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Thread started 10/03/17 3:26pm

nyse

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anyone else still grieving? still hurt?

Seems like the feeling has never left. Like a musical part of my heart has been ripped out... i have been waiting to feel better about his passing.. but the more music i listen to.. the more visuals i see, the more i still feel that emptiness i ..

his music was like the soundtrack to our lives.
i dont know maybe its just me
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Reply #1 posted 10/03/17 3:53pm

EmmaMcG

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I'm sure some people still are but I guess it's one of those things that you just have to take for what it is. Just because he's dead doesn't mean we don't still have his music he left behind. And there is a LOT of music that he left behind. It's sad that we'll never hear new Prince music again but there's still a wealth of vault material to be released so that lessens the blow somewhat. Mind you, that comes from a very selfish "I'll miss the music" point of view. If the loss you feel is coming from a more personal level then I'm afraid I can't relate. He's been gone for over a year now and I didn't mourn my mother for that long, I'm certainly not going to grieve for a man I only met once for that long. I think maybe the best way of dealing with your grief is to put things into perspective. Prince being gone doesn't change the relationship we, as fans, had with him. It's the same as it ever was.
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Reply #2 posted 10/03/17 4:03pm

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nyse said:

Seems like the feeling has never left. Like a musical part of my heart has been ripped out... i have been waiting to feel better about his passing.. but the more music i listen to.. the more visuals i see, the more i still feel that emptiness i .. his music was like the soundtrack to our lives. i dont know maybe its just me


Yes. It's not just you so don't feel alone. There's a lot of people on FB who have been saying the same too. There's no explaining this. comfort hug

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Reply #3 posted 10/03/17 4:13pm

TrivialPursuit

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His absence doesn't catch me off guard sometimes. I have very brief, and infrequent, moments of that bargaining part of grief. "no wait, it's probably a false report, did they report it wrong, let's find out from someone else, there's no way that's even close to true". It all zips by in about a three-second period, my heart skips a beat, then I'm fine.

Like I said, infrequently, but it happens. It's still tough to comprehend that such a bright life and personality is no more. I still listen to the music, and even in those moments, I don't dwell on his absence. I just appreciate the beauty of it all.

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Reply #4 posted 10/03/17 4:54pm

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Only a few weeks ago Grant Green 'Cease The Bombing' came on the radio and for some reason the gentle jazzy sound brought back vivid memories of his presence and all the aftershows in London, filling my soul with aching nostalgia. I managed to hold back the tears (I wasn't alone). I had no idea it still hurt that much.

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Reply #5 posted 10/03/17 5:10pm

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I still feel a moment of sadness every day that Prince is not physically in the world anymore and a tear will sometimes well in the corner of my eye, but it has got easier and I am trying to exercise the kindness he did when he was here, as he became a great person (besides the music) & left us a good pattern to follow to exercise kindness. But I am not mourning as I was for a very long time, it is unhealthy to continue to do so long term & he would not want that either I am sure. We are so lucky to have so much to watch and listen to, but if it is making you sad, then maybe you need to take to a break from it for a while to relieve your emotions? Sending hugs hug

[Edited 10/3/17 17:11pm]

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Reply #6 posted 10/03/17 5:13pm

Lovejunky

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nyse said:

Seems like the feeling has never left. Like a musical part of my heart has been ripped out... i have been waiting to feel better about his passing.. but the more music i listen to.. the more visuals i see, the more i still feel that emptiness i .. his music was like the soundtrack to our lives. i dont know maybe its just me

Yes...

and its more than just "he was the soundtrack to our lives"

Geroge Michael was, and Bowie too and Tom Petty...

Their deaths are Sad, but on reflection, they dont HURT per se...

Princes death HURT, still hurts to the extent that if you think about it too much you actually FEEL

Pain in your Gut/solarplexus area

If you visit you tube, you find people who have only just discoveed Prince,

ie He was NOT the soundtack to their lives ,

and THEY are also FEELING

the hurt

the pain, his abscence and they are bewilldered by it too...

My opinion on this is not favoured by many, but I DO Believe with all my heart

that Prince came to do the same work as Jesus,

he just did it in a way that was more relevant to the Times we live in....

He never deviated from trying to lead us to GOD...

Even when his lyrics seemed explicit, there was always room for ambiguity....

“LOVE IS THE MASTERPLAN”
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Reply #7 posted 10/03/17 5:27pm

Marrk

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I don't anymore. Just think he should still be here. His death was both baffling and sad. It was a shit way for him to go. It bothers me he hit the pain barrier for his fans. He felt he had to do that. For us. I cringe every time i see him do the splits on video now. Used to cheer that too. Not much joy in viewing that stuff now.

Yeah, we'll, we'll try to imagine what silence looks like.
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Reply #8 posted 10/03/17 7:57pm

1contessa

Yes. I still miss his presence upon the earth, and it still hurts. My heart still hurts sometime when I see certain pics, play certain songs, or even hear the word Minnesota, because then I think of him. I guess when you've loved someone for so long, whether you really knew them personally or not, they leave an impact on your life.

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Reply #9 posted 10/03/17 8:03pm

nyse

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Thank you so much everyone for the replies. I really appreciate
people who can kind of see where im coming from..


im not really mourning prince the physical person..
but more so missing the music...
i miss looking forward to the NEW album
the NEW tour!!! ...

Artists just dont do it like that anymore.
We lost the last of a certain musical breed..

i take it for what it is but it does feel good to still pump the old jams.

i guess i can only look forward to things the estate might release
in the future
[Edited 10/3/17 20:04pm]
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Reply #10 posted 10/03/17 8:38pm

JellyBean

Like millions of others, I still have moments where I will find one of my books, pictures, music or magazines about Uncle P and feel a moment of saddness. I think that it will be an on going process.

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Reply #11 posted 10/03/17 8:45pm

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There's already a thread going on about this and every week or so another one pops up. Maybe we could have a sticky for sharing the grieving process and grieving fans supporting each other so those threads don't multiply like this?
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Reply #12 posted 10/04/17 1:19pm

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nyse said:

Thank you so much everyone for the replies. I really appreciate people who can kind of see where im coming from.. im not really mourning prince the physical person.. but more so missing the music... i miss looking forward to the NEW album the NEW tour!!! ... Artists just dont do it like that anymore. We lost the last of a certain musical breed.. i take it for what it is but it does feel good to still pump the old jams. i guess i can only look forward to things the estate might release in the future [Edited 10/3/17 20:04pm]

no they don't do it anymore, this morning i was watching a live clip of tina turner/bryan adams-it's only love, sometimes watching tina just blow my mind, and i dont' even like her and wouldn't call myself a fan of tina the person, but there is no denying her absolute power and mastery of performance, she wouldn't have been able to have a peak in the 80's when she was in her forties without a real good base in singing and performing.

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Reply #13 posted 10/04/17 2:52pm

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There's this scar on my heart that I keep on scratching.
Sometimes till I bleed. But most of the time I try to smile.
I like to think that's what he would prefer.
The humour of the Parade era is a good antidepressant.
I'll leave closing with SISIA up to you.
Crying may be good for the health, though.

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No Child's a failure
Until the Blue Sailboat sails him away from his dreams
Don't Ever Lose, Don't Ever Lose
Don't Ever Lose Your Dreams
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Reply #14 posted 10/04/17 3:22pm

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bonatoc said:

There's this scar on my heart that I keep on scratching.
Sometimes till I bleed. But most of the time I try to smile.
I like to think that's what he would prefer.
The humour of the Parade era is a good antidepressant.
I'll leave closing with SISIA up to you.
Crying may be good for the health, though.

Yeah, it still hurts out of the blue... My skin is thin still these days...what with folks in my personal life passing away, more artists I was into like Tom Petty, and then incidents like the Las Vegas massecre. I'd like to get a thicker skin...really. Enough is enough.

"Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination and life to everything." --Plato
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Reply #15 posted 10/04/17 6:49pm

AnnaSantana

It still hurts sometimes, yes. I miss him everyday. Sometimes it just hits me:Prince Rogers Nelson is gone.
finger DONALD TRUMP
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Reply #16 posted 10/05/17 8:31pm

cricket57

nyse said:

Seems like the feeling has never left. Like a musical part of my heart has been ripped out... i have been waiting to feel better about his passing.. but the more music i listen to.. the more visuals i see, the more i still feel that emptiness i .. his music was like the soundtrack to our lives. i dont know maybe its just me

I feel the same way, I don't take a interest in music any more. I haven't watched any of the award shows since we lost Prince. I would rush to get finished with dinner, whenever the Grammys or the American Music Award would come on , because you never could tell when Prince would appear on those shows. Yes it still hurts

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Reply #17 posted 10/06/17 2:36am

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Yes. It still hurts. It is the noting of an era passed. MY era. It is as though along with Prince leaving so went my youth and all the things that never were. He liced so well that I see all of my losses and what I didn't achieve. That is a big part of the grief we feel. Along with the fact that like Prince, we were also affected in childhood. << those greatly affected have this in common with him, probably to a larger extent than many, although basically everyone is like this today.

Prince also represents living well in the face of this, and criticism and misunderstanding of him, so there's a feeling of guilt there for the times I haven't done the same, but also hope in the example he was.

He was definitely one of God's sheep.

There are other people like that; it's just about where they are. In the music industry, Prince, Larry Graham and others were/are hiddenly quietly doing their work. There are many other people like this gathered, but they are not in the standard places we would think to look. This makes sense, since it is unusual.

The feeling of nostalgia is also a totally other thing too:
It isn't so much that Prince was the soundtrack to our lives...it's that Prince was the soundtrack to his life.
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Reply #18 posted 10/06/17 4:40am

milesb

Yep as much a selfish, personal thing for me, as actual grieving for Prince. I am actually grieving for my youth. Prince's death marked the onset of a midlife crisis of sorts for me. You know that point when you realise you ain't gonna live forever. Heck, if he doesn't, I sure as hell ain't. I was just reading Uptown 11, which I contributed to. Act II. 1994. I wasn't even 20. That's what all this has meant to me. He was a great. Still is. I wil be listening until I lose my marbles. I will be coming here for as long as it's still up. Long live Prince. What an amazing gift to the world and our lives. Impossible to replicate or replace

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