Where do I start?

Let me say first that it is not necessary for anyone to respond to this unless you actually have something to add or clarify.

On my most recent post there were a few comments about certain members of Org and why their responses to others post are often rude in nature.

So, maybe I would like a few honest responses after all.

Why?

I joined the org first and foremost to discuss Prince and later I found that the other forum were as or often more interesting. I liked what appeared to be an open-dialogue aspect of this site, until I found out just how "vicious" one (or some) could be if your opinion weren't among the popular consensus. I mean, I like a good debate as much as the next person. But, damn some of the orgers here are a bit much in their posting. I understand that sometime seeing the same topic over and again can be a bit much, but the comments that some of the elder-orgers leave are a bit much too. But then again, it seems ok to keep talking about the same ol' same ol' if these same people (who look down at the newbies redundant posts) like the topic (for example Larry G's influence on Prince, Prince "dating" Bria or how unattractive some of you think she is). No one reads every single thread before posting on of their own...so either answer the question or don't bother. But don't jump down the newbies throat like s/he had committed a deadly sin by not being around when the question/comment first appeared on Org, especially those not comments/questions not listed in The Org Facts.

My point?

Let a person say what they feel and if you don't like what they are saying...ok, but posting the "I don't care" responses actually show that you do or that you have nothing better to do. If you really don't care, then bypass the post and comment on those that you do. And, if you don't agree with someone's views then feel free to express yours(w/o being hateful). It's called open-dialogue. Agree to disagree.

Sometimes on here its hard to differentiate between those who are simply passionate about a topic and those who are just plain rude. And for that reason the Org is becoming very unwelcoming to new members or I'm quite sure some of the veteran orgers, too.

maria1999 said:

If you really don't care, then bypass the post and comment on those that you do. And, if you don't agree with someone's views then feel free to express yours(w/o being hateful).

Completely agree with this. The "Who cares" type of responses get old and annoying. If you don't care, move along. There's been a ton of threads I didn't give a damn about. I ignore them. Simple. No need to shit on some else's opinions or interests if you really never gave a damn to begin with. Let them post with any others that might care, one way or the other. It ain't like the OPs force you to click on any topics. If the topic is a repeat or inappropriate or whatever, well, that's the beauty of having moderators.

FauxReal said:

maria1999 said:

If you really don't care, then bypass the post and comment on those that you do. And, if you don't agree with someone's views then feel free to express yours(w/o being hateful).

Completely agree with this. The "Who cares" type of responses get old and annoying. If you don't care, move along. There's been a ton of threads I didn't give a damn about. I ignore them. Simple. No need to shit on some else's opinions or interests if you really never gave a damn to begin with. Let them post with any others that might care, one way or the other. It ain't like the OPs force you to click on any topics. If the topic is a repeat or inappropriate or whatever, well, that's the beauty of having moderators.

Exactly, there is no prize for 'who answer the most threads.' At least, not that I know of,

agreed , i hate the stupid know it alls who feel the need to bash newbees just for asking questions that have been asked prior and i always call them out on it

i can imagine it's not very welcoming to say the least

it really is pathetic , they really must have low self esteem if they think they're better just because they know a few facts and feel the need to boast about things like that

welcome newbie!!

i hear where you're coming from. and there are those people on every website.

the 'think-they-know-it-all"s trying to correct you or prove how much they THINK they know, or just "angry with the world" and use their PC to lash out. or sometimes, just someone with nothing better to do or an immature twat. tact is a thing of the past apparently. rudeness has almost become the norm. online and offline. the internet thrives with the socially inept.

my best advice is to ignore it. just reply to the ones you feel comfortable with. now toughen up a little and come on in and enjoy the festivities. i think you'll like it here.

FauxReal said:

maria1999 said:

If you really don't care, then bypass the post and comment on those that you do. And, if you don't agree with someone's views then feel free to express yours(w/o being hateful).

Completely agree with this. The "Who cares" type of responses get old and annoying. If you don't care, move along. There's been a ton of threads I didn't give a damn about. I ignore them. Simple. No need to shit on some else's opinions or interests if you really never gave a damn to begin with. Let them post with any others that might care, one way or the other. It ain't like the OPs force you to click on any topics. If the topic is a repeat or inappropriate or whatever, well, that's the beauty of having moderators.

who cares

Dewrede said:

agreed , i hate the stupid know it alls who feel the need to bash newbees just for asking questions that have been asked prior and i always call them out on it

i can imagine it's not very welcoming to say the least

it really is pathetic , they really must have low self esteem if they think they're better just because they know a few facts and feel the need to boast about things like that

newbees? FAIL!!! it's NEWBIES. don't you know anything??

^

Dewrede said:

^

just saying

CHIC0 said:

FauxReal said:

Completely agree with this. The "Who cares" type of responses get old and annoying. If you don't care, move along. There's been a ton of threads I didn't give a damn about. I ignore them. Simple. No need to shit on some else's opinions or interests if you really never gave a damn to begin with. Let them post with any others that might care, one way or the other. It ain't like the OPs force you to click on any topics. If the topic is a repeat or inappropriate or whatever, well, that's the beauty of having moderators.

who cares

Here with go w/ the 'don't cares.'

Since you have shown us that you are one of the people in question...do you care to share a bit of insight into your apathy or represent the other like-minded apathetic bunch?

I'm sure you have something other than 'don't care' to share.

[Snip - luv4u]

maria1999 said:

CHIC0 said:

who cares

Here with go w/ the 'don't cares.'

Since you have shown us that you are one of the people in question...do you care to share a bit of insight into your apathy or represent the other like-minded apathetic bunch?

I'm sure you have something other than 'don't care' to share.

You are not going to do well here if you can not pick up on sarcasm.

thanks Erin. thought it was just me.

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[Edited 8/29/10 13:17pm]

maria1999 said:

CHIC0 said:

who cares

Here with go w/ the 'don't cares.'

Since you have shown us that you are one of the people in question...do you care to share a bit of insight into your apathy or represent the other like-minded apathetic bunch?

I'm sure you have something other than 'don't care' to share.

i reckon humour is unbeknownst to you

I don't think the org's ever been an overly polite place, so I guess it goes with the territory, but that doesn't mean it couldn't get a little more civilized around here.

I will say this, though: I don't believe leaving a "Why do you care?"-type comment is rude. That's a legitimate comment on a thread. You can't expect to be able to post whatever you want and not have anyone disagree with it or think it's wrong or stupid or whatever. Moreover, even if you've started a thread, you don't have any control over where it goes. Once it's out there, it's no longer yours. It's a discussion on a public forum.

But that aside, there's tons of annoying rudeness on these boards. Do your best to ignore it. There are a couple people here who love to throw out obnoxious and rude comments or to be as condescending as they can. These people are attention-whores. Most of the threads they post on end up becoming about them rather than the topic they're commenting on. But they can only do that when people feed into their obnoxiousness. Ignore it and they'll have to find some other way to get the attention they crave.

FauxReal said:

If the topic is a repeat or inappropriate or whatever, well, that's the beauty of having moderators.

The problem is when someone is unemployed and has read every thread on the org since the 90s, and is not gracious to newcomers.

CHIC0 said:

welcome newbie!!

i hear where you're coming from. and there are those people on every website.

the 'think-they-know-it-all"s trying to correct you or prove how much they THINK they know, or just "angry with the world" and use their PC to lash out. or sometimes, just someone with nothing better to do or an immature twat. tact is a thing of the past apparently. rudeness has almost become the norm. online and offline. the internet thrives with the socially inept.

my best advice is to ignore it. just reply to the ones you feel comfortable with. now toughen up a little and come on in and enjoy the festivities. i think you'll like it here.

Hi to you too. I've been a member a little over a year. I just felt the need start this thread for those who have commented on the issue.

It's not always about not have tough skin, it's about the extent that some go to in attempts to belittle the opinions of others. It's damn near qualifies as cyber-bullying. Well, maybe not that bad....yet.

Maybe instead of saying, "who cares?" ask "why do you care"?

What's funny is the people who want to make comments on the looks of the famous Prince hottie stable, but won't post their own pic, fearing the rich judgment they doled out.

JustErin said:

Maybe instead of saying, "who cares?" ask "why do you care"?

It has rarely come across as a legitimate question about why the poster is interested in whatever the topic is and seems more designed to make them feel stupid for posting it to begin with, adding nothing to the actually topic at hand in the process.

Maria...you need some real problems in your life.

Number23 said:

Maria...you need some real problems in your life.

Like a shitty haircut.

Efan said:

I don't think the org's ever been an overly polite place, so I guess it goes with the territory, but that doesn't mean it couldn't get a little more civilized around here.

I will say this, though: I don't believe leaving a "Why do you care?"-type comment is rude. That's a legitimate comment on a thread. You can't expect to be able to post whatever you want and not have anyone disagree with it or think it's wrong or stupid or whatever. Moreover, even if you've started a thread, you don't have any control over where it goes. Once it's out there, it's no longer yours. It's a discussion on a public forum.

But that aside, there's tons of annoying rudeness on these boards. Do your best to ignore it. There are a couple people here who love to throw out obnoxious and rude comments or to be as condescending as they can. These people are attention-whores. Most of the threads they post on end up becoming about them rather than the topic they're commenting on. But they can only do that when people feed into their obnoxiousness. Ignore it and they'll have to find some other way to get the attention they crave.

Very well stated

Number23 said:

Maria...you need some real problems in your life.

Trust as an working adult, I do have my shares of real problem. This post isn't one.

And besides that, solutions are what people need in their lives.

JustErin said:

Maybe instead of saying, "who cares?" ask "why do you care"?

Or simply don't reply.

Cinnie said:

FauxReal said:

If the topic is a repeat or inappropriate or whatever, well, that's the beauty of having moderators.

The problem is when someone is unemployed and has read every thread on the org since the 90s, and is not gracious to newcomers.

Now, that could possibly be a legitimate reason for the hostility. Thanks, Cinnie.

JustErin said:

Number23 said:

Maria...you need some real problems in your life.

Like a shitty haircut.

That is a very real problem, for two main reasons. The first, and least important, is the shape and condition of the hair you've manoeuvred on top of your head is always the very first aspect of your physical appearance people notice and instantly judge a person upon. Either conciously or subconciously, they've immediately made up their mind about you. Nothing you can say or do can change it. Your hair has told them all they ever need to know. The wall is built and it is high.

The second, and most important reason, is the negative effect a bad haircut has on the wearer's own psyche. You won't believe any compliments to the contrary. Your shoulders will be arched, back hunched. You'll feel inferior in any conversation, whether it be with midget or moron. Your head won't be tuned into any banter or conversation - all you'll be thinking is 'Are they thinking my hair is shit?' while the other person is jabbering away. Real life passes you by like a speeding train. All that matters is how shit your hair is.

Bad hair can ruin your entire life, if you are so attuned to the ugly subtle realities of humanity.

Number23 said:

JustErin said:

Like a shitty haircut.

That is a very real problem, for two main reasons. The first, and least important, is the shape and condition of the hair you've manoeuvred on top of your head is always the very first aspect of your physical appearance people notice and instantly judge a person upon. Either conciously or subconciously, they've immediately made up their mind about you. Nothing you can say or do can change it. Your hair has told them all they ever need to know. The wall is built and it is high.

The second, and most important reason, is the negative effect a bad haircut has on the wearer's own psyche. You won't believe any compliments to the contrary. Your shoulders will be arched, back hunched. You'll feel inferior in any conversation, whether it be with midget or moron. Your head won't be tuned into any banter or conversation - all you'll be thinking is 'Are they thinking my hair is shit?' while the other person is jabbering away. Real life passes you by like a speeding train. All that matters is how shit your hair is.

Bad hair can ruin your entire life, if you are so attuned to the ugly subtle realities of humanity.

See, humor for humor sake is ALWAYS appreciated.

Thanks.

maria1999 said:

Number23 said:

That is a very real problem, for two main reasons. The first, and least important, is the shape and condition of the hair you've manoeuvred on top of your head is always the very first aspect of your physical appearance people notice and instantly judge a person upon. Either conciously or subconciously, they've immediately made up their mind about you. Nothing you can say or do can change it. Your hair has told them all they ever need to know. The wall is built and it is high.

The second, and most important reason, is the negative effect a bad haircut has on the wearer's own psyche. You won't believe any compliments to the contrary. Your shoulders will be arched, back hunched. You'll feel inferior in any conversation, whether it be with midget or moron. Your head won't be tuned into any banter or conversation - all you'll be thinking is 'Are they thinking my hair is shit?' while the other person is jabbering away. Real life passes you by like a speeding train. All that matters is how shit your hair is.

Bad hair can ruin your entire life, if you are so attuned to the ugly subtle realities of humanity.

See, humor for humor sake is ALWAYS appreciated.

Thanks.

I've never been more serious.

maria1999 said:

JustErin said:

Maybe instead of saying, "who cares?" ask "why do you care"?

Or simply don't reply.

But if they want to reply they are well within their right to do so. They want to know why YOU care because they can't understand why anyone would.