I agree. I don't often post here, but I visit regularly. In the last week I have found this site a very comforting place.

Been coming here a lot lately since P passed. It does me so much good to be here too not like this other artist's fan forum that I will not mention. People are ridicously rude and superficial over there and I really don't want to be a part of that anymore. But wow, the org is nicer now than when I was here years ago. I hope I can make some friends here because I really need people in my life who understand my love for Prince and won't judge me for it like everyone else has done in the past.

Agreed. As I mentioned in another thread, I've been a member for years but really only lurked until now. The org has been very comforting. Makes me wish I would've been more of an "active" member while he was still with us...

^ Wish I would've been an active member too. Makes me feel like a hypocrite or a fake fan

DoItAllNight4U said:

artist76 said:

DoItAllNight4U said:

Been coming here a lot lately since P passed. It does me so much good to be here too not like this other artist's fan forum that I will not mention. People are ridicously rude and superficial over there and I really don't want to be a part of that anymore. But wow, the org is nicer now than when I was here years ago. I hope I can make some friends here because I really need people in my life who understand my love for Prince and won't judge me for it like everyone else has done in the past.

Like you, I also felt there was no one in my life who liked Prince and couldn't ever bring him up to people, but haven't you been amazed this last week at all the outpouring of respect and appreciation for Prince? People in my life not making fun of him, telling me they like this or that song (the big hits, but still), and that they know he was gifted, original, and influential.

Gosh I wish I could say the same, but no, nobody in my life or on Facebook has said a single thing about liking Prince. Well, there's my mom who told me today and yesterday that she's had Purple Rain stuck in her head for a while now and only PR because that's the only song she knows. Other than that, nobody has come out to tell me they like this or that song or that P was talented. Nothing. People have been ignoring me on Facebook, not that I'm popular, but when it comes to my posts about Prince, nobody gives it a "like" or won't take 20 seconds out of their lives to say they're sorry or to ask me how I'm doing. I feel like they're doing it on purpose. I already feel that people don't like me or care about me and then for them to ignore me like this makes me feel like sh!t.

I'm so sorry for spewing out my personal issues, but it really does make me feel angry that no one in my life cares about Prince. I know that people should not be obligated to say something, but come on, NOBODY has said a single thing about him. When David Bowie died, a few people posted stuff about him.

DoItAllNight4U said:

Gosh I wish I could say the same, but no, nobody in my life or on Facebook has said a single thing about liking Prince. Well, there's my mom who told me today and yesterday that she's had Purple Rain stuck in her head for a while now and only PR because that's the only song she knows. Other than that, nobody has come out to tell me they like this or that song or that P was talented. Nothing. People have been ignoring me on Facebook, not that I'm popular, but when it comes to my posts about Prince, nobody gives it a "like" or won't take 20 seconds out of their lives to say they're sorry or to ask me how I'm doing. I feel like they're doing it on purpose. I already feel that people don't like me or care about me and then for them to ignore me like this makes me feel like sh!t.

I'm so sorry for spewing out my personal issues, but it really does make me feel angry that no one in my life cares about Prince. I know that people should not be obligated to say something, but come on, NOBODY has said a single thing about him. When David Bowie died, a few people posted stuff about him.

That's why you have us here Everyone was talking about him on my FB feed. Of course everyone immediately flooded my page with condolences and things like that, everyone who knows me knows the love I have for him so it was comforting to know that they cared. However, they don't really know how in depth it is for me (us). The sad part is, pretty much everyone has let it go by now. They're all concerned about Beyonce and Drake and their new albums while I'm over here literally trying to keep myself together on a daily basis. I'd much rather spend my time here with the Purple family. You post however you feel, whenever and wherever!

DoItAllNight4U said:

^ Wish I would've been an active member too. Makes me feel like a hypocrite or a fake fan

I would not worry about that! What has amazed me most in the last week is how many fans, and I mean obviously genuine ones, were around. When the news first broke, I switced to BBC World (rather than the normal UK one), then I waited in hope it was not true. The guy on the screen was just finishing the "OS" (outside source) segment. He broke the news as the segment was due to finish, but the BBC World News decided to keep the OS segment running because it was obvious that the guy could cope and it was very obvious that he was a bit of a fan, remarking on what his concerts were like, and the songs that others had song. And this was without a break, it was newsflash and bang, the guy knew it all and hit the ground running.

I was in shock, obviously I was in bits, but this guy was exceptional and the right guy for the moment.

Anyway, that sort of thing, where people said stuff that the general public really never seemed interested in before, it kept happening. And I have concluded that what I always knew...

The thing with being a prince fan, it always felt so connected, that it became something that no one could understand... it was a personal and therfore a private thing.

The org was, is, public, was always fun to read but was never connected with it as it was other peoples feelings and connections.

Ironically, now I feel more connected here, now I feel less alone here, now I feel a part of it instead of apart from it.

MissMarySharon said:

I am so impressed and touched by how everyone has rallied here and been so supportive. There have been so many reactions to P's passing, from tears, to anger to depression and so on, but all have been embraced, welcomed, advice given, and caring and sharing thoughts passed on. I'm a longtime member but never posted much as I used to find the org a bit intimidating. I was flamed here a couple of years ago for saying I disliked the picture taking at gigs, and I never posted again, I just can't cope with aggression of any kind. But when he died I came back and have found so much comfort and support here. I have also tried to give back and help others, I've been through two major family bereavements so I kind of knew what to expect in terms of how grief feels, my heart goes out to many whom I can tell have been even more upset than I (and I've been pretty floored myself). Thanks also to the mods, who have let us all talk freely when we needed to. I really like this place and will definitely be looking in regularly. Thank you all so much for being here and for helping, and sending love to everyone. I think Prince would be really proud of the loyalty and caring here, both for him and for one another.

Agreed 100%. I had a similar situation happen on a different P site. So when I came here in 2011 I was super shy and never posted, just lurked. Now it's a completely different story. I've never dealt with death before, really. My great grandma passed but she had Alzheimer's and we knew it was coming. She lived a full life and we were able to prepare for it. This however, shook me to the core. I have never felt this way and don't know how to cope. Today is the first day I've been able to actually focus and get things done at work, but I don't know when I'll fully be back to normal

leslievette said:

I feel the same way. I would not have made it through this past week with our Prince.org still being here! Thank u so much.

PaisleyShark said:

I couldn't see a thread for this. I just want to express my thanks that the org (both the site and the members) has been around this last week. It's been great to read your thoughts and share in a communal grieving process. It's helped make me feel normal. I think I'm at the stage where I'm thinking about his passing less, although it still seems unreal when I do. It's been a week and I think I'll try to take a break from visiting the site as much, but for the last 7 days - thank you all. I'm going to wait for official news and developments, and in the meantime celebrate the amazing music we've been left with. I'm sure I won't be alone in being grateful for this community, especially this past week.

couldn't agree more. thank you so much for creating this thread

leslievette said:

DoItAllNight4U said:

Gosh I wish I could say the same, but no, nobody in my life or on Facebook has said a single thing about liking Prince. Well, there's my mom who told me today and yesterday that she's had Purple Rain stuck in her head for a while now and only PR because that's the only song she knows. Other than that, nobody has come out to tell me they like this or that song or that P was talented. Nothing. People have been ignoring me on Facebook, not that I'm popular, but when it comes to my posts about Prince, nobody gives it a "like" or won't take 20 seconds out of their lives to say they're sorry or to ask me how I'm doing. I feel like they're doing it on purpose. I already feel that people don't like me or care about me and then for them to ignore me like this makes me feel like sh!t.

I'm so sorry for spewing out my personal issues, but it really does make me feel angry that no one in my life cares about Prince. I know that people should not be obligated to say something, but come on, NOBODY has said a single thing about him. When David Bowie died, a few people posted stuff about him.

That's why you have us here Everyone was talking about him on my FB feed. Of course everyone immediately flooded my page with condolences and things like that, everyone who knows me knows the love I have for him so it was comforting to know that they cared. However, they don't really know how in depth it is for me (us). The sad part is, pretty much everyone has let it go by now. They're all concerned about Beyonce and Drake and their new albums while I'm over here literally trying to keep myself together on a daily basis. I'd much rather spend my time here with the Purple family. You post however you feel, whenever and wherever!

Thank you

That's pretty nice that people in your life cared about him, I mean at least for a little bit. And they even gave you their condolences.

It's been months since I started getting into P again but I have posted stuff about him before he passed. It made me seem like an "Enthusiast" fan but really my fanaticism for Prince goes back to when I was 11. I had to take a break from him but I'm glad I got back around before he went away. I really do feel like a fake fan for not being able to express a lot more of my love for him before. The thing is, is that I have always been judged for being a Prince fan and I've been a victim of bullying before so that really fucked me up. I have tried so hard for the longest time to not get bullied again because I'm traumatized so that's why I feel guilty for not expressing how much of a fan I really am. Now though, things are different. His death has made an angry mess of me and anger has a way of making me feel fearless so I have been fangirling and have purposely been posting a lot about him on social media. I'm also lashing out at the hypocrites and I'm probably making an idiot out of myself but I don't care anymore. I feel free now

Everyone expresses fandom, or even grief in different ways. For the vast majority of us, just having an ear while all this happens is great.

One thing, how the hell did fans cope before the internet!?

KondorKid said:

DoItAllNight4U said:

^ Wish I would've been an active member too. Makes me feel like a hypocrite or a fake fan

I would not worry about that! What has amazed me most in the last week is how many fans, and I mean obviously genuine ones, were around. When the news first broke, I switced to BBC World (rather than the normal UK one), then I waited in hope it was not true. The guy on the screen was just finishing the "OS" (outside source) segment. He broke the news as the segment was due to finish, but the BBC World News decided to keep the OS segment running because it was obvious that the guy could cope and it was very obvious that he was a bit of a fan, remarking on what his concerts were like, and the songs that others had song. And this was without a break, it was newsflash and bang, the guy knew it all and hit the ground running.

I was in shock, obviously I was in bits, but this guy was exceptional and the right guy for the moment.

Anyway, that sort of thing, where people said stuff that the general public really never seemed interested in before, it kept happening. And I have concluded that what I always knew...

The thing with being a prince fan, it always felt so connected, that it became something that no one could understand... it was a personal and therfore a private thing.

The org was, is, public, was always fun to read but was never connected with it as it was other peoples feelings and connections.

Ironically, now I feel more connected here, now I feel less alone here, now I feel a part of it instead of apart from it.

Thank you. I just can't help but regret a lot of things now.

Yes I can definitely relate to that feeling. But with me, I like to express my love and passions a lot. I guess it's because of how I grew up without emotional support from my parents. I feel like I'm either not emotional enough, or too much. It's black and white with me a lot of the time. Being here has already helped me. I have almost nobody to talk to in my life and I've been wanting to be a part of soemthing for the longest time. I've wanted to feel like a part of something bigger than myself where I wouldn't be judged for being myself and my passions. I should've stayed here all those years ago but my old laptop would always freeze on this site and there was so much negativity and trolling here so I stopped coming. But I'm back now, and I'm stronger than I was "yesterday".

SquirrelMeat said:

Everyone expresses fandom, or even grief in different ways. For the vast majority of us, just having an ear while all this happens is great.

One thing, how the hell did fans cope before the internet!?

I've been dealing with grief by listening and watching as much Prince stuff as I can. I don't even want to listen to other artists anymore. I'm feeling all stages of grief at the same time but then I'm also feeling pretty numb. I'm not properly processing emotions right now. My head seems like it's constantly spinning and I feel like I'm "high" but I don't do drugs. When I cry for P I cry only for 10-30 seconds. Then I start feeling nothing again.

You took the words right out of my mouth (or more literally, right off my keyboard, ha)! I have lost count of how many times I have used the org as a source in the past, it used to be primarily for information but these days it's crossed over into the therapudic...

My timing couldn't be worse for coming out of the woodwork here, especially after lurking for so long, but offnet I have continued friendships with many great folks I've met through this site (who have mostly remained active in the Toronto fan community.) So I owe lots to the org. In a way, if ever there was a need for people to reconnect or expand their "purple" friendslist here, this would be the time.

So, yes, I am adding my thanks!!! Looking forward to reconnecting.

p.s Admittedly, I had a different handle back in the day, but my mind is scrambled and I can't remember my password, hence my new account, haha.

panpac777 said:

I feel the same way. I would not have made it through this past week with our Prince.org still being here! Thank u so much.

Me too! Thankyou so much to everyone. Peace and Love

DoItAllNight4U said:

^ Wish I would've been an active member too. Makes me feel like a hypocrite or a fake fan

I had this feeling for a long time in the days since Prince passed (I still can't say it). I felt like I didn't deserve to be so upset over him. I have only ever lurked on here before and never really bothered to even make a username for myself. I am glad that there are so many on here that feel just as upset about his passing. Just reading what others are saying and how they are coping makes me feel like I'm not alone in this deep grief.

ivey0126 said:

DoItAllNight4U said:

^ Wish I would've been an active member too. Makes me feel like a hypocrite or a fake fan

I had this feeling for a long time in the days since Prince passed (I still can't say it). I felt like I didn't deserve to be so upset over him. I have only ever lurked on here before and never really bothered to even make a username for myself. I am glad that there are so many on here that feel just as upset about his passing. Just reading what others are saying and how they are coping makes me feel like I'm not alone in this deep grief.

You are not fake fans. You love his music right? Not being active here or first time joining the org don't make you fake fans. Not to me it don't. I joined the org in 2015 but i have followed Prince since 1980. Not all hardcore fans are on the org.

xRachx said:

Hi all. I've been a member on here for years but always lurked. When I heard Prince passed it completely broke my heart. I genuinely feel like I have kissed a family member. It physically hurts. I would also like to thank the other members here as logging on here I do get a sense of comfort. The pain is still unbearable, I hope it'll get easier with time.

Nothing wrong with being a lurker either. People have lifes too. I still feel empty inside from his death too.

Found solace here with my purple brothers and sisters. Much luv..

ivey0126 said:

DoItAllNight4U said:

^ Wish I would've been an active member too. Makes me feel like a hypocrite or a fake fan

I had this feeling for a long time in the days since Prince passed (I still can't say it). I felt like I didn't deserve to be so upset over him. I have only ever lurked on here before and never really bothered to even make a username for myself. I am glad that there are so many on here that feel just as upset about his passing. Just reading what others are saying and how they are coping makes me feel like I'm not alone in this deep grief.

I made an account years ago but I never logged back in. My computer had problems and plus there were a bunch of trolls picking on me. And yeah, I feel better being here too. Only we "get" each other

Guitarhero said:

ivey0126 said:

I had this feeling for a long time in the days since Prince passed (I still can't say it). I felt like I didn't deserve to be so upset over him. I have only ever lurked on here before and never really bothered to even make a username for myself. I am glad that there are so many on here that feel just as upset about his passing. Just reading what others are saying and how they are coping makes me feel like I'm not alone in this deep grief.

You are not fake fans. You love his music right? Not being active here or first time joining the org don't make you fake fans. Not to me it don't. I joined the org in 2015 but i have followed Prince since 1980. Not all hardcore fans are on the org.

I guess you're right. I've been a fan for about 7 years so I feel like I'm new to the party although I'm past the "casual fan claiming Purple Rain as the gretest thing ever" stage. In fact, I'm annoyed that all the newbies now and GP think that Purple Rain was the only song/album Prince had.