My husband already knows that I'd leave him. He knows how I feel about Prince and that I'd drop everything to be with him. I actually asked him once if ever he could ever understand. He said there would be no sense in trying to make me happy since he could see what Prince makes me feel.

It's not that we haven't tried to work at our marriage, it just that it isn't a natural fit. It's more of a Miss/Match type of 'friendly' relationship, brother/sister type of thing. If it weren't for his credit card I would have missed some Prince concerts, celley's and parties. We value our friendship and chances are that I'll never hear from Prince. Before anyone tells me that this isn't how a marriage should be, I already know thanks. At least we have an honest understanding between us and he knows where I'm at with loving Prince.

Married or not I would hook up with Prince. I wouldn't think he was my soulmate or some shit, but I'd definitely have to hit that.

KelleyG said:

r u saying that ur marriage is suffering cuz u love prince so much???

I don't even think I am attracted to guys (yes, it's that teenage bisexual?straight?gay? confused? crap for me right now ) But in all seriousness, if I was in any relationship, I would have to know Prince could offer me more then what I am getting out of my current relationship. I would not do it just as a stupid fling. I don't think it's smart to just say "It's Prince! Of course I'd do him!" If I was going to ruin my chance with someone I care about, Prince better be worth the sacrifice.

KelleyG said:

Just to inquire...How in Gods name can you stay with someone, and married to boot.....and only feel a friendship/brother/sister relationship???I don't get it...How can you sleep and have an intimate relationship with someone you don't love anymore than on a friendship level????? How can you even do that????? Why would you do that????? That's not being true to yourself...I don't get that at all.....

KelleyG said:

Just to inquire...How in Gods name can you stay with someone, and married to boot.....and only feel a friendship/brother/sister relationship???I don't get it...How can you sleep and have an intimate relationship with someone you don't love anymore than on a friendship level????? How can you even do that????? Why would you do that????? That's not being true to yourself...I don't get that at all.....

interpret said:

hey..Back at ya! hehe

Kellie said:

thank u very much maam andi appreciate ur comments and i said what i felt was right to the occasion

KelleyG said:

I don't intend for this comment to come across as mean or rude or anything, but seriously I feel sad for you and your husband, and I say this because I do understand where you're coming from as I have been in a similiar situation as yours - not a marriage, but close enough to still understand the 'not a natural fit' dynamic. I hope one day you and your husband are either able to strengthen your connection to one another or can both find the ability to move on to other relationships where you might be able to experience the joy and special bond that a marriage, in its best sense, should provide. It seems like you're cheating yourself out of experiencing that if you stay in a marriage that "doesn't fit" or feel right.

That said, I also realize that there is no set "rules" for a marriage and that no two couples are the same in how they realize and achieve the perfect marital arrangement FOR THEM. But from your post it sounds like your situation has left you feeling somewhat dissatisfied and I feel bad for you and your husband in that respect.

Again, please don't take what I said as a slam or insult because it wasn't intended that way at all.

Thanks for your concern, I was just answering the question. Sometimes it feels like it's better to have a friend than to go seeking the ideal marriage partner. I have an innate naivety about me and seem to attract all of the wrong people. For this reason at times I wonder if it's better to be alone and stick with what I've found to be true and good. My husband and I live separately and he's free to be whoever he wants to be. I've wondered about that too.

For me .....there ain't no other fish in the sea.

KelleyG said:

Well, that's fine. I understand your point....I just think you sound very sad and you deserve someone to love you & treat you like should be treated.....and thats all. Everyone wants to be loved and why shouldn't they? What a sad life to live if a person doesn't have that.....Hopefully things will come to you & you will find true love.....

Ok, girls. We all will never know what we may do until we are put to the test. Dont care how adamant some of you may be.

Im single so i wouldnt have any problem.....

scandalousalan said:

I don't think I would even if I wasn't married, because the end result would be the same. My situation would be like the Nona Gaye type, think we have something special and then he jumps up and married the racially ambigous girl and I am left feeling and then I would go out and get

Lilith said:

i'm single too, but you should look at this perhaps in a hypothetical sense. if i were hitched i wouldn't waste my time on cheatin on my beau with the brotha. it wouldn't be worth my time and patience.

I have a boyfriend that I would leave in a hot minute for 1 night with the purple one!
- But that's just horny ol' me....
" Sex is not all I think about... It's just all I think about you!"

why? Because I like his music? ERRR, I think not.

emm said:

Enough Said. I couldn't said it any better myself especially the part about your view of P in highschool. I felt the same way about P and Jesse in high school. However, on the real tip, I respect P his marriage regardless how long it last.
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I would .. yup definetly ..IF I was married umm I would think about it . But end up doing it lol

whatever01 said:

No I couldn't. I'm not married but I am in a long term relationship. I love Prince, but it wouldn't be worth it for a couple of months. I would much rather be his friend... unless of course I was single.