I wanna be Dansa's first! This way she can say "my first car was a Rolls Royce"!

It's not about looking for it, or needing it.

Someday, in 5 years or 45 years, you're going to be walking down the street and it's going to hit you in the chest like a bag of bricks. Nothing feels that good. It's better than hot fried chicken with the skin.

It hurts, but it hurts SO good. It's not about companionship, or safety, or having someone to sleep next to. Healthy people (like me and you, Dansa... ) don't require that silly stuff to be truly happy.

No one on the org or in person could possibly explain to you what it feels like in any language. Fuck relationships, marriage, kids. I pray that you'll (and everyone) will see the day when it hurts your eyes to look at them: it's like looking into the sun. You can barely do it without your retinas peeling off and floating around in your eyeballs. You'll know when you know.

INSATIABLE said:

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

good for you. being comfortable with yourself is imperative to success in life, imo. and, don't be put off by other people's comments. it's been my observation that of the couples in relationships, (dating or marriage) maybe 30 percent are actually happy. most are simply in the relationship because they're afraid to be alone.

remember, misery likes company

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

How about that?!!

Thought I never see the day: A 23-year old virgin Prince fan; that almost sounds lika logical contradiction

Anyways, I'm sure you have your reasons and if it works for ya then.. hey .. it's all good I guess

INSATIABLE said:

yeah what she said

Some of you guys are such little shits for being so judgemental towards Dansa... shame on you guys.

Number23 said:

LittlePill said:

a hooptied-out '72 pinto with a stolen rolls royce hood ornament, s'more like it.

most of ya'll on this thread are showin prime examples of the reactions i get for tellin someone that i don't want a relationship, the whole "oh, you'll get hooked up and fall in love one day"-type crap. don't give me that shit, because it's not proven. i'm not hearin that. i'm not the romantic type of person--friendship is as far as it goes for me.

i cannot believe some of the closed-minded commentary i'm seein on here...y'think people would understand, but it just ain't happenin.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Ooh, no you didn't!!

But I do have a question for you. Don't you ever need "attention"?

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Understand, though, we live in a culture where people, and women especially, are trained to think that romantic relationships are the be all and end all of existence. Kudos to you for keeping your head out of that box, but that's where peeps are coming from.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Okay then. I understand. It might happen, and it might not. I personally don't know if it's "proven" or not, but the odds are definitely in your favor to be infatuated with someone regardless whether you resist it or look for it.



It's good to know what you want.



I hope you didn't mean my ass. Like anything else, I don't think people in your mindset should be judged against, and I don't think people who feel they must be in a romantic relationship should be judged against.

LittlePill said:

"attention" as in?

INSATIABLE said:

no, i didn't mean you at all, i meant some of the comments posted here overall.

I'm thinking all the negative shit has to do with people feeling threatened.

Or something.




[This message was edited Wed Mar 17 12:01:51 2004 by Natsume]

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

SEX! Intercourse. Copulation. Booty. Make Love!

Don't you ever get horny? Randy? In the mood?

Don't you ever just wanna FUCK? Screw. Boink. Pork. Do the nasty? Do the mattress mambo? Ride the raging bull?

Still need more clarifying?

LittlePill said:

no and no.

Why can't we just dance?! Why can't we just dance!?



:BobGeorgevoice:

JDINTERACTIVE said:

JDINTERACTIVE said:

no, fuck that! fuck that!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Really!!! Is there a secret to it? I'd like to be horny less often.

VinaBlue said:

Reading this thread made me think of the issues raised in "Party of One: The Loners Manifesto." From the publisher:

A compelling, morally urgent tour de force, Party of One rebuts the prevailing notion that aloneness is indistinguishable from loneliness, and that the only experiences that matter are shared ones.

I liked this book. Many of the observations are dead on. Ironically? the author is married. But she married a loner.

althom said:

That is the cutest emoticon i have ever seen!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Come on Dansa. You asked and they answered.

Most of the answers are encouraging you to do what you want anyway.

If you're going to raise such an issue be prepared for what people have to say.

bkw said:

if i weren't prepared, i wouldnt've asked in the first place.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Well, stop complaining!

Dansa, I for one applaud you for just being you. Mafuckas will have their own opinion about all kinds of shit. Glad to see you stick to your guns. That's your decision and dammit, it's a good one. Hell I was 19 when I first got a piece and I was scare like a muthafucka.


I know, I know, a big soft velvet suit, white sunglasses wearing pimp like myself could of got azz when I was 3, but I thought, why not wait.

Anyway, Handclapaz, this nigga got yo back. Let's go to Popeyes!!!


Lake Street, here we come!!!!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

it doesn't have anything to do with proof. it is just the polite thing to say when you don't have a real answer. (it's the same answer that would be given (NO OFFENSE TO THOSE WHO ANSWERED THIS WAY) to someone who was wanting but not finding if you know what i mean) having been both in and out of relationships...i quite like coming home to someone, but then again a cat won't ever argue with you or cheat on you. so there you go.

UptownDeb said:

Tooo funny. That sounds like a good book.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Don't get me wrong Dansa, I wasn't criticizing you. I totally understand where you're coming from.

I was just letting you know that it's not all bad. I do realise that it's hard to co-exist with anyone at times, just don't close yourself off to the idea forever. Like I said before, don't be selfish!!