Shyra said:

DesireeNevermind said:

This poor down-trodden heffa here! It hurts the heart to hear such hot mess. She has a child for christsake! YOu would think she would make better choices in life at least for the sake of her littleun.

He aint even that cute!

His builld is okay,,,but nothing special,,,nothing you wouldn't see at the skatin' rink.

And uh...there's that other little problem. HE GOT A WIFE!!!!

Oh yeah,,,there's that other big problem. HE A BROKE MUHFUGGA!!!

TASIA....U IN DANGER GURL!!!!

Somebody needs to go down there and smack her upside her head! I nominate you, girl!

I'd gladly do it but then you know Teeny, Tiny or whatever her fool ass brotha's name is, gon run up and cold cock me from behind.

Ok...what I mean to say is that dreaded, non-workin', shiftless, average vocals muhfugga gonna jump me and then turn round and sue my ass over some fake distress n' shit. He seem like the type to do some foul shit like that. But hey,,,if I can save Tasia's ass...so be it!

"TEENY! IMA COMIN' FO YOU AND YO TIRED ASS FREELOADIN' FAMILY!!!!"

DesireeNevermind said:

Shyra said:

Somebody needs to go down there and smack her upside her head! I nominate you, girl!

I'd gladly do it but then you know Teeny, Tiny or whatever her fool ass brotha's name is, gon run up and cold cock me from behind.

Ok...what I mean to say is that dreaded, non-workin', shiftless, average vocals muhfugga gonna jump me and then turn round and sue my ass over some fake distress n' shit. He seem like the type to do some foul shit like that. But hey,,,if I can save Tasia's ass...so be it!

"TEENY! IMA COMIN' FO YOU AND YO TIRED ASS FREELOADIN' FAMILY!!!!"

Okay see . . .

DesireeNevermind said:

Shyra said:

Somebody needs to go down there and smack her upside her head! I nominate you, girl!

I'd gladly do it but then you know Teeny, Tiny or whatever her fool ass brotha's name is, gon run up and cold cock me from behind.

Ok...what I mean to say is that dreaded, non-workin', shiftless, average vocals muhfugga gonna jump me and then turn round and sue my ass over some fake distress n' shit. He seem like the type to do some foul shit like that. But hey,,,if I can save Tasia's ass...so be it!

"TEENY! IMA COMIN' FO YOU AND YO TIRED ASS FREELOADIN' FAMILY!!!!"

DesireeNevermind said:

Shyra said:

Somebody needs to go down there and smack her upside her head! I nominate you, girl!

I'd gladly do it but then you know Teeny, Tiny or whatever her fool ass brotha's name is, gon run up and cold cock me from behind.

Ok...what I mean to say is that dreaded, non-workin', shiftless, average vocals muhfugga gonna jump me and then turn round and sue my ass over some fake distress n' shit. He seem like the type to do some foul shit like that. But hey,,,if I can save Tasia's ass...so be it!

"TEENY! IMA COMIN' FO YOU AND YO TIRED ASS FREELOADIN' FAMILY!!!!"

I swear. Ain't Desiree as mess?!

Harlepolis said:

HatrinaHaterwitz said:

Aunt Ree Ree tried to tell her dumb ass!!!

Where the in deep pits of HOLLY HELL was I? I love this, from which album is it from?

Damn, I thought her "Christmas" album was the last studio album she released so far.

It's on her Duets album.

Did it last?

midiscover said:

Did it last?

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TheWifey said:

All you porn watching, weed smoking, fornicating, drinking, cursing, same sex having jokers got nerve to be on here talking about somebody else I went with a married person before, what's it to you?

Prince, is that YOU????

SCNDLS said:

TheWifey said:

All you porn watching, weed smoking, fornicating, drinking, cursing, same sex having jokers got nerve to be on here talking about somebody else I went with a married person before, what's it to you?

Prince, is that YOU????

TheWifey said:

All you porn watching, weed smoking, fornicating, drinking, cursing, same sex having jokers got nerve to be on here talking about somebody else I went with a married person before, what's it to you?

2 dollars?

DesireeNevermind said:

Shyra said:

Somebody needs to go down there and smack her upside her head! I nominate you, girl!

I'd gladly do it but then you know Teeny, Tiny or whatever her fool ass brotha's name is, gon run up and cold cock me from behind.

Ok...what I mean to say is that dreaded, non-workin', shiftless, average vocals muhfugga gonna jump me and then turn round and sue my ass over some fake distress n' shit. He seem like the type to do some foul shit like that. But hey,,,if I can save Tasia's ass...so be it!

"TEENY! IMA COMIN' FO YOU AND YO TIRED ASS FREELOADIN' FAMILY!!!!"

Oh my law-red, somebody please hep me up

I just heard Fantasia's first interview on the radio and she was very honest, very vunerable.

This po chile. She is just young and confused, and doen't know who she is or her self worth measured against any man. Anybody between the ages of 30 and 40 who has not yet been married to a longtime love since the time of her late teens has already heard her story before,if not for herself then through one of her knucklehead friends. Time annd experience will make her wiser. but for now she needs to go through

Ottensen said:

I just heard Fantasia's first interview on the radio and she was very honest, very vunerable.

This po chile. She is just young and confused, and doen't know who she is or her self worth measured against any man. Anybody between the ages of 30 and 40 who has not yet been married to a longtime love since the time of her late teens has already heard her story before,if not for herself then through one of her knucklehead friends. Time annd experience will make her wiser. but for now she needs to go through

So what did she say about this dickhead she was involved with? And why would she get involved with his ass in the first place?

Shyra said:

Ottensen said:

I just heard Fantasia's first interview on the radio and she was very honest, very vunerable.

This po chile. She is just young and confused, and doen't know who she is or her self worth measured against any man. Anybody between the ages of 30 and 40 who has not yet been married to a longtime love since the time of her late teens has already heard her story before,if not for herself then through one of her knucklehead friends. Time annd experience will make her wiser. but for now she needs to go through

So what did she say about this dickhead she was involved with? And why would she get involved with his ass in the first place?

Why does any anyone get involved with another person in any case? We're all assuming that she knew the man was not separated from his wife, and that might not be the case at all. I was separated from my first husband for years and lived in Italy beofore we divorced, and we both agreed that until our paperwork came through everybody was moving on, free to date others and basta, because the marriage for all intents and puposes was finished. For me the bigger question is, were all parties involved being honest about their status, desires, needs, and expectations in that scenario?

Fantasia didn't address the man in question or the nature of their relationship, nor do I think she should have in a public forum. She directed her responses towards getting back to work and trying to be strong and believing in herself. I found her interview to be raw and unfiltered (as in not giving canned responses prepared by a publicist), demonstrating vunerability, and while I believe she's going through a being-a-knucklehead-for-a-man phase, I sensed definite confusion (or rather lack of authentic self-definition) in the tone of her voice. I'm not going to judge her because she sounds as if she doen't have anymore clue to what has been transpiring in her life than we do. in any event, she said that the album will be a true reflection of her struggles and she's hoping that after this is all said and done she will have a testimony worth sharing.

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By Carlos Greer

Monday August 23, 2010 08:50 AM EDT

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Two weeks after being hospitalized for overdosing on aspirin and a sleep aid, singer Fantasia Barrino says it was no accident. She wanted to die.

"I didn't have any fight in me. I didn't care about anything. I just wanted out," the American Idolwinner, 26, tells VH1 in a newBehind the Music interview, airing 9 p.m. ET/PT Tuesday, the same day her new album, Back to Me, is released. "At that moment, I wanted out. I wanted it to be over with – all of it, all of that [expletive]."

She continues: "I just sat in the closet and looked at the mirror and took all the pills in the bottle. I wanted to go to sleep and just be at peace. I knew exactly what I was doing. You can't accidentally take a whole bottle of pills." Barrino's manager, Brian Dickens, recalls finding her lying on the floor in her room. "Her emotions were extremely low," he says. "She'd been crying all day. Fantasia was just numb. Fantasia texted me, saying 'I love you.' I wrote back, 'I love you more.' Then it hit me.""I wrote, 'You better not do anything or think about doing anything stupid.' And I left it at that. About 10 minutes later, Fantasia texted me back, and she said, 'Already did.' I went into Fantasia's room and saw her on the floor, and my heart just dropped."

What made the successful singer, who's preparing to release her third album, want to end her life? "I was tired of people doing me wrong, constantly, over and over again, dealing with my family – my father, dealing with men and their [expletive] – I was tired," she says. "My head was hurting me. I was over it."

Affair with Antwaun Cook

To complicate matters even more, Barrino is now being threatened with a lawsuit by Paula Cook, the wife of Antwaun Cook, with whom Fantasia had been having an affair.

"When I met him, he was separated ... wasn't living in his home. He didn't want to be back with his wife – that is what I was told," Barrino says. "I remember waking up in the hospital [and thinking], 'It didn't work, I'm still here in this hellhole. Still here with all this drama going on.' "

Ultimately, the singer says the saving grace was her nurse. "My nurse Melanie was a blessing into my life because she didn't tell me what I wanted to hear," she says. "She told me what I needed to hear. And she looked at me and said, 'You gotta get up, and you've gotta get out of here, 'cause you haven't fulfilled your destiny.' "

"I realized how people end up in the grave. Because that one moment [snaps her fingers] of just breaking or feeling like I can't, I can't go on, it's too heavy. That was somewhere I don't ever want to go again."

[Edited 8/23/10 9:05am]

Ottensen said:

Shyra said:

So what did she say about this dickhead she was involved with? And why would she get involved with his ass in the first place?

Why does any anyone get involved with another person in any case? We're all assuming that she knew the man was not separated from his wife, and that might not be the case at all. I was separated from my first husband for years and lived in Italy beofore we divorced, and we both agreed that until our paperwork came through everybody was moving on, free to date others and basta, because the marriage for all intents and puposes was finished. For me the bigger question is, were all parties involved being honest about their status, desires, needs, and expectations in that scenario?

Fantasia didn't address the man in question or the nature of their relationship, nor do I think she should have in a public forum. She directed her responses towards getting back to work and trying to be strong and believing in herself. I found her interview to be raw and unfiltered (as in not giving canned responses prepared by a publicist), demonstrating vunerability, and while I believe she's going through a being-a-knucklehead-for-a-man phase, I sensed definite confusion (or rather lack of authentic self-definition) in the tone of her voice. I'm not going to judge her because she sounds as if she doen't have anymore clue to what has been transpiring in her life than we do. in any event, she said that the album will be a true reflection of her struggles and she's hoping that after this is all said and done she will have a testimony worth sharing.

In other words, make more money. I'm sorry, this just reeks. Look at Sandra Bullock, she still hasn't talked about her situation but here goes Ms. Platypus already milking the ish for cash. Lost what lil respect I had for this woman.

sosgemini said:

Ottensen said:

Why does any anyone get involved with another person in any case? We're all assuming that she knew the man was not separated from his wife, and that might not be the case at all. I was separated from my first husband for years and lived in Italy beofore we divorced, and we both agreed that until our paperwork came through everybody was moving on, free to date others and basta, because the marriage for all intents and puposes was finished. For me the bigger question is, were all parties involved being honest about their status, desires, needs, and expectations in that scenario?

Fantasia didn't address the man in question or the nature of their relationship, nor do I think she should have in a public forum. She directed her responses towards getting back to work and trying to be strong and believing in herself. I found her interview to be raw and unfiltered (as in not giving canned responses prepared by a publicist), demonstrating vunerability, and while I believe she's going through a being-a-knucklehead-for-a-man phase, I sensed definite confusion (or rather lack of authentic self-definition) in the tone of her voice. I'm not going to judge her because she sounds as if she doen't have anymore clue to what has been transpiring in her life than we do. in any event, she said that the album will be a true reflection of her struggles and she's hoping that after this is all said and done she will have a testimony worth sharing.

In other words, make more money. I'm sorry, this just reeks. Look at Sandra Bullock, she still hasn't talked about her situation but here goes Ms. Platypus already milking the ish for cash. Lost what lil respect I had for this woman.

Sos, I'm sorry to say I disagree with you entirely. That is not what I heard in her voice during the radio interview at all, and please keep in mind those are words I paraphrased above and not her own words verbatim . Like I said before (in my estimation) I don't think this kid has any idea what she's doing. She essentially sounds like the dumb third party archtype who falls for the wrong dude, and because she's alll wrapped up with no sense of worth, has fallen to that place where you think you can't breathe without them because they gave you that high; it's that " runnin' out in the street after him barefoot.....in the snow" kind of love. J.California Cooper and Gloria Naylor novels are full of these, and I must say that I've seen examples of women like this who turn to self-destruction when they have no hope.

I look at Tasia and basically see a donkey (as in the urban meaning of foolish person). The formula for this scenario pretty much goes like this:

Woman with little to no self esteem with abandonment issues+

Seemingly attractive caring man who lies to in order have his cake and eat it too+

Wild card sopuse/commited partner who has been scorned, betrayed, and humilated and therefore (understandibly) unable to move on because she doesen't know where to put her pain

EQUALS DISASTER FOR ALL.

The story is as old as the hills...and I doubt seriously this chick would try to off herself for show. I was just talking to someone yesterday who has tried to do this and until you walk in their shoes, it's just too easy to judge. Outside of advocating a person needs professional help, and get their their spiritual walk on to help them overcome their burdens after an episode like this, after that, all bets are off for me with judging.

We all want to be loved and needed by somebody, and every last one of us is capable of making mistakes in judgement to fill that void for love, not a damn one of us is perfect. While a good number of us might not go through what Fantasia has gone through, rest assured we will all do at least one dumb thing in our lives in the name of love, money, or anything else that serves our need to feel security.

Insofar as her using the word testimony to describe her current difficulties, that was just good old fashioned church house lingo that we use to remind ourselves of what awaits on the other side after we get done going 'through'...and for those who are religiously minded, it is believed that there is no such thing as a testimony without having to go through a test. What I gathered from her words is that she knows she's in deep poo poo, and doesn't know what to do except be honest about her flaws and mistakes, and that we shouldn't think that because she's a singer or on the red carpet she has life all figured out. She doesn't have it figured out at all, and the one conclusion she's come to is that she won't lie and smile like nothings happening anymore, she has to release it because it's to hard to hold inside.

Again, that's me paraphrasing a 5-6minute audio interview from memory, but yeah, that's all I got.

Disastrous recipe that unfortunately affects many others...not just those that partake of the rancid dish.

Fantasia's next beau will no doubt pay for the mistakes of this recent fool ass boyfriend. Auntwan Platypus will no doubt attempt to play other women now that his ego has been boosted by Fantasia. Miss Babymama/soon to be ex wife will hold onto the title of "Miss Scorned by Fantasia USA" for as long as she thinks it will garner her attention and or cash and if the latter is true then every man she meets will be another Auntwan Platypus. The ripple effects are endless. And of course the kids are bearing witness to all of this hot mess.

I feel for Fantasia. Lord knows I have had moments in my life when I was just so weary that it felt that going on another minute would be too much. And yes, those moments did involve loving a married man, worries about career, tired from taking care of family, and suffering severe depression.

Life isn't easy. And sometimes when you are trying so hard to be strong for yourself and others, your strength can run out. Especially if you feel you don't always have a lot of support, or when people deliberately try to use you or hurt you.

I hope Fantasia can ignore the negative things people say about her and try to continue to strive for the positive. I think she has an awesome spirit and it would be a shame to see her defeated.

Stay prayed up, Fantasia!

Ottensen said:

Shyra said:

So what did she say about this dickhead she was involved with? And why would she get involved with his ass in the first place?

Why does any anyone get involved with another person in any case? We're all assuming that she knew the man was not separated from his wife, and that might not be the case at all. I was separated from my first husband for years and lived in Italy beofore we divorced, and we both agreed that until our paperwork came through everybody was moving on, free to date others and basta, because the marriage for all intents and puposes was finished. For me the bigger question is, were all parties involved being honest about their status, desires, needs, and expectations in that scenario?

Fantasia didn't address the man in question or the nature of their relationship, nor do I think she should have in a public forum. She directed her responses towards getting back to work and trying to be strong and believing in herself. I found her interview to be raw and unfiltered (as in not giving canned responses prepared by a publicist), demonstrating vunerability, and while I believe she's going through a being-a-knucklehead-for-a-man phase, I sensed definite confusion (or rather lack of authentic self-definition) in the tone of her voice. I'm not going to judge her because she sounds as if she doen't have anymore clue to what has been transpiring in her life than we do. in any event, she said that the album will be a true reflection of her struggles and she's hoping that after this is all said and done she will have a testimony worth sharing.

She said he told her he was separated and she believed him. Still, separated connotes still married. I think cheating married men still use that term loosely just to feel somewhat less guilty when they're dick swingin. When things start to get a little too sticky for him with the side piece, his rationale is, "I didn't lie. I told her I was separated, so why she trippin?" When I was dating and met men who told me they were separated and things weren't going well at home, I told them this, "When the divorce is final and you're ready to move on, give me a call. Until then, go home and work on your marriage."

OK, I should not judge Tasia. You're right. She's young and not all that bright, but like you said, the only thing that will really teach her is experience. Lord knows, if she gets her stuff together and can finally put this behind her and one day be able to say, "What the hell was I thinking?! I was going to end it all behind that piece of shit!"

What I do think she needs to do is get away from her blood-sucking family, especially that good-for-nothing brother of hers. It's hard for her, I know because she probably thinks she needs these people around her and that they have her back. Bullshit. They all looking for a handout. Loose yourself, child and heal yourself. This too shall pass.

Ottensen said:

sosgemini said:

In other words, make more money. I'm sorry, this just reeks. Look at Sandra Bullock, she still hasn't talked about her situation but here goes Ms. Platypus already milking the ish for cash. Lost what lil respect I had for this woman.

Sos, I'm sorry to say I disagree with you entirely. That is not what I heard in her voice during the radio interview at all, and please keep in mind those are words I paraphrased above and not her own words verbatim . Like I said before (in my estimation) I don't think this kid has any idea what she's doing. She essentially sounds like the dumb third party archtype who falls for the wrong dude, and because she's alll wrapped up with no sense of worth, has fallen to that place where you think you can't breathe without them because they gave you that high; it's that " runnin' out in the street after him barefoot.....in the snow" kind of love. J.California Cooper and Gloria Naylor novels are full of these, and I must say that I've seen examples of women like this who turn to self-destruction when they have no hope.

I look at Tasia and basically see a donkey (as in the urban meaning of foolish person). The formula for this scenario pretty much goes like this:

Woman with little to no self esteem with abandonment issues+

Seemingly attractive caring man who lies to in order have his cake and eat it too+

Wild card sopuse/commited partner who has been scorned, betrayed, and humilated and therefore (understandibly) unable to move on because she doesen't know where to put her pain

EQUALS DISASTER FOR ALL.

The story is as old as the hills...and I doubt seriously this chick would try to off herself for show. I was just talking to someone yesterday who has tried to do this and until you walk in their shoes, it's just too easy to judge. Outside of advocating a person needs professional help, and get their their spiritual walk on to help them overcome their burdens after an episode like this, after that, all bets are off for me with judging.

We all want to be loved and needed by somebody, and every last one of us is capable of making mistakes in judgement to fill that void for love, not a damn one of us is perfect. While a good number of us might not go through what Fantasia has gone through, rest assured we will all do at least one dumb thing in our lives in the name of love, money, or anything else that serves our need to feel security.

Insofar as her using the word testimony to describe her current difficulties, that was just good old fashioned church house lingo that we use to remind ourselves of what awaits on the other side after we get done going 'through'...and for those who are religiously minded, it is believed that there is no such thing as a testimony without having to go through a test. What I gathered from her words is that she knows she's in deep poo poo, and doesn't know what to do except be honest about her flaws and mistakes, and that we shouldn't think that because she's a singer or on the red carpet she has life all figured out. She doesn't have it figured out at all, and the one conclusion she's come to is that she won't lie and smile like nothings happening anymore, she has to release it because it's to hard to hold inside.

Again, that's me paraphrasing a 5-6minute audio interview from memory, but yeah, that's all I got.

I have no problem with her or the situation she is in. My problem is her pimping her problems to make a buck. She doesn't need to already be on radio or tv talking about her ordeal (and selling her album) soo soon after allegedly trying to end her life.

It screams desperation...desperation to make a buck.

sosgemini said:

Ottensen said:

Sos, I'm sorry to say I disagree with you entirely. That is not what I heard in her voice during the radio interview at all, and please keep in mind those are words I paraphrased above and not her own words verbatim . Like I said before (in my estimation) I don't think this kid has any idea what she's doing. She essentially sounds like the dumb third party archtype who falls for the wrong dude, and because she's alll wrapped up with no sense of worth, has fallen to that place where you think you can't breathe without them because they gave you that high; it's that " runnin' out in the street after him barefoot.....in the snow" kind of love. J.California Cooper and Gloria Naylor novels are full of these, and I must say that I've seen examples of women like this who turn to self-destruction when they have no hope.

I look at Tasia and basically see a donkey (as in the urban meaning of foolish person). The formula for this scenario pretty much goes like this:

Woman with little to no self esteem with abandonment issues+

Seemingly attractive caring man who lies to in order have his cake and eat it too+

Wild card sopuse/commited partner who has been scorned, betrayed, and humilated and therefore (understandibly) unable to move on because she doesen't know where to put her pain

EQUALS DISASTER FOR ALL.

The story is as old as the hills...and I doubt seriously this chick would try to off herself for show. I was just talking to someone yesterday who has tried to do this and until you walk in their shoes, it's just too easy to judge. Outside of advocating a person needs professional help, and get their their spiritual walk on to help them overcome their burdens after an episode like this, after that, all bets are off for me with judging.

We all want to be loved and needed by somebody, and every last one of us is capable of making mistakes in judgement to fill that void for love, not a damn one of us is perfect. While a good number of us might not go through what Fantasia has gone through, rest assured we will all do at least one dumb thing in our lives in the name of love, money, or anything else that serves our need to feel security.

Insofar as her using the word testimony to describe her current difficulties, that was just good old fashioned church house lingo that we use to remind ourselves of what awaits on the other side after we get done going 'through'...and for those who are religiously minded, it is believed that there is no such thing as a testimony without having to go through a test. What I gathered from her words is that she knows she's in deep poo poo, and doesn't know what to do except be honest about her flaws and mistakes, and that we shouldn't think that because she's a singer or on the red carpet she has life all figured out. She doesn't have it figured out at all, and the one conclusion she's come to is that she won't lie and smile like nothings happening anymore, she has to release it because it's to hard to hold inside.

Again, that's me paraphrasing a 5-6minute audio interview from memory, but yeah, that's all I got.

I have no problem with her or the situation she is in. My problem is her pimping her problems to make a buck. She doesn't need to already be on radio or tv talking about her ordeal (and selling her album) soo soon after allegedly trying to end her life.

It screams desperation...desperation to make a buck.

she was already promoting the album with her show! I think wifey tried to pimp her by filing right before her album release (because NC law allows you to sue a mistress and get money), And the media was gonna jump all over her anyway!

BklynBabe said:

sosgemini said:

I have no problem with her or the situation she is in. My problem is her pimping her problems to make a buck. She doesn't need to already be on radio or tv talking about her ordeal (and selling her album) soo soon after allegedly trying to end her life.

It screams desperation...desperation to make a buck.

she was already promoting the album with her show! I think wifey tried to pimp her by filing right before her album release (because NC law allows you to sue a mistress and get money), And the media was gonna jump all over her anyway!

Holy crap, one of my fav sites is movieline and look what I found upon clicking on it: http://www.movieline.com/...t.php#more

See, I ain't the only one rubbed the wrong way by this.

Nicholas

When it hit me,” he said. “I wrote, ‘You better not do anything or think about doing anything stupid.’ And I left it at that. About 10 minutes later, Fantasia texted me back, and she said, ‘Already did.’ I went into Fantasia’s room and saw her on the floor, and my heart just dropped.”

DRAMA!

sosgemini said:

BklynBabe said:

she was already promoting the album with her show! I think wifey tried to pimp her by filing right before her album release (because NC law allows you to sue a mistress and get money), And the media was gonna jump all over her anyway!

Holy crap, one of my fav sites is movieline and look what I found upon clicking on it: http://www.movieline.com/...t.php#more

See, I ain't the only one rubbed the wrong way by this.

Nicholas

Is it wrong that I want to see what the hell the dude was doing being part of her reality show?

sosgemini said:

Ottensen said:

Sos, I'm sorry to say I disagree with you entirely. That is not what I heard in her voice during the radio interview at all, and please keep in mind those are words I paraphrased above and not her own words verbatim . Like I said before (in my estimation) I don't think this kid has any idea what she's doing. She essentially sounds like the dumb third party archtype who falls for the wrong dude, and because she's alll wrapped up with no sense of worth, has fallen to that place where you think you can't breathe without them because they gave you that high; it's that " runnin' out in the street after him barefoot.....in the snow" kind of love. J.California Cooper and Gloria Naylor novels are full of these, and I must say that I've seen examples of women like this who turn to self-destruction when they have no hope.

I look at Tasia and basically see a donkey (as in the urban meaning of foolish person). The formula for this scenario pretty much goes like this:

Woman with little to no self esteem with abandonment issues+

Seemingly attractive caring man who lies to in order have his cake and eat it too+

Wild card sopuse/commited partner who has been scorned, betrayed, and humiliated and therefore (understandably) unable to move on because she doesn't know where to put her pain

EQUALS DISASTER FOR ALL.

The story is as old as the hills...and I doubt seriously this chick would try to off herself for show. I was just talking to someone yesterday who has tried to do this and until you walk in their shoes, it's just too easy to judge. Outside of advocating a person needs professional help, and get their their spiritual walk on to help them overcome their burdens after an episode like this, after that, all bets are off for me with judging.

We all want to be loved and needed by somebody, and every last one of us is capable of making mistakes in judgement to fill that void for love, not a damn one of us is perfect. While a good number of us might not go through what Fantasia has gone through, rest assured we will all do at least one dumb thing in our lives in the name of love, money, or anything else that serves our need to feel security.

Insofar as her using the word testimony to describe her current difficulties, that was just good old fashioned church house lingo that we use to remind ourselves of what awaits on the other side after we get done going 'through'...and for those who are religiously minded, it is believed that there is no such thing as a testimony without having to go through a test. What I gathered from her words is that she knows she's in deep poo poo, and doesn't know what to do except be honest about her flaws and mistakes, and that we shouldn't think that because she's a singer or on the red carpet she has life all figured out. She doesn't have it figured out at all, and the one conclusion she's come to is that she won't lie and smile like nothings happening anymore, she has to release it because it's to hard to hold inside.

Again, that's me paraphrasing a 5-6minute audio interview from memory, but yeah, that's all I got.

I have no problem with her or the situation she is in. My problem is her pimping her problems to make a buck. She doesn't need to already be on radio or tv talking about her ordeal (and selling her album) soo soon after allegedly trying to end her life.

It screams desperation...desperation to make a buck.

The difference between Fantasia and Ms. Bullock is, Sandra Bullock wasn't the one having an affair. There was nothing for Ms. Bullock to say but her ex did.

Even so, I understand your point of view, your annoyance and/or skepticism of her motives. I think the public and celebrities need to check ourselves on what we think we know, what we need to know, and why many celebrities / public figures feel obligated in discussing everything about their lives. It appears many in the public eye have embraced any type of publicity is good publicity. At the same time the media/public thinks they've been afforded the right to ask these people anything and everything . . . even when they've said no comment.

As my husband said, 'Nobody knows Fantasia and pretty much nobody really gives a damn whether she seeks help or gets her life together with the exception of the people who know her and love her. It's a type of voyeurism . . . maybe in some instances we need to look away'.

[Edited 8/23/10 13:22pm]

Harlepolis said:

HatrinaHaterwitz said:

Aunt Ree Ree tried to tell her dumb ass!!!

Where the in deep pits of HOLLY HELL was I? I love this, from which album is it from?

Damn, I thought her "Christmas" album was the last studio album she released so far.

Honey, I don't where you were but this came out in late 2007 on Aunt Ree Ree's Jewels in the Crown: All-Star Duets with the Queen. Most of it were duets she'd done in the past, with Luther Vandross, Frank Sinatra, Whitney Houston, etc. There were just two new ones. This song and one with John Legend.

I think I only heard this song ever played on the radio, just once. So where in the hell were they? Nevermind! I already know, somewhere up in Beyonce's ass.