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Thread started 05/10/16 11:12am

mgpm17

Anyone else having a hard time getting over this loss?

I have been thinking of little else over the past weeks since Prince died. I've read four biographies, am online incessantly looking at videos, interviews, etc.

My family is getting impatient with me and doesn't want me to discuss Prince related anedotes with them any more. They feel I'm obsessed.

Perhaps I am. I'm grieving pretty hard and it is intense.

Anyone else like this? What are you doing to help yourself?

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Reply #1 posted 05/10/16 11:23am

tigerLily77

Dont worry, you are not alone in the slightest. I'm the same way right now as im sure many others are.

Its all im really thinking about really :/ i feel way too close to it.

I have this need to uncover what happened because something just doesnt feel right.

Time will heal. neutral

xxx

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Reply #2 posted 05/10/16 11:47am

Genesia

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I'm here, aren't I?

We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves.
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Reply #3 posted 05/10/16 12:04pm

Cinnamon234

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I think most of us here are having a hard time with this. It's not something I can ever see myself "getting over". No one has a choice but to live with it but his passing will always hurt.
"And When The Groove Is Dead And Gone, You Know That Love Survives, So We Can Rock Forever" RIP MJ heart

"Baby, that was much too fast"...Goodnight dear sweet Prince. I'll love you always heart
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Reply #4 posted 05/10/16 12:07pm

Guitarhero

We all are , just hang in there folks much love to you all.

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Reply #5 posted 05/10/16 9:06pm

bilbolives

mgpm17 said:

I have been thinking of little else over the past weeks since Prince died. I've read four biographies, am online incessantly looking at videos, interviews, etc.

My family is getting impatient with me and doesn't want me to discuss Prince related anedotes with them any more. They feel I'm obsessed.

Perhaps I am. I'm grieving pretty hard and it is intense.

Anyone else like this? What are you doing to help yourself?

I've forced myself to ensure I get my work done first, but inwardly I would rather just drive across the country to Minneapolis. We're all going through it.

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Reply #6 posted 05/10/16 9:50pm

yzarcog99

mgpm17 said:

I have been thinking of little else over the past weeks since Prince died. I've read four biographies, am online incessantly looking at videos, interviews, etc.

My family is getting impatient with me and doesn't want me to discuss Prince related anedotes with them any more. They feel I'm obsessed.

Perhaps I am. I'm grieving pretty hard and it is intense.

Anyone else like this? What are you doing to help yourself?

Yes. That's essentially why I decided to join here and post. It does help. I guess dreaming of conspiracies has helped (i.e., maybe he's still alive but shaking off stardom, etc). It's also helped to think of time as you would space. Though you moved through a time and we can't physically move back to it, it still exists, meaning he still exists, though back in that time. Listening to his music and learning from him also help. I thought of how he clearly practices great self-control and composes himself in public, and how I can control my thoughts and actions too. I don't know if you're religious, but reaching out to some higher power through mediation or prayer is also very balancing and calming. We're all here for you anytime to share too. Hugs and peace to you.

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Reply #7 posted 05/10/16 9:52pm

LBennet

Whenever I check social media, only about 50% max is actually social, and all the rest is Prince videos, photos, stories, etc. All my music was already pretty much just Prince, but now everyone wants to know if it's because he died and I feel too tired to talk about it anymore than just a 'no'. I keep reading the headline on the org every time I come check and they just sound foreign - 'Prince', 'passed away', and 'mourn' are words that don't belong together, that I just can't understand. I'm still in denial, I think, even though I say he's dead I don't think I believe it. But I just keep working and going to class, day by day, until the day that it's gonna hit.

Love, it only seems 2 buy a
Terminal condition of the heart
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Reply #8 posted 05/11/16 12:38am

WordOnTheStree
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I am obsessed, but it's nothing new for me so everyone expects it I think.
I've been out to Paisley Park a few times and every time I leave, I get the worst feeling, like it's the last time I'll get to be there. I cry when we pull up and I cry when we leave, and of course the whole time I'm there. It's too surreal.
I won't listen to anything but Prince and that's driving my kids crazy, but again it's nothing new. I'm just more adamant about not changing the music now than I ever was before.
I'm having a hard time with it. I'm devastated.
I'm pretty lucky I have a lot of good friends that are going through it too so we can talk about it together, and cry about it together. Cause there's sure been a lot of that. Everyone has been really supportive because they know how I feel about him. I have some good people in my life.
I'm still trying to process it though and to me that's the hardest part. One second I'm fine and the next, I'm balling. I don't know if that will ever change. I can say that acceptance is a long way off.
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Reply #9 posted 05/11/16 12:41am

Goddess4Real

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Especially when we have to wait for the results, and in the meantime all this crazy stuff going on.

Keep Calm & Listen To Prince
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Reply #10 posted 05/11/16 12:44am

FragileUnderto
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I was in the Org chat room talking to others
They cheer(ed) me up
Cant believe my purple psychedelic pimp slap pimp2

And I descend from grace, In arms of undertow
I will take my place, In the great below
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Reply #11 posted 05/11/16 2:09am

dJJ

Yes. Very much so.

99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%.
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Reply #12 posted 05/11/16 2:51am

oscarchristio7
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Im still in a state of disbelief.

When I see all the constant reports about his passing I somehow feel like im in some type of surreal dream state. Its just been weird times recently with the passing of Scott Weiland, David Bowie,Vanity and now Prince.

Specifically weird for me about Prince cause Ive been a fan since I was 14 starting from 1984.

I always found him inspiring and a big positive influence on my life.

Even though I wasnt really into his last 3 or 4 albums so much and mostly favoured his earlier stuff.

Still I always paid attention to what he was doing and only just last year I read the book "Prince Inside the Music and The Mask by Ronin Ro" the best Prince bio I have come across so far.

I was at work when I found out about Prince's passing.

I live in Australia so it was around 8.30am in the morning.

I overheard some co workers mentioning to each other "did you hear about Prince", I didnt know what exactly they meant but from their tone I felt it wasnt something good, I straight away googled Prince on my office computer.

I just couldnt believe the news. I had a pretty busy day ahead of me that day, but the entire day I was like every half hour just shaking my head in a state of disbelief. I felt really outta sorts most of that day and over that weekend.

Like everyone Im just trying to find some explanation in my own mind , how this incredible man, with such a lifeforce and energy level and capacity to do what most musician mortals are lucky to do even 5% of in their lives, can leave this earth at only 57. 5+7 = 12, 1+2 =3.

RIP Dear Prince

You Gave This World Sooooooo Much

You are definitly Dearly missed By Many

ThankYou For Being You

Rest Peacefully

[Edited 5/11/16 2:52am]

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Reply #13 posted 05/11/16 3:23am

Guamtodd

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I am loosing my mind over this, its getting worse everyday and am a little concerned where I might go with this. I have gone through loss before, but nothing like this. My family doesn't know what is wrong with me and I feel like a fool telling anyone what is bothering me so much. I am a 46 year old man destroyed by a person I have never met, but you know it feels he was my best friend. Growing up I never did drugs, used booze because I was under the impression Prince didn't need these things. He helped me develop into a decent person. I would get depressed while growing up and suicide would enter my mind. I use to tell myself that if I killed myself I would miss the next Prince album. I can't tell u how many times that got me through. So all I am doing here now trying to tell someone, I know there isn't going to be a next Prince album. I can't feel him out there anymore and I am mentally going into very strange places. I am hearing shit, seeing things and dreaming things that are not real, but connected to Prince. Tonight I had a flashback to the time, as a very young kid, in my garage that I found a LP, my older brothers friend's, in a stack of records and played it through and knew then that there was something very special going on here that would effect me forever. Sorry to ramble. I am not making it here people. I am loosing this battle. The story is not suppose to end like this. He was to always be around.
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Reply #14 posted 05/11/16 3:41am

DaniCalifornia

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All the time, every single day I keep thinking that a very essential part of my youth has gone with Prince. His music belongs to my soundtrack and the recognition that I won't see him again hurts. This is such a big loss.

"Don't want excuses, yeah. Write me your poetry in motion."
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Reply #15 posted 05/11/16 3:59am

Loefie

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Guamtodd,

Don't feel sorry you might ramble. You're not. You're getting there by just letting your feelings out, so don't feel sorry for that. You're not loosing this battle! It's hard he's not around anymore, but you don't want to miss the music he left us. And then I didn't even mentioned the unreleased material. If that will see the light of day in any kind of way, there is a lot to look forward to. Again, it is very very hard, but i'm sure you're getting there. Hang in there!!
Produced, Arranged, Composed & Performed by PRINCE


"Rotterdam, we come to jam!"
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Reply #16 posted 05/11/16 4:42am

rob1965

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DaniCalifornia said:

All the time, every single day I keep thinking that a very essential part of my youth has gone with Prince. His music belongs to my soundtrack and the recognition that I won't see him again hurts. This is such a big loss.



This describes how I feel as well. I'm besides a Prince fan also an EWF fan and last February the band lost its founder Maurice White. That saddened me, but I noticed that Prince's passing actually hurt me more. His music was/is so intense and his personality was so strong that no one campares 2 him. I'm glad to have been able to see him 10 times live on stage between '86 and '92. During those concerts he could make me laugh and party and cry just as easily. No one else could do that. Just when I decided it was waaaaay overdue to go see him live next time he'd show up, it's all over. Sad. The world lost a true personality and a fabulous musician (in all aspects), and in my opinion the best guitar player ever.
'Liberate My Mind'
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Reply #17 posted 05/11/16 4:48am

EloiseEloise

mgpm17 said:

I have been thinking of little else over the past weeks since Prince died. I've read four biographies, am online incessantly looking at videos, interviews, etc.

My family is getting impatient with me and doesn't want me to discuss Prince related anedotes with them any more. They feel I'm obsessed.

Perhaps I am. I'm grieving pretty hard and it is intense.

Anyone else like this? What are you doing to help yourself?

First time posting ...actually, pretty much on ANY fan site.

And I am the same.

Have been trying to pin-point the exact reason. ...cannot seem to find any ONE reason.

But I suspect that, in my case, it is a combination of how beautifully inspirational and passionate an artist he was along with my own lack of similar feelings towards my own life.

Sad, but in my case, this is I think true.

So, whilst for most of you it may be largely that he was just such a rivetting, one of a kind, performer and astonishingly good musician and song writer. For me it is also that his death has occurred during a period when I feel quite lacklustre and deflated as far as momentum goes.

So it feels as though his death is a double whammy of: "You have/are missing out on the excitement and the passion in life"

For me, that is what Prince was about.

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Reply #18 posted 05/11/16 5:25am

xRachx

I feel lost! I'm in deep depression over his passing. I cant shake this at all. Hope it'll get easier

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Reply #19 posted 05/11/16 6:10am

pureTsexy

I'm a grown married man, and father of a 6 yr old. This is still tough on me. Prince was a huge part of my life.
I work in the entertainment industry, and have been told for over 20 years how much I look like him. I was nicknamed Prince II in high school. So, I adopted some of his style for my stage persona. I also play guitar, and could never put my guitar down without playing, at least, one Prince song. His drive, work ethic, style, attitude, success, etc etc, had been a tremendous influence on my life personally, as well as professionally. I could go on and on, but I'll end with this. I grew up with no heroes, no role models, until 1989. That's when I discovered the genius of Prince. He was my only hero... my only role model. Thank God, he left such a huge catalog of music, and an unparalleled legacy.
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Reply #20 posted 05/11/16 6:32am

FUNKYNESS

xRachx said:

I feel lost! I'm in deep depression over his passing. I cant shake this at all. Hope it'll get easier

I am actually worse than I was when I found out. I think I have to stop listening to his music, looking at his photos, and reading things about him - complete blackout on Prince to get my mind on others things. I am not sure how I can do this since so many things in my life involved this man.

Save America - Stop Illegal Immigration. God bless America. PEACE
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Reply #21 posted 05/11/16 6:43am

BombFunk

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Latest news that crushed me is that he saw a doctor on the 20th of April and one day later he is dead?!? Seriously WTF?!? I just have no words for that, this only gets harder to deal with ... bheart


dove Forever changed dove wilted

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Reply #22 posted 05/11/16 6:55am

peppeken

Yes. Incredibly sad and still in disbelief. Like a nightmare. This was not supposed to be. Especially bad at night. Brought myself to listen to " its gonna be lonely" last night falling asleep.... Tears again. A part of us has died as well..
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Reply #23 posted 05/11/16 6:57am

peppeken

LBennet said:

Whenever I check social media, only about 50% max is actually social, and all the rest is Prince videos, photos, stories, etc. All my music was already pretty much just Prince, but now everyone wants to know if it's because he died and I feel too tired to talk about it anymore than just a 'no'. I keep reading the headline on the org every time I come check and they just sound foreign - 'Prince', 'passed away', and 'mourn' are words that don't belong together, that I just can't understand. I'm still in denial, I think, even though I say he's dead I don't think I believe it. But I just keep working and going to class, day by day, until the day that it's gonna hit.


Exactly.. Esp. When it says " prince WAS..."πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”
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Reply #24 posted 05/11/16 7:00am

100PercentSwee
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We're all experiencing this loss...Sometimes I just don't want 2 get out of bed in the morning. Every1 around me is saying "Why are U still upset? He's been dead" but he was more than just a singer for me, he was almost apart of my family.

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Reply #25 posted 05/11/16 7:01am

peppeken

Guamtodd said:

I am loosing my mind over this, its getting worse everyday and am a little concerned where I might go with this. I have gone through loss before, but nothing like this. My family doesn't know what is wrong with me and I feel like a fool telling anyone what is bothering me so much. I am a 46 year old man destroyed by a person I have never met, but you know it feels he was my best friend. Growing up I never did drugs, used booze because I was under the impression Prince didn't need these things. He helped me develop into a decent person. I would get depressed while growing up and suicide would enter my mind. I use to tell myself that if I killed myself I would miss the next Prince album. I can't tell u how many times that got me through. So all I am doing here now trying to tell someone, I know there isn't going to be a next Prince album. I can't feel him out there anymore and I am mentally going into very strange places. I am hearing shit, seeing things and dreaming things that are not real, but connected to Prince. Tonight I had a flashback to the time, as a very young kid, in my garage that I found a LP, my older brothers friend's, in a stack of records and played it through and knew then that there was something very special going on here that would effect me forever. Sorry to ramble. I am not making it here people. I am loosing this battle. The story is not suppose to end like this. He was to always be around.

You are not alone. A lot of us are like this. I was out walking last night and there was a bright purple light for no reason in the pitch dark park... Strange
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Reply #26 posted 05/11/16 7:19am

GlamSlamR

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I am still feeling empty. I'm so thankful that I have a place here to feel love and understanding. The chat room has been cathartic for me. Love to all my Purple People. Thank you.

Oooooooooooh, wait a minute, I think ya betta trip on this!!!!!
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Reply #27 posted 05/11/16 7:23am

terrig

I'm never getting over this. He's been in my life since I was 12.

I burst into tears again this morning right before meeting a client. It's hard. sad

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Reply #28 posted 05/11/16 12:09pm

PeteSilas

mgpm17 said:

I have been thinking of little else over the past weeks since Prince died. I've read four biographies, am online incessantly looking at videos, interviews, etc.

My family is getting impatient with me and doesn't want me to discuss Prince related anedotes with them any more. They feel I'm obsessed.

Perhaps I am. I'm grieving pretty hard and it is intense.

Anyone else like this? What are you doing to help yourself?

that's why i came back to the org. i been booted off a couple times and had no plans to ever come back because of the negativity. but I didn't see this coming. I'm here because prince changed my life and i need to have some kind of contact with people who were the same. I would venture to say, some people might think something is wrong with me if I told them how sad I was about a guy I never met and didn't know.

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Reply #29 posted 05/11/16 12:30pm

derrick31

Every day gets a little harder actually.
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