Almost two weeks....

Y'all?

Nope, they don't go away. Some days are better than others, but the hurt is still here. I've actually been listening to some old blues music by other artists, which seems to help by voicing the pain. It will get better with time but give yourself time. Loss doesn't go away overnight.

I have my good days and my bad days

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purplethunder3121 said:

Nope, they don't go away. Some days are better than others, but the hurt is still here. I've actually been listening to some old blues music by other artists, which seems to help by voicing the pain. It will get better with time but give yourself time. Loss doesn't go away overnight.

Cool. I've found listening to some of the old Doo-Wop and 50s pop songs help me. Paul Anka, The Platters, Dion and the Belmonts, Little Anthony, Bobby Vinton, etc....Something about the singing style and rawer/more theatrical expression as opposed to other, more modern songs I guess.

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DarlingKris said:

I have my good days and my days

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firebird319 said:

i wonder if i should stop seeking info until after the report. stop obsessing. but my mind needs this to make sense somehow. the recent info just made me feel much more helpless regarding [word for narrowly-missed opportunity leading to tragedy]. there must be some german compound word for this. still cry at some point in the day. acceptance is here, but the emotions orbiting it haven't settled down yet

There always is...and it is usually on spot. Hang in there; everyone's orbit is out of whack right now...

I waited years for Prince to come back to Nashville. Having a tough time with news that he probably would have already played here by now, had things gone as planned.

But then, nothing much can make this any worse. That he died alone, had been suffering, ... it's just awful.

tnhybrid said:

I waited years for Prince to come back to Nashville. Having a tough time with news that he probably would have already played here by now, had things gone as planned.

But then, nothing much can make this any worse. That he died alone, had been suffering, ... it's just awful.

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Yes, just making it all worse. I saw him in Atlanta and planned to see more shows and they were apparently planning Louisville and Nashville coming soon. I would have driven to both of those or sure.

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Although from what we are finding out, I guess he would have been in some sort of rehab for awhile anyway before resuming the tour. But I hadn't seen him live in a decade (which is crazy) and reminded me what a powerful and special experience it is and now it's gone forever. And of course that is selfish, but he just had the power to make people happy.

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Most of all, I really liked how he had become so mellow and seemed to be looking back on his career and I just wanted him to be able to enjoy all the adulation and relax more...damn.

Here's the thing about grief: The sadness never goes away. It stays with you. It'll always be there. It'll creep up on you when you least expect it. The trick is not to look for a way to get rid of the sadness. It's in giving yourself permission to experience joy again.

Often, when we're grieving, we convince ourselves that happiness isn't appropriate or that it isn't fair to those we've lost. You'll get there if you allow yourself and realize you deserve it.

FYI, my father passed away in December. I've been grappling with the various stages of grief for the past five months. I'm still in the processes of arrangements with my family. When Prince passed, it felt as though I'd fallen right back to stage one. It's a struggle to give myself permission to find laughter, but I do it because I know I need to.

Prince gave us a hell of a lot of joy while he was here. He may have left us, but he didn't take that joy with him. It's all still here waiting for you to enjoy it again when you're ready.

Nickadoo said:

Here's the thing about grief: The sadness never goes away. It stays with you. It'll always be there. It'll creep up on you when you least expect it. The trick is not to look for a way to get rid of the sadness. It's in giving yourself permission to experience joy again.

Often, when we're grieving, we convince ourselves that happiness isn't appropriate or that it isn't fair to those we've lost. You'll get there if you allow yourself and realize you deserve it.

FYI, my father passed away in December. I've been grappling with the various stages of grief for the past five months. I'm still in the processes of arrangements with my family. When Prince passed, it felt as though I'd fallen right back to stage one. It's a struggle to give myself permission to find laughter, but I do it because I know I need to.

Prince gave us a hell of a lot of joy while he was here. He may have left us, but he didn't take that joy with him. It's all still here waiting for you to enjoy it again when you're ready.

Great advice. I lost family members and then my best friend at the end of last year. When Prince passed, I felt like I was back in the daze of my friend passing away last year. I still hadn't gotten past that. Feels like I'm starting all over again, and I've never felt like this after a musician I didn't personally know passed on in my life. I'm so sorry for the loss of your father...and Prince. Keep working at it. Let's remember the best of our loved ones...and keep playing Prince's music. I personally find Bonnie Raitt's new song "The Ones We Couldn't Be." comforting. She lost several people dear to her in recent years. And I found it very touching that she dedicated three songs to Prince at the show I went to the weekend after he passed. I never knew that they had recorded an album together in the 80s.