awe sending hugs your way. Mine passed just after Christmas in 2014. Me and my brother were so fortunate that my mom's siblings took that burden off of us to choose the kind of music for her service. They chose songs that we had never heard but were so beautiful and on point during the service! For us it was a relief to have family that had been through this before to help take that load from us as we had no idea where to even begin. Like others have said this is going to be a long journey for you and I can't express that you will feel what you feel and no one should tell you how to express yourself or that you do not have a right to feel the feelings you feel. The advice I can give you is not to rush through anything. Right now is going to be stressful as you get through all the legal stuff. I know it took me a few months after her burial before I felt like I had a chance to even take time and take a breather to just let myself feel some emotion because life got so chaotic and disarrayed with mom's passing for a few months that I just focused on getting through what I had to get through and put my emotions on the back burner. You will have days you just don't want ot talk on the phone or be on the internet and there is no shame in that. It is how we get through this stuff. We never get over it, we just get through it.

TheDigitalGardener said:

I lost my mum in '97. It's tough, but like others have said, you'll get over it.

My mum didn't like Prince, she always commented that he looked like he needed a good meal.

I think that's a fallacy. You never get over your parent dying. What you end up doing, though, is learning to reform your life without that parent in it. You learn to play the game of life with the new, unchangeable, hand you've been dealt. But you never, ever get over it.

TrivialPursuit said:

TheDigitalGardener said:

I lost my mum in '97. It's tough, but like others have said, you'll get over it.

My mum didn't like Prince, she always commented that he looked like he needed a good meal.

I think that's a fallacy. You never get over your parent dying. What you end up doing, though, is learning to reform your life without that parent in it. You learn to play the game of life with the new, unchangeable, hand you've been dealt. But you never, ever get over it.

I can see your point if someone had a loving relationship with a parent that died, but not everyone does. I'm over my mums death.

jcurley said:

My mother died two weeks ago. God did she prove me wrong when I said Prince was the most significant death in my life. Anyway for her funeral I chose comeback off the Truth album to be played. It caused a huge argument but is still happening. Do you not agree it's beautiful. I'm not coping with this stuff very well. I might be using you to distract.

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I am deeply sorry for your loss. I lost my Mother 2-1/2 years ago and I can tell you that losing a parent is one of the hardest things to have to go through. I miss her every day. It never gets easy, you just learn to deal with the pain, in time. I wish you God's love, strength & peace!

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May your Mother Rest in Peace. I think 'Comeback' is a wonderful song and a good choice.

jcurley said:

Thankyou all. I shouldn't have posted. It feels a bit indulgent. I was just upset with my sister. There are some good and wise people here. Obviously we like Prince, we must be. Anyway her funeral is September 2nd. We'll see how Prince goes down. I know it'll break me. X

No worries,

Hugs to you....

I've been thinking of you. I hope you're doing okay now that the funeral has passed.

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How did the funeral go? Song choices?