BattierBeMyDaddy said:

It's true ... most couples who marry in their nineties stay married for the rest of their lives.

Zthe9s said:

LOL THAT is the quandary such a person would find himself in, but charm seems to work
wonders on women.
[This message was edited Fri Jul 5 10:07:49 PDT 2002 by PFunkjazz]

dykie2000 said:

I'd say around 3:30, maybe even 4 o'clock, but it depends on if it's indoor or outdoor.

Is there a need to marry?
Most of the time eye believe there is not, mostly because it could become a cage which would break eventually because life wants to be free...

Check this...

Freedom to be with the one you love contains the freedom to be someone new..or doesn't it?

BattierBeMyDaddy said:

Child-rearing plays into this. If your marriage also happens much later in your lifer (30's) you are less likely to breakup and divorce over something silly like "incompatability" or "irreconcilable differences" or even infidelity !!. Still don't wait too late to have you kids. You can really get physically exhausted running around after pre-schoolers when you'd rather be kicked back watching them head into their high school years.

During sex and then deny it happened right after.
Or is that when men are supposed to say 'I love you'. Oh i forget!

Ur heart will tell u when it's time 2 get married!

>>> Some people think Prince shouldn't have married Mani, but if it makes him happy, then we should be happy for him.
<<<

y don't u just stay out of his personal life and talk about the music?

orgwitness said:

Amen!

DavidEye said:

Living together is a marriage, it's a mock marriage. There's no need for it. It allows someone to not make that full commitment because they can walk away at anytime. If someone doesn't want to get married then don't get married and don't live together. If you're single, be single. Live separately. The last thing I want is to feel like I'm someone's wife when in actuality I'm not. That's wasting my time. I don't mind having a serious, long term relationship with someone and not living with them

langebleu said:

LOL, that's hilarious

wellbeyond said:

Well, well said Wellbeyond! I couldn't have said it better me-self.

There was one here that said to wait after your late twenties so you can attract more affluent babes...whatever. People have difffernt views of love I guess. Personally, I could care less about affluency or higher bracket of finacial stability. That's all for the corporate empty folks. Let them THINK that way and see the loneliness flood their later years. Never satisfied, regretful.

Luckily I've been seeing my relationship grow into something strong and beautiful. It's really a learning experience to see things change, and values arise. I love my darling as much and maybe more than when I met and started dating.

I thought I'd get married in a few years and set year numbers to when I would get marrried, BUT It doesn't work that way at all. You WILL know and FEEL it when it's time. It will grow into you, both of you. If you don't then I would recommend moving on.

[This message was edited Sat Jul 6 5:49:18 PDT 2002 by LaVisHh]

Some wise comments here, amongst the usual (!), but I'll just add that it definitely is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Personally, I had to make a decision fairly quickly: make a commitment to my long term girlfriend or she'd go back to Australia and that would be that (OK it was a visa issue too). I made my decision and must say this: even if you're not 100% sure from your "head" that the "time is right" ,if the gut instinct is good then you should go for it. And you'll know that at the very least.

If it feels good it means it can work - with work (and since "me becomes us", you realize how small a sacrifice getting rid of the joys of singledom actually is!)

And I was "ready to do the work" and haven't regretted it!

Been there & experienced it first hand...Lets just say I'm free now and wish the best 4 all who do take that road. Its safe 2 say in these much faster times more people are fast 2 just give up when the going gets real tough.

The words "better or 4 worse" etc...are out the window when the tests start a-comin...The old skool thinking of marriage in this country has changed. That toughness has been broken down. The "fight" 2 keep a love alive is gettin dimmer & dimmer in these times. The result a record number of marriages ending. The mood is not as it used 2 B. Example: If this one thing happens I'm outta here...Or not seeking the right help 2 "save" ones union.

Being 2 lazy 2 understand your life partner or the lack of trust or communication etc...the list is long...But from one who's first long term was when I got married. I would tell anyone that wants 2 give that love a true chance of making it...Get 2 "know" your mate B 4 runnin crazy head over heals in lust & what U "think" is real love. Better safe then sorry...take years if thats what it calls 4.

Why rush and then find out he/she is not what U truly want 4 the rest of your life. Theres nothing thats a sure thing So B wise and take things in stride. Had I knew then what I know now...Oh the tears & heart break & pain I would have saved. Don't get me wrong...I don't regret all the lessons I've learned.

I'm only saying don't think with a foggy mind or look at things with a blind eye. I'm alot wiser and in the know about what I want in a mate now as well as how I need 2 B with that woman I'll love in the future. Being prepared in knowing what it takes & being realistic at least will give U a foundation 2 build what could B a beautiful experience...

Good Luck!

Oh yeah in terms of other people thinking they know whats best 4 Prince...I'm sure they don't know whats best 4 themselfs...I find living just my life is tough enough without trying 2 jump in2 others...Who he marrys and 4 what reasons is his biz...people {{{shake}}} yourselfs~

Every Adam should have their Eve... God Willing I have my Eve: LoveSxy1958...

when yr dead

I think the right time to marry is when u truly love someone. Now what I mean by that, is not romantic love. I mean the type of love where it is sometimes difficult, always growing. Not mush, full of substance. Giving, even when it hurts to. Helping someone else to grow. Receiving the same from someone else.

Then, as it takes time to establish a relationship, once a relationship has developed over a period of time, the only way to commit further to that r/ship is to get married.

That's how I want to do it.

I don't think there is a right age for someone to get married. I was married when i was 21. Some may think that is way to young but i feel i was ready and i had my life in order. The only thing i do believe is that you make sure that your life is on the right track. I see all too often ppl who get married for the wrong reasons. Money is a bing factor in marrage, you don't have to be rich but if your 1000's in debt it is only going to make you marrage harder.

billysparxxx said:

It's such a personal question, it really does depend on the people involved. What's right for some isn't for others.

I hear a lot from married people about why I'm not married, they seem to think I must be missing something in my life, lonely and miserable or unable to meet women.

When in actuality I seem to be happier than any of these people. I can do what I want when I want, still have great friendships with the females in my life, I could not be happier.

Now would I get married someday? Absolutely if the right person comes along. I was in a long relationship through most of my 20's that in the end just didn't work out. If we had caved in to those pressuring us to marry it would have ended adding onto the divorce statistics. So instead we split but now are as close friends as you can get. But I would never feel "incomplete" if marraige doesn't happen.

To sum it up, I think the right time is when it feels right to you both. Don't let anyone pressure you, your heart will tell you when it's time.

MikeA

When? When you are through Having fun. Make sure you have lived a fulll young life. Date a lot of women and then pick. Make sure she is good looking as well. Prince was smart to get a goodlooking woman both times. And get to know them REALLY well. Live with them first so you see what they are like on a regular basis. They will eventually drop their guard. See her without makeup first and check out what her mom looks like because she will most likely look like her in the future. Wait until your mid to late thirties. Kids are a whole other big decision.

Spats said:

See, it's all about looks to most men, just like I said on another thread today! Who cares about the rest!

AnotherLoverHoleinYoHead said:

That's why most men wind up miserable if they actually find someone to marry. I got married when I was 21. Two months before my wedding, a "friend" of mine asked me if that's what I really wanted to do. (He'd been married for 2 years at that point, miserable--and looked it) I said yes. Then he tells me how he's thinking of getting divorced cuz things aren't working out. I'm thinking, "Just cuz you're miserable doesn't mean I have to be."

It's all about what both parties are willing to put into their relationship. It takes one party to end a marriage, but it takes two to keep it together. My wife and I have our moments when we're frustrated with each other over pet peeves, or have arguments about important things. But those moments are in the minority. We've always been able to work together when things get rough, because we always try to work together when things are going well. Romantic getaways are fine when we get to do them, but the friendship, communication, and teamwork in fulfilling our goals, (as a family and individually) makes things worth going through rough times.

So if two people aren't ready to communicate, give before receiving, respect each other and compromise when you disagree, marriage isn't a good idea.

Well, I got married when I was 17, right after the 11th grade and my wife wasa 20. We'd known eachother for 3 years and had been thru Hell together AND apart. I don't believe in the age thing. America just focuses on getting married later now because of college which all boils back down to making a lot of money down the road. Love is love. People say "you'll eventually change" which is true, but aren't you always changing??? Love is love and if it is real and true, it won't change or fade.

Many of our grandparents got married before 23 and most of them are still together. The difference is they tried harder to make it work, they cared more. There wasn't 1 argument and then they mentioned divorce. I have an old-school marriage like that. It's full of fun and love and happiness, but when conflict approaches, we know how to handle it. We have disagreements, but talk things out rather than raise our voices, we don't have that "we'll discuss it later mentality" either because that makes negative feelings harbor and become even worse. Marriage isn't for everyone, but for the people who dont mind-NEVER let anyone tell you when the time is right and when it isn't. You will know when it is, whether you're 17 or 37!!! TRUST ME, EYE KNOW!!!

[This message was edited Sun Aug 4 14:18:40 PDT 2002 by Heavenly]

MARRIAGE IS THE LEADING CAUSE OF DIVORCE!!!...don't do it.

oceana said:

I agree with u, darling...Divorcing is painful and expensive...I got divorced 9 april of this year...

For me the certificate of marriage is a written agreement/ commitment to work it out in mostly all situations with the exception of adultry.It is a sense of security and a vow before God.In which case a three fold cord (with God in the marriage) strenthens the bond and gives the marriage blessings.Marring the right person will and should compliment the other person and their attributes.Helping each other throughout life and the many different things it brings our way.