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fear of being rejected okay y'all i need quick advice. see i like someone. He's like way older then me. I want to ask him out, but I'm afraid he'll say no, cuz like i'm so young. I knew him for a long time. I'm not really that young, but I still think he thinks i'm a little girl, I want to prove him wrong. I just can't seem 2 mustard up enuff courage 2 ask him out.I don't know why I have a fear of rejection, cuz every time I go out somebody ask me out or wants my number, but when it comes to the guys i like i get all inSecuurr. How do y'all get over this fear of rejection .
and no i'm not talking about althom  | |
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i don't even want 2 seriously date him, I just want 2 hang out ya know, cuz he's so cute. that's all i'm still afraid though .... dayum being shy sucks. | |
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Mizzunderstood said: I just can't seem 2 mustard up enuff
Anywho, maybe you fear it because he's so much older than you. And just how much older is he, hmmm? Nobody likes rejection. The fear of it is more common than you probably think. ` [This message was edited Fri Apr 16 1:43:10 2004 by Supernova] This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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Supernova said: Mizzunderstood said: I just can't seem 2 mustard up enuff
Anywho, maybe you fear it because he's so much older than you. And just how much older is he, hmmm? Nobody likes rejection. The fear of it is more common than you probably think. i keep beating myself up rather i should call him or not. Every time I pick up the phone I hang it up. I'm thinking this is silly no wonder why he thinks i'm a child.  | |
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Mizzunderstood said: Supernova said:
Anywho, maybe you fear it because he's so much older than you. And just how much older is he, hmmm? Nobody likes rejection. The fear of it is more common than you probably think. i keep beating myself up rather i should call him or not. Every time I pick up the phone I hang it up. I'm thinking this is silly no wonder why he thinks i'm a child. Seek more mustard.  This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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Supernova said: Mizzunderstood said: i keep beating myself up rather i should call him or not. Every time I pick up the phone I hang it up. I'm thinking this is silly no wonder why he thinks i'm a child. Seek more mustard. ur not helping | |
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Mizzunderstood said: Supernova said: Seek more mustard. ur not helping It's past my bedtime. I'll sleep on it, and you sleep on it too. This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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Supernova said: Mizzunderstood said: ur not helping It's past my bedtime. I'll sleep on it, and you sleep on it too. yeah sure okay , i just woke up like two hours ago, really , i hate it when i get this way. | |
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Call him, he'll go out with you !! Futuristic Fantasy | |
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Fhunkin said: Call him, he'll go out with you !!
thanks, that is the best thought | |
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Well, I haven't been on the dating market for some years, but I've been in exactly your position before. Everybody who's ever fancied anyone else has been there, so you're not alone ! 
It's difficult to see the easy path when all you can think about are "what if's" (what if he says no, what if I make a fool of myself, what if...) The best thing to do is just go for it. Try to think of it from a positive point of view : What will happen if you don't ask him out : You'll miss the chance of a possible relationship with someone you think highly of, and you may waste too much of your time wondering what could have been. What will happen if you do ask him out : Well, at the very least you will know whether or not he is interested. You'll also be free of the what if's. If he says no then at least you'll know for sure, and what has changed ? Well, nothing really except for the fact that you'll no longer be tormenting yourself about it, and you'll be able to move on. I think the fear of rejection is often worse than rejection itself. Too many times I've gone through weeks or months of tormenting myself about whether or not to ask somebody out, and after having finally plucked up the courage to ask, the result has always been the same, regardless of whether or not I was rejected. I always felt, Why didn't I do this weeks/months ago and save myself alot of grief? Even when I was rejected (which was probably the majority of the time) I felt much more relief at having asked than I felt upset at rejection. There were a few occasions when I never plucked up the courage, and I still wonder about it. Even though I've been happily married for some time I still occasionally wonder what would have happened had I asked them out. So I guess what I'm saying is go for it, ask him out. One thing is definite : you'll feel better about yourself if you do, regardless of his response. [This message was edited Fri Apr 16 2:23:37 2004 by AsylumUtopia] Lemmy, Bowie, Prince, Leonard. RIP. |
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AsylumUtopia said: Well, I haven't been on the dating market for some years, but I've been in exactly your position before. Everybody who's ever fancied anyone else has been there, so you're not alone !
It's difficult to see the easy path when all you can think about are "what if's" (what if he says no, what if I make a fool of myself, what if...) The best thing to do is just go for it. Try to think of it from a positive point of view : What will happen if you don't ask him out : You'll miss the chance of a possible relationship with someone you think highly of, and you may waste too much of your time wondering what could have been. What will happen if you do ask him out : Well, at the very least you will know whether or not he is interested. You'll also be free of the what if's. If he says no then at least you'll know for sure, and what has changed ? Well, nothing really except for the fact that you'll no longer be tormenting yourself about it, and you'll be able to move on. I think the fear of rejection is often worse than rejection itself. Too many times I've gone through weeks or months of tormenting myself about whether or not to ask somebody out, and after having finally plucked up the courage to ask, the result has always been the same, regardless of whether or not I was rejected. I always felt, Why didn't I do this weeks/months ago and save myself alot of grief? Even when I was rejected (which was probably the majority of the time) I felt much more relief at having asked than I felt upset at rejection. There were a few occasions when I never plucked up the courage, and I still wonder about it. Even though I've been happily married for some time I still occasionally wonder what would have happened had I asked them out. So I guess what I'm saying is go for it, ask him out. One thing is definite : you'll feel better about yourself if you do, regardless of his response. [This message was edited Fri Apr 16 2:23:37 2004 by AsylumUtopia] awwwww thanks , that is very good answer. u gave a point, u used urself as a exampled, now I know what I have to do.  | |
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Mizzunderstood said: awwwww thanks , that is very good answer. u gave a point, u used urself as a exampled, now I know what I have to do.
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