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Thread started 05/03/16 7:09am

nursev

Saying Goodbye to Prince in Your Own Way...

Have u done that? eek Or R U Still grieving n just not quite there yet? I slip back into crying mode every few days, but Ive tried 2 watch his videos and listen 2 the music just 2 say goodbye to him razz Do you honestly think he knew his fans loved him like this or not sad Notice my attempt at Princebonics lol razz

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Reply #1 posted 05/03/16 7:13am

strawberrybubb
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I have to do something and it isn't listening to his music or watching videos. I need to say goodby and process it all as right now I am going back to stage one of denial. I just am not sure what to do. It isn't as if we have had the chance to say bye somehow to him you know... not that I have an answer on what that could of been. I appreciate his wishes of wanting to slip away quitely without a fuss. I would want that too.

Whatever you heard about me is true
I change the rules and do what I wanna do
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Reply #2 posted 05/03/16 7:17am

nursev

strawberrybubblegum said:

I have to do something and it isn't listening to his music or watching videos. I need to say goodby and process it all as right now I am going back to stage one of denial. I just am not sure what to do. It isn't as if we have had the chance to say bye somehow to him you know... not that I have an answer on what that could of been. I appreciate his wishes of wanting to slip away quitely without a fuss. I would want that too.

I understand and not to through Mike into this I think the world actually had a chance to say goodbye to him and that made it easier. Prince was like a genius big brother to us and to not be able to properly say goodbye to him has made this really hard. I too am finding it difficult not to keep sliping back into denial eek

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Reply #3 posted 05/03/16 7:31am

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I just keep playing his songs on the piano and posting them as tributes, it's the only therapy that seems to work for me.

Honestly I don't think I will ever be able to let him go, still numb, and angry, because I know ultimately whatever happened could have probably been avoided. I never thought I would see a world without Prince in it. He was family.

peace

[Edited 5/3/16 7:32am]

"You always get the dream that you deserve, from what you value the most" -Prince 2013
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Reply #4 posted 05/03/16 7:43am

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I'm not saying goodbye. His spirit will always live in me every time I listen to his music, his lyrics, his extraordinary voice and watch him perform through various clips/movies/videos. With a spirit that strong, there's no way I can say goodbye to that.

I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince.
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Reply #5 posted 05/03/16 7:45am

Superfan1984

My sister and I are going to Chanhassen once all the fuss dies down. I don't really know what we will do there but I think we just want to be in his town and just sort of, reflect. We will probably just drive around and listen to his music, get a coffee at Caribou and cry but maybe it will give closure. My sister is having the hardest time.
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Reply #6 posted 05/03/16 7:50am

FunkiestOne

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I have no plans to say Goodbye to him. It hasn't even occurred to me to do that. I will keep listening to his music and will celebrate his life, and hopefully the pain of having him gone will be less and less each day.

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Reply #7 posted 05/03/16 8:09am

SteelPulse1

When our son was born I ad-libbed words to prettyman and I used to sing it to him almost daily. I just listend to prettyman this morning and I got very emotional.... God damnit this sucks
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Reply #8 posted 05/03/16 11:20am

strawberrybubb
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I have to say goodbye as it more than just the music for me. It was about seeing him and knowing that, that will never happen breaks my heart. I feel I have to go somewhere and be alone. It is like heartbreak.

Whatever you heard about me is true
I change the rules and do what I wanna do
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Reply #9 posted 05/03/16 11:23am

morningsong

It'll be a while.

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Reply #10 posted 05/03/16 11:28am

Guitarhero

Still can't take it , and i won't say goodbye. His music will always be with me.

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Reply #11 posted 05/03/16 11:32am

Dauphin

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I'm lookin to write and produce a musical. Not planning on any real production and release, but I'm making it a labor of love. Getting my wife and kids involved to continue to keep that purple energy going in those relationships too.
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Still it's nice to know, when our bodies wear out, we can get another

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Reply #12 posted 05/07/16 1:44am

bilbolives

I think what you're getting at is closure. For me, until the criminal investigation and medical/toxicology information are made public, we're just in a strange waiting period, a spiritual purgatory. In one of the threads on this site, a person noted that since he was cremated, there's no funeral, so that also adds to the lack of closure. Also, the search for a will, and if one is not found how Tyka and the half-siblings are going to address Prince's legacy. I'm sure there are other issues I'm forgetting, but basically it feels like I can't say goodbye because it's lacking the finality of a funeral, and the "tribute" event still seems to be in the works. Thank you.

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Reply #13 posted 05/07/16 3:52am

vladimir

I don't know any Prince fans personally, ie anyone who's a bigger fan than I am, and even I wouldn't claim to be a hardcore fan - ie compared with the actual hardcore fans.

But everyone who really knows me at all knew I was a Prince fan and they all got in touch with me when the news broke, by some means or other, to offer their condolences. And my sister - who's not a Prince fan at all - invited me to her house for a "farewell to Prince" dinner where she lit purple candles and decorated the table with purple flowers. I brought N.E.W.S and Musicology and had them playing during dinner.

That was my personal goodbye to Prince the man. The music lives on.

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Reply #14 posted 05/07/16 4:48am

trc1

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missfee said:

I'm not saying goodbye. His spirit will always live in me every time I listen to his music, his lyrics, his extraordinary voice and watch him perform through various clips/movies/videos. With a spirit that strong, there's no way I can say goodbye to that.



Agree. Goodbye is forever. No more. I will never say goodbye.
"I don't make the rules. I just play"
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Reply #15 posted 05/07/16 9:03am

SPYZFAN1

If I'm listening to his music or creating my own, his spirit will always be with me.

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Reply #16 posted 05/07/16 9:12am

tish9311

I went to see Purple Rain in the theater. It was amazing and better than my 11 year old mind remembered. It gave me the chance to shred tears and cry and sing and dance. I actually cried during Purple Rain. I was crying like the audience in the movie. bawl

I felt better and am not sad or angry. It was good for me! It funny seeing it on the big screen as opposed to the house.

Beautiful, Loved and Blessed

Thank You Prince
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Reply #17 posted 05/07/16 9:51am

setyrmindphree

My mom passed away this past December. A week or two later my Dad and I were having a conversation and he became very upset and broke down. They were married 46 years. He said while crying through very tight, pained lips "I don't understand this closure stuff, it means nothing to me, I'll never have closure!"
It occurred to me that he didn't want it, wasn't buying it and wasn't going to accept it.
It occurred to me that he may have a view of what closure is that wasnt helpful for him.

So I told him this, and as I spoke the words it helped me understand my grieving process.

I said, "Dad, closure is not forgetting it's a process of decreasing the intensity of pain". Many people think closure is forgetting someone or claiming an end to relationship but it's not. For me it's a process by which joy eventually catches up to and outweighs pain. And for the next few months he would say 10/90 or 30/70 (joy/pain) when relating his state about her and his grieving that particular day.

It's now been 5 months and he's shortened it to saying 46 (40/60) or sometimes 55
(50/50) it's become our humor. He realized he doesn't need closure he just wants to remember with less pain. And he's getting there.

This ties into Prince for me because that's what I've been focusing on is decreasing the intensity of pain while still listening to his music and watching videos. I'm not at 64 yet but I got to 55 the other day while listening too
"New Power Generation", it was my mom's favorite Prince song. I introduced it to her back in 1990, she was a bit of a rebel at heart. Man, I miss her!
Didn't know Prince but the emotions are intense.
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Reply #18 posted 05/07/16 10:00am

mltijchr

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like many others who have posted here.. for me it's not about saying "goodbye" to Prince.

he - his music, rather - is such a part of who I am. it's not possible for all of that to go away.

I don't want it to go away. even if I wanted it to go away, it wouldn't.

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I will share something with all of you, with the idea that it will help you get through this very unique moment in all of our lives as Prince fans

(I know some people are handling this loss better than others.. but I'll be very pleased if even 1 person gets what I'm putting out here now..)

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I understand that for many, it's hard to accept that Prince is no longer physically here on this earth.

for 57 years - my whole life, & the whole life of many of you - he has always been here on earth.

his music has always been here - since 1978. that's almost 40 years. 40 years of anything is a good amount of time.

.

anyway - when Prince was alive here on earth, he was literally always in 1 place or another.

be it Paisley Park, be it Madison Square Garden.. be it on stage in Australia..

he was always in 1 physical location. just like all of are now - each of us is in 1 specific physical location.

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now that Prince has changed his frequency

(like 1 of my other musical idols BOOTSY COLLINS likes to say)

Prince is no longer restricted to 1 "physical location"

NOW.. PRINCE IS EVERYWHERE.

LITERALLY EVERYWHERE.

he has broken/surpassed the physical bonds & limitations of this imperfect earth, this imperfect world. whatever physical ailments he had or was having.. he no longer has them.

I definitely believe he is in a better place.

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if you believe in God or other higher being - or not - you ought to recongize (minimally) that there is definitely "someplace else" other than this earth on which we all presently find ourselves.

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Prince knew what was up - he put it right out there right at the beginning of "let's go crazy".

he didn't make that little sermon just to kill 60 seconds at the beginning of that song.

he was telling us..

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"hey listen - we are all in this world & on this planet together.. but there is more - a lot more - to this existence than what we see/hear/know on this planet..

so while we are all here - & for the time that we are here - let's go crazy.

let's do good things for other people - & for ourselves.

let's add something POSITIVE to this world."

.

Prince himself certainly added something positive to this world:

his music, his personality, his inherent desire to be different & challenge "social norms" that had long been in place.

.

during this time, it makes no sense for 1 person to say to another something like

"well, hey what's wrong with you?? why are you still sad?? why still grieving?"

it's not for me to tell anyone how they should grieve, or how long or in what way.

vice-versa is true too.

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that said & understood, it is my prayer that with time, each of us will move on & continue our lives in the best way we can. the gift of Prince's music will

ALWAYS

be with each of us.

we will continue to share it with each other.

we can share it with those in our family - parents, children, etc.

we can share it with those who don't know it (well).

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we honor the spirit of Prince, the love of music he has.

it will always be a part of us.

I'll see you tonight..
in ALL MY DREAMS..
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Reply #19 posted 05/07/16 10:08am

ufoclub

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I can't say goodbye, I just need to think of him in a different way now. I became obsessed with The Beatles far after Lennon was murdered, but still read and listened and imagined all these things from his work when I was in high school.

The biggest difference with Prince right now for me is that he was a live measure of creative energy for me. At any time of my day or night, somewhere in the back of my mind was the thought that Prince was cooking up something new. That's the thing that helped drive myself to be creative and put in the sweat to make cool stuff on my own level. But now i can't imagine that guiding force. His work is done, even though there's plenty n the cooler for us to discover. But I can no longer imagine that he is cooking up something new and unexpected.

sad

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Reply #20 posted 05/07/16 10:17am

Bohemian67

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NOPE....

"Never gonna give him up...never gonna say goodbye"

ART LIVES FOREVER.. BODY MIGHT BE GONE BUT SPIRIT IS FOREVER...THAT'S WHAT PRINCE WAS ALL ABOUT.

"Free URself, B the best that U can B, 3rd Apartment from the Sun, nothing left to fear" Prince Rogers Nelson - Forever in my Life -
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Reply #21 posted 05/07/16 10:31am

SuzyHomemaker

I can't listen to any of his music still. If I hear one bit of Purple Rain, I bust out crying. Isn't that funny? I used to think that song was so overplayed and I always skipped over it when listening to his stuff before that terrible day. Now I see how gorgeous it is and I will probably always associate it with his passing from now on. cry

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I don't want to go to any celebrations or parties or dances in his honor. One thing I am going to do though is take a small spot in my yard and plant a memorial garden to him.

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Reply #22 posted 05/07/16 5:39pm

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I don't know yet, I've only just got my copy of HitnRun Phase II, and listening through I got hit by Revelation - it felt like my heart stopped and I was for a moment made of nothing more than the dark matter that accounts for 99% of the Universe. Take that Lotus Flower!!!

But no I have no idea how I'm going to say goodbye to Prince. Maybe just leave a sine wave generator oscillating at the back of peoples' minds, then switch it on and off occasionally.

i wish i'd never kissed your lips, bearded lady
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Reply #23 posted 05/07/16 5:55pm

leslievette

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I haven't yet, and I honestly don't think I ever can. I'll just have to learn how to live with it. This past week has been better as far as my focus and whatnot. My random bursts of tears had died down, until today. Not sure why, or what changed but today has been a rough one. It's hitting me all over again. However, in a few days I'll be starting my tribute piece (tattoo) so I'm very excited about that. I'm hoping it'll help in a way.

From now on, 4 U I shall be wild 💜
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Reply #24 posted 05/07/16 6:03pm

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I will never say goodbye to Prince or any other artists that I have enjoyed and are no longer here. I will continue to play his music, watch his videos, concerts, film (yes even Under The Cherry Moon nuts nutty ) and collect Prince related stuff etc. Prince may no longer be here in the physical world but his legacy will live on. When Vanity passed in Feb 16 during show 1 in Melbourne Prince said he would celebrate her and not mourn......that is what I'm gonna do to, for both of them. Peace & Be Wild biggrin

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Keep Calm & Listen To Prince
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Reply #25 posted 05/07/16 7:17pm

DarlingKris

Saying goodbye is too painful. I like saying see you later much more. I am listening to his last concert right now and its helping me heal a bit but once the official reports come out I will try to accept it a bit more and will bring me complete closure

Forever In My Life, forever in my heart. I love you Prince Rogers Nelson heart
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Reply #26 posted 05/07/16 7:28pm

Aerogram

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With his legacy, it's only "au revoir" again and again.

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Reply #27 posted 05/07/16 9:37pm

mcknzlrk

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I can't say goodbye, I am too depressed. He is still out there for me, I d k, I can't deal with this.

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Reply #28 posted 05/08/16 4:52am

gollygirl

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I cant say goodbye and dont want to - still not really accepting it - still abit of a mess. Still embaressed to admit the sadness that just keeps lurking inside

Thank you Prince for every note you left behind 💜
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Reply #29 posted 05/08/16 5:43am

purpledoda

Goddess4Real said:

I will never say goodbye to Prince or any other artists that I have enjoyed and are no longer here. I will continue to play his music, watch his videos, concerts, film (yes even Under The Cherry Moon nuts nutty ) and collect Prince related stuff etc. Prince may no longer be here in the physical world but his legacy will live on. When Vanity passed in Feb 16 during show 1 in Melbourne Prince said he would celebrate her and not mourn......that is what I'm gonna do to, for both of them. Peace & Be Wild biggrin

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I feel the same

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