While I cannot endorse the lyrical content of this song, there is no denying it is one sweet track (nice vid, too).

One of her best.

On her 1999 tour,this was the opening song I'll never forget that tour

SoulAlive said:

Really? That's a pretty bold choice for an opener!

Ace said:

Indeed it was Many people thought she would open with something like "Lost Ones" but she chose a mellow song instead.It caught everyone off-guard.

I've always loved this one. Now I gotta think back to the lyrics, they never bothered me but you got me wondering

CalhounSq said:

I used to love 'em, but now when I hear 'em, I just think:




Actually, the only one making it hard on yourself is you.


Why would you want to stay in a relationship that's "like a battle"?


Codependency is never a healthy thing.


Romantic hyperbole. This is the sort of sentiment that leads to misery, depression and (in extreme circumstances) sometimes even suicide.


Sounds like a lack of communication going on here.


If you think it's crazy (and it is), why would you wanna stay?


In the words of Mary J.: No more drama!


Actually, it only takes one to let go.


You should not be asking anyone to "live" for you.


Those are my honest feelings on the lyrics of this otherwise beautiful song.

Ace said:

You do realize it's supposed to be a song about a bad relationship, right? IMO, it's insightful and poignant. Sadly, it really sounds like it comes from experience.

BTW, I also think the title is absolutely perfect.
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My favorite song to sing in the shower.

I absolutely LOVE this f-ing song!

Its so beautiful, tragic, and true.
Every time I hear it I just gotta shake my head and wonder...What went wrong Lauryn??

My fave Lauryn song after "The Sweetest Thing".

Ace said:

So basically you just like the music of the song and nothing else.

thekidsgirl said:

ANSWER: Wyclef

Man she seemed destined for a great future. That song was definitely a personal song for her.

it's a good song but I ended up hating it cause it was wayyyy too overplayed. I'll have to check it out again to see if I could embrace it once more.

MuthaFunka said:

thekidsgirl said:

What? It's true! That's who the song was about.

alphastreet said:

They do be playing that a lot!

MuthaFunka said:

I used to like the lyrics when I was younger, but now I just love the music and the vocals.

AlexdeParis said:

Ace said:

Damn Ace, you simplified the hell outta that song But if relationships/love were so simple, people wouldn't be in such agony (or bliss, for that matter) over them all the time Nothing in the lyrics offend me. I have yet to have a relationship that difficult, but I can see why folks get caught up like that. Love the song

CalhounSq said:

I wouldn't say they "offend" me; I just think they romanticize playing the fool. But, hey - this and a kajillion other pieces of art, right?

Ace said:

I just don't see how she's romanticizing it. Hell, who doesn't think this relationship sounds fucked up? It's an honest, frank portrayal IMO.

this song came on the radio the other day and it was just such a good song. I had forgotten about it and it was nice to hear it again.

Ace said:

I hear you & it does fall in line w/ that kajillion other pieces of art that romanticize it too. But it's such rich territory (love, vulnerability) & we can all relate to it somehow. Being the fool @ times just comes w/ the territory

Cinnamon234 said:

I LOVE THAT SONG!! I remember hearing it on the radio for the first time and I went nuts.I thought it sounded like a good old fashioned,early 70s R&B song!! I immediately went out and bought the 'Love Jones' movie soundtrack,just for this one song.I wonder why she didn't include this song on 'Miseducation'.
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Timmy84 said:

Indeed.Forget Alicia Keyes.Lauryn would have been the top female R&B artist of this decade,if she had not lost her mind.

if only she'd give us some more to .

purplepolitician said:

It's sad that things turned out the way they did,but hey,at least she left us with one amazing album.Thanks,Lauryn!

SoulAlive said: