Marriage is one of the most astonishing things people created. I understand monogamous (spellcheck?) marriage was how men tried to ensure that they are fathers of the children to which their femaile partner gave birth. Otherwise, apart from legal consequences (heritage, the right to act on behalf of the spouse, children) there is nothing that really appeals to me... but that's my opinion of course, althoough backed by too many examples of people who eventually divorced

I'm sure more women want to get married then men. Guys I'm a woman and I'm telling you the only real reason woman want to get married is they are afraid and insecure and think you will stay with them forever. But ladies nothing lasts forever and marriage takes a lot of hard work and tears and pain and why deal with it if you can just live together and have fun. Really it just is an unnecessary piece of paper that doesn't mean the person loves you any more. And beleive it or not things do change. Take it from Prince's dad in Purple Rain don't ever get married. You can have children and love each other and raise the kids but there really isn't any good reason to get married nowadays. This isn't 1950 anymore and there are just too many problems and too much Temptation out there. Guys not taking anything away from the women but if she's pressuring you to get married just move on. There are too many other women out there and who needs the Stress and Aggravation. You'll thank Vagina. It's so much better to just be free and be Boyfriend and Girlfriend. It keeps it fun and fresh and that's the coolest thing. So much less pressure.

Lilith said:

Very sorry to hear about that Lilith. I was divorced one time and yes it is painful and expensive. Especially if the two have been married for a long time and have accumulated much during the marriage. If children are involved this can now be very nasty. I think it is great when two can part with understanding and maturity and actually be able to sit and say "hey this is not working out". I think time away from each other also helps.

now! now is the time to marry.

Well thank you all, you have all given me something to think about.. My girlfriend has read most of your reply's and I think its about time I asked her.. She knows how I feel about her and I know how she feels about me...

Peace and love to all...

Marriage just doesn't work today and everybody just gets angry and old. The fun and passion leaves and a lot of people get Fat. This is just a fact of life. If you can stay together without marriage it is much better. A person doesn't need a piece of paper. Rich people are stupid to marry without a pre-nuptual. And Stars can get as much Pussy and Babes as they want why stay with somebody who will get old and Nag them or not keep them Sexually Aroused?

Vagina said:

But marriage means more than a bit of paper to me, I love her for being her and she loves me for being me. I dont have to act when around her I can be me. As Prince says 'She loves me 4 me'. Marriage is hard work @ times, my parents have been married for over 30 years, but they still love eachother, the fun and passion is still there for them. My Dad still buys my mum flowers or a card every other week just to say thank you for being you. Yes they had there hard times but they worked together, thats it today when it gets hard people just walk away forgetting why they go together in the 1st place. MARRIAGE is for life. You must give 100% and the rewards will be there.

'live 4 love'

Well just to let u all know I asked and she said 'YES', this is the start of a new book for me...

'She loves me 4 me'

www.steve.dyke.btinternet.co.uk


GETT WILD

dykie2000 said:

Wow! Congratulations! I didn't realize you were that close to making a decision, I thought you were just thinkin' about it! Don't forget to talk to her about everything that was mentioned here (and then some!)

The problems with a lot of people is that they're too self-serving and to make a marriage one must die to self(metaphorically speaking). You have another person you have to take into consideration. A lot of people can't make the transitition. They think that once they're married, all will go like THEY(key word here is THEY)think it will go. When things don't go like they think it should go, then that's when a problem beings to occur. Yes, you may want to buy those 3 pair of shoes, you and your girlfriend at the mall saw. But guess what? you may not be able to,because you and your husband have to get the car repaired. You may want to watch nearly every Lakers game that comes on the tube, but guess what??? You may not be able to. Wifey may have some things bothering her that she needs to get off her chest, and she wants your undivided attention. So you have to compromise. If you can't compromise, then marriage is not for you.

As it relates to divorce,,,let me put it like this...people split basically because the reality of their marriage didn't either meet or exceed their expectations of what they thought it would be.

dykie2000 said:[quote

But marriage means more than a bit of paper to me, I love her for being her and she loves me for being me. I dont have to act when around her I can be me. As Prince says 'She loves me 4 me'. Marriage is hard work @ times, my parents have been married for over 30 years, but they still love eachother, the fun and passion is still there for them. My Dad still buys my mum flowers or a card every other week just to say thank you for being you. Yes they had there hard times but they worked together, thats it today when it gets hard people just walk away forgetting why they go together in the 1st place. MARRIAGE is for life. You must give 100% and the rewards will be there.

'live 4 love'[/quote]

I couldn't of said it better myself Dykie... Marriage i think can sustain even without a piece of paper.. that just makes you married by law.. Marriage is from the heart.. you love with your heart and want to be with someone from the heart.. not by a piece of paper...
YOu should marry when your heart feels it is ready to.. Dont' do it for the sake of anythign other than wanting to make a commitment with someone for a lifetime..

the right time to marry is 27.

no... it's 29. yes thats it. 29 ?

The right time to marry is when u meet the right person no matter the time in life... I found mine...

I will only marry 1 person and he knows who he is.

dykie2000 said:

Congratulations to you both!
[This message was edited Sat Jul 13 4:52:12 PDT 2002 by Arcamar]

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CAN I GO 50/50?

dykie2000 said:

Best time to marry: 12:32pm.
Views on getting married: you're crazy! It's rigged!

Edit:
Damn, billysparxx beat me to it. heh.
[This message was edited Fri Jul 12 11:12:16 PDT 2002 by betra]

one o clock.

I would just like to say thanks to every1. We have the day ready and the honeymoon set. Check out the web page for the photos when we get back at the end of August...

again thank you all...

'Love live, love god, LoveSexy'

xx

dykie2000 said:

Congratulations! That is awesome! May your marriage last a lifetime and more! ...and soon two hearts will be joined as one.


I personally think that people will just know when the time is right and they will know deep down in their heart if the person they are with is "the one".


, and God Bless!

THE BEST TIME TO MARRY IS WHEN YOU DIE LOL.

I'm sick of all of this discussion on marriage crap.

Alright so I am single and depressed okay?

It's not like you married people care about hoping that anyone else finds love one day, you have each other so why should that matter to you now?

You are so selfish.

The quickest way to divorce? Just get married. Make sure you have a pre-nup before hand and a lawyer's name just in case. Much better to live together forget the piece of paper that don't mean shit. If your in love what is a piece of paper? Just a Formality. Listen to Prince's father in Purple Rain NEVER GET MARRIED!

EYESEEINSIDEU said:

I agree, EYE...and, I'll add also: When you feel you do know...sheesh...just go ahead with it!...



And, Congratulations to you and your fiancee, dykie!

People (lovers - friends - family) come and go. This is the way life is. For one reason or another it is in our nature as humans to want perminance and security. This might be attributed to the lack of such things in our lives. We all know, if we are willing to admit, that nothing is perminant and/or certain. I find the best way to live is to enjoy your moments with a person for what they are rather than planning that they will be anything specific. Marriage, in this case, is then not for me. But I know many happy couples who are married and if I loved someone enough and they wanted to do it I'd be willing. I can't say with any confidence that I'll live to see tomorrow much less ever fall in love, so marriage (like all things) would have to be just another part of the journey. What then is the right time? Never or whenever.

For me, marriage is like a tattoo - it's a decision that lasts a lifetime. I do not want to get divorced, and probably would be ostracized by my family if it ever happened.

I'm not sure if I'll ever get married. I'm not very stable nor committed, plus I tend to change my mind a lot (the reason for this is often to find "the better deal"). The bullshit "you-just-need-to-get-this-out-of-your-system" is just that to me - bullshit. In fact, I'm not even sure if I ever WANT to get married. It seems like marriages just tend to fuck up otherwise perfectly okay relationships.

...when I ask...

this ol thread again !!


sheees!

Update...

Well tomorrow is the big day for me (08/08/02). We are having a small wedding and then we are off to The Czech Republic for our honeymoon, so I will not be checking out the .org for a while. Take care all.

Thanks

And a big thank you to Iva for making me the happiest man a live.. I LOVE YOU.