TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

I guess she wanted a "relationship" and I just wanted to hang out, talk, fuck and what not and then get on with the rest of my life.

this thread has depressed me. i'm going to join a convent.

CokeJohnson said:

See, I don't see how that can't be a relationship. To me, a perfect partner is someone who compliments my life, not someone who reroutes it. And vice versa. I'm not looking to "own" anyone, or have control over their time or how they live. When did letting someone do their thing turn into such a bad thing? Isn't individuality what attracts us to people in the first place?

Adisa said:

Yes, it is. I don't know why that is. I rarely meet boys I'm interested in dating. But then, I'm not too worried about it either. I know I don't want children and getting married has never really been a goal of mine. If it happens, it happens, but if not, c'est la vie. I receive love from so many people in my life, I don't feel a desperate need to have a boyfriend.

I think part of it is that so many of my generation and the one that follows has watched their parents go through horrible divorces or stay together "for the kids" when they'd be better off apart and our standards are just higher. We'd rather be alone than with the wrong person (at least I hope we do).
[This message was edited Tue Mar 2 19:07:25 2004 by CarrieMpls]

I mean, why can't two people just fuck each other's brains out without all the drama?

Sheesh!

CokeJohnson said:

That's selfish, sweetie. But.....very manish. We women are always warned about that. Love, companionship, but with no accountability or responsibility.
I was the female on that end and I'm very bitter abou tit. Maybe because two years later, I could have been somewhere else doing something else dealing with someone else who could handle it....I'm not bitter though ; )

We seal our fate with the decisions we make; )

did what I said make any sense? Dating scares me

Dating is fun as long as both people are on the same page. When one person wants a relationship and another one doesn't, it sucks.

Dating sucks alright!!!! My wife won't let me go on another one again.

althom said:

That's what happens when one gets married.

luv4u said:

Well! No one told me!!!!

althom said:

Well you never asked.

luv4u said:

KatSkrizzle said:

You can't hate the man without hating the human being, you can't hate the human being without blaming the heart...