Okay so if a person is invited to a friend's house on Thanksgiving, should he bring something like a side dish or would that be considered rude? I've never been sure as to whether it would be insulting to the cook. I personally don't think you can never have enough sweet potato pie. I've been invited to a buddy's house but I don't want to offend his wife. She's gonna cook a HUGE dinner.

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i'd bring one. i mean, i'd say it's good to bring one, but knowing me, i wouldn't, even though i'd be afraid it was rude NOT to. you could always go ahead and ask your friend, or better yet, the wife.

You might tell them you'd like to bring the wine or something like that. Otherwise, just ask! But I would come up with something else since it would just be more leftover for the hostess to find a spot in the fridge for.

NovaAngel said:

Oh no...I think you should ALWAYS bring something to dinner. Maybe you should ask your friend what his wife would like you to bring. I think it's a very gracious gesture

mdiver said:

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She's probably already making enough to serve everyone anyway. I would ask if there's anything you can bring.

NovaAngel said:

OK then beer

good question

conch5184 said:

Ok then. I'll ask the wife. Good idea.

conch5184 said:

Are you vegetarian, and if so, is she making something for you? Maybe you could tell her you'll bring your Tofurky and then bring extra as your gift for everyone else to try a little.

conch5184 said:

that sounds rude, i think...

mdiver said:

Beer is a staple in my friend's household and I'm sure it will be already be flowing generously. Hmm, I could always bring more beer. How about wine?

AaronUniversal said:

Why? If the hostess doesn't want her guests to have to try it, then she can say "that's alright" when Nova asks. Or Nova could bring that as well as something else (like wine, which wouldn't be an insult to the host's cooking).

conch5184 said:

would seem like upstaging the hostess. "hey, i know you made all of this wonderful food and invited me over, but get a load of this, everyone!"

i dunno... just sounds rude to me.

Nova wouldn't be rejecting anything since Nova wouldn't be eating the turkey anyway. The host wouldn't be put out by having to figure something out just for him

conch5184 said:

hmmm, well... if i invited someone over to share the dinner i'd prepared, i'd be offended if they said "that's alright, i brought my own food"

conch5184 said:

Well you could say the same if he brought anything. Nova can be subtle about it, just have it set out like anything else and maybe casually mention that it's his vegetarian contribution. Or not.

AaronUniversal said:

You could say the same no matter what he brought. It's not considered rude when a guest brings a contribution, it's usually appreciated.

I'm not talking about his whole meal, just the Tofurky. And sharing it to those interested, like with anything else.
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conch5184 said:

depends on the hostess i guess. if she's the kind that's easily offended, then having it sit on the table and people asking "what's this?" and then diverting attention away from what the hostess has prepared could set her off...

at any rate, i'd just ask her if there's anything i could bring, and if she says no, then i'd leave it at that.

It's just an idea

AaronUniversal said:

Even though I'm vegetarian, there's always more than enough food to go around. My friend and his family aren't and they don't like tofu but it's never been an issue. I get full on the other dishes like collard greens, sweet potato pie, corn bread, biscuits, mashed potatoes, banana pudding (which I'll be brave enought to try this year hopefully ), buttered corn on the cob, and different varieties of Kool Aid... There's so much food my friend and I eat in shifts with fifteen minute breaks in between. Ahh sweet sweet gluttony.

AaronUniversal said:

Exactly. What I imagine would be that I would call and ask if the host would like me to bring anything. I would suggest wine. See what she says. Then say that I wouldn't want the host to be put out by making something special for me (which is true) and then ask if she would like me to bring some more of that for other's to try. Up to her. She can say wine would be fine, or a pie or whatever, or she can say "yes that sounds interesting". The host has an out by saying that the suggested other dish would be enough trouble for the guest to bring.

NovaAngel said:

That's what I always do.
Does the banana pudding have Nilla Wafers in? That is sooo good. Does have egg yolks though.

Wine sounds like a good idea by the way. Maybe I'll do that. Should it be a red or white wine? Any recommendations?

conch5184 said:

Yes it does. Nilla Wafers throughout the thing. Is it really good? I don't mind the egg yolks. I've been vegetarian for so long, I've eased back a little. I don't mind.

NovaAngel said:

How about more beer and wine, you will be a hit

ask.


if you will bring wine, for turkey i say white wine. a nice Pinot Grigio would be good. If you have a Cost Plus World Market around you, that is a great place (i.e. cheap) to buy wine and they have my favorite Bodega Norton Pinot Grigio. If you are not sure about the wine, go to a liquor store and ask the people there. They are usually helpful.

or you could think about brining a pie.

i still say ask though and bring something like a candle or whatever if they say "no, you dont have to bring anything".

NovaAngel said:

I dunno...I think white with turkey as a white meat but I don't usually drink or eat meat so...