Isnt it funny that we get fat days, and I am not just talking time of the month and all that, but 2 days ago I was having a fat day and today it seems I am having a thin day, well not thin as such but feel a bit better about myself.


Is this just us women or do men have fat days and thin days too?

Or maybe some women NEVER have them.

Why do we have them, is it all psychological or what?


Again, this isnt just about water retention, and stuff, it includes all reasons.

i've never really had any day when i thought i was too fat/skinny...

Here, REd, From "vanitysix's" thread...

Love your body and feel sexy, too
August 16, 1999
Web posted at: 12:04 PM EDT (1604 GMT)


By Deb Levine, M.A.

(WebMD) -- Most women can remember an instance of making love in the dark, wearing an oversized T-shirt to bed, or otherwise turning sex into an exercise in camouflage. When the lights go down, sexual passion ends up replaced by anxiety and self-loathing.

In a 1997 Psychology Today survey of women in America, more than 85 percent of the respondents were unhappy with their appearance. And almost 35 percent had significant problems with the way they looked.

Women's self-contempt is the anti-aphrodisiac, sure to nip any arousal in the bud. Ironically, while women punish themselves for the disgust they imagine that their partners feel for their bodies, the men in their lives are more turned off by their sexual inhibitions. In general, men's sexuality is not negatively affected if a woman has a little bit of a pot belly, or thick thighs. Most men say their biggest turn-on is a woman's responsiveness in bed, not a particular body part.

How can women get beyond physical insecurity to enjoy sex? Here are five tips to help women learn to love their bodies and feel as sexy as they want to:


Look around you. Go to places where you'll see real people, naked and uninhibited. Spend a little time in your local YMCA or community-gym locker room, where you'll have a chance to see beautiful women in a variety of sizes and shapes.


Gain perspective. Visit an art museum, or spend some time with a tabletop art book. Notice how different body sizes have been celebrated throughout time -- how dimpled thighs, large buttocks and round bellies have been exalted not just by individual men, but by entire societies.


Be kind to your body. Replace your negative thoughts about your body with compliments. Every time you think, "My thighs are too fat," replace it with a thought like, "I have beautiful hips." At first it might feel forced, so you'll need to keep at it until it becomes second nature.


Ask for compliments. Ask your partner what he loves about your body. Ask him to be very specific and to repeat it to you often. Write down his comments. Read them every day until you believe them.


Keep the lights on. During your lovemaking, observe the beauty of your own body without self-loathing. Try to let go to bring your passion to the surface.

Ultimately, the struggle for a woman's self-respect is more worthwhile than the struggle to lose 10 pounds, or prevent wrinkles, or whatever else the current fashion demands. And a woman's newfound comfort with her body will fire up her and her partner's sex life in potentially delightful ways!

Deb Levine, M.A., is an author, health educator and social worker who gives sexuality and relationship advice on several Web sites.


Copyright 1999 WebMD, Inc. All rights reserved.

http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH...ody.image/

I have "Smart Days" and "Stupid Days"...er, weeks, I mean.

today was a fat day..I had a double blt at IHOP and I wouldnt change it for the world

AnotherLoverToo said:

Very interesting and all too true, but this isnt about sex either or insecurities, I just looked in the mirror and saw a different me to the other day. And I just wanted peoples own views and experiences about this topic.

Byron said:

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AnotherLoverToo said:

That's because they're with a fucked up neanderthal guy

REDFEATHERS said:

Ah, I didn't realize there was a "right" way to reply. It was about body image, so...

((sneaks out the backdoor))

rdhull said:

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

girl u missed it..my beter half had some french toast that I ggot to share ...

rdhull said:

french toast

AnotherLoverToo said:

Oh no! Dont run away and hide I mean I am bigger than I would like to be but it has never stopped me performing in bed. Damn! no way! So your post was interesting AND valid to the discussion, hell, open this discussion further, and yes it is about body image, but I bet I weigh the same as I did 2 days ago, but think I look different today, so it is more psychological with me right now.

so does this mean that you are feeling better about you today then red ???

get that bus going in the right direction now ?

justkelley said:

Yes, you know it just happens out of the blue, and it is so difficult to control, well it cannot be fully controlled to an extent, but yes I am feeling a bit better, and I am finally going home tonight too.


Love you Kelley!

We all have our days I guess

i get this with my schlong

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

maybe u 8 2 many of those

justkelley said:

I can't believe you just called her a bus... LOL

just playin

I have "fat days" and "skinny days" off and on too.

I think its all in my head tho.

Yep. Every day.

fat is good it keeps you warm in the winter.

Tom said:

Phat dayz last longer than thin dayz