I think this might break up my marraige. He was born 1953, me 1963. He does not undersand Prince, his music or his magnitism. How should I handle this? He does not get it like the rest of us

tearsofpurple said:

I think this might break up my marraige. He was born 1953, me 1963. He does not undersand Prince, his music or his magnitism. How should I handle this? He does not get it like the rest of us

For real? Don't let THAT break up your marriage. My wife likes completely different music. She rolls her eyes when I mention a new album from one of my bands. I actually like talking about it just to get her reaction.

In my World I am the only one....no one cares and life moves on...no one near me or around me ever got it and still don't.

no, but i am having a bit of an issue with the small talk I hear when I come across it, people mention that he died and just joke about it in some fashion. they don't mean no harm, I just heard a couple grocers doing it, but I wish I didn't have to hear it. I'm still hurting here.

PeteSilas said:

Don't worry about him - you can come here and grieve with us all u want.

Don't let this sad situation destroy a marriage unless it's part of a bigger problem and lack of empathy. I'm in a similar situation myself, hence no real postings on FB where my wife would see it and of course have her feelings hurt. We've only been married 6 and a half years so she missed out on the other 48 Prince concerts that I attended before we got together. She knows how important he was to me but I don't think she truly get's it. She knows that I was lucky enough to talk with him several times with a mutual friend when I lived in Hawaii but I've never shared the particulars. I respected those few years that I did talk with him but since I was married before, she thinks that I did all this great fun stuff before we got married. Adding to the situation, her father passed away just a month prior to Prince's passing so I've tried to balance my grief but I did speak with my Dr. and am temporarily on anti-depressants. It's been an extremely tough and emotional month. There's been only one person that was consistently "with me" since I was 12 and that was Prince and his music. The two years that I spent in foster care for child abuse were greatly helped by his music.

I could have gone two ways in life but having a positive influence like Prince helped keep me on the straight and narrow. I've been "the Prince guy" since I was 12 and then through an entire 21 year Air Force career and I feel as if a part of who I am has been abruptly taken away. I see a million things with Prince's birthday and date of passing and i will not have anything with April 21st on it. I still refuse to accept that chapter as being closed. You know what's ironic is that my dad (who suffered from PTSD) used to beat the crap out of me every time he found a Prince cassette. Guess what day my dad passed? April 21st 1989. Odd thing is I didn't remember when my dad passed until my sister reminded me but I'll always remember that as the day we lost Prince.

Sorry for rambling but I did have to write a bit to relieve the internal stress and pain that I'm carrying around. Love The Org~

tearsofpurple said:

I think this might break up my marraige. He was born 1953, me 1963. He does not undersand Prince, his music or his magnitism. How should I handle this? He does not get it like the rest of us

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tearsofpurple said:

I think this might break up my marraige. He was born 1953, me 1963. He does not undersand Prince, his music or his magnitism. How should I handle this? He does not get it like the rest of us

If Prince's death is causing this level of problem, I think the issue is you not him.

Dont worry about it - you're not alone.

My wife has called him "overrated" on several occasions before his death. She probably will never utter those words again to me however it still hurt!

I'm still severly depressed over his death and just cant shake it and no one around me can ever understand. Thats why we have the org!

tearsofpurple said:

wishuhvn said:

Don't let this sad situation destroy a marriage unless it's part of a bigger problem and lack of empathy. I'm in a similar situation myself, hence no real postings on FB where my wife would see it and of course have her feelings hurt. We've only been married 6 and a half years so she missed out on the other 48 Prince concerts that I attended before we got together. She knows how important he was to me but I don't think she truly get's it. She knows that I was lucky enough to talk with him several times with a mutual friend when I lived in Hawaii but I've never shared the particulars. I respected those few years that I did talk with him but since I was married before, she thinks that I did all this great fun stuff before we got married. Adding to the situation, her father passed away just a month prior to Prince's passing so I've tried to balance my grief but I did speak with my Dr. and am temporarily on anti-depressants. It's been an extremely tough and emotional month. There's been only one person that was consistently "with me" since I was 12 and that was Prince and his music. The two years that I spent in foster care for child abuse were greatly helped by his music.

I could have gone two ways in life but having a positive influence like Prince helped keep me on the straight and narrow. I've been "the Prince guy" since I was 12 and then through an entire 21 year Air Force career and I feel as if a part of who I am has been abruptly taken away. I see a million things with Prince's birthday and date of passing and i will not have anything with April 21st on it. I still refuse to accept that chapter as being closed. You know what's ironic is that my dad (who suffered from PTSD) used to beat the crap out of me every time he found a Prince cassette. Guess what day my dad passed? April 21st 1989. Odd thing is I didn't remember when my dad passed until my sister reminded me but I'll always remember that as the day we lost Prince.

Sorry for rambling but I did have to write a bit to relieve the internal stress and pain that I'm carrying around. Love The Org~

My wife has been very supportive this past month, but I can tell that she's sick of hearing about Prince for a while.

She was really supportive the weekend following Prince's death. We played him almost nonstop and watched all of the news reports. Even listened to him on SiriusXM.

BillieBalloon said:

tearsofpurple said:

I think this might break up my marraige. He was born 1953, me 1963. He does not undersand Prince, his music or his magnitism. How should I handle this? He does not get it like the rest of us

I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship but just because he doesn't love prince it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. I think if you love him then accept that and continue because your bond as a husband and wife should come first.

I can't imagine that a death of a celebrity would break up a relationship. Music is not always a "shared" experience. You like who you like, he likes who he likes.

If he's not into Prince's music, then that's his choice. It just makes it a special thing that is just "yours". My wife doesn't like a lot of the music I listen to either, and we're only a year apart.

wishuhvn said:

Don't let this sad situation destroy a marriage unless it's part of a bigger problem and lack of empathy. I'm in a similar situation myself, hence no real postings on FB where my wife would see it and of course have her feelings hurt. We've only been married 6 and a half years so she missed out on the other 48 Prince concerts that I attended before we got together. She knows how important he was to me but I don't think she truly get's it. She knows that I was lucky enough to talk with him several times with a mutual friend when I lived in Hawaii but I've never shared the particulars. I respected those few years that I did talk with him but since I was married before, she thinks that I did all this great fun stuff before we got married. Adding to the situation, her father passed away just a month prior to Prince's passing so I've tried to balance my grief but I did speak with my Dr. and am temporarily on anti-depressants. It's been an extremely tough and emotional month. There's been only one person that was consistently "with me" since I was 12 and that was Prince and his music. The two years that I spent in foster care for child abuse were greatly helped by his music.

I could have gone two ways in life but having a positive influence like Prince helped keep me on the straight and narrow. I've been "the Prince guy" since I was 12 and then through an entire 21 year Air Force career and I feel as if a part of who I am has been abruptly taken away. I see a million things with Prince's birthday and date of passing and i will not have anything with April 21st on it. I still refuse to accept that chapter as being closed. You know what's ironic is that my dad (who suffered from PTSD) used to beat the crap out of me every time he found a Prince cassette. Guess what day my dad passed? April 21st 1989. Odd thing is I didn't remember when my dad passed until my sister reminded me but I'll always remember that as the day we lost Prince.

Sorry for rambling but I did have to write a bit to relieve the internal stress and pain that I'm carrying around. Love The Org~

touching, Prince was the patron saint for most of us "Strays Of The World" I do wish he would have explored some of those ideas ie. the dawn even more. He was my leader. I saw a guy who likes my music last week, I told him I haven't done anything since Prince died, no singing, no playing, nothing. then I said "my leader is gone, what's the point?" Of course I don't mean that literally, i'll be back and I'll always carry him with me but it's been a tough road being a musician, hell really and now this. As I'm sure Prince would say though, carry on.

Se7en said:

I've heard of Elvis breaking up some relationships of fans too. People get possessive, people have this quirk, I notice it with my customers, if one customer thinks he's not getting as much of my time as another they start to tear down the other customer, just a wierd little human quirk, this jealousy thing.

My husband has a very different taste in music to me and, whilst I quite enjoy punk, he dosen't enjoy Prince. He has little sympathy as most of The Ramones are already dead. I ignore him. I play my Princey full blast, loud and proud whenever and wherever possible. I was into Prince when I met him and he has to tolerate me. No argument. I'm not giving up Prince for no-one.

In a way I guess he's quite glad he's dead. He hated Hit n Run. Me suddenly emptying the bank account to trek around goodness knows where following a man he hates. But we'd never break up over it. I appreciate Prince as a brilliant showman and a genius with music but that's all. My husband knows me better than anyone. All my good and bad bits and he loves me for them. Despite our different tastes in music, it'd be ridiculous to throw away what is otherwise a good marriage over someone who never knew I existed.

That being said, I have dumped plenty of ex's years ago who just didn't get it. I guess my husbands obsession with punk at least allows me to have my Prince obsession in the first place. I definitely couldn't be with someone who wasn't at least heavily into music.

wishuhvn said:

Don't let this sad situation destroy a marriage unless it's part of a bigger problem and lack of empathy. I'm in a similar situation myself, hence no real postings on FB where my wife would see it and of course have her feelings hurt. We've only been married 6 and a half years so she missed out on the other 48 Prince concerts that I attended before we got together. She knows how important he was to me but I don't think she truly get's it. She knows that I was lucky enough to talk with him several times with a mutual friend when I lived in Hawaii but I've never shared the particulars. I respected those few years that I did talk with him but since I was married before, she thinks that I did all this great fun stuff before we got married. Adding to the situation, her father passed away just a month prior to Prince's passing so I've tried to balance my grief but I did speak with my Dr. and am temporarily on anti-depressants. It's been an extremely tough and emotional month. There's been only one person that was consistently "with me" since I was 12 and that was Prince and his music. The two years that I spent in foster care for child abuse were greatly helped by his music.

I could have gone two ways in life but having a positive influence like Prince helped keep me on the straight and narrow. I've been "the Prince guy" since I was 12 and then through an entire 21 year Air Force career and I feel as if a part of who I am has been abruptly taken away. I see a million things with Prince's birthday and date of passing and i will not have anything with April 21st on it. I still refuse to accept that chapter as being closed. You know what's ironic is that my dad (who suffered from PTSD) used to beat the crap out of me every time he found a Prince cassette. Guess what day my dad passed? April 21st 1989. Odd thing is I didn't remember when my dad passed until my sister reminded me but I'll always remember that as the day we lost Prince.

Sorry for rambling but I did have to write a bit to relieve the internal stress and pain that I'm carrying around. Love The Org~

Thank u 4 sharing. This really touched me. I am having a really hard time dealing with the loss of Prince as well. I know we r all grieving his loss in our own way. I have no one 2 talk 2 about my feeling as well. I asked myself is this normal 2 feel this way towards someone u never met b4. I am so thankful 4 all of u here at the org. I come here daily and it helps a great deal, but trying 2 move forward has been hard. It’s like where do u go from here. I lost my dear Mom last year and still haven’t got over her loss and now Prince. Just knowing that we will never have the pleasure of seeing and hearing from him again is so heartbreaking.

pennylover said:

wishuhvn said:

Don't let this sad situation destroy a marriage unless it's part of a bigger problem and lack of empathy. I'm in a similar situation myself, hence no real postings on FB where my wife would see it and of course have her feelings hurt. We've only been married 6 and a half years so she missed out on the other 48 Prince concerts that I attended before we got together. She knows how important he was to me but I don't think she truly get's it. She knows that I was lucky enough to talk with him several times with a mutual friend when I lived in Hawaii but I've never shared the particulars. I respected those few years that I did talk with him but since I was married before, she thinks that I did all this great fun stuff before we got married. Adding to the situation, her father passed away just a month prior to Prince's passing so I've tried to balance my grief but I did speak with my Dr. and am temporarily on anti-depressants. It's been an extremely tough and emotional month. There's been only one person that was consistently "with me" since I was 12 and that was Prince and his music. The two years that I spent in foster care for child abuse were greatly helped by his music.

I could have gone two ways in life but having a positive influence like Prince helped keep me on the straight and narrow. I've been "the Prince guy" since I was 12 and then through an entire 21 year Air Force career and I feel as if a part of who I am has been abruptly taken away. I see a million things with Prince's birthday and date of passing and i will not have anything with April 21st on it. I still refuse to accept that chapter as being closed. You know what's ironic is that my dad (who suffered from PTSD) used to beat the crap out of me every time he found a Prince cassette. Guess what day my dad passed? April 21st 1989. Odd thing is I didn't remember when my dad passed until my sister reminded me but I'll always remember that as the day we lost Prince.

Sorry for rambling but I did have to write a bit to relieve the internal stress and pain that I'm carrying around. Love The Org~

Thank u 4 sharing. This really touched me. I am having a really hard time dealing with the loss of Prince as well. I know we r all grieving his loss in our own way. I have no one 2 talk 2 about my feeling as well. I asked myself is this normal 2 feel this way towards someone u never met b4. I am so thankful 4 all of u here at the org. I come here daily and it helps a great deal, but trying 2 move forward has been hard. It’s like where do u go from here. I lost my dear Mom last year and still haven’t got over her loss and now Prince. Just knowing that we will never have the pleasure of seeing and hearing from him again is so heartbreaking.

So sorry for your loss and ours....

I've come to terms with the idea that this is going to take a very long time to process. I don't even try to share any of this with non-fans, but do not feel it's strange in any way to feel deeply for someone you never met. There are many ways of connecting besides physical proximity, and those we feel drawn to are no less important for not being personally acquainted.

pennylover said:

wishuhvn said:

Don't let this sad situation destroy a marriage unless it's part of a bigger problem and lack of empathy. I'm in a similar situation myself, hence no real postings on FB where my wife would see it and of course have her feelings hurt. We've only been married 6 and a half years so she missed out on the other 48 Prince concerts that I attended before we got together. She knows how important he was to me but I don't think she truly get's it. She knows that I was lucky enough to talk with him several times with a mutual friend when I lived in Hawaii but I've never shared the particulars. I respected those few years that I did talk with him but since I was married before, she thinks that I did all this great fun stuff before we got married. Adding to the situation, her father passed away just a month prior to Prince's passing so I've tried to balance my grief but I did speak with my Dr. and am temporarily on anti-depressants. It's been an extremely tough and emotional month. There's been only one person that was consistently "with me" since I was 12 and that was Prince and his music. The two years that I spent in foster care for child abuse were greatly helped by his music.

I could have gone two ways in life but having a positive influence like Prince helped keep me on the straight and narrow. I've been "the Prince guy" since I was 12 and then through an entire 21 year Air Force career and I feel as if a part of who I am has been abruptly taken away. I see a million things with Prince's birthday and date of passing and i will not have anything with April 21st on it. I still refuse to accept that chapter as being closed. You know what's ironic is that my dad (who suffered from PTSD) used to beat the crap out of me every time he found a Prince cassette. Guess what day my dad passed? April 21st 1989. Odd thing is I didn't remember when my dad passed until my sister reminded me but I'll always remember that as the day we lost Prince.

Sorry for rambling but I did have to write a bit to relieve the internal stress and pain that I'm carrying around. Love The Org~

Thank u 4 sharing. This really touched me. I am having a really hard time dealing with the loss of Prince as well. I know we r all grieving his loss in our own way. I have no one 2 talk 2 about my feeling as well. I asked myself is this normal 2 feel this way towards someone u never met b4. I am so thankful 4 all of u here at the org. I come here daily and it helps a great deal, but trying 2 move forward has been hard. It’s like where do u go from here. I lost my dear Mom last year and still haven’t got over her loss and now Prince. Just knowing that we will never have the pleasure of seeing and hearing from him again is so heartbreaking.

being a musician prince was a part of who i became so it isn't easy. i have to say it's not nearly as sad as losing a couple of my other heroes. A boxer named Hector Camacho and Michael Jackson, both of those guys had tragic lives in one way or other. I would have been a fighter if things were just a little different and camacho was the hero of my youth, the sad thing was, he fell prey to cocaine addiiciton and only fulfilled about 20 percent of his potential, that's a tragedy given his talent and no one seemed to remember how he was hailed at one point as a future all time great, that killed me. And with Michael, of course that guy was hounded to his death and that was all very sad. but Prince? He did what god put him here to do more than just about anyone else you'll ever see and that, to me, isn't nearly as sad. He had a great life.

GoldStandard said:

I have to hold myself back from judging people for not appreciating his genius as a reflection of their intellect. I now realise it's not that they don't understand it, it's that some people just don't pay proper attention or realise what is actually happening in his music. It's like if some people have blurry vision you can't really blame them for not noticing the detail on the Autumn leaves in the distance.

I like ur line:

"It's like if some people have blurry vision you can't really blame them for not noticing the detail on the Autumn leaves in the distance."

I'm sorry that you're going through that, but don't let it break up your marriage. My husband didn't listen to Prince's music, but he liked him as an entertainer. He knew that I loved Prince, and knew that I was a huge fan, and he was okay with that. He was very supportive and comforting to me when Prince passed, asking me if I was alright and all. In fact, it was my husband that took me to see Prince for the first time in 2014 at the Essence Fest, because he knew that I said that I always wanted to see him in concert. He didn't even mind me wanting good floor seats, and paying a good price to get them. He always used to joke that Prince was my first love, and he was my second. Now, what really kind of shocked me, was my first boyfriend contacting a cousin of mine, and asking her how I was doing, because he heard that Prince died, and knew how much I used to love him! I didn't expect that at all, because our relationship was so long ago, and it never even crossed my mind that he would even remember such a thing, but I guess I used to talk about my love of Prince a lot, even way back then.

Just read all these posts and just want to send love and best wishes to anyone going through or experiencing a tough time..

wishuhvn said:

Don't let this sad situation destroy a marriage unless it's part of a bigger problem and lack of empathy. I'm in a similar situation myself, hence no real postings on FB where my wife would see it and of course have her feelings hurt. We've only been married 6 and a half years so she missed out on the other 48 Prince concerts that I attended before we got together. She knows how important he was to me but I don't think she truly get's it. She knows that I was lucky enough to talk with him several times with a mutual friend when I lived in Hawaii but I've never shared the particulars. I respected those few years that I did talk with him but since I was married before, she thinks that I did all this great fun stuff before we got married. Adding to the situation, her father passed away just a month prior to Prince's passing so I've tried to balance my grief but I did speak with my Dr. and am temporarily on anti-depressants. It's been an extremely tough and emotional month. There's been only one person that was consistently "with me" since I was 12 and that was Prince and his music. The two years that I spent in foster care for child abuse were greatly helped by his music.

I could have gone two ways in life but having a positive influence like Prince helped keep me on the straight and narrow. I've been "the Prince guy" since I was 12 and then through an entire 21 year Air Force career and I feel as if a part of who I am has been abruptly taken away. I see a million things with Prince's birthday and date of passing and i will not have anything with April 21st on it. I still refuse to accept that chapter as being closed. You know what's ironic is that my dad (who suffered from PTSD) used to beat the crap out of me every time he found a Prince cassette. Guess what day my dad passed? April 21st 1989. Odd thing is I didn't remember when my dad passed until my sister reminded me but I'll always remember that as the day we lost Prince.

Sorry for rambling but I did have to write a bit to relieve the internal stress and pain that I'm carrying around. Love The Org~

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