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Thread started 05/13/16 7:19pm

bigbrother

Prince and female musicians

Casting aside some of his less talented female protégées, do you think that Prince is regarded as somebody who tried to champion the talents of gifted female artists such as Wendy, Lisa,Sheila E, CC Dunham, 3rd Eye Girl, etc? Did he promote them in his bands to make a genuine point about gender discrimination in a macho rock world or simply because he thought it made him look cool or for image purposes? After all, don't forget his famous quip,"Not bad ... for a girl!"
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Reply #1 posted 05/13/16 9:12pm

RiotPaisley

I think he just really respected women, period. I think it was really unfortunate that the press and media and even maybe the women themselves had to turn it into this thing where he was sleeping with all of them. I always thought that was kinda just an act but that degraded what he was actually doing maybe. That's why I think his work with Wendy and Lisa was so important because they clearly were not sleeping with him and there was just this chemistry between he and Wendy that was so intense and just dripping with love and respect. The way they all look at each other when they are up getting that Oscar. You can just see how much Wendy was just in love with him. And totally plutonic.

I think that's what bothers me so much about Sheila E suddenly? having been engaged to him. I just really believed it was a music relationship and there was none of that she's just in the band cuz she's hot. and I don't mean that's why Shelia was there cuz she is a DRUMMER. I personally don't think any chick made it to the band just cuz they were hot. That he saved for the "dancing protégés". So there were defintley a couple categories his "women" fell into.

I think his crack about not bad for a girl was totally a sarcastic joke. He knew damn well Sheila E is one of the greatest drummers of all time.

I honestly don't know much about 3EG- after awhile I realized not to get too attached to his bands... But from what I've heard they are really great musicians. He kept a tight band so anyone who made it into that category you just knew was good. He wanted the best and he didn't see gender as a barrier. Lots of all girl bands form because they can't get gigs with guys- boys don't want to play with girls. I'm not sure why, maybe they are afraid their own thunder would be compromised. I know it's frustrating for women to be in any male dominated position... Questions like "What's it like to be THE GIRL in the band vs How do you define your playing style?" (Or whatever typical question male musicians get... With women it's always prefaced with being "the girl")

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Reply #2 posted 05/13/16 9:47pm

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I don't know if we can take Wendy and Lisa as proof that he didn't always have flings with female protégés http://www.afterellen.com...an-history
"Wendy: I remember being at that “Sexuality” video shoot and him on stage with that little black jacket and that tie thing around his neck and his black pants with white buttons on the side. And we looked at each other for the first time and I thought, “Oh, I could so fall in love with that girl easy.” It doesn’t matter what sexuality, gender you are. You’re in the room with him and he gives you that look and you’re like, “Okay, I’m done. It’s over.” He’s Casanova. He’s Valentino."

I'm sure he had professional respect for droves of female artists, just thought that was an interesting tidbit
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Reply #3 posted 05/13/16 10:19pm

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to me it seems like his view of women was somehow a little off. I remember him saying in an interview something to the effect of, "I work with a lot of women because I don't get mad at them like I get mad at men." That's a little strange. How different must he have viewed men and women? And it sounds to me like he was being honest. I don't think he hires a bunch of women to work with behind the scenes because he wants to sleep with all of them or because he wants to look cool.

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Reply #4 posted 05/13/16 10:41pm

RiotPaisley

ETHERSPIN said:

I don't know if we can take Wendy and Lisa as proof that he didn't always have flings with female protégés http://www.afterellen.com...an-history
"Wendy: I remember being at that “Sexuality” video shoot and him on stage with that little black jacket and that tie thing around his neck and his black pants with white buttons on the side. And we looked at each other for the first time and I thought, “Oh, I could so fall in love with that girl easy.” It doesn’t matter what sexuality, gender you are. You’re in the room with him and he gives you that look and you’re like, “Okay, I’m done. It’s over.” He’s Casanova. He’s Valentino."

I'm sure he had professional respect for droves of female artists, just thought that was an interesting tidbit


Lol well speaking as a lesbian myself ... He has a real sex appeal no doubt. I think he is fine as hell. So fantastic to look at. His voice, his personality. He's just incredible but all around- but do the deed? Nah. That's not how it really works for women who strictly do women. There really isn't a man who could turn me straight. I love me some Prince, Lord knows I do, but if I ever knew him in real life, a sensual plutonic thing is as far as it would go. I think people in a room playing music together can really get to the level of sexual intimacy if the chemistry is right, playing music together is a lot like fucking. Notice also she says I could fall in love with that GIRL easy. Not I could fall in love with that man. She calls him a fancy lesbian. His androgy is very appealing however, I highly doubt they ever did the deed, literally.
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Reply #5 posted 05/13/16 10:49pm

RiotPaisley

fusk said:

to me it seems like his view of women was somehow a little off. I remember him saying in an interview something to the effect of, "I work with a lot of women because I don't get mad at them like I get mad at men." That's a little strange. How different must he have viewed men and women? And it sounds to me like he was being honest. I don't think he hires a bunch of women to work with behind the scenes because he wants to sleep with all of them or because he wants to look cool.



What is strange to say or off about that? He just related to men and women differently. I think that's pretty normal.

Women probably worked harder because we always have to prove ourselves, especially in the recording / music industry.
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Reply #6 posted 05/14/16 2:50am

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Prince and Lisa dated circa 1980. Some of you may not be aware of that.

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Reply #7 posted 05/14/16 6:37am

SPYZFAN1

Yup...Even wrote a couple of songs about her.

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Reply #8 posted 05/14/16 7:09am

EloiseEloise

My guess is that Prince was a complex guy, full of complicated mixed if not ambivalent emotions.

My guess is that he was somewhat Aspergers/Narcissistic (a bit of an autistic genius type) and that he had very thin boundaries that, like Jung would put, allowed him greater access to his anima (female part of his mind) and that probably also influenced his sexuality - again, bisexuals are also hornier period. It goes with being intenself sensitive. He was like an American Indian "Two Spirit" with special access to the spirit world (he arguably had psychic ability) as well as access to the female brain (see his interview with Oprah and how he describes having an almost second female personality within him self).

So, to me, like all gender inbetweeners and/or bisexuals, life is pretty difficult. Whether you are male or female you cop A LOT of flack -you really do. It is very hard to be in between -even though it is also the precise place where the greatest creativity or potential for it certainly exists -if you can sustain "the conflict between polar opposites" (see Jung's ideas) ...if you can manage it you attain a kind a genius -a new creation, it's a God space -but if you can't handle it, you become swamped, and fall into a sort of confusion or otherwise are just off the mark -as in, these sorts of people tend to be addicts or control freaks, if or when they can't handle all the "flow".

Anyhow, I have known a person like this and I consider my self to be somewhat like this my self -I have found a "male person" within my self -although I do not consider my self transexual or even necessarily gay -I would say, somewhat bisexual.

As for attitudes towards the opposite gender... very good question. would depend on how he could resolve any sense of inner conflict.

My guess is that he was a complicated mixture of self interest and empathy towards women and feminity.

Also, that he was simultaneously giving freedom to his own feminine side by including female musicians more. ..

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Reply #9 posted 05/15/16 12:23am

fusk

RiotPaisley said:

fusk said:

to me it seems like his view of women was somehow a little off. I remember him saying in an interview something to the effect of, "I work with a lot of women because I don't get mad at them like I get mad at men." That's a little strange. How different must he have viewed men and women? And it sounds to me like he was being honest. I don't think he hires a bunch of women to work with behind the scenes because he wants to sleep with all of them or because he wants to look cool.

What is strange to say or off about that? He just related to men and women differently. I think that's pretty normal. Women probably worked harder because we always have to prove ourselves, especially in the recording / music industry.


I'd say it's normal up to a point. In business dealings it really shouldn't matter if you're talking to a man or a woman, but he makes it sound like he argues with the male employees/managers/contractors and gets soft with the women. That kind of thing is totally normal, but I think usually people try to put that alpha-dog nonsense aside when it comes to business.

I could be wrong, though. Maybe business dudes only put up with other business dudes because they don't have the option to hire a bunch of women.

Anyway, my point isn't very clear. It's just a feeling I got. If Prince really didn't like dealing with men, that sounds like some kind of unhealthy ego problem to me. And if women don't trigger the anger response in him, what does that mean? That they're not a threat to his ego? Or maybe he just wants to please them? I don't know. I definitely have written far too much about stuff I have no clue about.

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Reply #10 posted 05/15/16 12:50am

RiotPaisley

fusk said:



RiotPaisley said:


fusk said:

to me it seems like his view of women was somehow a little off. I remember him saying in an interview something to the effect of, "I work with a lot of women because I don't get mad at them like I get mad at men." That's a little strange. How different must he have viewed men and women? And it sounds to me like he was being honest. I don't think he hires a bunch of women to work with behind the scenes because he wants to sleep with all of them or because he wants to look cool.



What is strange to say or off about that? He just related to men and women differently. I think that's pretty normal. Women probably worked harder because we always have to prove ourselves, especially in the recording / music industry.


I'd say it's normal up to a point. In business dealings it really shouldn't matter if you're talking to a man or a woman, but he makes it sound like he argues with the male employees/managers/contractors and gets soft with the women. That kind of thing is totally normal, but I think usually people try to put that alpha-dog nonsense aside when it comes to business.

I could be wrong, though. Maybe business dudes only put up with other business dudes because they don't have the option to hire a bunch of women.

Anyway, my point isn't very clear. It's just a feeling I got. If Prince really didn't like dealing with men, that sounds like some kind of unhealthy ego problem to me. And if women don't trigger the anger response in him, what does that mean? That they're not a threat to his ego? Or maybe he just wants to please them? I don't know. I definitely have written far too much about stuff I have no clue about.



No one really knows anything.

I vaguely remember he dated Lisa but I also thought she was friends and dated Wendy for a long time. Didn't they grow up together? I thought Gayle? Was the one he dated.

Anyway- that's funny you say he was just soft on women. I think he expected a lot out of everyone. At least what I've read to believe. Maybe it was just a balance thing. Did he really argue a lot? I haven't read any books or anything.
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Reply #11 posted 05/15/16 4:52am

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bigbrother said:

Casting aside some of his less talented female protégées, do you think that Prince is regarded as somebody who tried to champion the talents of gifted female artists such as Wendy, Lisa,Sheila E, CC Dunham, 3rd Eye Girl, etc? Did he promote them in his bands to make a genuine point about gender discrimination in a macho rock world or simply because he thought it made him look cool or for image purposes? After all, don't forget his famous quip,"Not bad ... for a girl!"


His line "not bad..for a girl" was most definitely 100% meant as a joke and some sort of funny provocation. He said it to Sheila E, thus at the same time to all female attendants. I think he knew talent when he saw it and imo it had nothing to do with trying to look cool or whatever. I'm glad he was one of the few artists who gave women a place on stage in a world mostly dominated by men.
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Reply #12 posted 05/15/16 6:44am

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I do think he brought out the best in each musician he worked with.

On a side note, after listening to a lot of my Prince collection these past few weeks, I've noticed most of my favorite songs have a strong female presence, especially in the vocals.

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Reply #13 posted 05/17/16 2:23am

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Was there ever a man in the industry who did more to promote female artists and mentor emerging female artists? Not in my opinion. In fact, I think this is part of his legacy and a great example that I hope some other notables will follow in years to come.

Even if he did sleep with all of them - which I highly doubt - have any of them ever complained about unwanted advances or attention? No. Over 30 years of mentoring protégés and no one had a bad word to say about him, ever. If he was some kind of lecherous pervert I think someone would have blown the lid on him being a sleaze by now. It's basically completely bizarre to me that anyone would suggest he mentored women or offered to help them just to get some.

Basically Prince was a feminist. He respected women and said he liked female energy. Yes he also loved beautiful women. But when it came to music, dance or art he wanted to help talented people. He valued his time too highly to waste it promoting talentless bimbos. He used his star power and experience to help talented women he liked get a leg up in the industry. Shame there's not more men like him.
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Couldn't have said it any better. What a wonderful post! I think only the press rumored about him eventually sleeping with his proteges. Because they probably hadn't anything else sensible to say about him. Only because he sang so much about sex(uality), people all of a sudden think he had nothing else on hs mind? Pffff...yawn. Big yawn. HUGE yawn.
Go back to sleep, you so called reporters. Prince was all about music and he just spoke his mind when doing so. He dared to sing about stuff all others were afraid to. Good for him. I'm glad someone did and even gladder it was Prince who did it.
The list of artists who tried to copy him is endless. And the list of artists who didn't succeed to equal him is just as long.

Like I said in my previous post: Prince knew talent when he saw it: male or female.

To those who think differently: "Shut up, already! DAMN!!"
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Reply #15 posted 05/19/16 3:31am

EloiseEloise

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Was there ever a man in the industry who did more to promote female artists and mentor emerging female artists? Not in my opinion. In fact, I think this is part of his legacy and a great example that I hope some other notables will follow in years to come. Even if he did sleep with all of them - which I highly doubt - have any of them ever complained about unwanted advances or attention? No. Over 30 years of mentoring protégés and no one had a bad word to say about him, ever. If he was some kind of lecherous pervert I think someone would have blown the lid on him being a sleaze by now. It's basically completely bizarre to me that anyone would suggest he mentored women or offered to help them just to get some. Basically Prince was a feminist. He respected women and said he liked female energy. Yes he also loved beautiful women. But when it came to music, dance or art he wanted to help talented people. He valued his time too highly to waste it promoting talentless bimbos. He used his star power and experience to help talented women he liked get a leg up in the industry. Shame there's not more men like him.

My personal opinion would be that it was more complicated than this...

For one thing, I am reading a biography on Prince - "Thieves In the Temple"- and in it the author describes how Prince sacked all/or most of the males in his band just before forming The Revolution and hiring Wendy and Lisa. And the author believes that the males in his group were a threat to him, whilst females were felt as not being a threat.

I think that he was a highly complicated person -a mixture of emotions. This is an opinion that I have read about him else where.

Also, whilst he may have been mostly great to women in the music industry, he does not seem to have had the smoothest of images in his personal life -by which I mean that more than one of the women who went out with him supposedly dumped him for being "too controlling" including of their careers.

So, yes he included women, but he may still have had some issues.

I don't say this to be mean: no one is perfect.

I still consider him to be a truly interesting and one of a kind wonderful sort of person.

My impression however is of an individual who had a lot of flaws as well as remarkable gifts.

And I don't believe there is anything wrong with that.

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Reply #16 posted 05/19/16 4:45am

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EloiseEloise said:



captiveunicorn said:


Was there ever a man in the industry who did more to promote female artists and mentor emerging female artists? Not in my opinion. In fact, I think this is part of his legacy and a great example that I hope some other notables will follow in years to come. Even if he did sleep with all of them - which I highly doubt - have any of them ever complained about unwanted advances or attention? No. Over 30 years of mentoring protégés and no one had a bad word to say about him, ever. If he was some kind of lecherous pervert I think someone would have blown the lid on him being a sleaze by now. It's basically completely bizarre to me that anyone would suggest he mentored women or offered to help them just to get some. Basically Prince was a feminist. He respected women and said he liked female energy. Yes he also loved beautiful women. But when it came to music, dance or art he wanted to help talented people. He valued his time too highly to waste it promoting talentless bimbos. He used his star power and experience to help talented women he liked get a leg up in the industry. Shame there's not more men like him.



My personal opinion would be that it was more complicated than this...



For one thing, I am reading a biography on Prince - "Thieves In the Temple"- and in it the author describes how Prince sacked all/or most of the males in his band just before forming The Revolution and hiring Wendy and Lisa. And the author believes that the males in his group were a threat to him, whilst females were felt as not being a threat.



I think that he was a highly complicated person -a mixture of emotions. This is an opinion that I have read about him else where.



Also, whilst he may have been mostly great to women in the music industry, he does not seem to have had the smoothest of images in his personal life -by which I mean that more than one of the women who went out with him supposedly dumped him for being "too controlling" including of their careers.



So, yes he included women, but he may still have had some issues.



I don't say this to be mean: no one is perfect.



I still consider him to be a truly interesting and one of a kind wonderful sort of person.


My impression however is of an individual who had a lot of flaws as well as remarkable gifts.


And I don't believe there is anything wrong with that.



I haven't read the book you mention. Are you saying that it suggests that Prince promoted women musicians into his band because he was threatened by other talented male musicians? I just don't know I can believe that - Prince had a lot of male musicians in his bands so... I'm not convinced. Also I don't believe the effort he put into mentoring women - in particular black women - musicians, dancers, photographers, writers, etc over the years was motivated by a negative attitude towards men. One of his mentees says that he believed in affirmative action and I think the pattern of his mentoring choices over many years and up until his passing would support that.
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EloiseEloise said:

And the author believes that the males in his group were a threat to him, whilst females were felt as not being a threat.

Im not sure its a gender thing as much as an ego or conflict of personality thing. He's obviously worked with many men for loong periods of time (morris i think was the longest)

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