I'm very new to the org but have been a Prince fan since at least 7 years old (I'm 40 now, btw) when I first heard 1999 (the song, not the album). At any rate, his passing has done a real number on me emotionally....I've haven't felt the same as I did before this happened, he was just a fact of life like water being wet. Now that he is gone from this earthly plane, it's only now hitting home how important he was to everyone's lives. I suppose I'm having this crazy delayed reaction to everything that's happened but April 21st left me in shock. He was simply the only musical artist that meant the world wasn't such a cruel, painful place. He did so much for so many. He was whatever you wanted him to be at any given moment. There's been many times I've turned to him, happy times, sad times, whatever was happening in my life, he managed to fit right in and complement the moment. Sorry if I sound wordy but this man really helped EVERYONE who heard and appreciated what he did...My point, I guess, is that I'm truly feeling the loss now....this morning was the first time I've cried about this (and may not be the last). Any advice would be awesome....

Anthoknee said:

Thank you guys so much! I'm feeling alot better knowing even a few others understand...what I'm going to take away from this is that as ugly as this world is, there ARE others who actually GET it (meaning this love for a talented little guy who inadvertantly changed ALL our lives)!

IsufferfromMPS said:

The casual prince fans don't get it. Everyone was shocked and saddened by his death, whether a fan not. For the casual fan, the sadness lasted until his birthday or so. Then once radio play died down, they were over it and moved on........... Then there's US! Everyone here definitely gets it. So glad I enlisted in the "Purple Army'

I KNOW! Me 2! It all happened in reverse for me: at first I was just STUNNED but as time has passed I've tried to postpone the grief, so to speak, by thinking of his less desirable qualities (like being mean and arrogant to people for no reason ect.) thinking it would balance out, that it wouldn't hurt as bad but no. My coping mechanism has not worked AT ALL, I'm afraid. Yet, I feel very lucky to be able to a part of his audience, his core fans. Because if you can say anything about them, they are passionate!

Anthoknee said:

I'm very new to the org but have been a Prince fan since at least 7 years old (I'm 40 now, btw) when I first heard 1999 (the song, not the album). At any rate, his passing has done a real number on me emotionally....I've haven't felt the same as I did before this happened, he was just a fact of life like water being wet. Now that he is gone from this earthly plane, it's only now hitting home how important he was to everyone's lives. I suppose I'm having this crazy delayed reaction to everything that's happened but April 21st left me in shock. He was simply the only musical artist that meant the world wasn't such a cruel, painful place. He did so much for so many. He was whatever you wanted him to be at any given moment. There's been many times I've turned to him, happy times, sad times, whatever was happening in my life, he managed to fit right in and complement the moment. Sorry if I sound wordy but this man really helped EVERYONE who heard and appreciated what he did...My point, I guess, is that I'm truly feeling the loss now....this morning was the first time I've cried about this (and may not be the last). Any advice would be awesome....

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Yes this sucks and not sure what we can do except remember that Prince would not want us to be sad. He would want us to enjoy his music and celebrate life, just like he did. But it's still difficult and everyone on here is going through the same thing, to varying degrees.

Cry when you need to. Keep yourself wrapped in a bubble of funk. Know that you are not alone.

OMG! Thank you guys!! It feels awesome that you'd take time to let me know that it'll be OK....I really haven't talked about this in my life cuz I don't have many (if any) friends who understand my total immersion in the Prince universe. Yes, I listen to other music but I can go weeks on end listening to released (and definitely unreleased) songs by him! I've have everything on vinyl from For You to about, say, 92....I even love Graffiti Bridge, the movie.....

I'm still listening to only his music. And I keep gorging on those YouTube videos. I think it might not be good for my emotional state and it might be about time to consider letting go a bit....but he's all I want to listen to/watch. Anyone in the same place? Plus his humor sometimes makes me feel better...

emby said:

I'm still listening to only his music. And I keep gorging on those YouTube videos. I think it might not be good for my emotional state and it might be about time to consider letting go a bit....but he's all I want to listen to/watch. Anyone in the same place? Plus his humor sometimes makes me feel better...

Yeah, I'm pretty much in the same place, I haven't really even been able to watch any drama (which I normally watch tons of), because I get about 15 minutes in and somehow get unhappy about the fact I'm not looking at Prince. The grief is loosening a little, but wanting to be surrounded by him is not...and yes, it is a not letting go, because all the time he's there in front of you moving, or you can hear his voice, he isn't gone...but he will always be there, and in a lot of ways he won't ever be gone. I decided beating myself up about it was probably going to be counterproductive, so I'm just letting myself do what I feel I want to do, and I reckon time will do its thing with time. It's a big big loss, and the fact that some people don't understand that doesn't change the fact that that's how it feels for a lot of us. Be kind to yourself, and trust you're doing what you need to do, and you'll get through it in the time you need to get through it. And as P would certaintly suggest, don't go worrying about what any other fucker thinks.

Anthoknee said:

I'm very new to the org but have been a Prince fan since at least 7 years old (I'm 40 now, btw) when I first heard 1999 (the song, not the album). At any rate, his passing has done a real number on me emotionally....I've haven't felt the same as I did before this happened, he was just a fact of life like water being wet. Now that he is gone from this earthly plane, it's only now hitting home how important he was to everyone's lives. I suppose I'm having this crazy delayed reaction to everything that's happened but April 21st left me in shock. He was simply the only musical artist that meant the world wasn't such a cruel, painful place. He did so much for so many. He was whatever you wanted him to be at any given moment. There's been many times I've turned to him, happy times, sad times, whatever was happening in my life, he managed to fit right in and complement the moment. Sorry if I sound wordy but this man really helped EVERYONE who heard and appreciated what he did...My point, I guess, is that I'm truly feeling the loss now....this morning was the first time I've cried about this (and may not be the last). Any advice would be awesome....

You are spot on about him being a fact of life- that's how I felt but couldn't articulate. I think you just have to think thank god we experienced him, and he left us with so much music. Most importantly though what would Prince want? He'd want you to enjoy the music, dance and be funky & never think of him as gone because really, when you play those songs he's right there with you.

To no one in particular: one of my earliest memories of Prince was when my cousin Kathleen let me borrow 1999 on cassette, she warned me not to listen to Lady Cab Driver. I was 8 so mostly I listened to side one (The "hits" side). It wasn't until I was 11 and had it on vinyl that i knew what she meant! And yes that "rap" section is disturbing to me as much today as then....mostly for Jill screaming like she is being assaulted....

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jayseajay said:

IsufferfromMPS said:

oliviacamron said:

IsufferfromMPS said:

Im the same as well. I pretty much only only listen to prince and watch him on YouTube almost everyday. You run across something new every once in a while. I just really miss him and just cant believe I will never have the opportunity to see him perform live again

I'm in the same boat too. Obsessed . Prince all day. So sad. I want to be the happy person I was before but I don't know how. I'm so in love with Prince. I dream about him too.

I've been listening to ALOT of stuff over the past few days and trying mostly to stay away from the sad songs, I have to say it's helped...I hope over the next year or so SOMETHING comes out of the vault that could possibly put things in perspective (maybe that could be too much to ask for, Idk) Right now I'm not sure WHAT exactly could "take away these blues", so to speak...but I'm feeling MUCH better due to the outpouring of emotion from this thread, I DEFINITELY feel better than I did...

I have felt this way, I didn't expect to lose MJ and didn't even really know the impact losing him would have. it killed me, then, one of my boxing heroes got shot a couple years ago, Hector Camacho and that was about as bad. So, although Prince really affeccted me, I can't say i wasn't experienced with losing the heroes of my youth by then. I pretty much knew what to expect, media wise, forum wise, emotional wise. So, ya, it hurt just as bad but I can't say it really screwed me up like the earlier deaths which left me in shock for a good while. I tend to think it's different when, as I am, i am a musician and was a fightter, to lose a hero, because you've inherited so much from them and were not just an observer, but from the sounds of it, fans often hurt just as bad. One other thing I can say, and it's the same with beloved family members and Prince, the things that drove you nuts or pissed you off when they were alive you miss every bit as much when they are gone. i wish Prince was still here saying cryptic shit, evading straight answers and suing youtube.