Cloudbuster said:

"sexual orientation is a matter of being"
I've heard studies have shown that sexual orientation is genetic, then other have said they chose to be gay. So which is it then? I call it an 'opinion' cause I've heard some homosexuals refer to it as an opinion of theirs.

JayJai said:

I was never given the choice.
What studies, and who exactly gives us this supposed choice?

I've never heard (from straights or gays) that Homosexuality is an "opinion".
"I don't like her hair" "Those shoes are divine" "You are fierce" those are opinions.

I like penis and share my life with another man is not an opinion. That is who I am.
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JayJai said:

A cursory glance through history would I think convince any sane soul that it isn't a choice. Unless,of course, masochism is as rife as homosexuality.

You are right though, in that there doesn't seem to be one cause. I'm sure however, that you could do better than 'opinion'.

The original comment re 'theism' still stands of course.

vivid said:

I used the whole athiest/christian thing to draw a reference. It made sense to me at the time cause of the word "opinion" used there.
Now I don't know wat to think I asked a friend wat did he mean by he chose to be gay. He said he got fed-up of females I then asked him if he always had feelings for the same sex, dude said no...so I don't friggin know. This is a whole nother topic.
Anyway, I didn't mean to offend anyone who believes they were born that way.

oK so would it be dumb to say a homosexual is a person who performs sexual acts with the same gender?

So if you're gay and you dont have sex you are still pure by Gods standards since technically we/re not even supposed to have premarital sex and God knows the whole world done gone to hell on that one.

Otherwise the flipping of your hair and wearing a mesh tshirt, while a sin for the fashion police and my bleeding eyes doesnt seem to be a sin to God.

I dunno. I thought gays were more about doing than being.

JayJai said:

Your friend has something else ENTIRELY goin on.

Speaking for myself, I wasn't offended. You didn't pass judgment in your post. You were trying to make sense of things, is how I took it.

salaciousV said:

Homosexuality is often categorized as that: "performing sexual acts with the same gender."

However I feel it is much more than that. Even if you take sex away, I can't see having the same dynamics/relationship with a female as I do with my partner.

It is not just what you do in the bed, but how you connect and with whom (person AND gender) that defines Homo/Hetero sexuality, IMO.