Dansa I respect what you are saying.

I have spend my life getting myself stuck in dead end relationships with men I really don't like that much, just because I thought I needed someone else's approval to feel good about myself, the kick in the pants is they usually made me feel much worse than I would have in the first place. I'm not saying the men I was involved with were bad or crazy or heartless, far from it, they just were not right for me. Luckily, people came into my life that taught me that I am to be valued as a person, I envy you because you did not have to "learn that the hard way."

Love is important, but love takes many forms. Dansa if you don't want a lover don't have one, I'll still think ya cool anyway

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

You go girl. While you're view is quite unusual for a Prince fan I applaud you. (Though I'm sure people think the same thing of JWs who happen to be Prince fans for 20+ years like myself) I can say that being a married man of almost 13 years, there's a feeling of companionship/emotional security that makes sharing your life w/someone else special.
Don't get me wrong, any marriage/relationship takes work on both sides--but when both sides commmunicate well, the sky's the limit. That's my take on it.

Again, there is nothing wrong w/not wanting to be w/that 'someone,' whether you feel that way for the rest of your life or if you change your mind next week, year or decade. Now for lack of anything profound to say, go play some D.M.S.R. or Bob George in front of the mirror and 'just dance Dansa, come on just dance!'

Why? For me, I like the companionship of another, the snuggling, the sex, the fact that they take away the loneliness...

I sort of envy you for not having that desire of wanting to be with another.

Sweeny79 said:

Co-sign.

And a hug for Sweeny. I feel ya, girl.

Dansa what the frick does thick mean?

okay, i've been reading through this thread and i finally have something useful to say. Dansa, even though you are in the minority, you are certainly not alone. there are people who do not want to have relationships and feel pretty much the same way that you do. you may never have or want a romantic relationship. it doesn't neccessarily mean that something is wrong with you or that you've been emotional damaged in some way, it's just the way that you are. and honestly, who knows why people are the way that they are. there is no concrete answer.

from my online interaction with you, you seem like a very creative and beautiful person who is always herself and that is truly rare. so just keep being yourself and if people give you crap about it just remember that people fear what they don't undersatnd.

in america sex is used as a marketing tool so much that people tend to think they ain't cool unless they having it one way or another....
tons of other cultures around the world do not center their lives around romance/sex/love and consider these aspects of life to be secondary to actually living good, useful and producting lives as members of society.

american culture is very very sick, imo.

XxAxX said:

sometimes i seriously think about leaving the country.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Handclaps, I've been married for over 15 years to an amazing guy. We love each other more today then we did the day we were married. Having someone that you can trust, love and be there for is an amazing feeling. Being loved back is also a wonderful feeling. The physical part of being in love is also very important. IMO - sex is best when it's between two people who truly love each other and who feel no inhibitions with each other. Having a partner to share each day with including all the ups and downs is something that I wish for everyone. I believe that many people today don't take love and marriage too seriously, but that's a shame because if you're in a good relationship, it can bring you and your partner happiness, fulfillment and contentment. Unfortunately, we've never been able to have children and that was devasting at first, but we were able to move beyond that disappointment and remain in love and happy. Each day is wonderful because we are in love. This may sound corny to some people, but every day I am grateful for my husband and marriage. Finding the right person to love and be loved by is a wonderful thing. Best of luck to you!

sag10 said:

like sturdily-built...or 'big-boned'.

jessyMD32781 said:

same here.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Come to England!

I mean, we haven't got Prince, or Hershey's, or Captain Crunch, and it ain't quite as cold as MN...

but we got bad teeth and bowler hats, so whaddya waiting for?

TheFrog said:

no captain crunch!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Men are so stupid... sometimes..