my mom passed away when I was 16 years old and after that, my dad became very emotionally abusive towards me and even now I'm trying to find a way out but its hard. I forgive him for what he has said and done to me, but I can't forget. I would never wish death on him in my life. In my opinion,I just don't think its right. I hope you find peace in your heart and not anger because its a nasty feeling to have

Don't ever bury yourself in hate.

It's not worth it. Never. No matter what.

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Indifference is the opposite of love, not hatred.

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Life's too short for 'hate'.

Believe me, I know.

And if you can't helm it,

know this :

You can hate and compete what you want,

... just hope we will all make it.

[Edited 5/4/16 13:57pm]

luv2tha99s said:

isobelfq said:

I can't believe Prince is dead and my bitch of a mother, who never helped or loved anyone, including herself, and never took care of anyone, inlcuding herself, is still alive. Does anyone else have those moments where they can't believe certain people in their lives, especially the ones who have brought nothing but pain, fear, abuse, neglect, etc...are still on earth, wasting resources, and yet this beautiful man who gave so much love (and yes, pain, I know he gave pain also) is gone? It's just so unfair! Really?! You couldn't have taken her and left Prince?! And if anyone wonders how I could say such a thing; you're lucky. You have no idea how lucky you are. Children don't feel this way about their parents for no reason.

I could say more but I'm just going to end it here. Again, I apoligize if I've offended anyone and I understand if this gets removed but I just had to share. But before I go I feel like I should post this also.

https://www.youtube.com/w...mK7s8qM5cY

I have the same exact feeling about my "Father". You are not alone. I have felt so much better and waaaay less angry since I have cut him out of my life. I forgive him for being a douchebag, but choose not to forget his abuse. He is a very charming guy when he wants to be but once he feels like he's disarmed you, that's when the shitty behavior starts.

Uncanny - we're not siblings by any chance are we? lol