Well we are now dealing with the issues that caused Nic to run away.

Nic has always had a bad case of middle chils sydrome
His older brother has aspergers syndrome, and requires a lot of attention
his younger brother is 7 years younger and came along to steal the youngest spot from Nic

Some of his issues stemmed directly from getting in trouble last week
but a lot of it was cumulative
I work nights, I meet my wife in the parking lot at work and we exchange the kids. Therefore she works all day goes home fixes dinner, makes school lunches etc. She has been very frustrared and stressed. She is very verbal. Nic has been taking everything she says personaly and felt it was about him. I have decided to quit my job so I can be around in the evening. I will look for something part time in the day, but the money don't matter if it is causing this in my familly.

As for myself I am avery private person and I should have recognized that in Nic, but after he started getting in trouble at school I felt his need for privacy was masking deviousness. I need to back off

Also as a teen I was very involved with alchohol and drugs, come very close to death a few times, and had friends die. I wanted so much to protect my children from this that I hav'nt really let them grow up. I think I have been more likely to drive them to something than protect them from it.

well at least we have a start. We are going to see if Nic will talk to a counciler, but I don't want him to feel forced.

Funny how it almost seems foolish how scared I was when I look at my town(we don't even have to lock our doors here), but not knowing where he was was terrifying

again...i am so sorry for your fear that you had...my son (at age 4) took off within seconds...following our puppy...i turned around...and he was gone... i have never felt so small in my entire life...so many directions to go in...i stood there and screamed in such a panic...my other neighbors came out looking for him...i called the police within about 10 minutes...i had no idea what to do or where to look...after about 30 minutes...or what seemed like forever...the neighbor called from about a block away...i heard a faint "i got him" and started running over to where he was...jake had small cuts all over him...he had gotten stuck in a rose bush...and everytime he tried to get out...he got cut..

i remember very clearly...i grabbed him and hugged him so tight...and then i spanked him...and then i hugged him...and then i spanked him...it was such a mix of emotions...i couldnt tell where to go with it.

so...i am sorry you had to go through that...and im so glad everything went ok for you...hopefully this will open some doors for you and your son...and maybe the counsling thing would be good for the whole family to do together ... just a thought...


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